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A family friend is currently dating a guy that toasted her friend way back.

The reason why the lady did not date thet guy was besause they guy was always changing girls
and the current girlfriend was aaware that he toasted her friend because they were always together.

This did not stop her from saying "yes" when the guy eventually toasted her.

NL LADIES, CAN YOU DATE A GUY WHO TOASTED YOUR FRIEND?

No matter under what premise they break up, YOU HAVE NO REASON DATING YOUR FRIEND'S EX!

The implication?

If you end up dating as friend's ex, it (simply) means that even while they were still together you had had eyes for him/her.

It is like a drunken brother or son who insults you; HE IS NOT INSULTING YOU BECAUSE HE WAS DRUNK! The drink only gave him the courage to insult you as he had it in mind to insult you!

I am an advocate and a big fan of love but sorry this is a no-no situtation.

You have no (just) cause to date a friend's ex - Except if you dont respect that friend.

Cheating in relationship is not one sided - men and women cheat.

And for reasons for this?

(1) Money.
(2) Complex.
(3) Wanting to belong (Others do it why shouldnt i?).
(4) Just for the sake of it.
(5) Sexual Pleasure (as to them one partner is not enough)
(6) Spiritual Attack.
(7) Gross warewardness.
( To be regarded as happening guy/gal.
(9) To get back at their partner
(10) Past experience (showed that "faithfulness" no dey pay)
(11) Lack of fulfilment in their present relationship.
(12) Cowardice
(13) Feel the taste of others.
(14) To make their partners jealous
(15) To prove that they are "attractive" to the opposite sex

I COULD GO ON AND ON, the list is endless.

Cheating in relationship is not one sided - men and women cheat.

Not every man is born tall dark and handsome. In fact most are not. However, by looking presentable, every man can still capture the attention of their date. Here are some tips to look nice and presentable.

1. Shave before going out

No women will like the look of a rough beard or moustache sticking out from your face. Although there are the odd few who finds it sexy, chances are its better to look clean shaven and tidy. It gives a better positive image of a person who cares about the date and who takes care of oneself. Even if you must wear beard, trim and keep it very tidy.

2. Bathe often

It not our fault that men have larger sweat glands neither is it our fault that men enjoy sports that makes us soak in sweat. However, it could be our fault if we do not shower frequently. Every woman likes his man to smell nice and look clean. So if you are the type that sweat easily, be prepared to shower more, especially before meeting your date.

3. Get your cologne, aftershave out

Cologne and aftershaves are not for Gays. In fact, women find men who smell nice masculine. Just like bathing often, it is also important to smell nice. After all, you do not want to spoil your first kiss with your date just because you smell awful.

4. Smile often

A smile helps to lessen the tension, projects a lively and positive image and best of all, a person always looks the best when you are smiling. We should always be smiling as we never know who is in love with your smile. Therefore practice smiling now if you are going out on a date soon!

5. Do not slouched

Slouching gives a bad impression of a person that is not confident, weak and no sense of security. Therefore, do what your mum always tell you. Stand straight and be proud of your height.

6. Try to look healthy

Get a tan if you look pale and sickly. Beef yourself up in the gym if you look scrawny. Go running if you are overweight and look fat. It is always important to look healthy and nice in front of your date. It projects a sunny image and women love it and it helps you as a person!

To be continued!

Women appreciate men who look good or at least tries to. Women take great care and effort of what they wear for different occasions and also take note of guys who do the same. Clothes are THE difference between dashing and ordinary. In addition, women do take note of shoes. It explains why they have a whole shoe rack full of shoes. Therefore, choose your shoes wisely too. Although different women have different taste in choice of clothes for men, it is generally acceptable to look neat and tidy. Here are some ways to achieve it:

1. Dressed Suitably

Formal wear are for formal occasions such as dinner in restaurants. T-shirts and jeans are for simple date at the mall. Shorts and singlets are for jogging in your nearby park and so on. You get the picture.

