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There are things people can not help you do and this just happened to be one of them!
You might be given tips (as this forum is already doing) as regards how to handle this break up but the onus of the whole thing lies on you.

You did not state what led to your break up (you have your reasons am sure) but since it is a decision you have already taken, just try and move on. No relationship break up is usually easy but a man got to do what a man got to do.

You are currently hurting there is no doubt and that is why starting a new relationship now is not an option as you are not in the right frame of mind yet. Give yourself time (if you ask me I would recommend nothing less than six months) depending on your age etc.

There are lesions to be learnt from all relationship whether good or bad. Take the good thing out of that failed relationship and move on with your life. The bad things however learn to do without.

GOOD LUCK!

Dear,

Do you know that you can fly and crash?
Do you know that you can board and okada and involve in an accident?
Do you know that you can sit for an exam and fail?
Do you know that you can go into biz and fail?
Do you know that living is risking dying?

But what do we do then? Stop doing those things?

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Whoever plays with fire will without doubt get burnt and fast too!!

You asked if you should throw away a relationship of ten years. Which is more important: giving in to him or "loosing" him?

Call me whatever you want but my sister giving him a "kiss" and a "peck" is very wrong of you! How could you do a thing like that after marrying? Are you sure you have not slept with this guy in the past? If you value the relationship with him so much, why did not marry him instead of the person you married?

You claimed to have tried to explain things to him; there are things and time you explain and there are time and thing you just walk away from. If your value your marriage, walk away from this guy and stop calling him your friend cus he is not! If he is, he would not want to sleep with you knowing your marital status.

Funny, annoying and "unbelievable" as this may sound ladies do this day in day out! In as much as I can not remember experiencing this, stories abound of this kind of thing. It is the highest level of child molestation and abuse.

Surprising though this same ladies are being asked out daily by men that are "capable" but they would be doing SHAKARA only to end up messing with kids! How can a little boy within that age metrix give sexual relief to women. It is also a case of serious emotional and psychological problems for ladies engaing in such act!

A poster said that such kids does not break their heart. Funny! Why are ladies so scared of their hearts being broken? It takes a heart broken girl to value a real and nice guy when he comes along!

I remember this particular lady coming to check this little boy in my compound - he stays alone as his mom was laways away. I had to ask him one day despite myself who the lady was. Guess what he told me: she was always coming to disturb him when she feels like fucking! He further told me that the whole thing started when he was in JSS 2.

Ladies out there who engages in such act: WHY NOT GET YOURSELVES VIBRATORS OR WHATEVER AND LET CHILDREN BE? OR BETTER STILL GIVE GUYS CHANCE TO >>>>>>> INSTEAD OF THE STATUS QUO!!!!!!!

Thanks to the Almighty that you eventually ended up the relationship!

Was it "love" that kept you hanging on despite the abuse all these years? In admire your courage though for speaking out. SOME SISTERS WILL WOULD HAVE TAKEN IT WITH A PITCH OF SALT AND STAYED PUT!!

Congratulations!!!!!!!!!!!

I came back from a trip some time ago only to be told by my gf that an ex of mine who married some years ago was at my place with her kids and sister.

She (my Gf) promised her (my ex) that as soon as i was back that i was going to look her (the ex) up!

Of course i was not comfortable with that and did no look her up.

Did i F up?

Dear Forum Members,

Have you ever asked yourselve/others why ladies would like ton date men who are married?

Again, some ladies still continue dating their ex after they (men) are married.

They was a case of a lady my friend dated in the past calling him and telling him that since he married that he has changed!

Abeg Na How Una See Am?

Examination is supposed to be a test of knowledge but it is not really a test of one's knowledge because we have had cases of people that "performed" wonderfully in an examination without having anything upstairs.

Some people too are brilliant and intelligent but can not really perform well in an examination because of exam fever and all!!!!!!

And in naija, people do all manner of things to pass exams and when they come with such results, wetin we gp call am.

I think we should concentrate more on what people can offer practically instead of certificate.

Before you crucify me, I believe that exqaminations that are practical oriented could be an exception as long as the person no cheat!!!!!!

na wa for you.

hey to you all!

An intersting topic if you ask me!!!!!!!!!

All of us no be ajebo!!!!!!

Many of us hawked things oh no be small!!!!!!!!

For me sha, it was what was then called BUISCUIT BREAD (e no dey market again), bums, groundnut, popcorn (not the types you have today though)!!!! In short the list is endless!!!!!!!!!

