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Plead:
What proof do you have that the girl was sexually abused by the said boy? Just words?

Btw,why should I take an account that was created on the 21st of April serious? Probably a troll account.

You’re the stupid one here. Dunce!

CAPSLOCKED:
WHEN A MAN REPORTS RAPE, THIS IS WHAT WILL HAPPEN

1. HIS FELLOW MEN AND SEVERAL WOMEN WILL CALL HIM WEAK FOR ALLOWING WOMEN OVERPOWER HIM.
2. THEY'LL TELL HIM TO STOP PRETENDING LIKE HE DIDN'T ENJOY IT.
3. SOME WOMEN WILL START TO ARGUE ON THE PREMISE, THAT IT IS IMPOSSIBLE TO RAPE A MAN.
4. THE MEN AROUND WILL SAY THEY WISH THE RAPE COULD HAVE HAPPENED TO THEM.

OVERALL, NOBODY LOOKS AT A RAPED MAN WITH PITY. THEY SEE A WEAK MAN. THEY SEE A LYING MAN JUST MAKING UP THINGS. THEY SEE A WOMAN-HATER AND VERY EVIL MAN TRYING TO ACCUSE INNOCENT WOMEN OF A CRIME THEY DID NOT COMIT. OUR MODERN DAY FEMINISTS MAY INSTANTLY CLAIM THE WOMEN INVOLVED ARE THE VICTIMS, AND COERCE THEM INTO CLAIMING THEY WERE THE ONES THAT WERE RAPED. THE MAN WILL BE MOCKED AND RIDICULED ON ALL SOCIAL MEDIA PLATFORMS. IS IT THE POLICE? THEY'LL ASK HIM TO LEAVE THAT HE DOESN'T HAVE A CASE.
IN SOME COUNTRIES, IF A FEMALE RAPIST GETS PREGNANT FROM RAPING HER VICTIM, THE VICTIM HAS TO PAY CHILD SUPPORT FOR SOMETHING HE DID NOT CONSENT TO. ELSE, HE GOES TO JAIL FOR GETTING RAPED.

THIS IS EXACTLY WHAT HAPPENS TO MALE RAPE VICTIMS.

Nellychinma20:
The bragging part is what gets to me. I don’t see ladies bragging about having sexual relationships so early in life.

This also had me wondering, are women more likely to be damaged psychologically due to abuse cos they are naturally emotional or is it because of they societal grooming?

Just to buttress further, a man can brag about having a body count of 100 and applauded while a lady is shamed for having a body count of 3.

Men are groomed to see sex as between 2 people “the user and the used”. When a man have sex, he somehow believes he is the one ‘using’ them and at such their ego is fueled. However, a woman is groomed to believe she is ‘used’ during sex and at such always view herself as the victim of the circumstance

Could this be why men fail to understand the concept of rape?

Oluromantic:
If we have few more women like this, the society will be sane. I agree with everything you said and having this kinda mentality of thinking outside the box or outside what the society sees as norm is the maturity needed for marriage. Unfortunately many young girls just follow the bandwagon's status quo and expect a different result. Little wonder they have problems in marriage.

An additional info I wanna add is that, men are naturally more on the forgiving side than ladies. It could be an additional reason why they let go of some of such experiences especially the petty ones. If men were to press charges (like women do) on every little offenses they go thru in women's hands including marriage, this world won't be peaceful at all. Unfortunately only few women, such as you, know the pain they bear to forgive and let go of many issues, while women keep repeating same annoying mistakes again and again and keep malice over little issues simply cus she's a woman and the society does not support a pained reaction from the man such as harshness or even beating. If the man does that, another extremely breaking step would be taken by the woman which is divorce... Something contrary to the laws of love and forgiveness.

However I agree there shd be limit to what a man shd swallow in d name of forgiveness for the sake of psychological well-being, health and longevity.

In other words, the grievance or the horror level of the abuse is also a determinant. If it's a really demeaning one, the manly forgiving ability may not come to play anymore

Richy4:
A relationship can be good in fact very good but not all topics are opened for discussion. If u wanna talk to someone about sex, then be ready to go a bit far and not all parents where willing to take such risk. Because most of them doesn't know the angle the question might be coming from..

For example, a 10yr old girl that might come to his father and ask " daddy what is Peni$? The father might do well by explaining what it was..
Then the next question might be since you are a man and u said it was a male organ, can I see it?