2. Iron your clothes

It is not a very good image to portray if your clothes are crumpled and you go out on a date. A woman will think that you are lazy and do not place any importance on the date.

3. Do NOT wear clothes with vulgarities, sexually suggestive images or words

We know that these clothes might be your favorite as it is very cheeky or portrays your style that you do not give a damn what is happening around. However, it is a definite no-no for dates as it is rude, insensitive and too explicit for any potential girlfriends/wives to take it.

4. Go for well known, respected brands

We do not want you to show off. However, it is always nice to wear something that lets you get noticed by your date. If branded stuff is not your thing, at least get a simple respected brand that do not portray you as a cheapskate.

5. Ask other women for opinion

Let us face it. Men are pretty hopeless at fashion. That is why we hate shopping.(The clothes look the same anyway) To understand what is appropriate, what is nice on you, it is always good to get a female's opinion. After all, your date is another female and it is your date that is going to judge you on your date.

Sorry about your problems but it happens anyhow.

If she could still be seeing other guys after your commitment and marriage plans, then she can kill!
Just tell her to leave your house.
Move on with your life.

Most of them are like that especially when they meet nice people like you.

Parents are most times not in support of their children marrying from other ethnic groups but marriage from other ethnic groups has always taken place!

How and why?

Deliberation.
Being sure of what you want and making them it from your point of view!
Your guy should come up with his good and convincing reasons and everything will be UHURU!

And for you not knowing why you love him, sister IT IS A BIG LIE!
There is no love without reasons!
In short all the things we do we do them for one reason or the other.
It is when we dont wnat to disclose what the reasons are that we say we do not have them!

ALL THE BEST

Your sister can be 100 virgins put together and still will not make good wife.

Ones virginity does not have anything to do with success in marriage.
Success in marriage like every other human endeavours require determination, purposefulness, "stickability", sacrifices, patience, tolerant etc.

MARRIAGE IS NOT ALL ABOUT SEX.

For men who are looking for virgins to marry, are you still virgins?

Remember that you can never eat your cake and have it: As you go about f***** other chicks,
other guys are also f***** your wife to be!

THose girls you have f***ed, who are you leaving them for?!!!!!!

There was never a time that LOVE was "blind".

The expression: "LOVE IS BLIND" was used (and is still used) to express the fact that when you love someone you (tend to) overlook some (if not all) of the person's shortcomings - Loving unconditionally.
Unconditional LOVE is not however possible because humans does not have what it takes to love unconditionally.
The only "PERSON" that can love and has always loved unconditionally is GOD.

As it was in the old so it is now too. Love is still what it used to be in the past and will never change!

People might have abused it and used it wrongly and all that; but love is still love and will remain to be love till the end of time.

To butress this point: Mr. "A" is and will always remain Mr. "A" even when maimed or killed!
The state of his health or what people do to him does not change his name even though it can change people's pereception of him!

The same can be said of the word "Love" and love.
So many people has abused it and hidden behind it to commit all sort of attrocities;
But friends, LOVE is still LOVE and will never change no matter what happens.

The concentration should not be on the people involved; it should rather be on the word and its meaning.
Except when and if this is understood, LOVE will always be misunderstood.

1. Dress Comfortably

Sure. All Men like to see women that are dressed in nice clothes showing some skin. However, that is the reason why women should not reveal to much skin. Men are selfish. They like to see other women dress in various stages of UnCloth and are genuinely embarrassed when their date is in too little clothes. Moreover, Man do not like to see women keep on tugging at their clothes to make sure they do not reveal too much. Elegant and comfortable wear is always a good gauge. By being comfortable with what you wear, you can also enjoy the night in peace rather then being worried in your dressing.

2. Dress appropriately

Some of us like to look the best whenever we're outside. Obviously, it is natural that all women are vain by nature and men will be attracted by women who look good. Despite that, the plan can backfire when u try to do sports in long skirts, or attend a function in short skirts. It is always important to dress for the occasion and more important so when you are on a date.

