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Sense is not far from you. In fact it is inside you. But many Nigerian government officials are allergic to common sense. PapaBrowne: |
Keep your sense of wonder. It has served men before you well enough. Although, those who really sought truth in wonder, and were honest enough about the fulfilment that comes with the pleasures of life would tell you one thing "All is vanity". What would matter when you draw your last breath, Duke? I wonder... In this uncertainty of ignorance which you choose, for now, there is only fear to be found. But suppose, you really knew Truth and grew to love Him, then you will understand that perfect love casts out all fear. Come to Jesus today, not just with your lips confessing Him as Lord and saviour, but your mind resting in the wonders of his works as led by the Holy Spirit. Persevere, and your heart will come to know a love like no other. Shalom Duke! dukeprince50: |
Meself Yes! Shebi it's love your neighbor as you love yourself. I'm still loving myself (no pun intended) And to me I say, "Contemplate Love in the beauty of nature, feel the pulse of love in every human interaction, remember that love is ACTION - ordered to peace, joy, grace and growth; and by agape, the infinite seeds of love will birth multiple blessings in your journey back to God "And there's also ma, sisters and her, O por! Everyone gets what's due ![]() |
Interesting thread! I am not surprised, the unseens are home on stranger tides. |
Let's talk about truth that sets you free and gives us a peace beyond understanding. Contumely: |
So what's the plan, to chicken out like all cowards and ingrates do or fight the fight, and win your conquest? LOWLIFER: |
The question of suffering? If there was a soul that suffered, it was Job in the Bible. And you know what he discovered? That the questions of God are more satisfying than the philosophies of men. As for meaning, "The spider which weaves its web on the girder of a great steel beam that is lifted into a bridge, cannot possibly understand how its own little plans for catching flies must give way to the engineers greater plan for transportation." Can an aunt with 2 dimensional vision comprehend the volume and depth of humanity? No! Can you, a 3 dimensional creature understand God or his plans? No! God is love! Love isn't understood, it cannot be. Love is action! Starting with the neighbor who is the image and likeness of God. And it is not without a destiny, so the fires of the world prepare His majesty's gold. partnerbizn5: |
SaucyBenks:Yet you're not satisfied. Neither are you fulfilled. How long will you enjoy this sweet nothingness? |
matrixme:A 4 million naira license to die! |
Word of Advice: Before you esteem the value of a mobile device you wish to sell, please go and check the current market value. 40k is way too much! Motorola Nexus 6 (3GB, 32GB) is available for 35K on Jiji. |
A healthy version of your phone for 38 - 43k (depends on where you're looking). Fix the phone and you can sell for that range. New screen is for this device is about 14k. If you're selling as is, 20-25k is your best bargain. [quote author=phemiee1810 post=78683739][/quote] |
phemiee1810:How bad is the screen problem? Please show with a picture! |
namiji2598:From my Christian perspective, successful living has everything to do with knowing God, loving Him, and serving Him. Work (or hustle) is a divine mandate, and being productive, solving problems, and earning a profit is still part of worship. You are likely to be someone who is swayed by material evidence, so by God grace, I'll remind you about this post when I earn my big tech deal. I serve God and my walk with him is gloriously fruitful spiritually and materially (Baba too sure!). Just so you know, even the natural laws of success depend on the mercy and love of God to function as they do. |
namiji2598:Making it is relative and is no guarantee of joyful living Millionaires and billionaires have been known to commit suicide |
namiji2598:My bad... I personally made a lot of progress in the past 2 years and I earnestly wish every other young person could trust God's word wholeheartedly and walk high and above the list of the flesh, lust of the eyes and the pride of life. How's your Christian walk bro? |
namiji2598:If you've never planted a seed in the soil, don't call the ground barren. Maybe you've never really considered it before but the Lord says in 2nd Corinthians 6:18 "And I will be a father to you, And you shall be sons and daughters to Me," How close are you to your popsman or uncle or any friend at all? The Lord wants a deeper relationship than you share with any of his other children. That's Christianity!!! So I say, walk by the Spirit, and you will not gratify the desires of the flesh. Galatians 5:16 (NIV). |
