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Itohan123:
And that I shouldn't be dating them. We both live in Europe now and I asked him why are you always dating those big mamma oyibo atutupoyoyo types.

He said I'm the fool for dating the African women here, because they are liabilities he said, they just want to chop money, that's why they come to Europe, they are all hookers too he said. And he said, there is not a single good looking one here, when I go back to Africa later I will take one there, not these money eating dog face liabilities.

I was shocked. Could he be right?

Oh those 'African' women went to Europe to chop money and he went to Europe shag double deck? Those room and parlor oyibo are easy to have ur legs over them, tell ur friend to grow up.

rheel:
hi ,

i have been married for almost 2 years, my marriage is becoming boring day by day

my spouse comes home late in the name of work and traffic, he complains when i ask him to drive me somewhere, but never complains when he has to go extra miles to pick people out of his way to work, his newspaper is his best companion at weekends even though i try to chat with him and so on.

he hides in the car to answer phone calls, i cant touch his phone any longer cos am scared of what i will see after i once read a message sent by one girl, and to crown it all he acts like a saint.

folks, please advice me

I have to agree with all the replies so far, have a serious talk with him, no room for fear, its ur husband, tell him how u feel, be calm and calculated, u can't go on that way, its not a contract. If he refusses to change then get family members involved and see f that works, breaking up its not the first thing u should do.

JJYOU:
u no get money for your pocket yet you want ngr woman in london. na u bring her here abi?

Are they for sale?

@ray001,

Your propriety now should be your kids, please make sure that what is going on now do not affect them, its obvious that your wife is not interested in the marriage anymore, there is no point hanging on if u have tried all u could and nothing seems to work. IF u are separating, please do it amicably so that both of u will have access to the kids.

I can understand how u feel about it, be strong and do the right thing for the kid and for your own peace of mind.

Good Luck

Typical of some women, why don't u call and find out why? or do the calling thing, he must not be the only one doing the calling thing, show him how to do it, pple are quick to jump to conclusion, telling u to leave him, he doesn't love u and all that.

mandycini:
I dont really think he is insecure cos he is those kinda guys that can really get most girls they want,I see the way he distances himself from them,I didnt really take note,now that we just talk I see he aint putting any efforts to stay off anyone again,theres this particular girlI used to tell him I think she loves him,now its like they are soo close cos he replies her messages ,takes her calls etc I wouldnt categorically say anything is happening between them yet, am soo confused now but honestly these guys are just friends,I was careless there was one occassions like when I used the words sweetheart and honey with a guy and accidentally he heard me, i mean it was just a harmless expression, we talked about it and forgot it,i was careless no doubt,didnt really know what it takes in a serious affair per say cos guys for me had been come n go, not that am saying i have had a lot, so, i really need him back now, he is all that i have , d air dat i breath,

Just give him sometime, not stalking him with txt msgs and calls, u have being sincer enough, he must remember the good times with u, he maybe hurt and angry now, but with time things might change. We all make mistakes.

tpiah:
none ie no difference.

Sick

JJYOU:
sadly yes. removing things on facebook is not the end of the word. i dont read mills and boons. there are signs of insecurity this young man is displaying. you may not see it that is okay that is is why i am not you.

Oh really? she was supposed to be at work but decided to chill with a friend, she cut the phone call and put it on busy and now u are suggesting that he is insecure? really?

JJYOU:
as mu work on getting him back let him work on his insecurities too becos u cant say you didnt see it coming later

What insecurities are u talking abt? Do u really understand the story?

AjaraEwuro:
then you must be sick upstairs.

No i'm not, u just talking rubbish

AjaraEwuro:
eritrean, igbo, nigeria, omo, keep searching ooooooooooooo.

u are not making any sense

[quote author=big_bumper link=topic=275559.msg3911839#msg3911839 date=1243083471]Something, no make that a lot of things led to that, the dude pushed her into that position.

