₦airaland Forum

_Queenisha:
That was my mistake. Her raw expletives especially were shocking to me but it was all talk I came to know

all is forgiven now. i remember someone attacking me for saying she was not as bad as she comes across. she made sense most of the time but being in a forum where people can easily hate from thread to thread didnt help.

most of my sisters are her cabon copy. you will never read them right listening to them. we name some idiag , adafi and those wicked names. surprise surprise they are all married and having peaceful homes. i always loved her and wish her well. we should learn to argue without getting too personal

onyinye2:
[b][b][b]will marry a guy with the Ego of a Dove[/b][/b][/b]. Cause i know otherwise, there is going to be some serious collision.

you will be marrying a dangerous man. marraige is not that difficult. it is a beautifull institution. God meant it for good

Thanks Kiss
[b]I never appreciated Almond joy this much until she left nairaland.
all that gragra was all talk[/b].
That girl is one happily married woman
she is so respectful of her husband.
I had great admiration when she told me she left Nairaland as a birthday present for her husband.
[b][b]That is a woman who knows what marriage is all about.
Compromising to keep the marriage happy[/b][/b].

Like i always said about her she is one seriously happy lady. most people took her too seriously and didnt know she was a bendel woman first and foremost.

i could always read between the line and fell in love with her. i like women with brilliant minds. people who dont fall easily under presure are my favourites.

God blessings be on you all that are great examples to us all

you will notice i said many not all. you would be shocked that most of the women you called stay at home generations were actually working more than the men.

i grew up in my grand ma's house bought and built by her trading. she was happily married till the day she saw God. my mum traded lagos, benin onitsha ran stores and didn't do 9-5 like this so called generation of independent people.

i think this generation bought into a lie that is hurting them. check to see how many dating sites and chat rooms there are today. lonely independent people. how independent? news papers all over the world are busy raking in money from independent misguided singletons.

life is easier than most of think if you can use your brain and answer to being a human being first and foremost

Gucci_Babe:
its not about broken home, my parents are very much together. This is modern days, the type of love they show eachother is different from our new generations. In the past women depend on their husband, most of them are stay at home mums ( which there is nothing wrong with that) but this day and age things are totally different. women is as independent as the man in their lives. so its from a totally different point of view

it doesn't hurt that you have a good brain sitting on your shoulders. you, adebo and AJ and some few others are a breath of fresh air on nairaland. if some old women know what you just said they would not be moving from place to place looking for husbands. it is easy to control a man if you are calm and non confrontational. you dont have to win every argument

i always remember you for good

_Queenisha:
Going to sports bars no I
he's a die hard sports fan.

secondly there has been business ventures he wanted to go it but I didn't feel good about them and advised him and he went with my opinion and later thanked me for the advice.
If he were a singl eman he wouldn't need anyone's opinion on that.

thirdly he recently went out and test drove and brought home a brand new car which they let him keep for 2 days to make up his mind,I talked him out of it and he returned it.
He calls me an intelligent woman and I know God has blessed me with that gift.
My earlier mistake when we were newly married was to say my opinions as a matter of fact and insist that was the way things would go and he refused them not because they were not sound opinions but because of the way they came out.
Why?
[b][b]because he's a man
that's the way they are
they are wired differently and we can't do anything about it.
That's the way God made them.
They are go getters and don't care much about details like women do.
They are not emotional beings like us
It took me years to get this.
It takes a smart woman to know how to pass on the message without hurting their ego
Trust me
If your man acted like a woman, you wouldn't like it.
[/b][/b]

onyinye2:
Na lie. Gini has he given up? Nothing.

i think one major problem this generation has is many are coming from broken homes or homes with step this step that relationships that takes ages to explain. if you come from a home where you saw love and all this non rocket science respect and give and take here and there all this queenisha is saying here will not sound allien.

we all need God and His love to help us prefer our partners more than ourselves. our natural flesh and mr and mrs flesh always only love itself and no other.

