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FELIX30 (m)

BLESS YOU JARE.

What is wrong is wrong no matter how you try to package it

I agree with people who were/are of the that two weeks is too early for that: for me it depends on the guy's intention and the way he goes about it.

If he goes about it subtly, it okay but if not, am not not gamed!

The defintion of "sexy" is relative!
And to tell you the truth (LADIES), There is no right-thinking-man
who cares about you would want you to be on dresses that reveals oo much.

This does not mean that they will close their when they see other chicks in such dresses
but from their own, no way!

There is no right-thinking-man who is worth his salt that will close his eyes to indecent dressing by his chick, child, sister or even friend's children!

REASON? MEN EGO and I swear it is perfectly normal.

We should not also forget that they way YOU DRESS IS THE WAY YOU WILL BE ADDRESSED.

DRESS responsibly and you WILL ATTRACT RESPONSIBLE men and if you DO NOT,
THE reverse is the case!

And for going to club or not,
WHY SHOULD A GUY ALLOW HIS GIRL TO GO CLUBBING ALONE (without him?).

Any sense of responsibility of the part of the girl in question?

DOES NOT MAKE ANY (LOGIC/REASONABLE0 SENSE people!

My brother, this shits happen from time to time;
and to tell you the truth they are very few women who have not done that and that does not - necessary make such girls lesbians.

A (true) lesbian will never date a man!

Y?

Men irritate them just like a man irritate you who is straight!

Just ask around; some will admit it and some will not.

I remember being in Abuja sometime 2 years ago for 2days.
My chicks very close friend came to the house and for lack of things to do
they started watching adult movies.

One thing led to the other and they did it!

Did I catch them in the act?
No Sir!

She told me when I came back because she felt bad after all.

what I did, told her to put it behind her!

Today she is my wifey!!!!!!!!!

@poster was right.

Some members here will never make a post
even if such post will keep them alive but
they will always rile people you post!

Why?

Answer:

Little minds

NOTHING DEY HAPPEN.

NO OFFENCE TAKEN

rokiatu

Is there a law against multiple posts here?

Besides, it will be too long and some people (little minds) will complain!

There are segmented and here you are

HOW PERSON GO PLEASE UNA SEF?

smooooooth

I wonder why my sex concerns you and why the bother.

Name does not count here; if it does, then smooooooth  

If you must know Julian is my wife's name.

H is underscored and it stands for "HENRY" which happens to be my name?

SATISFIED?? smooooooth ?

REASON Number 5: THEY SEEK ONLY "INFORMATIONAL SOLUTIONS"

What does a smart guy do when he runs into a problem, or he needs to figure something out?

He looks for INFORMATION to help him solve the problem.

MORE INFORMATION is always the answer.

Information is the friend of a smart guy.

Got a strange virus on your computer? Just hop on the internet and search for how to eliminate it.

Don't know how to change the alternator on your car? No prob. Just buy the manual and turn to page 147.

Don't know the definition of a word? Open up your dictionary.

MORE INFORMATION solves the problem.

So what do smart guys do when it comes to overcoming a problem with women?

They want MORE INFORMATION.

They think the answer lies in learning just ONE MORE TECHNIQUE, or one more magic concept.

Well what if there were situations in life where the "get more information" strategy actually made things WORSE?

How would you even know that it was making things worse?

Now, I don't want to suggest that learning more about how to be successful with women is a bad thing. It is not.

But if you have a problem that is EMOTIONAL or PHYSICAL in nature, then reading five million theories on it probably is not going to help you very much.

You need to get out in the real world and try some stuff!

You need to look at the REAL problem, the ROOT of the problem.

When it comes to women and dating, there is a very good chance that you have MORE than enough "information".

Smart guys often use "more information" to distract them from TAKING ACTION.

I have heard this referred to as "Creative Avoidance".

Nod silently if you have ever figured out a creative way to avoid facing something in your life.

Good, thank you.

REASON Number 4: THEY PSYCH THEMSELVES OUT

Smart guys do something that fascinates the hell out of me,

They come up with all the reasons why everything WON'T WORK when it comes to women and dating.