And judging by the way she used the word "careless", I think she meant she was carefree and thought she could keep things open with him by letting him know she had male friends, because her hands were clean. Hope i don't have to eat my words [/quote]Are u 4 real? Do u really mean what u just said? unbelievable!

mandycini:
I have been in a relationship with this guy for sometime now,we really meant business in this relationship cos we designed to marry each other,at a point i became careless with the affair cos of reasons I thought were reason enough ,he spoke to me severally over my actions but somehow I just didnt see myself listening ,partly because i was inexperienced and partly cos i thought there wasnt any need for the talks cos part though a very little part of his talks have been bordering on his being able to trust me with my male friends of which am 1 million percent sure i have absolutely nothing with any of them,I mean I love this guy but i would accept i was careless.The last straw that broke the carmels back was that one morning he called me,i was supposed to be at work but was just chilling with a friend(male) nothing was going on,he asked where i was i said i was with a friend,and he asked could he know my friends name ,i found myself cutting the call,he called severally i kept busying the call,somehow i felt uncomfortable telling him my friends name while my friend was there and knowing fully well that he wouldnt let go untill i told him whom i was with and knowing him,he could possibly ask to speak with the person, am not doing anything with these guy i was with he was just a friend, but this has destroyed my relationship with the man i love, am not saying i was right in my actions but i dont know what to do to win him back, i suddenly realised all he has been telling me, everything now makes sense, i cant imagine throwing away the dreams we shared ,the plans we made , this thing is killing me, please advice me , what do i do to get him be the loving, caring and patient guy he always was.

Classical case of: u don’t know the value of what u have until it’s gone.

Keep trying and hope he changes his mind…If I were him…I doubt.

Connie001:
My fellow nairalanders,
I am a nigerian lady based in Canada. I have been in a relationship with a wonderful Eriterian man for four years. We get along great on the surface, however we differ alot on many other issues. He is not interested in learning about my culture but he expects that i learn his, eat their local food and attend their community function and behave like a proper Eriterian lady. Also he says if we ever marry i must return with him to his country. But i myself i have plans to return to naija eventually. I have tried to involve him in the nigerian community but he is not interested. He even said if we have kids, he does not want his children to behave like nigerians. I was really confused about all this, Then recently i met an igbo guy online who is based in the UK, we have been talking for few months and now i have develop some feelings for him. He says he wants a future with me, even when he holidays in Nigeria he calls me from there. He says he will love to visit me when he is opportuned. But we have never met. However by talking to him i can see that we share similar values and he says he will return to nigeria in the near future, which is also my intention, I told my eriterian boyfriend about this guy and he is not happy. I dont know if i should give this new guy a chance and maybe it is for real or stick to my current boyfriend even though i am not sure it will last. I am also not sure if this igbo guy is serious either, i am really confused.

If he doesn’t want his kids (yours as well) to behave like Nigerians then that means he got issues with Nigerians and its up to u to accept that or not. But at least he is showing his true colour from day1, so u know what u are getting urself into.

If both of u can’t agree on common value then u are in for a rough rid.

Ife007:
Friend, Your paypal account will definitely be withdrawed if you meet these following options:

1. Access Your account without Nigerian IP

2. Verified Paypal

3. Have an Alertpay account {Verified}

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U are talking absolutely double dutch here, u can't withdraw money from paypal account from Nigeria. stop all this nonsense.

deleson:
Why not consult that man called DELESON,he's helped my pple mysev inclusive.He deals in all forms of biznez,recharge cards,scholarship,paypal,graphcard,online biznez etc.
D choice is yours.

How will anybbody assist u in getting paypal in Nigeria? Do u really  think that is posible?

expression:
How can i withdraw money from my paypal account here in Nigeria?
   Please guys i'm really desperate

I don't think u can withdraw money from ur paypal account in Nigeria(Almost imposible) like somebody said here, u can only buy stuf on ebay or any other website that accepts paypal and pay with it,  BUT i'm not sure they will send it to Nigeria, many seller don't post to Nigeria. THANKS 419ners.

[quote author=amebo no1. link=topic=274823.msg3901970#msg3901970 date=1242919118]where is that justdumbwise, eina abi hymen, and co, let them come and read this

i like it when a man says the truth, say it as it is



@TOH

men are cheats, like tpiah said na today, he can easiily take it off if he is expecting someone else

he might also be dating only her, but we never know, d dude might be managing her until he hets a better deal[/quote]men are cheats and women like u are?