u are so lucky

@tope2000 Luck has nothing to do with it. a good marraige is a blessing from the Lord. i know this is hard to take now but it is true. if she was one of those sleeping with everything that moves in trousers God would never have given her one of His best.

most people want to have their proverbial cakes and eat it. we would all love that but sadly life is real. [b]marraige is not meant for everyone. or as my ma inlaw says everyone cannot be happily married.[/b]

listen to counsel and work out how you can get to know you, [b][b]yes know your very lovely self better[/b][/b] before you even begin to let others into your life. someone said life is a theatre. invite your audience carefully.

marraige is an honourable institution. it can make you or mar you. be prepared to invest more than you get out of it. i think that is where the selfish i, me and myself generation fails. everyone like the wedding and the ceremony which is just one day. marraige is the hard work.

he created too many enemies for himself that came back to bite him. knowing africans this may just be the begining of the reduction or destruction of the ANC as a party which may be a good thing. i cant see him and his wing of the party working for the people that sent them parking.

this will never happen in nigeria. nigerians almost look indebted to our "theives leaders".

this is a beautiful thing that people on top should know power dont belong to them.

sima:
what were dey even thinkin. . . did dey find d woman attractive or what. . ahahhh olori buruku omo oloshi. . . i can't imagine this kind of thing happenin. .
wit dere kokoro d*icks, . . . . awon omo iranu oshi [b]dey shouldnt have been born [/b]
yuTz Psh**

[b][b]dey shouldnt have been born[/b][/b]

my exact first remark when i read that article. these boys cause pain and shame to the society.

i guess it is civilisation nigerian youth style. sad to say people like these will do greater harm as they grow older unless God intervenes in the lives quickly. knowing nigeria the parents would be bribing the lawless police to release them quick and probably repeat it again.

Suexy:
�Please,what can be so interesting in a 65 years old p***y that can push vincent and okebukola to this doom?.They are DOOMED already.The world is fast running to an end!!!

doomed indeed

whitelexi:
Oyibo can never hit that center of gravity thats just the begining

that is it. sex and h spot is all there is to relationships.  you wonder why you get the complaints

this is very sad.  some nigerians are generally ugly rumour. they can deceive the wisest  and smartest of persons so stop beating yourself.  take heart and learn from it and next time be very wise. comb whatever they tell you for what they are are not telling you.  when they greet you good morning check your watch if the time zone is right.

una brothers don go do bad for S/A nobody is apologising. the thing una sabi with our sisters for home una take reach younder now

grow up small minded people

iice:
[color=#9900ff]Another one yanking out the rug before one even steps on it [/color]

you spoke for all sensible people. thanks

DeepZone:
there is no tribalism here. I just want to clarify that because a crime is committed in a certain geographical location doesn't m,an that it was committed by the indigenes besides, it's not right to talk down on people, it's  not very nice. i detest the crime and violence involved tho.

auntie funmi,  i had  thanksgiving too early for you didnt i?  this your lesser hajj seems to be waning quick now.  anyway someone else is reporting this on nairaland. what do you think?  evil and wickedness has no tribal marks otherwise you will say  ibos do all the political violence you see in yaruba land.  you may want to watch this clip. if you are too busy  just move  to 4.30 minutes and see how nigerians never seems to learn any lessons   
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=J3ReFoFp0Gs

[b][b][b][b]Romade Kidnaps A Yoruba Boy[/b][/b][/b][/b]
« on: Today at 10:18:10 AM »

A yoruba girl named ROMADE was having financial troubles,
so she decided to kidnap a child and demand a ransom.
She went to a local park, grabbed a little boy,
took him behind a tree and wrote this note:

I have kidnapped your child.
Leave N10,000 in a plain brown bag
behind the big tree in the park tomorrow by 7 AM.