They actually figure out why what they would like to do will probably fail,

They use their amazing creative imaginations to imagine all kinds of horrible pictures and scenes, and then they use those imaginary outcomes to create negative emotions, which ultimately stop them from having success with women and dating.

THEY DON'T EVEN TRY.

Now, if you have thought something through and come up with a good reason why it would fail, it makes sense to not do it, right? RIGHT!!!!

I mean, why would you want to do things that are going to fail?

It is sound logic, but HORRIBLE thinking when it comes to the REAL WORLD, and success with women.

Because smart guys don't UNDERSTAND women, and they don't UNDERSTAND what it takes to be successful with women, they are working with bad figures. They are wrong before they even start figuring!

Using your mind to come up with all the reasons why things won't work in this area of your life leads to ULTIMATE FAILURE.

You must learn to overcome this habit if you have it.

catch ya all!!

REASON Number 3: POOR SOCIAL SKILLS

It BLOWS MY MIND how many smart guys I meet that just don't GET IT when it comes to basic social skills.

It is as if they have logically reasoned that social skills are for lower beings who need to play games,
and not worth the time it would take to learn them.

In fact, I believe that there are a lot of
smart guys running around this planet who don't
even have "social skills" and "be a cool guy that people like" in their "MENTAL MODEL" of what it could possibly take to be successful with women and dating.

Social skills are just that, SKILLS.

They are not social INFORMATION.

They are not social THEORIES.

They are social SKILLS.

And you don't get them by THINKING about them. You get them by GETTING them.

Excellent social skills are the foundation for good communication with other humans, and if you don't have good social skills, you dramatically lower your chances for success with women.

REASON Number 2: THEY ARE BLIND AND ARROGANT

In short, many smart guys refuse to accept that a good, solid, workable answer could come from someone "dumber" than them, so they discount any idea that comes from an "obviously less intelligent person" before trying it.

Let me ask you a question:

If you were going to be walking across Africa on foot, would you rather have your guide be the guy on this planet with the highest I.Q., or a caveman who lived a million years ago that had an I.Q. of about 50, but who grew up being chased by lions and all kinds of animals that wanted to eat him all his life?

It is an interesting question.

Now, hopefully you would like to have the guide who is not the smartest guy around, but who has escaped from many, many dangerous situations with deadly animals,

But now let me ask you:

If you would like to learn how to be more successful with women and dating, would you take advice from a guy who is not very intelligent, but who knows how to attract women?

There is something about being smart that makes some guys unwilling to accept input, ideas, or instruction from anyone who is not either as smart as or smarter than them.

Well, any SMART GUY can see the folly in this particular approach, once it is examined closely.

If you have been making this mistake, then you need to STOP IT. Stop being an arrogant bastard, and open your eyes.

Look around.

Learn from some "dumb" guys, and let them teach you how to get what you REALLY want.

Will be back.

Ah, younger women.

It has taken me a long time now to finally see
clearly that the appeal of younger women is not
just "slight".

I recently read somewhere that when men get
married for the SECOND time, they marry women an
AVERAGE of 10 years younger.

Something like 20% of men who marry for a
second time wind up marrying a woman that is over
20 YEARS YOUNGER.

I also recall reading somewhere that women
are universally attracted to men who are older
than them, and that the "average" relationship
contains a man that is four years older than the
woman.

Interesting stuff.

I guess what I am trying to say here is that
this pattern of older men dating and marrying
younger women is not going away anytime soon.

In fact, I personally believe that the more
"socially acceptable" it becomes, the MORE it is
going to happen.

For most of my adult life, I have dated women
that were either my own age, or very close.

But for some reason, right about when I
turned 30, I began sometimes dating women who
were younger than me.

At first it was a little bit strange.

I didn't feel like I had anything to talk
about with a woman who was five or ten years
younger than me.

But the more it happened, the more I realized
that younger women have a certain appeal that
goes far beyond just the "physical beauty".

Younger women just have a different VIBE.

If you meet the right younger woman, you will
find that she can bring an amazing energy, vibe,
and youthful atmosphere to your life.

After having the experience myself, talking
to other guys who have shared it, and reading
about it a lot, I can say that many guys have
the experience of FEELING YOUNGER and MORE
VITAL when dating a younger woman.

