₦airaland Forum

Gentle0wavez:
Why would you be asking this, Yes it's important. It doesn't matter how nice he is, as long as he is an unbeliever, he is disqualified. The bible say don't be equally yoked ( marriage ) with unbelievers

fredoooooo:
Hahah laakuli jalailu . Where una dey go bring all these old slangs

Kondomatic:
You're so right.




Sometimes when I look deeply into your father, I wonder how you mother put up with such an unpleasant cheap creature.

doggedfighter:
This is absolutely beautiful.

It paid off.


Start applying for visa now !

Ugandatales:
Absolutely. This is the most important part of the benefits.

BadRadio:
These scandalous recommendations is ideal for ice cold reptiles or randy yahoo boys... No right thinking homosapien with a human heart will adopt such clues of vicious madness in to his life !!!

Welcum:
MY ANSWER

Seeing the comments and the 'likes' on those comments, I'm really scared to know that most Nigerian men may have the thinking that it's a sign of weakness to protect the interest of your wife at all cost (I'm talking about your WIFE, the mother of your kids, NOT your GIRLFRIEND, mind you).

See my points in support of Prince Harry and his wife and other people like them:

1. YOUR WIFE (WHICH ALSO MEANS YOUR KIDS) REPRESENTS YOUR FUTURE WHILE YOUR FAMILY OF BIRTH REPRESENTS YOUR PAST: And, it's only a fool that will not know that your future is far more important than your past.

saphiere:
My attention has be drawn to a thread on this forum where some Nairaland ladies were marketed for potential husbands and some people wondered why I was not on the list of those marketed.

Listen my fellow nairalanders, good things do not need advertisement before they are sold. And again, ever wondered why Ferraris are not advertised on TVs? That's because those buying Ferraris don't seat to watch TVs. I can't be marketed on this forum because my future hubby can never be from here. God forbid

lekki1444:
who is ebue

pappilo:
Yes. Met in Uni, came to the UK together

xandy84:
Please don't tell me what you don't know nothing about. I live in the States, going thru a divorce at the moment. Like I said earlier, thw OP is not telling full story. NOBODY arrest you for visiting your house except there is a restraining order against you and you don't get locked up for forgery allegation except there is a proof..

ttoyetade:
You may not see any signs at all. Marriage is a risk and the risk can materialise anytime. You may not be able to forsee the behaviour of your partner in different situations. Last year I slapped my wife of 28 years for the first time. Her mum came to visit and as soon as she came, we started quarelling everyday. Only God and our church members helped me, I would have been in a similar situation as the OP although I had almost finish paying my mortgage. Marriage is a great risk and if the risk materialises then destruction follows. There is no straight forward solution except to get closer to God and exercise a lot of patience. Whether you return to NIgeria or remain in UK, you need God guidance.

pappilo:
I am going through the same and at some point in the story I thought it was about me

Probably too late now but if possible, beg, grovel, apologise, send emissaries for what you did and didnt do but be sure not to implicate yourself. I say this because you can never win. In my experience, begging didnt work but it is prudent to try.

Another thing for any man who finds himself in a toxic marriage is to know when to give up on the marriage and move strategically. I held on too long not really for love but for the sake of my children but remember the children will survive if you are there or not.

I left the house a few times thinking things will get better but it didnt help. It emboldened my ex wife and she started to invite her boyfriend into our family home when I wasnt there. Her boyfriend moved into our home only about 3 weeks after I was arrested and told by the police not to return to the house. And I still part paid the mortgage for almost a year until I transferred my interest in it over to her.

I moved to a garage conversion in a shared house. The garage obviously had no insulation so cold almost killed me in winter. Used to sleep with full tracksuit, electric blanket and heater. I have moved to my own flat now.

I caught a few charges from her and her boyfriend and I am on trial in crown court next month. They are serious charges but I am optimistic that even if found guilty there will be no jail time as I am of good character. I am kind of prepared for the worst though so although not concrete my plan B will be to relocate to Nigeria if I do get prison time as I will lose my job and the prospects wont be good on release.

I have been working a second job and doing 75hrs a week for about 11 months and this has helped me pay part of my criminal defence fees which are just a little under £15,000. But even with that I am over £10,000 in debt.

I was mad suicidal for a long time and always feeling sorry for myself but I had to pick myself up. Doing 2 jobs helped to keep me occupied so it must be tough for your friend if he is not busy doing something and keeps thinking.

Thankfully my divorce went as smoothly as possible as she didnt object to it and it was granted just over a year after I was banished from the house. It could have even happened earlier if I didnt develop cold feet a few times.

kingjooo:
2-1 or 3-1 final score.Quote me after the game,city can never loose to united @ETIHAD

daddymummy:
It is not true.

Men don't cry.

Crying is a woman's thing.

Also a woman might shed tears of joy during wedding because she has succeeded in finding someone who would feed, cloth and house her.

She has found someone who would pay the bills, school fees and etc while the only thing she would offer is sex.

She is the one who is gaining.

So why shouldn't she shed tears of joy?

A man would not shed tears, but he may be sad to realise that the only thing he would get out of the marriage is sex.

He realized that if not for his compulsive desire to have sex,he would not marry.

The desire to have sex is given to him by nature, so that his labour would be spent to satisfy a stranger whom he calls a wife.


The stranger would then give birth to children whom the man would feed, cloth, house, and pay school fees for.



Maybe he feels cheated by nature, but he would not cry because crying is not a man's thing.

Lyrics269:
What's the capital of kebbi sef

Fmghewzy:
You are kinda right op,but you shouldn't generalise, yeah true there are so many stupid black Americans with victim mentality and laziness.
But not all,and there are better ways to say things like this.


We want things to get better not fight.
Certainly there would be black Americans on this forum, and if you intend to pass a message to them,
It shouldnt be like this.