3. Appropriate make up

It is important to put on some make up before going out on a date. However, you don’t want to look ghastly in front of your date by applying too much make up or applying the wrong make up. Apply adequate make up for the occasion and you will look fabulous. If you are one who absolutely hates make up and know nuts about applying make up, just a simple lipstick will do.

Poster,

Among all the girls in your school, church/mosque, office/business place, buses/bus stops, shops, on the streets etc, you have not seen any that attacts your fancy?

Or you dont just have the guts to speak up a lady?

If that happened to be your problem, you will still have the same problem even when you meet one here except you sit up and work opn your self.

And what is wrong if married people belong to this forum?

What is biting you anyway?

Does being married stop one from socializing "responsibly"?

My guy, I tire for people like you!!!!!!

FOR POSTERS WHO THINKS THAT LOVE IS JUST "A FEELING", LOVE IS NOT JUST "A FEFELING".
IT IS AN ACTION WORD PLEASE; NOT JUST WHAT YOU FE

Different strokes for different folks

Sorry Bro,

Fat and big arent the same mind you.

And besides, are you a white man?

Do do fogt that one man's meat is another poison.

A wise man defined insanity as: "doing the samething and expecting different results".

If ladies say no whenever you "approach" them, then your "approach" to approaching them is very wrong!
You have to know how the minds of girls work!

send me an email for private jist @ ajuruchi@gmail.com or call me on 0806 922 0002

The "Lekpa" vs "Orobo" trend is just very recent.
Africans men (and white men) are known for their choices for women with flesh
(this was one of the reasons blacks females were rapped by the whites during the slave trade).

Preference for a paarticular size in a girl is personal.

The current trend for the "Lepkas" is just because of the current fashion magazines and all that.

must you explain all your actions to ur girl?

love like any other thing in life can be learned.

Love is not just a feeling, it is an action word.

It does not just happen, it is a choice we make and this means sometimes loving the seemingly unlovable person!

Funny that we still have people like you in this planet!

Since you are sure that she is not faithful, Just Show Her The Door!!!!!!!!

YOU DONT NEED THIS FORUM'S OPINION!

Do you know what these 3 critical elements
are?

I'll give you a second to think about it.

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Give up?

The 3 critical elements that you MUST HAVE
between you and a man if you want a loving,
lasting, and secure relationship are:

Element #1 - An Intense Level Of Attraction

Call it "chemistry".

Call it a spark.

Call it whatever you like, but if a man
doesn't "feel it" for you when it comes to this
magic something of chemistry and attraction,
then NOTHING ELSE you say or do will matter.

And I mean NOTHING ELSE matters.

You can try and say all the right things.

You can think about him all the time.

And you can do amazing things for him that
no other woman could ever know to do for him
in his life,

But if that gut-level ATTRACTION isn't there
that tells him deep down inside that he HAS to
be with you tonight and every other night, then
there isn't much you can do to change his mind
or make him feel differently and really and
truly want you.

A man MUST feel a level of attraction for
you that goes DEEPER than just the common and
"Physical Attraction" a man can experience for
a woman that quickly comes and goes, but can
seem so "real".

Unfortunately, lots of women make 2 mistakes
when it comes to attraction with men that keep
them from ever being able to get past those
critical early dating stages where a man will
become more emotionally attached and involved with a woman.

These 2 mistakes are:

-Trying to get a man's interest and attention
by using the fast, fun, and easy approach to
create "Physical Attraction" inside a man (which
never does last)

-Not knowing how that deeper level of what I
call "Emotional Attraction" works inside a man's
mind that will make him want to emotionally
open up and engage with you.

These mistakes are the two most common and
certain ways to make sure your love life will
go nowhere fast with men, even when you have
the best of intentions and just want to find
a great guy to love and love you back.

There's a simple truth you need to know,

If you don't know how attraction works for
a man, and how it works differently than how it
works for most women, then you're going to end
up running in circles trying to do what you think will work.

And in your attempts at getting a man to
like you and want to be with you, you're going
to end up pushing him away as he sees you as
desperate, "needy", clingy, or just plain overly emotional.