It can be a blast.

Now, I am not saying that it is a bad idea to
date women your own age, or women who are older
than you.

Not at all, in fact.

To be continued.

rooney86

There is no ideal that is set on concrete.

Of course after a few dates she knows what you have in mind and all that!

My point is that you should learn to give time time; okay.
At the stage, it is not proper to start giving all those craps of missing her,
wanting to be with her always, not been able to sleep cuz of thought of her (as is the practice with some guys).

These are things she is already used to.

Give her what she is not used to and stand out not blending in PPPPPPPPPPPPPPPLLLLLLLLLLLLEEEEEEEEEAAAAAAAAAAASSSSSSSSSSEEEEEEEEEEE!!!!!!!!!

MISTAKE Number 10: Not Getting HELP

This is the biggest mistake of all.

This is the mistake that keeps most men from EVER
having the kind of success with women that they truly want.

I know, guys do not like to make themselves look weak or helpless.
We do not like to ask for help.

Hey, I have been there myself.
Let me tell you a little about me and how I figured out how to be successful with women,

Some years ago I became fed up with the fact that I did not know how to approach,
meet,
and get dates with women that I was attracted to.

It frustrated the hell out of me.

One night I was out with a friend,
and I saw a woman I wanted to ask out, but I just could not get up the nerve to do it.
I can still remember that night,
right on the spot I made the decision to do whatever it took to learn how to be successful with women and dating.

Well, after a lot of hard work and trying all kinds of crazy things,
I finally figured it all out.

But it is all history now!
It has been a very rewarding experience.
I no longer feel that sick, insecure feeling,
like I do not know how to meet women, and I might wind up alone.

for help call 0806 922 0002 or email theidealman4u@gmail.com

MISTAKE Number 9: Not Knowing EXACTLY What To Do In Each
Type Of Situation With Women

Now I am going to blow your mind,

A woman ALWAYS knows what you are thinking!

Women are approximately TEN TIMES better than men at reading body language.
That is ten TIMES.

I know; it might be hard to believe.
But for example, if you are out on a date with a woman,
and you want to kiss her, she knows it.

And if you do not know exactly what to do
and exactly HOW to kiss her, and you just sit there looking at her and getting nervous,
she won't help you!

And this goes for ALL aspects of women and dating,
Approaching a woman,
getting her number,
asking her out,
and kissing her,
getting physical, everything.

If you do not know what to do in each situation,
you will probably screw it up, and LOSE EVERYTHING.

And you KNOW it.

It is VITALLY important that you know EXACTLY how to go from one step to the next with a woman,
from the first meeting,
all the way to the bedroom.

MISTAKE Number 8: Giving Away All Of Your Power To Women

Earlier I mentioned that it is a mistake to look to a woman for approval or permission.

Well, another similar tactic that a lot of guys use is GIVING AWAY THEIR POWER to women.

Said differently, guys try to get women to like them by doing whatever the woman wants.

Another bad idea,

Women are NEVER attracted to men that they can walk all over,
Women are not attracted to Wussies!

WOMEN ARE GOOD FOLLOWERS IF THEY SEE IN YOU
A TRUSTED,
RELIABLE,
FOCUSED AND DEPENDABLE LEADER!

Women are not attracted to Wussies!

MISTAKE Number 7: Thinking That It Takes Money And Looks

One of the most common mistakes that guys make is giving up on girls before they have even gotten started, because they think that attractive women are only interested in men who have looks and money,
or guys who are a certain height,
or guys who are a certain age.

And sure, there are some women who are only interested in these things - no doubt!

But MOST women are far more interested in a man's personality than his wallet or his looks!
There are personality traits that attract women like a magnet,

And if you learn what they are and how to use them,
YOU can be one of these guys.

YOU DO NOT have to "settle" for a woman just because you are not rich, tall, or handsome.

Let me say this again: If you know how to use your body language and communication correctly,
you can make women feel the same kind of powerful sexual attraction to you that YOU feel when you see a hot, sexy young woman.

