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Nigeria is already a disaster - however, it is not a natural disaster but a human disaster self-inflicted by the greed and corrupt tendencies of it's citizenry.

One thing I believe about that church is that there is not teaching of the bible. Everytime I have listened to any of their pastors, they only ever teach their congregation to pray about problems coming from different sources, except themselves.

No inward examination. Everything is blamed on the enemy eaither within their families or outside their families; failing which they blame the devil. If someone fails an exam for inadequate preparation, they will find other reasons for the failure, such as the devil or generational curses and all that.

They are probably doing more harm to the congregation than the devil is able to do.

I dont see any media describe it as "American men" when an American does anything so silly. It is always reported as "a man", not an American. Anytime it involves a Nigerian, why must we tag it with the nationality in order to make it look consigned to Nigerian men?
If someone is involved in evil and American, the media does not report it as an American man but if it a Nigerian, we blow it up and make it sound like it is exclusive to Nigerians.
I am not saying we should not state facts but we should not let it be lop-sided against ourselves unwittingly either.

Nigerian name!

Never. Has to be younger than me. I look too young to marry an older woman

Kaneesha
Claudeesha
Latrelle
Que'Shayda

6. Wouldn't you rather be with a girl whose lifestyle you understand well from her pics (abroad based girls) as opposed to someone who pretends to be holy but is a total LovePeddler (naija based gals)?

The above tells me a lot about how your mind works. I am glad I am not married to a woman like you,
keep it going.

bawomolo:
there is nothing like a perfectly balanced woman. get off your high horse

She seems to be on a very high horse with no preparation for an inevitable bad fall.

Shaniqua
Shakeera [size=4pt]abi na shakara[/size]

Why would these abnomal sodomites want children if they have decided not to ge involved in relationships that will lead to procreation?

Get thee behind me. . .

Why do married men date single girls?

Someone comes for advise and someone is already advising her to dump her husband.

Some women will do anything to have every woman become just like them, sheeor

You need to pray well and talk to members of your family. They will be your best bet. Too many girls in Nigeria these days will follow you if they know you are British or American. You will only get to see their true colours once they get their papers.

kpele

DEM PIKIN

Young brothers admit boys' attack

One boy was found unconscious near a wooded ravine
Two young brothers who lured two boys, aged nine and 11, to a South Yorkshire ravine before carrying out a brutal attack have admitted the assault.

At Sheffield Crown Court the brothers, aged 10 and 12, admitted causing grievous bodily harm with intent.

One of the victims also had a sink dropped on to his head during the attack in Edlington, near Doncaster.

The brothers were arrested on 4 April after the younger victim, covered in blood, escaped and raised the alarm.

Attempted murder charges over the attack were dropped by prosecutors.

Reports are being prepared on the boys ahead of a sentencing hearing, expected to be held in November.

The victims met their attackers as they played football in a park.


Map: Where the attack happened

They were lured away by the brothers, who promised they would show them a toad they had found, but instead they were subjected to a horrific assault.


Jenny Hill, BBC News, Sheffield Crown Court
The crimes that these brothers committed, the injuries they inflicted, were considered so severe that they were initially charged with attempted murder.
They pleaded not guilty to attempted murder but guilty to a lesser charge, grievous bodily harm.

The court has accepted that lesser charge.

The Crown Prosecution Service and South Yorkshire Police said they believe this is the right decision because of course it stops the victims having to relive the traumatic attack during a trial which would have taken certainly two or three weeks.

The decision was taken in accordance with the families of those victims, who say they are particularly relieved that the boys would not have to relive what had happened to them.

The maximum sentence for grievous bodily harm is the same as the maximum sentence for attempted murder, so the feeling here at the court is very much that the difference in charges really doesn't actually affect the outcome of this.

The older boy had a sink dropped on his head, one had a noose put around his head and one was burned with a cigarette on his eyelids and ear.

The younger boy had a sharp stick rammed into his arm and cigarettes pushed into the wound.

He also tried to ram a stick down his own throat after he was told to "go away and kill himself" by one of his attackers.

The pair, who were both seriously injured, had bricks thrown at them and were repeatedly stamped on.

The nine-year-old managed to stagger to a nearby house to raise the alarm, covered in blood from wounds to his head and arm.

The 11-year-old boy was later discovered unconscious in the nearby wood.

The brothers have each pleaded guilty to robbing one of the boys of a mobile phone and the other of cash.

They also admitted two counts of intentionally causing a child to engage in sexual activity.
The brothers were later charged with attempted grievous bodily harm with intent and making a threat to kill in connection with a separate attack on another 11-year-old boy in Doncaster a week earlier.

