₦airaland Forum

van der jo:
@poster,
The uk is a best place to get cheap clothings and all you mentioned.

Yea the prob is the issue of trust, sending stuff back home to somebody who will be honest enough to sale and give good account.

osilekan4u:
I am currently in love with a girl, weve ve been dating for a year now, but our marriage plans is been hampered due to the following

ON HER PART.
Her parents said NO beacuse
1. She's catholic and am Pentecostal
2. She's Anambra and am Abia
3. Her parents is very rich and mine is average.


ON MY OWN PART
My parents said no because
1. She is Anambra
2. Wants me to Wed in Catholic (My Dad is a Pastor in a pentecostal church)
3.Am too Young (Am 25yrs working in a Bank for over 2yrs now)

Ur parent and her's shld get alife. what they shld be concern abt is whether u love each other NOT religion and tribal issues, what has that got to do with love? RUN away with her and get married and just keep off from those self-centered individuals

IykeD:
You have not told us the real reason behind your decision to pull out.A question for you, would you have noticed any shortcomings from him if there was no other dude in line? Did you just notice his attitude 2 weeks to marrying him? Tell us you are concerned about his future and we will understand and then advise you to go marry the aristo, at least you will live in affluence even if he is probably older than your papa. Please save the dude this heartbreak and tell him now.

Read her post, she answered that question after we asked her to tell us what exactly the probwas.

[quote author=*blossom* link=topic=271413.msg3855995#msg3855995 date=1242117744]NAIRALAND members,

I hope everyone is well.

Please ooo I need some advice!!!!!

There is this igbo guy who is just finished his medical degree (yes the whole 7 years) and is now looking for a woman to spend his life with.

Now how it stands I am the woman he is trying to court. I just finished my degree in Accounting but am not yet in a good established job as he will be in. I'm also an igbo lady and am so determined but I don't know if he will be interested as I have not established myself in a good career. I am 23 living in the UK and he is 28 so there is also the age gap. Do you think a doctor would be interested in someone like me?

[/quote]Stop letting urself down, yes he is a doctor, and? super human being? u are not going to marry paper qualification, u are going marry HIM if he is good enough for u then go for it, Good luck

Sonye:
My dear, i am in the same situation as you are. I will be glad to hear people's advice because i want out!!! What i seeek right now is a very cool guy to take my fiancee off me completely and so far, it doesn't seem to work. Seems like there are no single guys on this earth again!!!

There are many hot blooded single blokes here, u don't even need to look far, just meeting the right person is the prob, u wouldn't want to jump from one waste of space to another.

suchislife:
Mr justwise we can do a business together, but i prefer one on one and paper work business( documentary). If u are serious about it, you can give me your email address for further disccussion. Actually Nigeria want quality products and affordable price.

i don't think i understand what u mean by paper work, send me an email and explian in detail, check my email in my profile

i'm looking for a business partner from Nigerian or a nigerian here in the uk, we go into the clothing business and other item, any yahoo yahoo boy/girl, don't even think abt contacting me.

pls any serious individual shld contact me.

tope5000:
Gbam

Secretz:
@ Poster,

Her behaviour is clearly from her childhood experiences. People like that are set in their ways and it's often hard to pull them out of it. . . .

Am sorry, but me too I can't marry anyone like that, not after 3 years of thinking they will change and they haven't, it will be pure frustration and a mental torture.

Her not apologising or saying 'thank you' is because she doesn't want to come across soo helpless and needy, or feeling as if she owes you something, as soon as she lets her guards down by apologising and saying thank you, she is likely to believe that you will then think you have control over her. Hence the point her mum has been making to her.

Give me her number jare, I go talk some sense into her. . .    

Yup u got it right.
She will not change, she will come begging when u dump her sorry ass

oluclem:
I met a girl about three years ago during my youth service .  I love her so much that I do everything within my reach to make her happy.

The problem i have with this girl is that no matter what i do for her, she will never say thank you and she can never tell you sorry. Another problem is that she has never profess her love for me, even though she tell people around me how much she love me. At the initial stage, I thought it was pride but I later discover that it was as a result of the home( broken home with a single mother) she came from. She believe that a girl should not show love to a man so that he will not throw her out when they get married. Almost three year I believe must have change that orientation but nothing has change.