The worst part is, there are lots of smart
women out there who are really great women who
actually know on a conscious level about these
mistakes, but they just can't help but make
these same mistakes over and over anyway.

But smart women who seem to have a more natural
knack for talking to men, getting their interest
and having men see them as "cool" and desirable
have a way of being able to AVOID these mistakes
and are NEVER seen as desperate, too needy, or
generally UNATTRACTIVE when it comes to how they
act and feel on an emotional level around men.

Element #2 - "Emotional Engagement"

I probably don't have to tell you that most
men, when you're in a relationship with them,
won't be constantly seeking to know about and
understand how you feel. Although it would be nice
if your man would be this way.

Instead, most men start to actually TUNE OUT
the woman they're with when they start to sense
or see a lot of emotions they don't understand.

It's most men's natural response. To withdraw from intense
emotions that can lead to conflict with a woman.

Knowing this, are you accidentally helping
your man to withdraw from you? Think about it for a second.

Now, let me ask you,

Do you know what it is that either makes
a man open up and be excited to really LISTEN
to you and UNDERSTAND what you're feeling and
going through, or shut down when he sees
how you're feeling inside?

And do you know what makes a man see your
desire to talk and share your feelings as
evidence that you're emotionally unhealthy
and the kind of woman who would only be more
trouble and irritation than she's worth?

Here's something that might blow your mind,
Did you know that you can say the exact SAME
THING to a man at different times, and you'll
get completely different responses from him?

And this isn't just because of his mood.
The reality is that there is one significant
thing that makes all the difference in the world
when it comes to how a man sees, feels, and
RESPONDS to the way you talk and share with him,

And that's the level to which he is EMOTIONALLY
ENGAGED with you when you're talking.

Let me explain,

One of the most common ways that women end up
accidentally causing a man to close off and
WITHDRAW from them is when a man doesn't know
about, see, or understand what a women is going
through and feeling,

And then the woman gets MORE UPSET and
frustrated with him at the fact that he doesn't
seem to see or respond to her, and so SHE
closes off.

I know this is something you've experienced
over and over with men (and made some of the
same mistakes again and again in each situation)

Something happens between you and a man,
and you get that feeling in the pit of your
stomach you just can't ignore.

You know that something is "off" and not
right, and it sends your intuition and your
imagination running.

As the flood of emotions hit you, and you
FEEL what's going on throughout your body, you
want the man to both see and understand why
you would feel this way,

And you want him to UNDERSTAND you and the
way that you're feeling. Of course, this isn't at all what most men
are going through in their emotional process.

They're often thinking, "I have NO IDEA
why she's acting this way, or what it's about,
but I don't like it and it feels awful. What is
her problem? And why is she freaking out so
much. What a nightmare. I want this to go away."

Long story short, what started off as a
misunderstanding and a situation where you
simply didn't feel good about something in the
moment, and you wanted him to see it and
respond, turned out to be something that
caused a huge DISCONNECT between you two.

And your emotional experiences led both you
AND him to feel distant and frustrated with
each other in a way that kept you from being
able to be close and feel ENGAGED in your
feelings together.

Of course, on the other hand, if you know
how to COMMUNICATE with a man, and you know
how to get him to LISTEN and RESPOND to you
in a positive way that shows that he hears
and APPRECIATES your feelings,

Then these entire situations actually
become moments where you and a man GROW CLOSER
and learn more amazing things about each other
that build your love and attraction.

Element #3 - "Effortless Communication"

How hard is it to talk to your boyfriend/husband?

Is it harder than you know it should be?

At the core of a healthy relationship is
the trust and knowledge by both partners that
the other is going to listen with patience and
respect, And that there's enough trust so that it's
OK to share the truth of what's really happening
in each others lives.

If you don't have open communication, then you
by definition don't have HONESTY. And if you don't have honesty,
you by definition don't have a relationship that you can
count on as secure and "connected."