MISTAKE Number 6: Not “Getting” How Attraction Works For Women

Women are VERY different from men when it comes to ATTRACTION.

You need to accept this fact, and deal with it.

When a man sees a beautiful, young, sexy woman,
he INSTANTLY feels a sexual attraction.

But does the same apply for women?
Do women feel sexual attraction to men based mostly on looks?
Or is something else going on?

Well, after studying this topic for over five full years now,
I can tell you that women usually have their "attraction mechanisms"
triggered by things OTHER than looks.

Have you ever noticed that you see a lot more average and unattractive men
with beautiful women than the other way around?

Think about it.

Women are more attracted to certain qualities in men,
and they are attracted to the way a man makes them FEEL than they are to looks alone.

If you know how to use your body language and communication correctly,
you can make women feel the same kind of powerful sexual attraction to
you that YOU feel when you see a hot, sexy young woman.

But it is not an accident. You have to LEARN how to do this.

And ANY guy can learn how,

MISTAKE Number 5: Sharing “How You Feel” Too Early In The Relationship With Her

Another huge and unfortunate mistake that most men make with women
is sharing how they "feel" too early on.

Attractive women are rare and they get a LOT of attention from men.
Most men don't realize this,
but attractive women are being approached in one way or another ALL THE time!

An attractive woman is often approached several times a DAY by men who are interested.
This translates into dozens of times per week,
and often HUNDREDS of times per month.

And guess what?

Attractive women have usually dated a LOT of men.

That is right.

They have EXPERIENCE.
They know what to expect.

And one thing that turns an attractive women off
and sends her running away faster than just about anything is
a guy who starts saying "You know, I really, REALLY like you" after one or two dates.

This signals to the woman that you are just like all the other guys who fall for her too fast,
and can not control themselves.

Do not do it. Lean back. Relax.

There is a much better way,

MISTAKE Number 3: Looking To Her For Approval Or Permission

In our desire to please women (which we mistakenly think will make them like us),
we guys are always doing things to get a woman's "approval" or "permission".

Another HORRIBLE idea.

Women are NEVER attracted to the types of men who kiss up to them, EVER.

Do not get me wrong here.

You do not have to treat women BADLY for them to like you.

But if you think that treating a woman well means "always getting her approval and permission for things",
think again.
You will never succeed by looking for approval.
Women actually get ANNOYED at men who seek their approval.

Doubt me?

Just ask any attractive woman if Wussy guys who chase her around and want her approval annoy her,

MISTAKE Number2: Trying To “Convince Her To Like You"

What do most guys do when they meet a woman that they REALLY like,
but she is just not interested?

Right! They try to "convince" the woman to feel differently.
Well, I have news for you, YOU WILL NEVER CHANGE HOW A WOMAN "FEELS"
WHEN IT COMES TO ATTRACTION!

Never, ever, EVER.

You cannot CONVINCE a woman to feel differently about you with "logic and reasoning".

Think about it.

If a woman does not "feel it" for you,
how in the world do you expect to change that FEELING by being "reasonable" with her?

But we all do it.

When a woman just is not interested, we beg, plead, chase, and do our best to change her mind.
Bad idea. One that will never work.

Here Are The Top Ten Reasons Why Men Fail With Women—And How To Make Sure YOU Avoid Every One Of These Deadly Common Mistakes,

MISTAKE Number1: Being Too Much Of A “Nice Guy”

Have you ever noticed that the really attractive women never seem to be attracted to "nice" guys?

Of course you have.

Just like me, I am sure you have had attractive female friends that always seemed to date "jerks",
but for some reason they were never romantically interested in YOU.

What is going on here?

It is actually very simple,
Women do not base their choices of men on how "nice" a guy is.
They choose the men they do because they feel a powerful GUT LEVEL ATTRACTION for them.

And guess what?

Being nice does not make a woman FEEL that powerful ATTRACTION.

And being NICE does not make a woman CHOOSE you.
I realize that this does not make a lot of logical sense,
and it is hard to ACCEPT, but GET OVER IT.

Until you accept this FACT and begin to act on it,
you will NEVER have the success with women that you want.

I am from the East but grew up in Benue State.

It is not all about tribalism and all.

