Please pardon me in case of any grammatical error. My story will be long, pls kindly bear with me and read to the finishing point. I'm ready to accept any insulting comments, it doesn't matter to me now.
I'm a 25 years old guy, not really financially buoyant but an average, money never dries in my pocket and back account as a hustler. Am currently still in part time program in university.
Now let me go straight to the point, here is my story. I started dating one beautiful girl back then in 2014, we were in love until something came up. There was a time I came home and she visited, that was the beginning of our separation, my mother warned me to stay away from her that she doesn't like her.
Honestly, I didn't know how to breakup with her without hurting her because she loved and cared for me so much. I love my mother so much and I listen to her as well. So, I started to avoid her, reducing my number of calls with her, sometimes when I visited home I won't tell her. All these to make her change her mind but all to no avail, I couldn't tell her what's up so that she won't hate my mother and make both of them enemies of each other.
She noticed my unprecedented and unusual behaviors, she asked me what has she done I only told her that I was very busy and concentrating on something. She later got fade up and started minding her own business because sometimes she would call I won't pick her calls, so she decided to let me be.
Fast forward to early this year, she went for a business trip and returned, so I decided to pay her a visit because even though we are no longer in love but we are still friends. I was hoping to visit her in her shop but she wasn't there, she told me to come to her apartment, I went there, we gist and had funs, she started making a move to me and we eventually had an unprotected sex.
I was thinking that she was a big girl and can take care of herself but after one month plus she called me and told me that she was pregnant, I was speechless and couldn't believe her, she threatened to report the case to my mother if I didn't show up and proffer solutions, my mind jumped. I hurried to her place and she showed me the pregnancy test result, we calculated the months and it was exactly the day I had sex with her, from that day till the month is exactly what was written on the paper.
To cut the story short, I got lost in thought until she waked me from my daydream, I told her straight that I wasn't ready for that, she should do something about it, so both of us agreed to terminate it, it was done successfully, I wasted much money on that moment but it didn't bother me.
So, after a while she called me and told me the sudden changes in her business that money disappeared from her hands always. She went home and complained to her dad, her dad suggested they should visit a native doctor to find out what was the problem. They visited the native doctor and he apparently exposed and told her what she did, that the pregnancy she terminated was the reason behind her misfortune. He listed all the things she will buy for cleansing and the total money involved. She called me and told me the development and demanded my own contribution (money), at that moment I didn't really have money to provide and she couldn't believe me.
Now am afraid if she will angrily expose me because she told her people that the person that got her the pregnancy is not around he traveled abroad. I haven't answered her since then because I have been busy thinking about my mistake, regretting the day I visited her, crying had I know. I returned but I didn't tell her so she won't visit me. Right now am having a double mind if I should adhere to what she told me by contributing money for the stuff, but the other hand, am asking for God's mercy upon my life, so if I should contribute money now it means I will be committing sin upon sin. I don't really know what to do now, I told her that I will visit her whenever I return to discuss with her but I haven't done that.
Presently I have a fiancee am dating now, my mother knows about her and she accepted her as well, also thinking about settling down with her when the time comes. I will hurt and loose her if what I did exposed.
Pls advice me my good people before I commit suicide and end everything, you can insult me if you like, it doesn't matter to me now, am very desperate human being now. The native doctor even told her to tell whoever that got her the pregnancy to also do his own cleansing or else he will encounter problems in life.
Should I also listen to the native doctor man or seek God's mercy, of whose report shall I believe..? Will there really be any problem, and what do I tell her now.
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Let me be frank with you. I see you enjoy most of the reply of guys on this platform and feel you are encouraged.
That lady actually got pregnant of which you confirmed urself. Don't be deceived as per the traditional way she went for, I am a christian but I won't totally rule out the possibility of the consequences of the abortion you both did.
Every one has his/her destiny differently. Don't mind those guys advising you not to be fooled by the lady. The reaction of your action with that lady will soon find you out.
You better join her do the cleansing and let her go her way afterward because majority of us on this platform will not be there when you begin yo reap what you sow. Don't let the reply of many guy here fool you.
That lady believes in traditional and so her family. Even if you are a strong christian, that God forgives sin does not mean you won't reap what you sow.
Go meet that lady, do all she want and move on with your life. Simple.
I am a working class lady and I hardly demand things from whosoever I love.
There is this guy that I ave been dating for years now. I don’t know what to call his behavior, whether it is stinginess or the other way round.