Here's something that you might be going through
if you're not experiencing the level of open honesty
you know your relationship needs,

Do you ever sit there and realize that
you and your man share less with each other than
you probably share with your friends about how
you're both thinking and feeling inside?

Are you ever scared to say what you REALLY
think and feel to the man in your life?

And have you ever found out about things
that are going on for a man that you're with
and what's going on in your relationship
from someone else who hardly knows him?

Isn't a man supposed to be closer, more open,
and more honest with you than anyone else about
what's going on for him in your relationship
with you?

The answer is yes, he is.

You're supposed to be able to be closer and
more open and honest with the man in your life
than with anyone else.

But for lots of women it just doesn't work
this way. Oftentimes you, as the girlfriend/wife, are the
VERY LAST person to find out what's REALLY going
on inside the mind of the man you're with.

And it's enough to make you want to scream.
Not to mention the embarrassment that you
feel realizing that everyone else might have
known what was going on with him but you,
and they just sat there and watched and said
nothing.

It can make you feel like a real fool.
But how is it that other couples, and other
women have men and relationships in their lives
where the man they're with can and does tell
them ANYTHING and EVERYTHING going on with him
first, and shares and confides in them as
close and loving partners are supposed to?

Well, I have to be the one to break the bad
news to you,
But if you haven't had this kind of open,
honest, and "effortless" communication between
you and your man in the past where you can and
do tell each other anything,

Or you don't have it now,

Then guess who's fault that is?
It's YOUR FAULT.
Period. End of story.

Because you, and only you, have the power and
the responsibility to create your relationship
and make it what you want.

Especially if you're the one who's more "tuned
in" to what might be a problem around
communication in your relationship.
Want to know something fascinating that makes
life and relationships a whole lot easier?

*Good communication attracts and inspires good
communication in return.

Or to say it another way,


If you're not having the kind of open and
honest connection with your man that you want and
need, then you have to start to realize that the
only measure of how well YOU are communicating is
the RESPONSE that you get.

It's tough to accept at first, and it feels
unfair when your boyfriend isn't doing his part,
But once you take RESPONSIBILITY for bringing
the right words and the right kind of talking and
sharing into your relationship, Y
our relationship will instantly shift all on
it's own - simply because you've brought more of what your relationship needs.

So here's the question, Can you take 100% responsibility for the way
you communicate to the man in your life? Or are you still wrapped up in blaming him,
trying to show him how he's hurting you,
or with reacting to what you think is wrong
rather than trying to get to what is right?

I'll give you a second to think about what
you and the way you talk and react to
your man is bringing into your relationship.

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Now, if you've had several relationships in
your life where the level of communication you
shared was AWFUL, and you found out about all the
important things going on inside your man's mind
after the fact when it was too late and you were
breaking up, Then here's your wake-up call.

There's something I've learned in my life
that I've practiced myself, and that I've
watched literally hundreds and thousands of
women use to turn their love life around almost
overnight,

And that's one simple thing-

Taking 100% PERSONAL RESPONSIBILTY for
creating the kind of COMMUNICATION you want
and have in your relationship.

Communication IS the RESPONSE you get.

Read that again. It couldn't be more important.

Communication IS the RESPONSE you get.

In other words, the thing that really and
truly matters - if you care about having the kind
of understanding and emotional exchange that you
want - is helping the man you're sharing your
thoughts and feelings with actually "get" what
you're saying.

And if you can do that, and spend just a
little time helping him understand you, then
you're literally HUNDREDS of times more likely to
get the RESULT you want from sharing your thoughts
and feelings in the first place. (Often times the RESULT you're probably
looking for is to simply to feel UNDERSTOOD)

So let me ask you,

What do you think would happen if you decided
today to take 100% responsibility for the way
in which you communicate and share the very
thoughts that sneak up on you and make you
feel frustrated and upset?

Would he respond in a new and different way?
I think you'd be surprised to find out how
he would respond, and I KNOW you'd like what
you found.

One of the challenges when we're in a great
relationship is that there is SOOOOO much intense
emotional stuff happening inside us that our
minds end up literally SWIMMING in ideas and
emotions.