Point is that there are very few ethnic groups in Nigeria that you grow up with and interract with and really know that you would want to marry.

Higher education took me to the East. Before then I never spent up to a week there.
Before then too I have very high regards for the Igbo girls but having stayed there,
my opinion about them changed and i subsequently lost my respect for them.

The Igbos might stay in Yoruba land for years but would not want their children to marry from that part because they know the people in-side-out.

If am taking a girl serious and finds out that they are other, that would be the end!
The same applies to my wifefy!

I would like to tell you a story,

It is a story that you might find strangely
familiar. Don't be alarmed.

Once upon a time, there was a man who was very
attracted to a particular woman.

At first, she was just another attractive
woman, but the more he got to know her, the
more he began to feel attracted to her, and
the more time he spent with her, the more that
attraction grew into a deep emotional
attachment and affection for her.

But there was one problem.

As his emotional attachment grew stronger and
stronger, he also grew more and more insecure.

Why?

Because he couldn’t tell whether or not she
felt the same way towards him.

Sometimes she would say things like "You are
so important to me" and "I'm glad that you're in
my life", but nothing ever progressed past the
"friendship" stage.

There was an occasional hug, an occasional
kiss on the cheek from her, and once she even
held his hand for a long time while he talked
about an emotional issue.

But something was wrong with the picture.

She just wasn't acting like a woman that was
"falling in love". She was acting like a friend.

The insecurity that he felt became a spiral
that amplified itself, and the more insecure he
became, the more afraid he grew of "screwing
things up" by kissing her or asking her to be his girlfriend.

Plus, the more insecure he became, the less
time she seemed to want to spend with him.

After spending many days and nights obsessing
over this girl, the man finally arrived at the
conclusion that if she only knew how HE FELT,
that she would feel the same way.

So he made a bold move.
He TOLD HER how he was felt.
He confessed that he was in love, and that he
would do anything to be with her.

She looked at him with compassion in her eyes
and said "Thank you, I really mean that, but
I don't want to mess up our friendship, you're
too important to me, ".

This only confused the man more.
He didn't know how to take it,

Did it mean that she really loved him too, but
that she was afraid of something?

Did it mean that she wasn't ready for a long-
term relationship?

Did it mean that she didn't love him, but that
she was trying to give him a hint?

Did it mean that he hadn't tried hard enough?

Did it mean that he needed to put everything on
the line and REALLY let her know how he felt?

He finally decided that he couldn't go on like
this anymore, he had to be with her.

He had to make sure that she knew just how much
he wanted to be with her, so he took a big step,
bought her a symbolic gift, and wrote her a long,
long letter, again confessing his feelings.

And then the unthinkable happened.

She didn't reply.

He called her three times a day for almost a
week before reaching her.

She made an excuse about being very busy, and
said "I'll try to give you a call soon, I have
to go", and hung up,

, but he never got a call back.

Over the following months, the man tried
desperately to understand what went wrong, and
what happened.

THE END

OK, I'm back.

Now, wasn't that a sweet story?

Heart warming, huh?
I know, I should keep my day job, and not take
up writing romance novels,
Now, let's talk about that story.

That story is basically a MYTH.

And I'm not talking about FICTION here.

I'm talking about a story that rings true for
a great majority of men. A story that is timeless.
A story that resonates at a deep level because you
can IDENTIFY with it.

And why does this particular story resonate for
most men?

Because we've all been there in one way or
another, at one time or another, and many of
us have been there OFTEN in our lives.

Another thing that gives this particular story
a lot of power is the powerful negative emotions
that it stirs, as a result of the powerful
negative experiences that it reminds us of,

Stories and situations like this one really
FASCINATE me.

They fascinate me because I see them as an
opportunity to UNDERSTAND and SOLVE the puzzles that they represent.

In this particular situation I think there is
a solution. And it lies in understanding a secret that
women know but MEN DON'T.

And that secret comes down to the reality that
if a woman isn't ATTRACTED to a man, all of his
attempts to confess his love, convince her to
like him, and court her BACKFIRE.

In other words, they not only DON'T WORK,
they actually make things WORSE.