Signed - "ROMADE"

She pinned the note inside the boy's jacket and told him to go straight home.
The next morning, she returned to the park to find the N10,000 in
a brown bag, behind the big oak tree, just as she had instructed.
Also inside the bag was the following note:

"Here is your money. I cannot believe that one Yoruba would do
this to another."

cruel joke this is bt fully

i am still in shock my brother to read small boys having the audacity to do this. i dont know what to say for now

[b][b]Boy, 16, rapes 65-year-old woman[/b][/b]

By Adeolu Adeyemo - 16.09.2008

OYO State police command on Monday paraded a 16-year-old Junior Secondary School student in Ibadan, John Vincent, for allegedly raping a 65-year-old woman at Iwo Road area of the city without condom.

Also paraded along with Vincent was his alleged accomplice, Remi Okebukola, who told newsmen that he was one of the rapists and explained that they were three in number before the third person ran away.

The suspects, who also allegedly dispossessed the woman of N15,000, admitted that they committed the crime. Okebukola added that he was invited by Vincent to launch an attack on the woman and help in holding her before the rape was carried out.

“I was discussing with another friend when the boy came and pleaded with me to join him in carrying out the act. He was the first to rape the woman while I held her from the back.

“She could not resist much after the boy finished his round of sex and I took over before the police came and picked us up,” he explained. Speaking on the development while parading the suspects, the state Commissioner of Police, Mr. Bashiru Azeez, said the suspects had confessed to the crime.

According to him, a team of policemen from the Special Anti-Robbery Squad (SARS) visited the scene of the incident around 11:30 p.m on August 22 while the act was on.

http://www.tribune.com.ng/16092008/news/news12.html


is this the new nigeria or some madness came on these boys

texazzpete:
@Showbobo it seems that Nigerians have a morbid fear of criticism. Why? It's dumb to start playing the 'poverty' card when people strive for better deals.

you are very correct. that is why they kill political and business opponents. sometimes you wonder the kind of blood we have. the sad part is the younger ones have picked up the same silly mind set

davidylan:
I learnt one other thing most guys don't know about . . . the really quiet babes here are the ones to die for.  

you are also learning you can make  a point without fighting

and better still i think you are [b][b]learning[/b][/b] that life is not a straight religious jacket.

God bless you brother

Queenisha: why should countryman buy the cow when the milk is free?
u sure u no be winch whey sabi read my mind! lol.

i suspect this is forensic mind of the lovely nwando at work here.  all this banning  here and there confuses names but the finger and the strength of the words cannot be any other person.  hope i am right?  i would always catch you, AJ and auntie funmi out. even though she says going on the lesser hajj has tamed her for now.

that brings me to the small matter of david, it is such a strange world that some people just want to sleep around and get different results from others.   the other day my ma inlaw saw something on AIT and asked are naija men really like this?  i wish i was old enough to get the word for her.  we men have to be grateful we are not the women at the end of the cruelty and lies of a misguided Nigerian man's tongue.  majority of our sad men and sadly the young ones now don't believe in anything and don't know where to draw the line  other than quick sex and money.  God help our women and our people.

these are 2 young women lives being pressed here. who knows how many he is hiding?

jemima2007:
sitawoman,my family never like him from the beginning because of that they don't want to know.

i am so sorry to hear your wahala.  this is the reason i always say people should [b][b][b]always remember their family[/b][/b][/b] don't always mean harm.  i remember some thread back with some people  saying go with man/woman and forget your family.  your family will almost always be there for you.

back to the topic,  my advice to you is work out ways to get on with your life.  6yrs is a lot to waste. your life and childrens lives is too precious to waste and no man is worth wasting your life for.  

listen if you truly had money  you invested in the business there must be a record of it through your bank account .  that is all you need to prove what you invested in the business. if he says that is not true  he will need to show where he got the funds from. saying he got it from auntie susu and co doesn't hold water so don't be afraid.

whatever you do always know somehow your future is now linked because of the kids and do not do anything that will make the relationship with the kids difficult.

i wish you luck and hope you take wisdom and understanding along with you

davidylan:
Na wa o. You are really in deep trouble. Did you go into this with your two eyes closed?

