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Hunye:
Pls explain what you mean by a legal period of separation that can grant divorce

If you did only traditional, then just return your bride price, you’re divorced.

If you went to court or some churches that are recognized. As long as you’re separated from your husband for two years without sexual intercourse, you can file for divorce and it will be granted regardless of what your husband wants.

Thank God I don’t believe in dreams. Dream sequences are part of your subconscious or a replay of some external factors I.e movies you watched, books you read or gists you heard. ETC.

In this part of our world with our superstitions, some innocent people have been lynched or ostracized because of dreams.

Bola146:
Please go back to your husband please, you can still love him again, yes. Go and take those twins as your own, while taking good care of kids, God can use them as a point blessings to you, God can just give you triplets to compensate you and your husband.

She already said she doesn’t love the husband again and she cannot love the children as her own. The children don’t deserve that. If she has her own children what do you think will be the fate of those twins? This is how wicked stepmothers are born.

She’s being honest she can’t love them, let her go her own way and find her own happiness. Love can’t be forced abeg.

Her OP is really about the new man.

bukatyne:
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Lmfao, is it that serious? You’re keeping space.

Hunye:
My husband is the only surviving son in his family and his family was on my neck to have a child for him. To make peace to reign I agreed on that arrangement

Have you guys checked with a fertility doctor, who’s infertile? Also, this is 2020, he doesn’t have to actually have sex with the woman. He can do an artificial insemination right there in a Doctor’s office.

Also, do you guys think another woman will just willingly give up her kid? Unfortunately, to have children the right way, you have to spend some money for procedures/compensation.

If you really don’t want to go back to your husband, then it doesn’t matter what he wants. There is a legal period of separation that will grant you the divorce. As for the new man

yvelchstores:
Pls go back to your husband. He stood by you for ten years with no child and you agreed before he did what he did. The biggest mistake you will make is to foolow this other man.
Go back to your husband.

Isn’t this what spouses are to do for each other? It’s in the vows “for better for worse”

We should stop hailing people for what they’re supposed to do, you’re indirectly saying staying with an infertile spouse and honouring your vows is a strange thing.

Godlovesyou28:
Please how do I locate a private investigator. Am loosing my mind.

Lagos?

Rogosa:
You are right but does that justify it as the right thing to do?

There is no right or wrong, depends on what she wants you to call her. I call my SIL by her first name and I respect her, calling her by her first name is what’s right for both of us.

Godlovesyou28:
I am am a replica of my dad even more than all my siblings. I don't think I was adopted since I have older siblings.

Still your birth certificate was forged, if your dad and step mum can go through the trouble of forging your birth certificate means they are trying very hard for you not to know your bio mum. That means you have to search for her yourself.

Maybe that was your dad’s way of placating your step mum for having a child outside.

Lol I am Yoruba and calling someone older than you “sister” “aunty” doesn’t necessarily connote respect. Please with all the aunty, people can still be disrespectful asf.

Godlovesyou28:
I can't even hold my tears back, my heart is bursting out. I don't even know why I feel this amount of pain. My birth certificate says I was born in a private hospital that don't exist(I have gone there and its an office complex) and mother's name, occupation and signature is that of my mum(now step mum).

Wow! Your birth certificate was forged (or that’s not your real birth certificate) so it means this is a more sinister scenario. Perhaps baby factory things?? Can you afford a private investigator? I see some ads here on NL for such services. Also, use social media as someone suggested, put up your pictures. Also, I think you should keep disturbing the family member that told you your step mum wasn’t your bio mum.

People are different.

Other family members your age, what do they call her?

You can also ask her how she would like to be called or what prefixes she likes.

My sister-in-law (Igbo) older than me, 10 years, prefers I call her by her first name.

Don’t conclude that your mother dropped you off and never bothered about you. Some men take a child from the mother and cut all contacts, since your father is so feared even by your family members, that’s a possibility. Also, he doesn’t even want to tell you who your mother is.

Do you have access to your birth certificate? You can start from the hospital you were born, they might have a record of your birth.

They look like two different people.
I hope he’s found hale.

Controlling

doeeyed:
How old was she in the Wizkid vid??
if she's not yet 25.



Might appear it was a "gatecrash wedding" to hide the pregnancy.




Shame if these stories are true.
Reminds me of the Dakore episodes

It paints her in a very bad light...
But hanging out with certain people will only give you a bad name

Hope Wale takes stock and recoup, if true.




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True. I just read that she started acting at 23 and she got married shortly after. So she’s probably like 27-28. Their marriage will be 4 this year. They seemed so in love, sad.