hopefulLandlord:As believers in the Lordship of Jesus Christ, we know that in all things God works for good with those who love him, those whom he has called according to his purpose. Romans 8:28 GNB. In good or bad times, this is our disposition, the Holy Spirit empowers us to be joyful always, to pray at all times, and be thankful in all circumstances. This is what God wants from us in our life in union with Christ Jesus. 1 Thessalonians 5:16-18 GNB You know why we are this joyful, full of peace and brimming with courage? Our Lord and master Jesus Christ has overcome the world, and through him, the Church (the sheep that knows his voice and follow faithfully) also conquer this world. Hear this.... Christ rules at God's right hand above all heavenly rulers, authorities, powers, and Lords; he has a title superior to all titles of authority in this world and in the next. God put all things under Christ's feet and gave him to the church as supreme Lord over all things. The church is Christ's body, the completion of him who himself completes all things everywhere. Ephesians 1:21-23 GNB Your use of the word 'evil' is ambiguous, but please know that the message that we have heard from his Son and announce is this: God is light, and there is no darkness at all in him. 1 John 1:5 GNB But if you refer to evil as bad times in a Christian's life, it is captured in holy writ that their purpose is to prove that our faith is genuine. Even gold, which can be destroyed, is tested by fire; and so our faith, which is much more precious than gold, must also be tested, so that it may endure. Then we will receive praise and glory and honour on the Day when Jesus Christ is revealed. 1 Peter 1:7 GNB But if you refer to evil as societal decay, and then deny God. Where do we begin? That you deny human responsibility and history? Or that you believe in evil and deny God, the source of good? And if a thing is good, who should define the standards or moral law, Chairman Mao, Hitler, or Stalin? or God who is unchanging? There is such a thing as freewill, and the ability for humans to imagine, to create and build according to their desires (good and bad). Look at you exercising your will to rebel against your maker. Look at you choosing to believe that the most complex biological being in the universe came by chance, after all, a fully functional airplane can be made from a hurricane flying through a junkyard? Accept Jesus today and find rest for your wearied soul. |
MorufuAtanda: |
Is it worth it? Is it worth it? It doesn't matter how long a bush rat hides in the hole, once it's in the hunters trap, it's not far away from the pot of soup. A life of guilty pleasures or a life of peace? Be Wise! A prayerful root cause analysis of why you slipped in the first place and a prayerful rededication of thyself is a most profitable option; should you choose to accept it. Good luck! Witnesstony28: |
When two contradictory ideas coexist in a soul, there's sure to be tension. If you identify as a Christian and indulge in fornication, anguish and agony is to be expected in your conscience even if you do as little as look at a woman lustfully. Tony you may not understand there's more to intercourse than skin, hormones, and cuddles! But here this, "the Lord disciplines the one he loves, and he chastens everyone he accepts as his son." Stop while your conscience still kicks If you choose to continue in these deadly ways, you will eventually become like those who claim to be resistant to guilty pleasures. But the problem is, you'll be collecting so much psychological, emotional and spiritual baggage, probably sufficient enough to destiny your possibilities of fulfilment in future relationships. You wish to be a real MAN? it's not by destroying God's temple. |
The late Myles Munroe used to say, 'Before you do anything as a young man, before you take any decision. Make sure to evaluate all the possible consequences of your action'. Can you live with the consequences of sex? (Unwanted pregnancy, STI's/STDs, Negative imprint that could affect your future union). If you can't, stay away! Mike is my friend who thought that sex is a natural expression of his love for his girlfriend. Baba no see any implication or lasting commitment with intercourse. But he would later discover something interesting... And I'll tell you for free, Intercourse is like a bridge. When a woman crosses that boundary, she usually intends to stay at the other side, the side of commitment. Guys on the other hand, wish to cross that bridge and return to the other side of flings. Where does this take anybody? Research indicates that once an uncommitted couple gets involved in sexual intercourse, the relationship usually begins to end. Why? They have reached the superficial end of the physical aspects of the relationship, and they have no particularly compelling reason to explore it's depths. Be wise brother. Use your upper! Electricboy: |