The pair had denied these offences, but each have pleaded guilty to a lesser charge of assault occasioning actual bodily harm.

The court heard the brothers picked a "discreet" location for the scene of their first attack, in trees by a stream.

  I'm gonna die, I'm gonna die - that's what I kept repeating in my head

But they were interrupted by a passer-by.

The victim of that attack said: "They got me into these bushes, and then the fat one punched me.

"They stamped on my head. After, like, twenty minutes of them hurting me, this man came and said 'Oi, what you doing?',  and they said 'You've got twenty seconds to run' so I ran as fast as my little legs could carry me.

"I'm gonna die, I'm gonna die. That's what I kept repeating in my head."

A week later the brothers chose a "more isolated" place for the attack on the two boys.

The boys were led to a large mound of timber, described as a "den", which was hidden from public view, where some of their injuries were inflicted.

The brothers then moved their victims to a second site, at the foot of a 15ft ravine. It was here that a broken sink was used to inflict the more serious head injuries on the 11-year-old.

Det Supt Mick Mason said the victims suffered a "traumatic experience" but were "recovering well".

"The victims are still suffering, certainly mentally, and also recovering from the physical wounds," he said.

The mother of the eldest victim said she was "pleased" with the guilty pleas.

She said the families were not upset about the decision to accept pleas to lesser charges and she was happy the boys did not have to be put through a trial.

Nicholas Campbell QC, prosecuting, described the offences as "grave crimes".

The prosecutor said on the day of the second attack, the two brothers should have been at the police station being questioned about the earlier assault.

He said: "Instead, they went out and attacked [the two boys]."

The Crown Prosecution Service (CPS) said the decision not to pursue the attempted murder charges was taken in consultation with the victims' families.

Doncaster Council said a serious case review was now under way to establish if there are lessons to be learned by any agency involved.

The judge, Mr Justice Keith, will visit the site of the attacks before the boys are sentenced.

Young brothers admit boys' attack

One boy was found unconscious near a wooded ravine
Two young brothers who lured two boys, aged nine and 11, to a South Yorkshire ravine before carrying out a brutal attack have admitted the assault.

At Sheffield Crown Court the brothers, aged 10 and 12, admitted causing grievous bodily harm with intent.

One of the victims also had a sink dropped on to his head during the attack in Edlington, near Doncaster.

The brothers were arrested on 4 April after the younger victim, covered in blood, escaped and raised the alarm.

Attempted murder charges over the attack were dropped by prosecutors.

Reports are being prepared on the boys ahead of a sentencing hearing, expected to be held in November.

The victims met their attackers as they played football in a park.

They were lured away by the brothers, who promised they would show them a toad they had found, but instead they were subjected to a horrific assault.

The older boy had a sink dropped on his head, one had a noose put around his head and one was burned with a cigarette on his eyelids and ear.

The younger boy had a sharp stick rammed into his arm and cigarettes pushed into the wound.

He also tried to ram a stick down his own throat after he was told to "go away and kill himself" by one of his attackers.

The pair, who were both seriously injured, had bricks thrown at them and were repeatedly stamped on.

The nine-year-old managed to stagger to a nearby house to raise the alarm, covered in blood from wounds to his head and arm.

The 11-year-old boy was later discovered unconscious in the nearby wood.

The brothers have each pleaded guilty to robbing one of the boys of a mobile phone and the other of cash.

They also admitted two counts of intentionally causing a child to engage in sexual activity.

The brothers were later charged with attempted grievous bodily harm with intent and making a threat to kill in connection with a separate attack on another 11-year-old boy in Doncaster a week earlier.

The pair had denied these offences, but each have pleaded guilty to a lesser charge of assault occasioning actual bodily harm.

The court heard the brothers picked a "discreet" location for the scene of their first attack, in trees by a stream.

I'm gonna die, I'm gonna die - that's what I kept repeating in my head

But they were interrupted by a passer-by.

The victim of that attack said: "They got me into these bushes, and then the fat one punched me.

"They stamped on my head. After, like, twenty minutes of them hurting me, this man came and said 'Oi, what you doing?', and they said 'You've got twenty seconds to run' so I ran as fast as my little legs could carry me.

"I'm gonna die, I'm gonna die. That's what I kept repeating in my head."

A week later the brothers chose a "more isolated" place for the attack on the two boys.

The boys were led to a large mound of timber, described as a "den", which was hidden from public view, where some of their injuries were inflicted.

The brothers then moved their victims to a second site, at the foot of a 15ft ravine. It was here that a broken sink was used to inflict the more serious head injuries on the 11-year-old.