In other words, the very things that a man does
to try to make a woman LIKE HIM make her NOT
like him. THEY MAKE HER RUN!

All those great intentions and emotional
dedication actually cause the man feeling them to
do things that make her go away.

Pity!

Interesting (and some funny) replies i must confess.

The Ten Reasons Why HIGHLY INTELLIGENT
Men Fail With Women, AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT,

UNUSUALLY intelligent men have very LOW levels of success with women and dating and I will show you why.

After contemplating this particular paradox,
discussing it, and working on it for sometime,
I would like to share my thoughts about it with you.

Smart people get used to being "right",
because they usually ARE right.

And when you are RIGHT more often than others,
you can get ahead in many situations.
But unfortunately, this smart mind of yours can actually
be WORSE than USELESS when it comes to a key area of life:

WOMEN AND DATING.

By the way, I did say WORSE than useless.

It can actually be like having a hammer when you need to tighten a bolt.
If you use the tool you have for the job,
you will most likely make the situation WORSE.

Of course, it is hard for a smart guy to even IMAGINE a situation where his smart mind could HURT his chances for success,

But trust me; this is one of those situations.

So relax, open your smart mind, and let me share with you the ten reasons
why smart guys fail with women, and what to do about it.


REASON Number 1: THEY'RE WRONG, BUT THEY CAN'T
OR WON'T SEE IT OR ADMIT IT

I mentioned that smart guys are used to being RIGHT in most situations.

And what do most smart guys do when they come across a situation where they are WRONG?

They find a new situation, one that fits their strength.
They know they will be right next time, so they just walk away,
knowing that it won't be long before they are right again.

(OR they let the "problem situation" destroy them, more on that later.)

Well, the problem and funny thing about being wrong when it comes to women and dating is THERE IS NOWHERE TO RUN AND HIDE.

There is no quick "I'm right" around the next corner to make you feel better.

It only takes "failing" with a few women in a row for a smart guy to see the pattern,
and realize that something isn't working.

Solution? Think harder.

A smart guy just assumes that his logic must be good, so he just keeps thinking harder.

But when no success comes, it really starts
to become mentally difficult.

Accepting that you are wrong is a VERY hard thing for a "smart guy".

Accepting that you are not only wrong, but you have NO CLUE WHERE TO EVEN START is even more difficult.

Ultimately, many smart guys come up with the following logical conclusion:

I AM A SMART GUY, THEREFORE IF I CAN'T FIGURE OUT HOW TO BE SUCCESSFUL WITH WOMEN AND DATING, THEN THE PROBLEM MUST NOT BE SOLVABLE OR WORTH SOLVING.

Try that on for a self-defeating idea: I will be back!

CYNICS: everywhere

Ladies – have you ever dated a man who you shared an
incredible connection with, but then he suddenly
wanted his "freedom" or said he wasn't ready when
you started to get (REALLY) close?

If you don't know the common mistakes to avoid that
men see as unattractive, needy, and the sign of a
woman who wouldn't make a great partner, then
you're shooting yourself in the foot.

If you've ever been in this situation, or known
a woman who was, here are the 5 most common ways
women respond that don't work and push men away or
turn them off for good:

1) Pretending you don't want anything serious
either and keep on sleeping with the man
"casually" in hopes that things will grow from the
"physical relationship"

2) Staying close to him by trying to become his
"best friend" as you help him in his life and with
his problems - all the while imagining the
"payoff" of a real relationship for your good
deeds once he recognizes how great you are

3) Trying to make him jealous by telling him
you're seeing other guys, even if you're not. Or
going out with other guys and doing things with
them not because you like them, but because you
want him to find out and want you back

4) Getting pissed off at him and telling him he's
dumb, immature, and acting like a little BOY,
and that he's just scared of a real relationship
and a commitment - and then trying to get him to
have a relationship with you to "fix" himself

5) Trying to make him interested in you by
complimenting him, doing nice things for him,
taking up things he's interested in to be around
him, and being available to him at anytime he
should show interest. This is kind of like trying
to be his "best friend," but different since it's
often still sexual.

Now, I'm guessing that you recognized at least
one of these responses as you were reading through
them.

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