I noticed that whenever he comes visiting, he doesn’t bring anything and I get to cook and takecare of him. I was forced to talk 1 day.
The last time he came visiting, he brought bread and other stuffs along which he ended up eating all by himself. I decided not to cook or do anything but I couldn't take it so we went out to buy stuffs. I needed to use POS and I forgot my phone at home. So I begged him to transfer 5k to the lady and that I was going to transfer back to him when we get home. We ended up using the money to get chicken, pepper and other stuffs.
On getting home I demanded for his account details in order to transfer the money back and to my surprise, he gave me and I transferred the money.
My major concern is that this guy has never given me common N10 and he is working. I don’t know if he's worth settling down with cos I fear for my future. Will he be able to give if he has more? This is the guy that is already telling me to come meet his mum cos she wants to see me.
Pls no insults, just advice.
. Are you very sure he is gainfully employed? Some men are like that. They do not spend a dime on ladies but take from them instead. I have a friend like that and after he got married for about 11 yrs now, he has not given a kobo to the wife for meals, neither has he paid there daughter's school fees for once. You need to decide what you want. Would you be able to come by financing the house alone in future without getting tired?
I think he is just not a responsible man and most likely not changed. Pray God give you a better man that can support whatever you do no matter how little.
He is wrong for collecting that money back knowing fully well he will eat of the meal and has been eating in your house before.
He is Agro-d-quencher. Just passing time to get you hooked into marriage. BE WISE
Somethings been eating me up. I had sex with my boyfriend some weeks later i started falling so sick I will try to point out all I can remember *Came down with what I felt was fever was burning hot so hot you just need to come close to feel the heat
*at night I sweat. Not just the usual sweat but one I have to change my clothes two times a nigbt(this happened for like a week)
* I started feeling so cold especially in the morning. Doctor said it was pneumonia + a cough that lasted for three weeks plus.
*and the rashes I ve never have in my whole life spreaded all over my arms and back as well as my breast region.
* I also had serious muscle ache. Serious that my mom had to help me massage it. My neck did hurt too it felt like someone hit me with a blank on my neck
* nodes on my neck, groin, as well as ear. * I started having blurred vision and sores on my lips like fever blisters
* and then injuries in my mouth, weird ones * I have oral trush at least thats what I thought them to be. White tongue I have had this before but this onr is different. With slimy white things in my mouth every time
*I also experienced dehydration and dry mouth. * also had a delayed flow
The symptoms are so much I can't even mention it all. Most of these lasted for about a month +. I still have cold till this day. I shiver most times and its my major fear. And the rashes are still there.
This Is the major problem. The nurse who was handling me said it might be an STD maybe HIV I took plethora of test including HIV after 3 months all came back negative, I was told to wait 6montgs to check for HIv again it was still negativr. During this month I have seen so many doctors, private and government all they do is givr me drugs but I still experience the pneumonia cold( no cough) and occasional mouth sores as well as the rash. My boyfriend now my ex took HIV too it was negative. Please doctors in the house what can this be. I have read so many threads here on naira land of people who had same experience but some later turned + they might be lying though.
I heard after 6 months and test is still negative then its not it. My question now is. What is wrong with me. I have spent so much on drugs and test. And no doctor is able to say what my problem is. Its making me crazy as I am even scared to shower because of the cold and I can't let people see my body due to rash.
I need help.
. If throughly you have done all necessary medical tests and all negative, then you need turn to God. Do you really trust your so called boy-friend and how long has this relationship been. Otherwise, think spiritual before its too late. Go for deliverance ina bible and genuine worship center. It looks more like rutual
SirWhiteFish: I looked back at the beginning of this year, precisely 14th January 2019 when I started working at a private primary school. Three weeks later, I was told that I had to be taking two primary five students extra lessons after closing (3pm), and the pay was 1k each. With my monthly salary which was 13,000 added to the "1k" each makes 15 thousand.
You would think I earned 13k for three months abi! No I didn't. The first salary I got was the half of 13k. The woman just called the staff on the 28th of January and gave me 6.5k. I had no idea what was going on and I thought she was going to balance up at the beginning of February just like she said while addressing us but it was a lie. it was at the end of the term, the third month April, that I got to know I am being ripped off. She said she was going to pay 5000 naira at the end of the term as salary because school opened for just 10 days. It was the greatest shock of my life. A graduate, a grown up man like me, taking 5000 naira home!! I wanted to leave but I couldn't because I wouldn't be paid for the common entrance lesson and I had not gotten any other opportunities elsewhere.