Det Supt Mick Mason said the victims suffered a "traumatic experience" but were "recovering well".

"The victims are still suffering, certainly mentally, and also recovering from the physical wounds," he said.

The mother of the eldest victim said she was "pleased" with the guilty pleas.

She said the families were not upset about the decision to accept pleas to lesser charges and she was happy the boys did not have to be put through a trial.

Nicholas Campbell QC, prosecuting, described the offences as "grave crimes".

The prosecutor said on the day of the second attack, the two brothers should have been at the police station being questioned about the earlier assault.

He said: "Instead, they went out and attacked [the two boys]."

The Crown Prosecution Service (CPS) said the decision not to pursue the attempted murder charges was taken in consultation with the victims' families.

Doncaster Council said a serious case review was now under way to establish if there are lessons to be learned by any agency involved.

The judge, Mr Justice Keith, will visit the site of the attacks before the boys are sentenced.

And they have these kind of children?

http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/uk_news/england/south_yorkshire/8233822.stm

Fhemmy, I have seen similar o.
These things happen sometimes. It's worse when the guy has a good heart.

I saw a supposedly absolutely spiritually wonderful lady turn into a monster within a few years.
The husband was someone who just decided that he wanted to calm down and have a good home. In the process, he allowed his wife to assume the position of a monster in the home. Their family is now a miserable one as neither wants to divorce but the man is hoping the woman will come to her sense and apologise. They have a child and the son, a teenager, is also feeling the tension often in the firing line for his closeness to his mum.

Dont dismiss some of these stories so easily. The guy may have spiced it up tho.

Are you starting your version of mills and boon? I did not read the story sha. The thing too long for forum.

http://www.dailyrecord.co.uk/women/2009/09/03/women-more-likely-to-be-unfaithful-than-men-finds-new-survey-86908-21644635/

Women more likely to be unfaithful than men, finds new survey
Sep 3 2009 Craig McQueen

We're used to thinking men are more likely than women to stray in a relationship - but it seems the roles are being reversed.

A new survey suggests that it's women who are more unfaithful, with four in 10 admitting that they have cheated on their partner.

By comparison, three in 10 men said they had done the dirty on their nearest and dearest.

It also emerged that four in 10 cheats ended up snogging someone whilst out clubbing, while almost one in four got carried away with a colleague at a work do.

More than half of women said they loved attention from men. More than a third said men often got the wrong idea because they were so flirtatious.

More than a third of women also claimed their "minor indiscretion" happened by accident because their flirting got out of hand.

According to sex and relationships expert Alex Hooper-Hodson, the survey results reflect current trends.

He said: "There has been a massive change in this issue compared with previous years.

"In the 80s, an academic called Annette Lawson wrote a book called Adultery in which she said the rate of infidelity among men was 60 per cent over the course of a marriage and 40 per cent for women.

"But the book also showed that the rate of increase in infidelity was higher among women, so it was likely they would overtake men.

"What you're seeing now is the result of that trend.

"It could be put down to women being more fussy, more picky, more confident and more in charge of their lives than they were 20 years ago.

"In a sense, they're behaving like old-fashioned men. They're having their cake and eating it."

The research showed that 58 per cent of women who have cheated have kissed someone other than their partner, while 27 per cent have had sex with someone else.

And 47 per cent admitted they cannot help dancing provocatively with men whenever they are on a night out.

A fifth of girls said they get a thrill from cheating on their partner and, despite knowing it is wrong, want to do it again.

The survey also revealed 27 per cent of women find strangers attractive and love the thrill of chasing them on a night out.

One in four said they cannot resist the temptation of a man in uniform, while almost one in five tend to cheat with those in authority.

Builders and gym instructors are common targets for women, as one in 10 said they cannot help flirting outrageously with them.

Suzy Miller, creator of Britain's first ever divorce fairs, feels the figures could simply point to women being more honest.

She said: "I think these days there is less social stigma attached to infidelity and people regard it as more normal, which is not a good thing.

"In places such as France and Italy, the culture is much more relaxed about these things, so perhaps our attitudes are becoming more continental "I think women are also more willing to give reasons for their infidelity, such as being unhappy.

"I can imagine there being a lot of women out there in long-term relationships who feel neglected, while their partners become complacent.

But Suzy did admit that more women in relationships are indulging in "minor indiscretions" in places such as parties and nights out.

She said: "A lot of that goes on as people are drinking so much alcohol and doing so much going out and partying. The idea that you only do that when you're young isn't true at all. Nowadays, we keep going for as long as we possibly can.