I tried to help her by lecturing her on relationship( since has never see her parent living together) but she seem to be adamant. I love her and want to marry her. She now 29yrs old and I am 31, but my fear is that I don't know if she can change because i won't want to marry two wife.

Should I marry her

Give her a break, she is having it all good, stop  licking her toes, trust me pple like her drives u mad! stop doing those things she takes for granted, my ex was excatly like that and thats why she is an ex now

johngoke1:
But you guys why do i do, Please i dont need someone who doesn know what emotion is, Please i need a very emotional poeple here, not you just opening your mouth and say what ever that comes out of it,

what emotion? how do u sleep at night? u cheated on both of them for as long as u can remember, now they are doing the same thing and u talking about emotion? have u been sleeping? joke

knowb:
Thanks, i feel better now, i think we will need to talk

Yes u need to have serious talk with him, nobody wants to jump in and out of marriage.
All the best.

surface:
if truly u based outside nija,lookf or a better girl where u based,all dis nigerian girls will just Bleep u up,same wit their homebase guys too,very cheap and demanding

Oh dear!! i couldn't say it more better

gradewilli:
hey all"yo this is a big issue that people just ignored, seriously both parties need to get tested , before engage themselves in any activities although not only sex you can get hiv. when it comes to sex people dont care as long they got condom on, is not 100percent safe, so u have to be careful , i just cant imagine when you have 20yrs to lives and ur life cut short in 5 yrs cos of sex, people play safe oh, well i jst told my new girlfriend she need to be tested before i can have sex with her, even she insisted i use condom no way seriously i never knew my new girl like sex too much oo she dey vest

Yes u and ur new gf need to get tested, not just her, and each time u to want shine her 'congo' u ask her to get tested since ur new gf is like rampant rabit abi?

johngoke1:
Here is the Story,I left naija by january this year,And i was in a relationship before i commot Naija, But this chick that am dating she is really giving me Wahala, And they are two of them, One is in IBADAN and the other one in Lagos, The Both of them are fucking arround,The one in IBADAN i have been Calling her Number for the past five days now, Not reachable i called her friend and i was told she left the skool for a Party, and she never told me, Now that am writting,I havnt heard from her, And when i was in Skool then,The goes arround with other guys,And u guys wont believe me, Am good looking guy,But i think its a course on her, Cause when ever she has gone wrong she will start crying and i loved her so much, She pushed me to get the Girl in Lagos, Now Two of them are messing up, Dont really know what to do, Cause you know, I was once a player, And i know how it is, When a lady is been left alone, Without no guy,Then i will make sure i do everything to please her, Am really scared, Please jus advice me on what to do,

U don't need any advice, its pay back time, u even got the balls to complain, u are cheating on both of them, now u are shittingin ur pant that they maybe doing EXACLTY what u have been doing? What planet are u from?

ibkaye:
Well, the only person I plan only sleeping with anyway is my husband and before we do get married we will both be tested.

Not withstanding, I know there's a possibilty of cheating but tha's something to go into another day.

And thats my problem as well, cos u 'may not' stop him from cheating.

But i give u the credit, for ur decision to wait till u get married and stick to him for all bedroom apart. needs, definitely not easy i have to say.

i need one too, if u are interested, get in touch for: 'get to know each other'

ibkaye:
I don't remember saying I would check everytime I had sex with my spouse.

Then u will not be safe cos checking once is not enough

ibkaye:
I'm talking about going to a hospital and both being checked out, seeing the results for themselves, not just by asking him/her.

Ps, condoms aren't 100% effective

I know that condom is not 100% safe but that is the closest we can go now to avoid picking up some nasty stuff.

Or stay off sex 100% and pray u don't get affected through other means

ibkaye:
Thank.

You!

The point here is not to have unprotected sex, u can't ask for proof each time u have sex with ur bf/gf only if u only have sex monthly or yearly. I can't picture a situation where by u ask him for proof 2-5times a week u engage in sexual act. Even ur huuband need to proof that he is negative each time u get it on.

Well i suggest u get ur bf an iron pant with a padlock, lock it each time he is going out

ibkaye:
If they have sense, yes.