david what a question. you make me laugh these days. it is good to know you are well and going about your daily business

jemima2007:
sistawoman   - i don't have money to get a lawyer

being in canada, i would have thought there would be women organisation/s to take on cases like this. there must be.  be relaxed and get your brains working so you can remember what trips and cash you did for the business side of the relationship.  others have gone through this route before. you will not be the first  so there is already a formular to work this out. 

having said this, i must warn that if there is any shoody business along the way there may be trouble on a different scale. do take care and start working your way out of this.  marraige is not hell and should never be a prison term. it is meant to be enjoyed and not endured

by the way are you based in lagos and do you have reps all over naija?

do i get this clear. are you saying i cannot buy it out right ie buy what is okay for whatever purpose i want and you install without me having to pay you bills in whatever guise

am i right? or i am not reading you well?

This car is over priced abeg.A new camry xle in the US is not above $28k-$30K and that's about 3.2M besides, you get to choose the colour you want plus other dealership goodies that come with it; How did your own that shows check engine light transform to almost $60k?

funmi, you have such a sharp eye and mind it is unbeleivable.
good to see you are putting it to better use now.

oga sienna don talk for most people. good to see good clean guys coming into naija though

thanks kind sir, again do you have a website for this and how much do they cost?

do you have a website for this? is this in nigeria and where are they being used at the moment. i am intesrested in this that is if they are available in nigeria

maimota:
Thanks alot for your advice, you guys will not understanding
i hardly go out, am always at work from monday 2 saturdays.
i just feel the best thing to do is to get married to the one i ve at my disposal.
a stick at hand save nine" Am trying to see if i can dev a feeling for him.

SERIOSLY DO NOT MARRY YET.  wedding is one day - marraige is a life time. headaches dont come closer than a bad relationship. you have a better chance of stopping this folly now. [b]it is safer to catch up than clean up[/b]. bad relationships eat deep into your soul. [i]i can  see you are getting its ingredient ready. dont go near the kitchen yet please[/i].
listen to the advice below again and probably read it again and again. it will help you and others waiting to jump into relationships because of age, loneliness and other thouand and one wrong reasons people have for jumping into wrong relationships.  

There is somebody, somewhere that God has ordained for you. All you need do is to rely on Him.
TOTAL TRUST IN GOD. At the appointed time the right person would show up

of all mistakes you make i dont think any has power to hurt and cause you nightmares like a rushed bad ill conceived relationship

kola oloye:
Wrong reason to get wedded.
There is somebody, somewhere that God has ordained for you. All you need do is to rely on Him.
TOTAL TRUST IN GOD. At the appointed time the right person would show up.

my dear auntie funmi. i suspect you are one of this yaradua's secret wives. the amount of publicity you give him. is he well now?

this is an old story they are recycling again

trust is a major issue with ventures of this nature. would you trust that whatever info you give will be safe and not compromised?
good concept though because it would enable companies in naija target their ads to the right audience

texazzpete:
@joshjosh What manner of Christian are you, anyway? Gamine just said she has become disillusioned with some 'Men of God' in Nigeria, and she's decided to seek guidance from God's word. In other words, the Bible.

i refer you to the earlier post i said "if you go back you will notice i only ever made my comments to david and gamine who are fabulous young minds and can hold their own court anywhere anyday"

have a good day

carmelily:
let's vote to expel joshjosh from school! na p[b]aulipopo[/b] be lecturer not you! start your own thread.

naomijt:
I concur!!!

this is the problem with nigerians and why you always have violence and extreme troubles in your midst.  we like things like this.  this is an open forum. you tell lies , you want the lies to stand despite the evidence showing it to be lies. you have no problem with doing and tolerating injustice but you want a just society always. so sad

if you go back you will notice i only ever made my comments to david and gamine who are fabulous young minds and can hold thier own court anywhere anyday.

truth be told these kind of churches people are condeming here can only thrive in greedy enviroments. that would not look like nigeria to some people.  i said it before God is not a money doubler. only in greedy environments would people believe that kind of con. go on with your vote and good  luck