And because we know exactly how each of the
things that is going on looks and feels for us
inside our own head, we make the terrible
mistake of thinking that with a few simple words
in conversation that the person we're experiencing
these feelings with will instantly "get it" and
understand where we're coming from.

WRONG.

If you think about it and you're honest,
even YOU don't know and understand all the
feelings, emotions, and thoughts that are going
through your head.

Point being, this mistake of assuming
that a man will have an easy time hearing and
understanding you if he would just stop and
listen to you is made 10 times worse by the
fact that men aren't often trying to RELATE
to what you're thinking and feeling anyway.

Instead, their mind is somewhere else
completely and not focused on relating and
understanding at that time.

Especially if you haven't taken the time
to ENGAGE HIM on an EMOTIONAL LEVEL to help
him get in touch with his and your feelings.

What do men often do instead of relating
to you and understanding you?

Right.

They try to SOLVE the "problem" they think
is going on that's making you feel things so
intensely in the first place, Or they're trying to get away from the
intense feelings and emotions you're going
through in the first place, because they don't
understand them, or they're not in the mental
and emotional place to take them in and talk
to you about them.

There's a SECRET about how to get a man
in the right mental and emotional place where
he'll naturally want to listen, share, and
connect with you on a more open emotional level.

And that's by creating what I call an
Emotional Engagement with a man.
Doing this can be as simple as rubbing the
back of a man's neck gently with your hands
as he sinks into a feeling of connection and
affection with you,

Or it can be as difficult as trying to explain
to him over and over what's going on in your
relationship that's causing problems, and
having him not want to listen or talk to you
anymore.

If you want to learn the secret to creating
this kind of "Emotional Engagement" with a
man, and do it quickly and any time you like
simply by shifting a few small things about the
way you actually talk and communicate with him,
then you need to check out this letter I've
written about how to do this.

If you're ready to leave the dead-end patterns
of misunderstanding, withdrawal, and not having
a man seem to listen or care about your feelings,
then you need to check out:

http://www.theidealman4u..com

This has already taught literally
thousands of other women this essential
"relationship skill" of how to Emotionally
Engage a man and help him be a more responsive
listener and partner to you.

And I promise, the man in your life
will be happy you did and thank you for it
when he feels more free and open and honest
to talk to you and share more than he has ever
been able to with any other woman.

And he won't know why.

He'll just love it about you.

Go check out this amazing site now:

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A similar issue was brought up someetime ago and (in one of the forums) and when I gave my honest and humble opinion, guys were shouting for my neck!

Money is not and should not be the bottom line in relationship with persons of the opposite sex.

This having being said, let it also be known that it is (very) important that we express our love and care through somethings physical and tangible.

This should not be misconstrued as paying your gal or guy for "services" as being implied by some posters.
"It" can not and should not be paid for except of course we are into "it" for  different reasons/motives.
And giving should not be one sided as two people are involved in a erlationship.

Guys, what manner of man are you that you would not from time to time get your woman a present no matter how small?
If is really (most) unfair!

I still reiterate; you can give without loving but you can not love without giving!

Good to hear that things has eventually turned for good.

People in this forum has spoken well and I say a big "thank you" to them too.

My only advice is that you should stop worrying and continue with your prayers.

It is still early for you to start worrying yourself over childlessness. What would you say of people who are married for over 10 - 15 years and no kids?
[b]
We should not fail to thank Him daily for our little trouble for it is those that are hardest to bear that He dos not allow to come our ways.[/b]
Remain blessed and continue steadfastly in your prayers and He will make it right at His appointd time for His ways are not our ways and His thoughts are not ours thoughts too.

Why do men not call when they say they are
going to? Let us go over the possible reasons for
this, as I know how men's minds' often work.

There are lots to learn from each, so let us
see which ones ring true for you, And while you're reading each of these,
see if you can figure out what each one of these
situations has in common.