THIS WAS BASICALLY HOLIDAYS' STUFF!!!!!!!!!! THE MONEY TOO WAS FOR ME TO KEEP!!!!!!!!

hey,

Funny what some people will do or do for the sake of love!!!!!!!! Have you paused and think about things done for love? You will discover that the most hedious deeds are doen for love's sake than for hate's sake!

My Brother you were nothing but foolish - and i don't apologize - for entering into blood convenant with a girl! What for? An insurance policy that will ensure that she does not cheat or marry someone else? I find it extemely funny and unfarthomanable how grown ups could do somethings with the hope of keeping a relationship.

My brothers and sisters, there is no relationship that needs a blood convenant to keep!!!!! Sometimes the relationships you put so much energy to make work out fine are sometimes not meant to work and might not even be the best relationship for you! As a rule, learn when and how to let go of somethings and you will find peace and better ones.

When a door closes, another opens in its stead but the human nature will keep you staring at the closed doors so much so that you will not see the ones opened and holds greater and better opportunities for you. I am not a spiritualist and does not know or care how the blood convenant work but my friend grow up and move on with your life. And if you are nursing the thought of having this girl back, your name na sorry!!!!!!!! Have you ever thought of the possibility of another man having it out with your woman? If you have not, please think about it! If and when you do, you will never ever considering taking a girl back who had left for another man in the past!

Call it ego if you like but that is just the truth. If you hadn't known her and she had other affairs, it is a different ball game. BUT TO LEAVE YOU FOR ANOTHER MAN AND COME BACK AGAIN AND YOU ACCEPTING HER, OLD BOY I TIRE FOR YOU.

Like a guy in this forum said, they are over 40 million girls out there. Go get yourself another one. BUT NO MORE BLOOD CONVENANT OOOOOOOOHHHHHHHHHHH!!!

ON a last note, the relationship you fight to get, you will always fight to keep. A woman or man you persuaded to date or marry you, you will always persuade to stay married to you or persuade to stay with you. Let somethings happen naturally, then and then alone will you enjoy them!

UNA DOE OH!!!!!!!!

Hi,

It was really cool going through your post my sister. I have also painstakingly gone through the replies of people here. Some I find interesting and others I find rather annoying!

We are all entitled to our own opinions but we should be reasonable and realistic in our talks and thoughts! I don’t see her as being mamaterialisticr anything like that and she does not need to be poor or needy for her BF to buy her things! She does not need to ask him either for him to do that!

Giving to the people we love is part of loving whether you agree with me or not! You can give without loving but you can’t love without giving. If this guy does not have the money it is a different thing! If he really cares about our sister, I see no reason why he should not spend money on her. Someone said that he might have a “project” or that is being “careful” and people are misconstruinmisconstruing“stingy”. Bullshit!

Who is fooling who? Is either our guy is outrightly stingy or does not care about our sister! PERIOD! He Does Not Have To Have So much to buy her things AND HE DID NOT HAVE ANY RIGHT OR MORAL JUSTIFICATION (wJUSTIFICATION BUY HER SOMETHING AND TELL HER HOW EXPENSIVE THE GIFT WAS! That was the cruelest, uncivilized and antisocial behavior I have ever heard! How expensive or cheap a gift is is immaterial; the bottom line is the heart and thoughtfulness othoughtfulnessd the appreciative natappreciative the receiver!

Giving is something that some people have in them and some does not have and does not see the need to learn either! A life without giving and givers will be a monumental bore! It is not possible for us to love and care for someone without wanting to get them things. Some ladies are materialistic thmaterialistict and am not here to defend such girls! Having dated our sister for two years haba! What else does he need to know or find out about her and been materialistic? Smaterialisticeed to ask him for him to give her either!

I take my wife out from time to time even when it is not convenient! And she respects me for that! Sometimes she sponsors such outings! How can we profess love and not give to the people we love? How can we profess love and wait until they ask for things? We don’t need that! He should from time to time surprise her positively not until there is a birthday, valentine or any festivity or anniversary for that matter!  If they just met one might (just might) be tempted to say that our guy is taking his time and all! But for two years? Haba! E get as e be my people!!!!!!!!!!!

Finally, you don’t give gifts to people because they are needy or hungry or to impress them or to buy their love and attention; no we give to show them that we care and treasure them! We give to show our love and appreciation and to sappreciationy mean to us.

Thank you for this opportunity to write and I apologize for it is a lengthy one alright!!!!!


JULIAN.

PS. I can’t say if he is spending on someone else but fact is that if he really cares, he will always get you things – no matter how small it is!!!!!!!!