It's fine. I'm always ready to help. Everyone can do programming, even biochemistry students. But the deal (even in computer science) is that you're the determiner of how your programming skills evolve. In terms of job prospects, EEE & ECE are the same. But I don't even expect you to wait on a job. If you become good at programming in Nigeria, the jobs will come knocking. FOCUS on programming specifically 'Python programming'. Get as many tutorial books and videos as possible. Master it! I don't do hardcore programming, but manage software projects. My firms founder is a full stack developer who finished from chemistry department UNN. Another superlioness is at one of the top payment processing firms in Nigeria, she finished from biochemistry. Dude, if you're comfortable with code, waste no time. See you at the top! marvinsync: |
Rule of thumb: When someone reacts in a disproportionate/disagreeable manner to a discussion/suggestion especially a moral issue. They've got something to hide, or an axe to grind. It touches their raw nerve. I'm sorry if you've been hurt before. You can always learn and start again. And I don't know it all, I learn everyday. Even you have no idea how much I could learn from you. MzErica: |
I don't agree. The facts suggest that the sexual revolution has done humanity way more harm than good. babyfaceafrica: |
Bro, you've inspired my first real post on Nairaland. https://www.nairaland.com/4954765/sex-before-marriage-kini-big#74671674 I've answered your question. Thanks for asking. JuanDeDios: |
@JuanDeDios asked a question in the thread about 'Crazy Things You Did While Single On Campus' by homegirl @EazyJ - The question was about the effects of premarital sex. This is the first part of my attempt at answering my brother man. Let's discuss! The reason God encourages people to wait until marriage to have sex is that when us have sex outside of marriage, we run a very high risk of messing things up. And this is particularly true for men who tend to imprint off of their early sexual experiences much like a wild crane (a bird). Some birds like wild cranes imprint on the first thing it sees when it's born, a baby crane will follow a chicken as its mother if that's the first creature it sees when it's born (hatched). Professional ornithologists (bird scientists) usually wear giant crane suits when they work with these birds, so these birds get the right first impression. How does this relate to men and sex? As already stated, men like some animals tend to imprint off of their experiences; in this case, early sexual encounters. If a man's early sexual experiences are in the context of lust (which is what they are outside of marriage) - it's not really about commitment, but heat, lust, backseat of a car, dark alley in a cinema hall, lonely next-door neighbour, body count etc. They tend to imprint on the sex and not the girl. Eventually, when men have these early orgasmic experiences, their psyche goes ... 'Wooo! what was that!?' and they start taking mental pictures - because they want to remember this ineffable moment (this is imprinting). Unfortunately, a lot of guys get stuck here, and that's why many men in their marriages are trying to recreate a lust environment - trying to get fulfilled sexually as a married man, trying to force their wives to do things that a lot of them are uncomfortable in doing. Why are they doing that? They are trying to recreate those early experiences. On the other hand, if a man's early sexual experiences are in the context of marriage - where he falls in love with a girl and all these people gather together, and they all approve of it, and they have their wedding in a church, and God approves of it, and all their family and friends approve of it and they have the biggest celebration of their life. And on their wedding night, and on their honeymoon; they start having these first orgasmic experiences - he's imprinting on the girl. And he connects to the girl at a very deep level. That's why people who wait till marriage before they have sex have a fraction of the divorce rate of the rest of the world, because he's imprinting on her than just sex. Imprint is dangerous not just in premarital sex, but also in masturbation and many unnatural sexual behaviours (dildos and intimacy gadgets and pornography). Many cases of 'unfulfilling' sexual experiences in marriage is because of past lust-based sexual experiences. Now, for women, the imprint thing is about what happens