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nadia_SA: Yes nau

See her mouth.

Mathematically the probability of having a SS is 25% per pregnancy. This is real life dear and sometimes its just not what you expect(A times life defiles logic, your first four kids may not even be SS, but also your first two kids may be SS).

Think through this, don't be blinded by love, do you really want to got through the pain of having a kid(s) with SS, think about the pain and anguish the baby will also go through.

Except you want to adopt, I will strongly advise against it.

One thing I have come to find out that love is not enough in marriage.
You know the kind of woman you NEED (genotype wise). Why set yourself up for something else? Why not get what you want? Why pretend to make someone fit what she is not? It doesn't mean you don't love her. It means you make a choice and say yes or no, because you love yourself also.

This is life and you make choices, and you are responsible for your choices.

Godson201333: So if i like sex should i marry a protitute??

I'm afraid you are in the best position to answer that question.

Homguy: Lol...She said so the next day. But good sex is just too shallow as a basis for falling in love.

EOD.

Popowaa: I rather have casual sex with a stranger than with someone i knw.See the way after banging her u are dissing her.

I'm a stranger dear, but after banging you, I'm sure we will become couples.

Daniel swore he trusted victor with every part of his heart because their friendship had gone through the test of time

This was the greatest mistake he ever made, trusting his so called best friend. I have never had an 100% trust for anyone. I believe people are human and are liable to make mistakes (though the mistakes may be costly at times).

Bringing a man into the same home with my wife is a NO for me, it only takes one moment of emotional vulnerability for a woman to fall and blackmails could come in afterwards, hence the need for both of them to continue with their sexual attrocities.

Would you say Daniel went too far?

He didn't go too far, bearing in mind he had 100% trust in them. That's why it's advisable to make provision for huma errors so that when it happens you won't be totally hurt.
I reme,ber a thread that was opened in the romance section recently that had to do with trusting one's spouse/girlfriend with one's best friend. I remeber I clearly stated that I can never trust my partner with my best friend. But some other people came out to say they have complete trust in them, when you have complete trust in people, when they make errors you are bound to do crazy things.

It's only logical that anyone in his shoes would have been hurt, even a robot, but the less trust you have in people, the safer and better for you. Once there is provison for hum errors, when the errors does happen you move on with your life.

As it stands, he is also in trouble because the police will haunt him. He could just have walked away and saved himself from the mess he is in now.

Wat I dont knw is am I wrong by backing out?, or am I wrong by expressing my feelings?.wia did I go wrong? Or is she in a relationship and dats y she is doing dis, but b4 I asked her out I made sure she tells me shes not...............dis love issue is just totally wierd, d fact is dat I cant see my sef crushing on any oda grl except her.

Op, I can identify with you, I was once in your shoes.
Let me tell you a story.

When I was in year 1, I saw this beautiful chick (not like she is that beautiful self, I have seen far better girls in my 5 years in the university, I was just blinded then, when I was a kid, I crushed and loved like a kid, but now that I'm a man I put away childish crush/love).

We were getting close and I took the signals wrongly, infact she whined me to telling her I loved her. That was the beginning of our enemity. We were classmates and it did affect even other memebers of the class when we had group stuffs to do, so we try as much as possible to ensure we aren't really grouped together.

I crushed on her for 3 good years, It even affected my results because I couldn't concentrate in class, but she was busy doing exploits in hers. I told myself I would never fall in love with someone else, that was the most stupi.d decision I made because it meant I had to shut other girls out.

But slowly in year three; I fell for someone else and that was the beginning of my break through with girls.

To cut the long story short, when we got to year 5 we became good/close friends. But ofcourse I already moved on, I was with someone better.

Now the morale of my story is simple, change that loser mindset that you will never crush/love someone else. It's not good for your health at all. Love comes to those who have been hurt but still choose to love again.

Apparently, you did absolutely nothing wrong in expressing how you felt (the worst scenario is never to express one's feeling at all, because you will never know where you stand and you won't be able to move on). The only erro you made was expecting her to feel thesame about you. You are just being selfish, there are girls that are interested in you that you just don't feel anything for them, likewise that's how she feels about you. You hurt those girls by not giving them your attention likewise she is hurting you too (what goes around comes aroind). It's not your fault and it's not her fault, that's just the way nature is, but the beauty of nature is just that there will be someone you will love that will love you back just the way you are.

