₦airaland Forum

No one likes an immature girl but no man wants an old cargo either.

tpia:
like I said, you don't seem that much different from the woman's husband, going by your attitude here.
You may think yourself perfect because you can quote bible more than methuselah, but your attitude doesnt show any understanding of what a relationship entails.

And the way you keep harping on the fact that some women are divorced, or had kids before marriage, makes me wonder if your own bible doesnt have the story where Jesus spoke to a woman with five husbands without condemning her. Or the part where he told a mob waiting to stone someone- he who has no sin should throw the first stone. Seriously, when I read some of your posts, I keep seeing mental images of Talibans stoning females for whatever reason.

Maybe there's no way for you to make your points without sounding judgemental, arrogant and unfeeling.

Jesus never said they had committed no wrong. He only showed that He is a passionate saviour. It doesn't remove the fact of having done wrong.

AND, Jesus never encouraged them by blaming the rest of the world for their sins. Please stop referencing wrongly

Thank God that there are still some sensible men like David in Nigeria.

There are people on here who will encourage every girl to become stupid and to follow imbeciles and then blame everything and everyone else but themselves.

Rather than encourage women to take responsibilities for their actions and decisions, they'd rather defer elsewhere. I know that some of the women who do this are women who have made such decisions in the past and rather than accept their complicity in the failures of relationships, they'd rather blame the men.

That's why they keep going round the same cycles of failed relationships. . .they are yet to examine themselves and the decisions they are making.

Okay I understand.

A woman makes an error of judgement. . . who do you blame? ALL Nigerian men!

good. Blame Nigerian men when some women make stupid decisions.

benincitys:
50% of Nigerian men are very good in punching their women, i have be in this situation before my ex almost Punch me to death when i was 3mouths pregnant for him.
in the end i lost the baby, thank God i left him if not maybe i will be death by now the fool still call me to tell me how much he miss me ever when he know i am marry with baby and all.
he is in Spain jobless and hopless one time he was asking me for money what a fool , so sister leave this man alone before is too late stay far away from these types of men
they can Punch you to death , balling him out is very wrong he will come home and beat you up again and again till he kill you a husband who beat his wife is not a men.

The fact that you have dated uncountable men in your life does not mean you can speak authoritatively with respect to 50% of Nigerian men. You married an idiot and you cant blame all Nigerian men for that.

If you have a good sense of judgement, you wont marry an idiot. Rather than examine yourself, you blame all men. You will keep falling into the same situations until you examine yourself and your sense of judgement that led you to marry a slowpoke the first time.

A woman who constantly falls for idiots is an idiot herself. If not she'll be able to see an idiot for what he is.
A woman who thinks every married woman who is happy with her marriage is a fool has problems with her life and needs a shrink. Perhaps, the internet is a good way for them to meet themselves and share relationship failure experience and encourage each other on the best ways to have constant relationship failures.

Since it appears (to some here) that the only women who are Nigerian are those who have seuffered abuse and who are dumb and stupid, it's safe to say that every foreign woman also has an abusive husband.

The fact that only disgruntled women come online to vent does not mean that every woman who doesn't come online is just dumb and accepting her abuse. It would appear that most women on here only know abusive men in their lives. That's why sisi skill and others like her will only ever believe that every Nigerian man is abusive and that every Nigerian woman who has not joined the disgruntled women's league has to be suffering in silence.

Speak for yourselves alobe please. . .you cant speak and determine everything about several millions of Nigerian women.

Besides, why dont you all bugger off and find foreign men. You dont even have to come to this kind of forum or perhaps you are trying to change the name of the forum to "NAIJA FRUSTRATED WOMEN AND THEIR MALE ADMIRERS' FORUM".

KarmaMod:
and how many oyinbos do you see bringing in-laws into their business?

B.t.w stop insulting michelin just to make a point jare

Oyinbos dont do extended families. They do immediate families so they dont want others in their relationships. Nigerians cant have that. Our society is completely different from theirs and we should not try being like them. We always need the support of our friends and families.

Tell that ugly girl (michelin) to stop gbeborunING in this talk jare

Ok. i will shut up. i wont let him know how unsightly you look and how badly behaved you are

michelin89:
What are you talking about? You must be confused my dear. Weren't the westerners the maniacs who called the police at the slightest opportunity?

She isn't the only woman who marries because she loves. Many Nigerian women do the same with the difference that they don't leave even when the man rapes their daughters.

if you succeed in finding a man within 10 years, you should come back and talk.

Calling the police at the slightest opportunity is not what wisdom is about. Wisdom is about not making the wrong choice from the start. Most Nigerian women marry because they love but they are not daft enough to follow a boy just because he wears blings and because he has some muscly bits. Real Nigerian women know that it takes much more than such things to marry a guy . . . i'm not talking about a woman like you o!

michelin89:
I am a lady, dude!

perhaps he's seen ur pic

What she should do now is to throw the man away and never see him again.