Why Men Don't Call: Situation #1
Some men are too immature to be honest and
straight-forward with a woman. Sometimes men are just being dumb
and giving themselves ego strokes by flirting with you,
even though they never really thought they'd call.

But they get your number anyway to feel
good and to have it "just in case" they got some
random urge or reason to call you in the future.

Plus, getting a woman's number is a kind of
"trophy" to show to other immature men.


Why Men Don't Call: Situation #2

They were just looking for a hook-up, and you
weren't "fling" material (which is a good thing,
unless that is all you are looking for).

Often times, men think they just want a woman
to be "physical" with. If you are out at a club or a bar and you meet
a man, often times he will have "hooking up" on his mind.

Right!?

If you meet a guy like this and, in his eyes,
You are the girl he would like to bring home to mom, then
you might not be the girl he will want to spend his
time with, at least for the near future.

But in spite of this, he takes your number, in
case he gets the crazy foreign idea in his head
that he would actually want a great girl for a real relationship.

And guess what?
He does not come to that realization for a
very long time - so he doesn't call.

I am not saying it makes sense, but that is how
some men operate. And in a strange way, men who do this are doing
you a favor at that time in their life.

The timing wasn't right.

Why Men Don't Call: Situation #3

They thought they were being "polite" by
getting your number, even though they never felt like calling.

Have you ever given your number to a man who
asked for it, meanwhile you were already dreading
his call and wishing inside that you had given
him a fake number?

Exactly, And I know it sucks to think about this, but
have you ever thought that the tables could be turned?
You see, if men enjoy their conversations with
you but are not that interested, they sometimes
feel a polite "obligation" to get your number.

It is a kind of way to end the interaction on a
positive note, even though they never really
thought about if they intended to call you.

I know it sucks, but men are not often up front and assertive
either when it comes to the opposite sex.

Why Men Don't Call: Situation #4

They were interested in you at first, but
after a little while they started to feel like
something was "off", maybe even after they got
your number.

And while you were trying so hard to create
random reasons for you to see each other again,
and to not have a guy get your number and not call
again, they could sense your subtle fear and discomfort.

And so the attraction and connection they had
just started feeling and had turned into with you
changed and was "broken."

Why Men Don't Call: Situation #5
They lost your number or forgot to call.

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different strokes for different folks.

I used to date this girl in the past who insisted that we should not be having sex whenever she was fasting and this used to piss me off like mad!

REASON?

I will tell you:

If the Almighty is against us having premarital sex as single men/women or boys and girls, do we honestly think that the period we do it - during fasting or not makes any difference?

We should stop fooling ourselves and be (very) objective.

If fornication is WRONG (christianity and Islam share the same belief),
the period or time it is committed does not (in anyway) make it RIGHT.

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A woman told some years ago that they (women) know within them that what we (men) want from them is sex (immediately or later); but that they (women) dont want us (men) telling them that upfront as it makes them feel like an object of sex.

Her suggestion?

That we should come to them as "friends" and be nice to them,
make them feel cherised and appreciated and all other things that i will not mention here.

After that, we should bring sex up and they will give in to us without feeliong used.

Poster, u learn anything?

You can even walk up to a sex worker and tell her that "i wan Bleep you!"

haba mallam!!!!!!!!!!!!!

E get as e be!

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You are (all really) a wonderful people, thanks for all your inputs.

One must move on irrespective of the blunders that was committed in the past.

Blessing I cant get anymore (and this) i know.

It is just that I cant help but (just) wonder why we let something slip through our fingers.

A posters said that I should not be too positive as she might end up being something else after marriage (poster's sentence paraphrased). I have not really seen it that what but now that one have pointed it out, I can't help but see that possibility.

Thank you all once. You are (all really) a wonderful people and i appreciate you in no small measure.

Catch you tomorrow!

Thanks to you all forum members.

I hear una and loud and clear too!

I have come to terms with it but it is just that whenever i think of it
i just wonder why i should do that!

I am not one to live in the past though for i believe and strongly too that one must move on
and i dey try.

Una doe