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kalmebad:
@poster
Just beware,
am using myself here as a reference, i make so much demand if i don't love a guy nor feel anytin for him,
But for someone i do, i hardly ask but rather wait upon, so tread catiously and watch her well

lets see the breast first - because when u go to the doctor - u must show the breast abi? please post the photo - make we see am na. in the photo - make sure say your husband has his hand on your left breast and both of you must be naked - also his di ck must be erect - this is the only way we can recommend a great solution for you - and also make sure u have shaved your obo.

baronbeach:
My girlfriend that i ve been dating for 4yrs now, is insisting we get married before the year runs out. although i love her enough to get married to her but i need to put things in place because i only started working sept last year, and my monthly pay is just 50k, although when i told her about putting everything in place like getting my appartment which i just move into furnished properly and some other business runing to bring in more cash she aggreed no dougbt but insisted we go tru it together which i consider slowing my pace please advice, new to this please don't push me away with harsh words,
NB:i am 28 and my girl friend is 24 we re both graduates from university of benin

I am not seeking advice on this topic, i am actually sharing biblical truths with my fellow christian which certain pastors have found very convinient to hide. If you are in any doubt as to my position go and read all my posts on the subject, in fact at the risk of being accused of being arrogant, i can say i am a sort of authority on the subject because i have researched the topic extensively.

NetKamoze, just leave trust me there is nothing worse then living in a home with warring parents. To hell with her mother. Save yourself your daughter will one day know the truth. She will be happier if you leave then living in a house with parents at war. You are not a bad person we all make mistakes but everyone deserves some happiness. That includes you

The good thing is that no one of us is God! Since you say I am unfit--God has been successfully raising them and will continue to raise them without my help! No wahala then. They have the best baby sitter they can ever wish for. Kiss

Well having written all that, all a can say to you is goodluck. The last time a checked, I still had my wedding band--not ring ooooooooooooooh, I said band. If you know what that means. Until I cease to have it--all you can do is make your noise and question with all that you wrote up there. Till then, I am still bonafide and sanctified! Cool We are not dealing with rings any more. I said BAND!

I am glad you expressed yourself extremely well concerning your sentiments about me, my children, my husband and my marriage. You deal with yours and we shall see who finishes last in the end even where it is not a competition. Thank you also, for citing all ma previous posts to show you have been keepin' up with me on Nairaland--even where most of them have no relevance to what is being discussed here. I must be very special to you! Kiss I am very flattered. Cool

As you already know, I do not have poor communication skills and do not get offended because of peoples opininons about me or ma posts, unless I really hate your guts. Frankly, you are of no consequence to ma Nairaland being. If you are looking for a cheap fight on Nairaland----I am not in the mood. You can pick another to show your skills. Not interested--having too much of a good time right now!

On that note, it was nice meeting you on Nairaland. Kiss

Happy Sunday to you! Kiss

It certainly looks like people who marry for ulterior motives would need advisers just like you, that's why they say "birds of the same feather flocks/fly together", oops! I should have better said "Misery loves company".

Sometimes we fail to take a time out and evaluate whatever is going on within us. Instead, we choose to forge ahead by force even when things are so bad. I do not call that faith, I call it stupidity. If you are not psychologically healthy, I think you need to remove yourself from people and go take care of your issues, period! Religion might come in handy, but you may still need to leave that environment for whatever therapy you choose to work for you.

This is an interesting thread. Having being married for 26-years so far and making love with the same woman for 27-years, I believe I have something to offer. The secret to lasting and enjoyable marriage is PRAYER. There will be disagreements, some loud some quiet, even to the point of having the children involved. But, the resolution is to know that the disagreement is about personal issues and not about the union. Feelings have to be separated and understood that they are just feelings and those do change. Love does not change.

In addtion, Love is long-suffering, literally, there will be "suffering" in love, but if put in proper perspective and understanding, then Love endures all. Love your wife/husband for who he/she is and not who you want the person to be. If you cannot do that, then marraige will suffer. Trust, inspite of. Put jealous in its proper place, we are only jealous for/over the people that we love. Learn to laugh, even in the midst of argument and disagreement. Don't sleep over disagreements/fights, rather resolve to end all fights the same day. By all means, do not share your marital problems with anyone, especially friends. Enjoy each other's company. Don't let work or friends get in the way of having a date with each other. No matter how long you have been married, still go out on a date once a week. Lastly, but not the least, Enjoy Sex, that is the glue, don't deny each other the enjoyment of sex, and don't you this as a tool.

I think u need God in every relationship. and 4 your marriage to work, u also need to understand your spouse very well. You must also learn to say sorry even when u don't mean it. and u must learn to appreciate your spouse, because u never know he might be gone the next day.
Those things i've mentioned have really helped me in my marrigae. I'm not the kind of person dt says sorry to guys especially, but i've learnt to say 'm sorry in marriage and it has really cooled tensions. But above all, u must love your spouse, because everyone makes mistakes, and u won't see a reason to apologise to your spouse if there's no love.
below are some tips that makes my marriages work as a lady:

RESPECT: Let your man know he's the head of the home, no matter what u contribute. never make decisions without seeking his opinions. iT is scriptural, it is also an african tradition. Never let Over-civilisation or illiteracy in the name of i'm a "graduate"deprieve u from keeping your home. The fact dt your boyfriend tolerated your insolence and disrespects while courting does not mean he will tolerate that in marriage because i know most men do not.
PRAYER: Pray for your spouse every day As he goes about he's daily activity. Learn to thank God for making your man a better husband.
Understand: There are times when he just wants to reflect over certain things in life as a man. give him the chance to do so and please do not think he's thinking of some other girls. Trust your man and do not listen to rumour mongers. take corrections
LOVE and HONOUR your spouse.
Do these things as a lady, and your marriage will last a lifetime in love

i have never regretted marrying my husband. We have our own shares of quarrels but we make up before dusk so that we can look into each other's eyes the next morning and from the depts of our hearts say "I love You'.