Excuse me? How do u know? written on his/her forehead? even if u asked and she said no does that mean she is positive? and how would u know she or he is lying? USE CONDOM to avoid i coulld have, i should have. HIV is not like badge pple carry around. Only when u get checked up, maybe u have to request for HIV check from any guy u want to get it on with.

Outstrip:
LOL. Nothing. Just helping a brother out.

Bless you, u are a star, u saved us some headache reading that short-hand

knowb:
Thanks for the advise guys

@igwe and postwise, he is quick to anger and over reacts when he is angry. Very petty issues gets him angry and he is not patient to understand the situation before he reacts, but later when he is calm and i explain things, he starts to beg. He is also suspicious, insecured, and a bit childish

I am just scared that one day, he will over react over nothing and spoil things, and later realise his mistake when its too late.

i am not bothered with the fact that he has nothing financially becos he is very ambitious, but atleast he should make up wit other qualities.

Right now, i don't feel anything emotionally - and this worries me so much.

The wedding is in 2 weeks and am confused, should i just endure it all

I can undrstand why such behaviour should be a problem in marriage, i think u should suspend the wedding and tell him why and if he improves on those areas of concern then u can go ahead with the wedding, seriously marriage supposed to be enjoyed not endured

Tell us about the attitude, remember its not always what u want, u need to meet half way, think, do u need to make some changes as well? Maybe cos u got another rich old man waiting to take u up and spoil.

mbulela:
from his very first post i knew that Ccomputers was a joker.
i really wonder how people fall for internet scams?
i am not the most intelligent of persons but each time i can smell the coffee from a mile off.
i wish everyone will just ignore his mails and continue a worthwhile discussion, if their is still more to be said on this topic.
the guy does not even understand the concept of paypal and Ebay that is being talked about.
i guess his 419 masters just gave him a template to use in replying to mails and he probably does not know where the caps lock key is on the keyboard.
so much for a laptop importer. importer my foot!!!!

My point exactly!! he got no clue wht he is talking about, he is just a dummy, some scumbag somewhere writes for him and he cuts and paste here. Who ever falls victim to this guy should book an urgent appointment with his/her GP for brain scan.

@erico2k2,

Pple like this slowpoke made it almost imposible for decent Nigerians to buy things from ebay from Nigeria, i really hope that anybody will do business with this guy, Internet is a gr8 place to do business buy 'some' Nigerians have turned it into a crime scene.

Outstrip:
He met a girl he likes. She is a relationship with another. She had some spiritual issues when she was younger (emere as he called it) and they used the boy she is a relationship with to free her spirit or something. His question is if he should leave this girl alone or if he should give her time to call it off with the other guy since she has this history with the other guy. I think that's what he is asking

@outstrip

How much were u paid to translate this?

sycolm306:
hello every body, please i kindly have a problem on dating aspect, the problem is: i find someone whom i love and she love me too. but what is thier is that when i woe (toast) her, i told her to tell me all about his past and she did the same thing cos i told her i want someone who is trust worthy cos thier is no love in this world but trust mater. she told me about her past and the present but what confused me most is that of is boys friend that she was dating, she declair to me that she does not like the guy and she intend to leave the guy. i told her that why does she accept is proposal at first site, but she told me she known him through her mother. Furthermore,I ask her how was deep is thier relationship, she reply by saying; when she was so small, she has some spirit(elegbe omo or emere) as in yoruba. so her mother and the boy's mother her friend and they made use of the boy so dat those spirit we leave her alone (that was when she was around 2-3 years of age ) before she finally went to lagos. she came back from lagos in 2008 september at the age of 20-21. and the guy meet her in the church and dats how the guy prosed to the girl.
But i try to confused her not to leave the guy, but she insist of following me. i intend to give the gilr some timec so as to resolve the matter but she intend to follow me rather. and the guy just knows me and i told her not to forth with the guy again cos i do not want trouble. if i even insist not to call her, she is going to be crying. please what can i do.
Please help me ooooooo !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! i'm feedup. please u can reach me on 08060613396 (please text me)

you lost me, and why are u asking pple to call u or txt u?

Ccomputers:
@justwise,

BRO ALL THESE THINGS ARE SECRETS AND ITS VERY MUCH WORKING AND NO NEED FOR UR ACCOUNT TO BE CLOSE AND EVEN IF U WANT THE PAY PAL PLUS CARD I WILL GET IT FOR U.