Truth is, she may (will) soon find herself in a similar situation - maybe not with a Nigerian - could even be another white Brit. Some women are just like that

KarmaMod:
JustGood, while I see what you mean, you seem to forget that she is NOT of our culture. She's a white Brit. They believe in "I see love therefore it's love".

How we deal with things is completely different. can't happen to me because I'm not stupid and even if I were for a brief minute, I know my people will wake me up. I take traditional things seriously in that aspect.

people do stupid things, make bad decisions. Doesnt mean you should all be implying she deserves being a punching bag to a silent lunatic. The fact that he did this while carrying his kind makes it even worse

Karma,

I'm not implying she deserves it. I'm just saying things so that other girls can learn. No woman on earth deserves to be hit by any man.

That British I see I love belief is what makes their society upside down at the moment and we need to speak the truth here about it. . .not encourage some other gullible ones to fall into the same problems.

I was with some politicians a few weeks ago and they were all expressing concerns about the lamentable state of the british family fibre.

David has valid points. Its not about her going back to a low-life guy.

Its a lesson for other girls to look well before leaping. Many western orientated girls will just fall for a bling wearing failure of a dude who has no regards for life or who has never been serious about any good thing in life and they think that everything will be rosy for ever afterwards.

Some of them fall for fraudsters who spoil them at the outset of their relationships cos they dont care as long as the guys can buy them champagne

@karma      

I am very sure you will not get yourself into such a situation.

No sane woman should marry a man without knowing him inside out. Men can be devious (same goes for women). A man can pretend to be anything until the woman gets into his hands. you said it that Naija tribes do Iwadi. I take it that is something like a search to know the person behind the face and facade - now, if that is true, why are stupid girls marrying boys who are layabouts without even knowing their backgrounds?

Why would a girl marry a guy that she doesn't even know where he's from? Why would a girl marry and have a child for a guy whose family she knows not and whose background she knows not? how does she know that the guy was not some serial rapist before appearing in her life?

Karma, seriously, would you fall into the hands of a man like that?

the fact that she stated that his behavious was not like that before shows that she knew nothing about him before marrying him.

It reminds me of people who advise lovers to marry agaisnt their parents wishes. this is what happens to such people as well. Most guys from good homes will never go against their parents wishes so the woman can be assured that if the man misbehaves, she only needs to report to his mum.

There are little things that some girls take for granted and those things haunt them for long periods. . . same for guys

JJYOU:
go back to the father of your girls. he could be better BRO DAVID, YOU SHOULD COLLECT LITTLE OFFERING FOR THIS? YOU WONDER WHAT THE MOTHER OF THESE MONSTERS DID TO RAISE UP FOOLS LIKE THIS

do you not wonder if a woman has any brains for falling for these kind of monsters as well?

@David, exactly.

They chose the wrong men. Thyey chose men based on the jewelry on the men. they chose men based on the height of the men. they chose men based on the muscles on their bodies. they chose men based on the car they drive. they chose men that their friends have dated. . .never interested in the substance of the men.

They chose men who they know are completely different from them but they stupidly believe that the fickle thing called love will see them through. It never does and they end up with children who dont grow up with their dads and who have no clue what life and marriage is about.
Some of them end up gun-totting in ghettos and the streets of london

davidylan:
bye bye and good riddance.

as my pastor would fondly say - good riddance to bad rubbish

I dont see anything wrong with it.

I actually feel its a good thing that they are proud of their tradition. I wish Nigerians had any pride in their traditions and not believe that their traditions are inferior to the white man's

what kind of thread is this that you end up discussing Karma's vulva

Please leave karma for me o

bridget007:
He never punched before marriage, this was first and last time, what scared me more was as I lay on floor in shock gasping for air he told me very calmly next time he would kill me. He will never get the chance for another time, I am withdrawing my spousal support and he can go back to Nigeria when his visa is revoked. His family is welcome to come and visit and see our son, he can have contact via a webcam over the internet with his son and see him grow up and know his son knows who he is (if he wants) but from the safety of thousands of air miles away, where he cannot lay his fists on me ever again.

I am also not bashing all nigerian men I am sure there are some good men out there, oyinbo men can be just as terrible as can any other ethnic group. I'm afraid I will never date a nigerian again though as I have never ever been treated so disgustingly by any other man and he was the only nigerian man I dated, sad but has put me off.

Good decision bolded. i hope you advise all your other oyinbo friends to stay with their kind.
Good luck

Having gone far and wide , I can attest that there is no woman like the Nigerian woman.

Respect to all my Nigerian women. . . beautiful inside and outside

Sad to hear that a man punched his wife (pregnant or not) but oyinbo men also do it.

However, if you married a man who punches, you need to examine yourself. perhaps your sense of judgement is unreliable otherwise you'd not have ended up with a man who does not care about hitting a woman.

It seems women on nairaland are devoid of a good sense of judgement because most of them always end up with thugs, low-lives, etc. There are very few women on nairaland who have consistently good things to say about men.

i'll remember to always warn any young man I see never to date any girl who's been a naiaraland regular

@poster, unfortunately, most men who hit women never stop.

Make sure you examine what you look for in a man before you date any other man