Sometimes in early February, She called me that I would be handling primary 5 Common entrance lessons which is meant to hold every Saturday and at the end of the third term the money will be shared between Me, a staff that partners me and the proprietress. She said the money will be shared 60%(I and another man) to 40%(the proprietress). The formula was very unfair and strange to me. The sharing formula seemed very strange to me and I challenged it but she enforced it.
Fast forward to early this month, precisely 3rd of July, the proprietress started acting strange and insulting all the workers and all that. The following week she sent one of the oldest staff by to inquire what will be the staff reaction if they are not paid at the end if the term. The staff said they won't agree to such and some even threaten various actions. Fast forward to Thursday 25th of July, vacation day. the woman started up a plethora of complaints deliberately she said she was going to pay 4000 as July salary. The same thing she did at the end of second term. At the end she ended up not paying a dime. She didn't pay any of us. Not even the common entrance lesson which made me stay.
I cried and stayed inside throughout Friday. I had a deep thinking, with my academic background! Was it that I didn't know my worth? with all my struggles to be successful academically I am now slaving in one private school for a paltry sum of 15k, money wey I no fit cope with as an undergraduate! Money wey be say no reach my NYSC allawe! I really feel for graduates going through phases like this. I really feel for graduates teaching at private schools. I pray better days finds you and I soon.
. What did you study in School. Do you teach Mathematics with ease? If yes, You can relocate to PHC. Will be better off if you have a degree in Education.
I have been following the alleged rape incident between Mrs Bisola Dakolo, the wife of musician Timi Dakolo, and Pastor Biodun, the Senior Pastor at COZA, where Mrs Dakolo alleged that Pastor Biodun had multiple canal knowledge of her without her consent as a then 17 years old teenager, an incident that allegedly happened some 20 years ago.
I have watched the pronouncements of some social media jurists and popular figures, including some politicians, musicians, influencers and actors, with most pronouncing judgement against the accused (Pastor Biodun) and a few others "standing with the accused".
May I add my voice to this subject...
1. Does Being A Philanderer Makes One A Rapist?
A couple of people, including Mr Timi Dakolo, the husband of Bisola, have accused Pastor Biodun to be a man that engage in inappropriate relationship with several female members of his COZA church, while that remains an unproven allegation, some commentators pronounced the pastor as "guilty" of rape because of his too many "womanising scandals", while some others narrated his philandering days in Ilorin, Kwara state, where he allegedly had multiple romps with several ladies of loosed virtues. While the allegations/testimony may be true, half truth or completely untrue, it still does not help the allegation of Mrs Bisola.
Rape is non-consented sexual relations and it is a criminal offence. Having multiple sexual partners is not a crime under the law irrespective of moral or spiritual opinion.
2. Bisola Dakolo Herself Was Accused of Having Sexual Relations With COZA Clerics
On May 30, a certain female with Instagram handle @elenapipper informed Mr Timi Dakolo that his own wife, Bisola, who incidentally is the accused of Pastor Biodun, was involved in illicit sexual relationship with Pastors of COZA church and some of her choir colleagues. While the claim of Elena remains an allegation, I believe that "2+2" should be put together by social media jurists if their intent is to give social media justice. I am yet to see the response of Timi and Bisola to that allegation and in all honesty, I expect the Dakolos to sue Elena for defamation/libel so as to prove their innocence- just like several social media jurists have challenged Pastor Biodun to do.
3. The Media Is Not The Appropriate Place To Lodge Criminal Complaint
I have said it umpteenth time that the media, be it traditional media or social media, is not a police station to lodge criminal complaints. The traditional media is interested in selling papers while the social media is highly interested in cashing out on trending issues. Popular faces and celebrities are interested in jumping on trending issues so as to stay relevant while influencers are interested in swaying perception. Majority of these commentators and social media jurists aren't interested in vindicating the innocent and to bring the real guilty party to JUSTICE. I heard of a planned protest at COZA Church by some so-called CSOs, but that again is just to sway public opinion and not necessarily see to that JUSTICE is done.
However, the appropriate thing for Bisola Dakolo to do is to first go to the Police station nearest to her, report the case, get her witnesses and other evidence, assist the Police in their investigation and ensure that the accused is charged appropriately to establish his innocence or guilt and get justice, which can only be dispensed by the court.
4. My Position On The Rape Allegation By Bisola Against Pastor Biodun
Rape is a crime against humanity and a robbery of ones dignity, it is a serious crime that should be treated as an offence worse than armed robbery- because the victim is robbed mentally, emotionally and psychologically.