"But I'd be surprised if there are actually greater levels of infidelity now than there were in the past.

"I think it's just that people are more able to talk about it and there is less stigma attached to it.

"At least if we're more able to talk about these things, we're more likely to look at what's going wrong."

Hooper-Hodson agrees that our changing social lives could be contributing to the problem.

He said: "Society has changed to some degree and it's changed women's outlooks.

"It's almost an extension of the lad culture. Women are effectively taking up that male role, while men are becoming a bit more sensitive.

"The drinking and clubbing culture has increased massively over the last 30 years and it's a whole different ball game in terms of going out and having fun.

"That's certainly the case with younger people but you also have to look at people in their 30s, 40s and 50s who are being unfaithful.

"Even though people know they're doing something they shouldn't, they want to have a bit of excitement and drama in their lives."

The poll for Opera North marks their production of Cosi Fan Tutte, an opera looking at the nature of infidelity.

This group has now confirmed that women cheat more, in Britain, than men.

http://en-gb.facebook.com/pages/Leeds-United-Kingdom/Opera-North/52817663594?_fb_noscript=1

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1210444/Four-10-women-cheated-partners-compared-just-THREE-10-men.html#ixzz0Ps52pnQG

Four in 10 women have cheated on their partners (compared to just THREE in 10 men) By Daily Mail Reporter
Last updated at 2:11 PM on 01st September 2009

It's widely assumed that when it comes to long-term relationships, men are more likely to stray.

But a poll of 3,000 people has turned this assumption on its head - with four in 10 women admitting they have cheated on a partner, compared to just three in 10 men.

Nearly half of the female cheats ended up kissing someone on a night out, while almost a quarter got carried away with a colleague at a work do.
Affair: A quarter of the women who cheated on their partners said they got carried away with a colleague at a work do
And more than a third of the women claimed their indiscretion happened 'by accident' when their flirting got out of hand. Four in 10 of those surveyed admitted that men 'often got the wrong idea' because they were so flirtatious.
Builders, gym instructors and figures of authority are particularly tempting for women, the survey found, and it seems the old cliche about women loving a man in uniform is also true.
But while a quarter of respondents had embarked on a long-term affair, the majority of women said they had cheated on a partner just once.

Many blamed becoming bored in their relationship as the trigger for their indiscretion, while 21 per cent said it only ever happened when they'd had too much to drink.

However, a surprising 12 per cent of women claimed they could never be completely monogamous in a relationship, because 'life is too short'.
The survey was conducted by Opera North to coincide with the opening of the opera  Cosi fan tutte, which deals with the issue of infidelity and translates as 'All Women Are Like That'.
'The poll seems to suggest many women consider flirtatious behaviour as harmless and can easily forgive themselves the odd 'indiscretion', said a spokeswoman.

Karidity is bembestic

Another attention seeker post

I am not sure how your husband put this to you but I dont think its a big deal if your husband wants you to look good so he can be proud of you.

Is it not something to be happy about if your husband wants you to look good for him? Perhaps I'm being naive about this

okpekesis to reporta atua at time T

Ajebota:
You must either be very naive like jjc, very young and inexperienced or blind to the fact. Women suffer enuf in Nigeria in more ways than one; violence at the hands of the man being the most disgusting and rampant.

@ Poster The divorce rate in western countries is high primarily because of the disappearance of family values and their 'me me me' mentality. In Nigeria divorce is done primarily because of spousal abuse, which I support. Divorce is not ideal but can be a necessary evil or the lesser or two evils.

You must also be either selectively blind or outrightly biased not to realise that women suffer everywhere in the world.

As far back as 2001, I had discussions with some friends and I told them the harm that the likes of Dele Momodu and his Ovation are doing to Nigeria.

The man is only doing things which put bread on his table but too many Nigerians believe anything they hear/read from these people. What we need, more than ever is an educated citizenry that will be able to see through the deceptions and the selfish ambitions of the likes of Ovation publishers.

I challenge him to prove to anyone that those he glamorises and lavishes praise upon in his magazine are not the same ones who have brought Nigeria to her knees.

I dont think its proper to list what you MUST have in a partner. It gives you an unrealistic expectation and you may end up waiting forever because you may never find all the qualities in one man and if you find the material quailities, he could also turn out to be your nemesis.

why you dey take your hand find wahala?

The man love you and marry you but you want force am to do another marriage. The man fit get things for him mind wey pass that official church one. No take wahala start katakata for your home o. I beg you in Jesus' name.

If your people insist, tell them to arrange the wedding if they want wedding abi which kind distractions dem want create for the man!

daysis jamalaya.

kponpontious entity