Now, how comfortable do you think the man might feel? If he refused, has he completed his education? Remember that they are in good relationship and all topics were opened for discussion. .. This scenario can also happen to a mother that has a good relationship with her son.. parents can teach their kids good moral value without approaching a sex topic

Adakintroy2:
Lol. I think I see the politics in everything now.

South south. Warri to be exact.

Adakintroy2:
Guy you kill everywhere..think say I get childhood
But you be pikin plus. You do everything.

polythene bag pure water roasted banga, table soccer, kito, Ojukwu finger You win abeg.

I Don forget some of this things sef.

Thank you for taking me back moment lane.

Eberechi24:
You Judge this issue base on your ego. Allow me to state mine without being subdue to fit you, pls. The girl should have committed suicide because Op refused to pick her call without justification.



If your girl/wife ignore your call for same reason, hope you will stick to this your advice and not trace it to cheating?
Testing ni Testing ko.

Abeg bye bye.

jaksmillioniar:
so u want to marry him and keep him alone dats wicked. his older one dont have today dont mean dey wont have tomoro.let ur heart be clean

frozen70:
I wasn't specifing on marriage

If you read very well, the child is still in the stomach, so the money is for the woman not the child yet

There is no limit to the amount she needs

If she has nothing doing at the moment he should keep taking care if her and after delivery she willget something doing to generate income

She can't keep expecting from him all the time besides, the guy doesn't really like being in that situation as he wasn't really prepared or he doesn't love the woman anymore

He should give her whatever he thinks he can afford every month without defaulting

crackkhaus:
There used to be one female here who was always talking about how she never wants to have kids.

I've always wondered if people who make that choice actually have the ability to make kids but are just using the excuse of never wanting kids to cover it up.

It's surreal to imagine how a perfectly healthy individual would choose not to have a child.

frozen70:
What are you giving her money for ❓

Did you guys sign any contract or had an agreement

If you have money to give and she has nothing doing, ask her what business she can do, then establish her

But before then, that she is pregnant does not mean that you must marry her, unless both of you are ready to settle down

Besides, pregnancy can make a woman behave irrational, it could be the reason she is behaving weird

Give her time to put to bed then watch her again, your focus now should be how to take care of her till she puts to bed and pay the bills

There is no amount you will give to her to forget about you

Just do your best and watch the way things are going

bukatyne2:
If one is patient enough, you people will drop comments that shows you don't have sense.

Who is she supposedly competing with by trying to have her kids after 9 years in marriage? If she is truly in 'competition, it is not obvious that the baby mama has won since she has the first son?'

Or you just read others talk competing and decided to jump on the bandwagon?

bukatyne2:
Hello Mavis3,

I am happy you have had the sit down with your husband and he sounds remorseful enough to make it work. You have also done your analysis and decided that your marriage/husband is worth 'fighting' for.

I would rather you strike while iron is still hot than wait to go to your brother's place and back. You don't know how long the lockdown is thereafter. .

Graxie:
Thank God for his marvellous help, you are doing well. Keep taking it one day at a time. You will surely pull through. I thank God for your kind of woman, strong and sound. I thank God that you are taking decision that will make you stronger not following the usual societal norms. It pays to know your value. I hope someday another woman going through such, will read this thread and learn. We have some individuals who are bent on making women feel less than human, they enjoy dishing out horrible advice all in the name of marriage without considering the emotional trauma of the woman involved. To them marriage is a woman's only achievement and so she must tolerate whatsoever no matter how weighty, it shows your husband is still sound not the typical ones we have here that have started jubiliating about more babies coming from baby mama. You truly need a me time, it will help you to get your esteem back. Please don't forget to keep praying, you need grace to finish strong. You will have your kids not as a revenge but as a gift from your maker. It is well!!!

amaham:
See them, ndi bad gang!
@op.. I hope you didn't buy the drama between your husband and auntie? All thing na set up! It was a well planned script to make him look nice and supportive. The story of the sick baby is FALSE. I wonder how your hubby can allow his precious male child to be ill.
Just wake up tomorrow and insist that you will like to personally take the baby to the doctor, and see how drama will enter part2.
The game is between hubby, auntie and baby mama for now. Pastor is on reserve bench, other players are yet unknown