[quote author=amebo no1. link=topic=274823.msg3901845#msg3901845 date=1242917895]go and check your HIV status too, who knows one of those orange sellers would have freely given it to you[/quote]Don't worry about that, as long as i stay away from pple like u then i will be fine and live longer

[quote author=TOPE2000! link=topic=274823.msg3901825#msg3901825 date=1242917769]Non-sense and jagbajantis
It is WRONG. . . period[/quote]Judging by the pic on ur profile, i don't think are u that morally upright

[quote author=amebo no1. link=topic=274823.msg3901783#msg3901783 date=1242917458]keep trying, try harder, you might make a little sense


dont mind them, 2 months she don dey sleep for the man house, come sef, where are her parents [/quote]Fear this religious minitant

sistawoman:
He did not ask her to move in. I dont know where some of you are getting that from.

He told her it would be ok to leave some belongings there, two very distinctively different things.

Say that to amebo no1. She read it upside down

Nezed:
he is going to do juju with ur clothes oh




hahaaahaaaaaaaaaaaaa

Another plonker

sistawoman:
I dont think it means she is his LovePeddler.

I actually think it means the he is really feeling her. And instead of her lugging her things back and forth he is making room in his home for her.

He wants her to feel comfortable in his space with him. This is a big deal for guys a really big deal.

I would leave an outfit or two but not much more than that. You want to be careful not to leave too much too soon because then he might think that ur moving in.

Awwwwwwww i remember new love. Girl that dude is really digging you. . . yea let that silly laugh out now, no one is looking.

Couldn't agree with u more

[quote author=amebo no1. link=topic=274823.msg3901471#msg3901471 date=1242914559]I will take you serious when you start making sense[/quote]Rubbish

[quote author=amebo no1. link=topic=274823.msg3901348#msg3901348 date=1242913461]meaning?[/quote]Meaning u don't know what u are going on about, every rela/ship is not the same. asking her to leave his cloths does not mean moving in. To many rela/ship, 2 months is a long time, so asking her indirectly to move in after 2months does not mean he is irresponsible

[quote author=amebo no1. link=topic=274823.msg3901224#msg3901224 date=1242912298]said who?

No responsible man will tell a girl indirectly to come and live with him, two months into their relationship, infact a lot of them men will call her a LovePeddler for being that loose(sleeping in his house , when the relationship is only 2 months old)


You think this man(prolly) wont leave her at the end for a more disciplined girl dat gave him a tough time

men r not fools, they are good at comparing[/quote]u are speaking double dutch.

cerry:
my ex was into scams 419 and i knew it even though i never told him i knew. See I am a christian i just prayed that God would change his heart . As time went on he broke my heart and dumped me it happens no big deal , but that not the case i am married now and happy but i know some information about him my (EX) that could keep him out of jail as his playing with fire and if he doesn't slow done he my EX will get caught and go to jail for a long time. Should i tell him that the police are on to him. Risking major issues/ or lying to my husband my everything, or should i just leave him to the hands of God as it not my place any more and he know what risks a involved. Is just that he is just 28 years old and has a young daughter.

pls help advice,

Just make sure that ur address or name was not involved with the scam when u were together. If u know that u have not been involved in the crime previously then stay off and wish him luck.

mama good:
Pls i want to know.
ls it lady-like to tell your man the styles u love most (i mean love making)

Guys how will you feel if u lady says she didnt get d best of u n tells u  how best to satisfy her

Pls i need to hear from u all.

One love

Yes its, many yrs ago, my ex thought me where the right spot is and what drives her insane in bed. she was open abt it and our sex life was gr8 then. so nothin wrong in that

downwide:
on 9th of may 2009 my girl came to my house and we are togather unit thurday i do i have a fuel and went to pay fuel for my gen set and my way coming back home i met my girl in my room make love with some body else that she told me that he is friend. Pls people what can do

Move on with ur life, a cheat is a cheat, is not just abt ur performance in bed, cheats have more than enough silly excuses to cheat. Never get worked out about it. Just make sure u have not being cheating on her as well.