[quote author=heed101 post=89704717][/quote]That’s fake news. I know for a FACT Wale Alakija is not Folurunsho’s son. It was a widespread rumour which she conveniently didn’t debunk.

Alakija has four sons. These are her children.

Hadizometer:
So sad, I felt she had settled down considering the fact that she married d son of a Nigerian trillionaire

Her husband is not related to the rich Alakija. Alakija is a common surname.

She married very young, I don’t think she’s even 25 yet.

30 months is too small. It’s the UK sentences are usually light.

So they want to torture the woman for worshiping idols?? What crime did she commit? Did she kill someone?

Anni3e:
I have made up my mind, just if anything happens I want to have something to fall back on. When he nearly went broke in 2014, none of his brothers helped him, they all claimed broke still he doesn't want to learn . He won't listen to any advice, if I leave things to him, one day we might end up on the streets.

You’re on the right path.

‘Head’ of home that doesn’t make his home a priority has abdicated his responsibilities. It’s only you your children have now, don’t let them down. Save more of your salary for yourself and your kids.

ihutuluv:
This is the exact same issue I am currently facing. I really regret this marriage. Mine is so bad that they even share his clothes. How can you a married man, you youngest brother every little thing one excuse or the other can I use this cloth?
I feel more terrible because this young man has laboured for over ten years earning well with nothing attached to his name but training children that his parents gave birth to and can not raise. I am always scared because anything happens to him I also don't have savings because I have used everything to take care of the house while he is busy taking care of siblings.

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tasceige:
3 posible reasons for such behavior..

1) The guy's upbringing or the kinda family he is from.

2) Ego

3) Age difference between Op and the guy.

Exactly! All of the above.

tasceige:
He doesn't care!!!
All he sees is a property not a woman!!

Obviously he doesn’t care, just explaining what the OP is about.

greenmonk:
She should have declined going to her boyfriend's to do the cooking.
We should learn what discipline is and hold on to our words.
Once you give your word to do anything follow it through.

The issue was never about the cooking, she doesn’t mind the cooking. The issue is his behaviour after.

Raeheemwayne:
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I think the issue here is - Understanding - You two don't understand each other lifestyle. He might have said that infront of his friends to showoff - yes - very common with guys; it's not pride, it's self-esteem.
My cousin do same to his babe almost every time but she have never for once complained rather she'll smile and apologize.
I can swear this two love eachother unconditional.
Nevertheless, I think you should have a pillow chat with him about the issue if you don't like it, then watch how he'll react to it.

NB: If you really value ya relationship with him. don't let this be an issue.
Thanks.

It’s very shitty to gain your self-esteem at the expense of someone else’s humiliation. Your cousin’s babe is likely pretending to have no issues with it, what will she do? Talk back and create a scene? No human being will like to be berated in the presence of people.

greenmonk:
I don't know where we are getting all this rights mentality from. All over the world if you're playing host you do it properly. I don't know why we support incompetence in Nigeria.
If you are serving anyone you provide him/her everything thing need. We are in Nigeria and the culture is that if you have a visitor to your house you serve him/her especially within the first two days no matter the relationship, even your daughter or son, unless the person volunteers to do the chores.
I don't see what is a big deal in someone who cooked a meal in serving it properly.

lol but she was also a visitor. It wasn’t her house and she came from her own house to cook. Remember, this was also just a month old relationship and her second visit to the boyfriend’s house. There is nothing wrong in serving water with the food, in fact that is more appropriate but to berate her in front of people like a child is a big NO. One month relationship?? Anyways, people treat you the way you allow them to.

If you believe women are to blame for a bad spouse because they chose wrongly, then wouldn’t you be all for women remaining single and living their best lives rather than marrying any Ayo, Musa and Obi because they need to get married? You would celebrate these women that refused to compromise and marry any man just so they can be a MRS. Lol women cannot win with you people.

FYI this isn’t an anti-marriage thread. A marriage shouldn’t define a woman, wether the woman is married, single or divorced.

Mstick:
You can't say what a woman's"nature" is because you're not a woman. Even our natural features are different so why do you expect every woman to act and think the same?

We see news of men raping their own kids, killing even their own family for money ritual, internet fraudsters and cultists everyday but no woman creates a topic saying that's the nature men.

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I’ve been following this thread and I am happy the absurd narrative that the OP is being bullied has been dispelled. Disagreeing with an OP is not bullying, if you can’t stand for people to disagree or question your posts then a public forum is not for you.

Also, if the OP always says her posts are for women but they are mostly rejected by women and lauded by sexist men, then the OP has to look inwards and ask herself who the real target audience of her OP is.

FGonline:
if you can comport urselv and talk......fine

Are you always composed when you’re angry?