However, rape accusation is one that should be properly lodged at the Police station and investigated by the appropriate police officer, and if found to be true, the perpetrator be punished. But if otherwise, the accuser be punished. As such, I neither agree with the accuser (Bisola) nor the accused (Pastor Biodun) just yet, but proper investigation be done.
Convulsively, we should allow wisdom be our guide in making judgement! May justice be done!
TonyeBarcanista can be reached via gmail at TonyeBarcanista@gmail.com
That lady was not raped. Those days, ladies of 17years don't like dating there mates. They date there seniors of about 30-35years. As a yoruba girl then, she must have fallen for the pastor (though the pastor should not have had canal knowledge of a said church member) but from the tape, there was no rape.
I was wondering if it's the same tape I watched other also are responding to. She was only been used by her husband to get at the pastor because Timi has been on the trail of this man for years. I know the man may have issues with self control and discipline but that man will not rape a lady to have her. He is good-looking and every woman's like.
Bisola should be careful because if she can not show real evidence in court, she will be surprised in the end. The man entered ur house, ur sister was in another room you allowed him bring out is manhood, inserted it and had orgasm. He went to his car and brought u drink. U were able to walk comfortably at that age without any pain from a big dick that u claim forcefully took your virginity.
There is more to this story. Timi is just using the lady to get at that man. They have also advised Timi to go check the paternity of those first two children of his knowing the type of live his wife lived back then.
You did not even tell ur sister that was in the house with you. U were simply enjoying the man's dick but it turned out he didn't accept to divorce his wife for you.
luckyelems: since they have declared war or rivers people, them go hear score's
They are expecting you to come help them. Rivers PDP cultist and Wike mistreatment on opposition parties needs dare devil soldiers. He is long overdue so please take ur gun and move to PHC
evansjeff: Nairalanders Help Me Thank God. I Just Got A Job
Just for the sake of people like me that hates reading long stories, I will make this as short as possible.
I graduated since 2013 and no job, was just managing petty private jobs. In 2015 I decided to further my studies but then I told God He must give me a job before I finish my Masters programme, else the frustration will be unbearable.
2016 was the key year for me. All my applications that hitherto got zero replies began to get replies. I initially got N-Power but I told God this was just a temporary job for only 2 years and that he must give me a permanent job before the expiration of the 2 years contract.
So it was. I applied for the FCSC job opening that same year, in 2017, I was invited to come to Abuja for interview, I've never been to Abuja before, many friends discouraged me, telling me I was just going to waste my transport since I knew no senator or minister or any body in government. But that didn't discourage me. I went.
To cut it short, After several processes, I was invited to come for my appointment letter in 2017, got my posting letter in 2018 and today, I am a permanent staff of the Federal Ministry of Education.
God has been so faithful to me. To Him be all the glory.
But your people say N-Power is vote buying. Is it not better to sell this type of vote for permanent job without connection. This administration will reward hard work.
hopevalley: Yes, Tinubu should be called to other. Lagos is a no man’s land. Ibo people have right here. Click on the link on my signature to know how to export products to foreign countries and make millions of naira as profit.
This is the problem of the Igbos. How dear you say Lagos is a no mans land. This is the reality the Igbos need to live with. Lagos is Yoruba land and not in the SE/SS or North. So you don't come to another man's and and take control of their political relevance. Nobody can do that in your SS/SE or North. Don't bring your foolishness to the open and say Lagos is no man's land. Bode never gave Tinubu any chance God took him to that level. Igbos can not decide who rules the state as a governor. We rather use our means and get it our way
saints2: While the nation is under intense pressure all thanks to INEC who has broken the world record by counting the presidential results in 4 days now, the president seems to be keeping tab too of the latest development and live from ICC..
See pictures below..
In 2015, the presidential election result was announced on 1 st April 2015 Wednesday also. Yakubu has not done was than he predecessor because he is not the one to bring the results to Abuja. Even when some RECs are called to come forward they were seen not ready despite the days spent. So people should stop making noise at nothing. it's not the first time because your candidate losts.
Prince Tony Momoh, a former Minister of Information on Wednesday said President Muhammadu Buhari’s directive to security agencies to deal ruthlessly with ballot box snatchers ahead of the 2019 general election is in order.
Speaking in a chat with Daily Independent, Momoh, one of the national leaders of the ruling All Progressives Congress (APC) said Nigerians do not expect the President to give national honours to those who committed crime by declaring war on due process and free, fair elections.