About backing off, that's the best thing you can do. Even if she is going to feel any attraction for you, you have to certainly back off, the more you pester her, the more irritated she gets and the farther your relationship with her. I'm not sure she will ever love you the way you feel, but I can't ignore the possibility, but you have to just let her be for now. I know it's hard, but going crazy over a girl doesn't trigger her own attraction towards you, if she is not attracted, then she is not and there is little you can do about that.

I'll advise you move with other girls, have a lot of friends that are girls that you talk with, that way you will reduce the concentration you have on her and channel it to to other girls. I won't advise you go for a relationship because you still need to grow up emotionally. The day you don't need to be in a relationship to be happy/successful is the day you grow. For now work on you academic goals, read books that will build you up, go on date with yourself, hang out with others, avoid listening to slow music (it kills faster, it makes you feel depress and imagine crazy dreams about her that will never happen in your lifetime).

If you are successful, girls will troop after you, so the smartest thing thus is to chase excellence in all you do (your clothing, academics, room, etc, always ensure it depicts excellence).

Obviously, it's not the girls fault, you just have to undertand she isn't attracted to you in the romantic way you want.

Never forget, you were born without her, there are hundreds of girls like her and there are even thousands that are far better.

Apparently everyone on this thread have suggested you let her be, that she is not into you and I quite agree in all totality with them. There are better girls, just hang out with more girls, at the top, it only gets better (before her there was a girl you thought was the best, likewise after her there will be girls that are better). Just work on being a success in everything you do (academics to career).

pc guru: Ok....so what's the lesson here ?

If you like s3x, marry someone who does.
If you don't like s3x, marry someone who doesn't.

In essence it's all about knowing your s3xual drive and going for someone with similar drive.

4. You’re too good to me/too nice/too smart/you deserve better. (Yes, you do.)

This is my favorite anthem when I intend to initiate a break up.

I have to massage her ego, so she can atleast feel good about herself.

Kingslaw: op you are a big lier mohamed,how many dictionary have you check? I guest you just put up this question for joke because my dictionary which am not gonna meansion the name for some reason,has the answers.
Finish= has to do with eatable things,something which after grounding(eating)is never gonna comeback to it formal stage.or reapear on your plate.
Complete=has to do with task(asignment,rebranding)something that after done working on it is only gonna change its look,appearance(change from its formal stage to a newer version). For a example : cassava.

I'm sure you didn't read the OP's post, you probbably just saw the heading and decided to jump into the thread.

Mynd_44: ^^
Stop being so serious, it is a big joke

I'm sure he didn't read the post.

xynerise: . They have different spellings

Lol.
One begins with C the other begins with F.
One ends with D, the other ends with E.

I can go on and on with the alphabetical arrangement.

He should just get another bulding, move his own nuclear family there and leave the mothers alone (WWE survival series )

On a more serious note, it's better if both mothers leave.

But since He is so much interested, he could also poison them both (that shouldn't be taken seriously, he may never know peace due to the guilt of killing alone).

If she is not ready to improve on her archaic behaviour, move on.

You know the picture you have of your ideal girl, just go for it, never settle fot less (that's the best way to avoid irritation).

Personally for me, I can't settle for an archaic girl, I don't care how beautiful you are (we don't need another Patience Goodluck).

It's more of a choice/decision.

spongeback: Expensive gifts turn me on

What's your definition of expensive (dollar).

Mynd_44: That has already being argued. Nairaland is trying to create a situation where people like posts because they think the posts are genuinely good and not because they want the attention of the poster.

You will agree that is you had a crush on someone and you wanted attention, you could just go on a "liking spree" not minding if the post makes sense or not but if the person who likes a post remains anonymous, people will like only because they find that post likable and nothing else

liking spree.

It’s been Rumored that the drop dead gorgeous daughter

See hype. Gorgeous my arss. She better thank God her father was rich, if not she will be worse.

Shollypopz: Busty does not mean fat. There are a lot of busty skinny women

Don't mind me, I meant fat rather than busty jare. I naturally don't like skinny girls no matter how big their bust is . Thick chubby/fat girls with a big bust goes down well with me.

Shollypopz: @K2039: Your girl is fatter??!! sheesh

Do the right thing and lose weight, self confidence will come!