BUT LIKE I SAID I MUST VERIFY UR DETAILS AND WHO U ARE AND KNOW U WELL BEFORE I DO THAT FOR U.

AS FOR VERIFYING THE BANK DETAILS THAT IS NOT REALLY THE PROBLEM AND WHAT PAY PAL IS AFTER BUT WHAT THEY ARE AFTER IS U AND WHAT U WANT TO DO WITH THEIR SITE AS THE BANK DETAILS IS JUST PRIMARY ISSUE WHICH THEY WILL NEED.

CONTACT ME FOR MORE DETAILS




THANKS A LOT NIGERIANS

U are a big joke, i don't need your help, i have paypal account for more than 4yrs now, u don't know what u are saying, and pple should be very careful when dealing with u.Nigeria don't need any more bad image. U know nothing about paypal

Ccomputers:
DEAR ALL,

PAY PAL IS SECURED NOW VERY MUCH WELL COS EBAY.COM HAS BOUGHT IT AND DEPENDING ON WHAT U WANT TO USE IT TO DO . NO ONE IN USA, CANADA, UK OR EVEN EUROPE WILL AGREE TO OPEN A PAY PAL ACT FOR A NIGERIAN EVEN THOUGH THE PERSON MIGHT BE HIS SISTER OR HER BROTHER COS ONCE U DO DIS AND THERE IS ANY FRAUD TRACE, PAY PAL WILL COME D NEXT MINUTE WITH FBI KNOCKING ON UR DOOR.

SO FOR SOMEONE THERE TO OPEN THESE ACCOUNTS FOR U, D PERSON MUST BE SURE THAT UR A BORN AGAIN CHRISTIAN AND DAT U CANT AND WILL NEVER GO INTO FRAUD.

I OPEN PAY PAL FOR PEOPLE BUT I DON'T DO IT AS BUSINESS LIKE MANY NIGERIAN DO COS B4 I WILL OPEN FOR U , I MUST KNOW WHAT U DO AND WHO U ARE BEFORE DOING THAT OR ELSE ANYTHING DAT GOES WRONG FBI WILL JUST GO AND LOCK UP MY COMPANY IN NEW YORK COS THAT'S D ADDRESS WHICH I USE.

ALL THESE THINGS ARE VERY EASY AND THAT'S IF U HAVE D SKILL AND THE LINK UPS AND THAT WHY EACH NIGERIAN NEEDS THIS IMPORTATION TRAINING BUT AS IT IS I CANT DO IT FOR MANY PEOPLE BUT FOR FEW AND JUST FEW.

THANKS A LOT NIGERIANS

U are missing the point, i'm really worried about your business idea and what u really do. How do u opne paypal account for pple from Nigeria? How do they verify your bank detials?

erico2k2:
I'm surprised at Nigerians even more so surprised at Nigerians who live abroad and are failing to enlighten the folks back home how PayPal works, how the hell do you think you can shop directly with EBay from Nigeria when you don't and cant have a paypal account eh? the Credit and debit card platforms are diffrent plus you need phone or bank activation to be able to open a PayPal account,hence yahoo boys hack and steal real PayPal accounts to jump that bridge, I have an EBay account and a PayPal one to, I logged into my PayPall account from Nigeria once, in less than30mins my account was suspended, to re open it, I have to log into my on line bank account or wait for my credit card statements cos PayPall will deposit lil sum into it and ask you to fill in the amount for them to re open the account. SO if they cant deposit money unto ur account or they cant activate your paypal account via phone cos you are in Nigeria, how do you intend on opening a pypal account then?forget the yahoo boyz, there are more scams coming from India and china than any scam yahoo boyz can pull in 30 years to come,come to think of it, have you guys ever sat down and thought bout the fact of where and from whom yahoo boyz buy thier tools from ie CC,Bank AC//on-line password etc? from India and china UK,America you name it, they under publish thier crime and highlight the ones of Nigerians whom only account for less than 2% of overall fraud caused on-line,wise up Nigerians re-brand yourselves.

Absolutely spot on! i couldn't say more than this, . I hope ppl take time to read ur post.

Siena:
Personally, I would, yes.

I don't see the need of dating a single mom, if I have no intention of getting married to her.

Not all rela/ships ends/ shld in marriage.