He said “What is snatching of ballot box? Snatching a box is a crime. It is declaration of war on due process and free, fair election. Anyone who declares war on due process is committing treason against due process.
“Those condemning Buhari, are they suggesting that anybody who snatches a box on Election Day should be given a national honour?
That one has been resolved Sir. The other problem are for the INEC staff & RECs in particular that have been bribed not to write results for PDP. We know PDP has enough money to throw around this season.
They don't need to mention any party. Those of us in SS knows that Div 6 is Niger Delta and PH is their headquarters. So Wike is the one controlling for PDP in SS. They will smell pepper this time.
I have said it times without number that the issue of ballot box snatching is small compared to RECs & INEC Staff corrupt elements that allows politicians to rig elections and am pretty sure OBJ has hand in all these. Hmmm, God will disappoint them
See me see trouble. Saraki too is advising against rigging of election. Why are PDP members this dull. You know you are the ones rigging election, yet you accuse others.
ehijoshua3: The Independent National Electoral Commission, INEC, has reacted to reports on PDP presidential candidate Abubakar Atiku $1million and Dubai house gift to Adamawa REC.
Atiku $1million, Dubai house gift to Adamawa REC – INEC reacts The electoral body, in their reaction, has described the news as fake.
In a statement released on its Twitter page INEC urged Nigerians to ignore such reports, stating that INEC REC did not receive any offer from Atiku.
The tweet read
“FAKE NEWS ALERT: The Adamawa INEC REC completely disassociates himself from the allegation that he had an offer of $1m and a house in Dubai as no offer whatsoever was ever made to him by any one.”
This man will never change. In the bid to become president he will do anything. The man telling us its fake news how are we sure. Were we not all here in 2015 how 99% RECs were all bribed by Diezini and Dasuki
The Department of State Security Services, DSS has withdrawn its invitation to the National Commissioner of the Independent National Electoral Commission, INEC, in charge of logistics, Okechukwu Ibeanu.
It was earlier reported that Ibeanu alongside Chidi Nwafor, the director of ICT; Ken Ukeagu, director of procurement; Osaze Uzzi, director of voter education and publicity; and Bimbo Oladunjoye, the assistant director of ICT were asked to report at DSS offices in Abuja by 2 pm on Tuesday.
It's unclear why the agency would drop DSS its decision but sources hinted that some prominent Nigerians intervened because of the “timing”.
This invitation was initially believed to be related to the fiasco that led to the postponement of the general election by one week.
Mahmood Yakubu, a professor and INEC chairman, had blamed the postponement on sabotage and logistical issues.
So almost al the directors of INEC are igbos yet they make so much noise about appointment. You now want to use ur brothers to rig elections. E no go work.
Reno, I wish your madness can be stronger than this. You did not see your party thugs writing results and snatching boxes. Saturday shall be full of your corpses.
August21: Following on recent inquiry by Nigerians on why Pastor Suleman has been seemingly quiet concerning this year’s elections. The fiery cleric has finally responded to his critics. In a church service at his headquarters in AUCHI, Edo state today, he said, When they say Apostle has not been talking, I am not going to be talking, I will be talking spiritual thing, from the spirit. That’s the truth… Apostle, who do I vote for? Are you going to vote for someone that will kill you? He went further to ask, even if you are deaf, can’t you see?.... He also added, that is congregation and Nigerians should never vote for anybody that will cut off their necks. In a move that looked like he was endorsing Alhaji Atiku Abubakar, he Advised his congregation further he said, “the Man that will steal your money is better than the one that will take your life…” Recall that Apostle Johnson Suleman and the Chairman of the All Progressives congress, Comrade Adams Oshiomole are from the same senatorial district.
It is now clearer to us that some acclaimed men of God are what Daddy freeze call them. Money bag pastors supporting evil doers and robbers of our common good to come back in the name of the defending the church.
But some wicked satanic individuals even religious bodies coming to defend that nothing happened is the height of corruption that has creep into the heart of men.
Inspectorsuga22: Another $tupid post for d satisfaction of brainless/useless APC(Association of Pigs & Cows)
For the pigs & cows glorifying their ignorance and advertising their intellectual incapacitation trying to qoute me, this election was postponed by 2am and I'm sure that PDP will never be dat $tupid to continue using the card reader wen dey have already bn informed of the postponement...I mean the only party proven to be that incompetent is APC, their CV is unmatched in incompetence....
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