Seriously, I prefer a fat girl to a skinny girl, any day, any time. BBW rocks.

omo1 doll: oni shina oshi

seedord247: No offence... Check your comment again

ogugua88: 2. Don't abuse, bully, deliberately insult/provoke, fight, or wish harm to any Nairaland member.

Let the ban begin, from page 1. Ignorance is not an excuse. In fact I suggest the mods ban their IP addresses. In fact I will make it easier, I will report them, I just need an assurance that the minimum ban will be till 2039.

To those that will be banned, serve your ban in peace, see you at the end of your ban as ex-convict

sweetguy10: All these epistle for a fat bloated junk eating f#@K faced biatch simply tell her to hit the gym

Apparently, I told her that already. But it's pointless if she hits the gym without having a healthy self esteem about her body. It becomes pointless because as she begins to shed weight, she may likely remain fat (though it becomes relative) and she has to feel good about that, even if she achieves what Monique achieved, it's not like it's going to happen over night, ultimately she has to feel good about her self each step she takes. It's her confidence about herself that will likely attract her to a guy.

Besides it may not be so much of her fault, maybe it's hereditary and anyone of us could have been in her position if that's the case.

Texas.Cowgirl:
Niceeeeeee

Thank you.

Idowuogbo: Gbayi! Ur head is dia! Chop it

Na you put the head there na

biggirloya2: this is me.

On a more serious/honest note, you are not really that big. My girl friend is bigger than you and I love her die. Basically I don't care so much about how fat she is as long as she is working on it herself and also working on making herself a better woman (a great wife and mother), that's all that matters. I guess there are men like me that do not care so much about how busty a lady is, all that matters is that she is presentable and has a beautiful face.


Besides, in spite of the fact that my babe was even fat sef, she made me see hell before she said yes. My point, have a healthy self esteem, feel good about yourself, carry yourself with class, be proud about your stature because a man will only treat you the way you treat yourself. If you don't feel proud about your stature, why should I.

Ultimately, there are couple of people who will consider you attractive, who will tell you that you are the most beautiful girl they have ever seen (that's just how nature is, it's balance). There is someone out there who will love you just the way you are, but you have to love yourself first, before he loves you.

You know one thing I have come to realize is that, mature men prefer to marry an asset as a wife. The question thus is this, what do you have to offer to the man who marries you?. How far are you working on yourself, career, goals, future etc. What endearing qualities do you possess (kind, honesty, humility etc). Essentially it all about being a great/good woman.

Just build yourself to that point, where you don't need to be in a relationship to be happy/successful.

I have a lot to say, but I have to go to bed.
In closing, You are beautiful (though I didn't see your face but your stature and curves are great), so stop the self deprecation, you don't need a pity party, it doesn't help at all, it will only make you depress, the more depress you are the lower your chances of finding that special someone.

I don't think that guy loves you because if he does he will create time for you, but I can't blame him, I terminated one of my former girl friends appointment for having a low self esteem about herself.

The only thing you can do is to get down to the gym (have a goal of the amount of pounds you want to shed in the coming weeks), diet (stop eating junks) and focus on being a better you (development all round, career and life generally).

The way you see yourself is the way others will see you, you are special dear, there is someone out there looking for you, but you have to be prepared for him too. What matters most is what is on the inside (your values).

Popowaa: After children and all the troubles that comes with marriage,u might be kissing her even after 10yrs but i can bet u it wont be every single day

We could just get married so as to prove my point and yours.

Popowaa: I will be kissing my husband even when all his teeth fall out.

No go think am at all say my teeth go fall o, if I hear?.

Sammiel: My dear don't listen to them, cos what you did is the right thing since there was no any agreement for a bleep between you both. Just incase you need a christian brother to give you guiding and couselling, I'm very much available and bleeping is not my way of life except if the holy spirit should instruct both of us to do so. Remain blessed in his vineyard.

Orisirisi, everybody dey advertise there product. Mtchew

Shollypopz: The op is just an attention seeker

I just realized it. It's clearly obvious from the incoherency in her posts.

grandlexuz: You know seeing a girl once in a week over the space of ten years is totally different to seeing, sleeping and living with a girl in the same house for just a year..

I certainly won't go to work without getting a kiss from my wife (if I don't then I must get one on our bed, it's going to be an hait for both of us), if she doesn't someone else will.

grandlexuz: Have you been able to kiss same girl everyday for four years?

Whenever she is available, Yes.