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some50686:
Hi Everyone, i got married in 2018, We are both working class.. I am in my 34 while my wife is in her late 28. My wife has been denying me sex, we rarely have sex. sometimes we can go for over a month without sex. Whenever i ask for sex, she just complains she is tired and that is it. Sometimes i would plead and try yet she wont accept. What pains me the most is the way she react when i try to approach her. She would yell and begin to shout what nonsense is this, who is this now? To the point i only could initiate sex, sat morning and even with that she still refuses. Before we got married I sat her down and told her about this issue, that i hear about it from my married friends and dont want to experience such, she assured me and said our wont be like that but our is now worse. I am not sure we had sex more than 12 times the whole of last year.

The first time i sat her down, i asked her why she is doing all this to me, she complained i dont show her enough love, that she wants me to do more house chores, and also take her to eat outside and watch movies. I told her i will try. Although i knw am not the most romantic guy around, but i try the little ways I can, we sometimes go to see the movies. I do laundry on sat, help with ironing all the clothes she would wear during the week and cook a very few time. I ensured we got a maid so she wont be pressure by house chores. I also gave her my only car so she doesnt need to enter public transport, buy food from great eateries and even icecreams, almost every other week. But she has not changed, the last major fight we had was about 3months ago and it was about sex cause she denied me for no reason. Sex has always been the source of our quarrel. She was even telling me to go meet the maid since i am always so nice to the maid one time i tried to have sex. I really feel pained, like she is taking me for a ride because of my cool and easy going attitude. I have never raised my hand on my wife or even used abusive words. I even try to ask her how work is and gist with her to increase our bonding, yet all to no avail. I am someone who doesnt like going out to share and i believe the issue can only be fixed by the both of us, but this one is begining to drag for too long and from the look of things i am the one at the loosing end. I will go to my inlaws place and smile, nobody know how mean their daughter is to me, i too feel very ashamed raising the matter with my father inlaw. Last week i tried to initiate sex the same rejection, she is tired. I felt very frustrated and am now seriously considering cheating even though i am a Christian. Cheating is not right, cause it is expensive and emotionally draining, exposes one to STDs and it is against my Christian faith but what can i do? Sometime i have had to masturbate to suppress my sexual urge, but for how long can one continue to do this? I feel very ashamed coming to nairaland but what can i do. But dont get me wrong o, my wife has her good sides but this sex issue is really beginning to hurt and it does nt look like she would change anytime soon from the way she has been behaving.

Even if she doesnt find me attractive, should that be enough reason to continue to deny me sex after 3 months. Right now we are not speaking at the moment, cause i am mad with her. The next day after all she did, she come to greet me in the morning and acts like nothing happen. This is how she does and most time i always over look it, but the one from last week really hurt the most. I feel I have made a mistake marrying her. She also doesn't really care about my eating, most time she is only bothered about what our son and the maid will eat. I always have to go to the kitchen and look for what to eat, sometimes i get food outside. Even though i always drop food money. since we started quarrelling she has stopped cooking for me. Just very frustrated.

To the experienced married men in the house, what can i do the address this issue. I am considering collecting my car, not that it would be of any use to me , just to frustrate her

Zzor:
I would rather remain single than send dm or approach any guy in this life.

musicproducer:
mine was wen i was a kid still in primary school.
had isues then sha can't say, anyway.

on this faithful day around 2am i cudnt sleep, as usual but this time it felt different, i turn around and right in front of me was a figure sitting opposite me, i like sleeping in d sitting room because of tv.

seeing this figure i wasnt really scared well maybe a little, i was just looking @ d dark image moving slightly, then suddenly it stretched it hand towards me like it wants to hold me, i also did same, not such why or what was happening my grandmum from no where came to the sitting room turned on the light n ask who u dey talk to.

i just looked @ d chair i thought i saw someone it was empty, my uncle woke up he was sleeping on the couch (he was drunk) telling my grandma to off light nah he wan sleep.

my grandma ask again who u dey talk to (in yoruba) i simply told grandma no one and laid back down looking @ d chair again.

the next morning i got a lot of warning from grandma to b careful.

Scarrr:
she fit dey reason oh lord I no pray for this kind useless pikin fr mind

Scarrr:
she fit dey reason oh lord I no pray for this kind useless pikin fr mind

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THE SCIENCE OF MAKING GOLD.
BEing Driven by a singular goal he got the EXPOSRE of his Life


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nwaimoroseyaho:
When a married ex doesn't respond to your messages but constantly views your social media pages.
It is confusing at times. We didn't break up but got separated cos he traveled abroad and we lost contact.
When he came back I was married but we couldn't see each other, he travelled back and marries a South African lady.
But the few communications we had before he started ignoring me was as if he was angry,, every conversation must be diverted to marriage, something like this, : am I the father of your children, you dey vex for me I give you belle? You didn't leave a marker when you had the chance. Etc
I told him that am sensing he is angry with me but he said not at all. Am married too. He is my first love from secondary school.
We are from the same village. Is this the attitude of a friend?