after the sex - and when women have sex outside of marriage, nothing happens after sex. There's no connection, there's no follow-up, therefore they imprint that 'sex means nothing', 'sex equals nothing'. That's why so many married women have such negative attitudes about sex. But if a woman waits until her wedding night and sees that this is how she connects with this guy, then she understands that it means everything, it's a key, a very fundamental thing. And this is particularly bad for women who have been sexually molested, not only does sex not mean anything, their whole experience was forced on them and that negative early experience has a terrible impact on their sex life. On a physical level, science proves that women with multiple sexual partners do not respond the same to sex. This is because women typically release oxytocin when they have sex (oxytocin gives a woman buzz and helps her to connect emotionally), it's the same chemical released into their bloodstream when they breastfeed a baby. It's called the bonding chemical and it's secreted less and less the more sexual partners a woman has. SEX is a beautiful and natural part of God's design but wrong usage is disastrous as these five facts about sex clearly affirm: Five Facts about SEX (From the book by Chip Ingram - see reference below) 1. Bethesda Research Group - Washington Post (1994) Couples who strongly believe that sex outside of marriage is wrong are a whopping 31% more satisfied in thier sex lives" 2. UCLA Research "Those who cohabitate or live together before marriage have a 50% higher possibility of divorce than those who do not" 3. University of South Carolina "Those who abstain from sexual intercourse before marriage have the highest rates of marital fidelity" 4. Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott (Northwestern University) "The introduction of sex in a dating relationship is almost always the ushering in of the breakup of that relationship" 5. The rampant spread of STD's flatly contradicts those who try to claim that sexual intercourse his a harmless recreational activity to be pursued with the highest number of partners possible. (This is the key factor that influenced sexual behaviours in the Victorian era - topic for another day). References Mark Gungor - Youtube Video - "Wait until marriage to have sex" Link - https://you.be/jL1lZtGC2w Love, Sex and Lasting Relationships (Book by Chip Ingram) cc: lalasticlala, mynd44, dominique, JaunDeDios, Valerie47, EazyJ, Paxie55, Sarang |
True from a secular perspective. PrinceCEE: |
Tried my hands on a few failed and partially successful business ventures. They were all fun! One time, after 500L, I left my laptop in the power electronics lab. Shortly after, the guy with the only key to the lab left before I returned to pick up my PC, sometime around 9pm. Already, I'd purchased a bus ticket back to Lagos from Nsukka for the next day. Now, as a responsible student and a respectable student ambassador, I trekked all the way to the PG Hostel looking for the man with the lab key. Unfortunately, halfway to Odili hall, my phone died And I didn't know this guy's room number.But I continued my journey because the incurable optimist in me kept whispering - 'maybe, just maybe when you get to the hall, you'll find your guy sitting in front of the hall or somewhere along the hallway, or watching television in the cafeteria'. Well I must have checked all those locations no less than 3 times. Man was nowhere to be seen! Then I got desperate! In my 5 awesome years of UNI. This was the night I embraced the roar of my inner devils. And like a flash from the blue, I heard a voice say, 'Go back and do whatever you must to get your laptop out of that lab' With each step back to the lab, my desperation grew. Immediately I reached EE department, standing right in front of Power Electronics lab, I noticed the wide glass partitions above the door of the lab. Now the only way into the lab was to reach above the door, open the glass partition, jump into a lecturer's office and use a door that opened into the Power Electronics lab. I've never had more adrenaline in my whole life than when I did all of the above that night. Retrieved my PC and went back to my lodge at 11:55pm. Laughed all the way back knowing that I nearly compromised 5 years of hard-work and sufferhead. One security guard flashing his torchlight in the right place!? PS: Sexual recklessness and emotional irresponsibility/immaturity is NOT FUN!!! |
So is marriage the ultimate destiny of a woman? And could you be implying that reckless premarital sexual adventures have no effect on marital happiness and lasting commitment in marriage? Valerie47: |
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