₦airaland Forum

Kollyman:
Why are you ladies always encouraging other women to fail like you?

If your blood sister were to be in her shoe, would you have advised her to settle for divorce?

Pray to God to help you secure a good relationship, then you will understand the true meaning and power of love

rockstarB:
No man or woman is expected to raise a love child.
Love child of a man can be raised outside the marriage, the babymama will wholeheartedly take care of her kid.
As for the bastard child, yes the child from the woman is a bastard as long as that child is in the wrong family disrupting their DNA and family tree.
If the woman doesnt want her love child to be termed a bastard she should do right and give the child to the rightful father, then that child will not be termed a bastard child in his fathers family.
Kids of unmarried couple are not bastards according to my culture. Kids of davido, wizkid, and all other popular baby daddies arent bastard children as long as they are TRUE children of their fathers.

Mariangeles:
In the real world, things are still the same.
All these online claims does not mean or change anything.

Mariangeles:
Call it whatever you want, it is what it is.

sassysure:
Blame the Nigerian culture and religion.

The child answers whose name?
The father.
And here who is the father, def not the woman's husband.
So the child don't belong to the family.

U see baby mamas giving their children the surnames of their baby daddies. Why?
Cos at the right time, the child will get to know his father and become part of him. A woman can't get pregnant by another man while married and make the child bear the name of her husband. If it's known, the real father will come for his child whether the woman want it or not. He don't belong to that family.
Then again, unless there is an agreement e.g., if the man is sterile etc. My culture allows that and the child is protected by the laws of the land.
If it's children before marriage, it's understandable and there is always an agreement before saying i do.
Na our society. It's even more of cultural than religious.

Mariangeles:
Be realistic, this is Africa where the father gives the child an identity!
It might not matter in other parts of the world, but in Africa, a child who does not know who his father is, not to talk of his family roots, is termed a bastard.

Kingarthur21:
now I understand why ladies came for your head in the family section.

I dont blame them for it.

Talking of fact . I am a medical doctor,upper year I will be through with my residency and become a surgeon over here in Texas .So dont tell me what is fact and not fact.

rockstarB:
When a married woman cheats and gets pregnant for another man(if she gets caught), that child is automatically a bastard to the family, a disruption to the family tree. His sisters, brothers, uncles and aunts are not his real relatives.
A married woman that has the courage to get pregnant for another man should use same energy to raise the child with the real family.
Except a man wants to genuinely protect the image of the family, such child should be raised in his real family.
Say no to OMO ALE. Only a woman can bring a bastard to the family. A bastard child never comes through a man.

ibkayee:
Nigerians have a habit of fitting married women's behaviours into a rigid mental box of how they feel they should act and it can be very...'limiting' to say the least, that's probably why they hate it

@OP
What you said gives the impression that you are suggesting that smoking with her could be something more than just a normal, innocent smoke session. Maybe she literally just wanted to smoke with an acquaintance, smoking can be a social activity....or not, I don't know, it's not that easy to tell just by your writeup

Ybaby:
Where did I say I donot agree with her husband? Where?

I said her ex husband chose himself and she should do the same !

Choose herself!

lilachiever:
Wow!


That might be the actual name though, but I've been calling it "Samosa* since time immemorial, lol

lilachiever:
Lol, it's actually called "Samosa". I do it every weekend, if not for lockdown that spoiled show.

Akposy:
Your bread shape is funny yet unique. You did very well for a first timer...if I show you my first bread pics ehn, you go laff me. I baked with stove and pot then....lemme go search for the pics

pocohantas:
Looks yummy, cutieborn would say

“Have it with pepper soup”. Thankfully I just made one. Lol.

Hathor5:
Would have never guessed it was your first time. It looks really good.

cococandy:
you did well

Sexyjigga:
I won't be impressed with technology until I can download food....I imagine myself eating this bread with Ewa Agoyin....

Alexa please play me I love it by Kanye West.

lanibi:
Majority die due to underlying sicknesses while for some, it's the intake of alcohol which only few women engage in.


Also, age factor can not be overlooked as men in marriages are older than their wife/wives.

Queenttoast01:
I never believed it will come to pass so it will not IJN

Queenttoast01:

I will pray and triumph
Your wish will not come to pass

Righteousness89:
[s]Be careful so what you wish for someone don't land on you![/s]

Queenttoast01:
I don't believe in dream too until yesternight