₦airaland Forum

Ms_Steph: @190 gals who want to date for money don't go after boys they go after men. Anyways I always advice a gal not to date only 1 guy cos men are so unpredictable. Me I have learnt my lessons and love is no longer in my dictionary if am dating a guy nd u start misbehaving I will leave ur sorry a.zz time waits for no1

Eyinojuoluwa1: hmmm, hers was very simple, me and my ex dated for close to 2 yrs, we met wen i was abt to finish my youth service, he was still in search of job den, as grace will ve it i got job 8 months after my service. i was responsible for his well being, from January till August, wen he got his job. he started behaving funny, wen i couldnt take it, i asked him wat d issue was, hmmmmm! at first he said he did not noticed any change in his behaviours. just 2 weeks ago, he called me and said "he went to pray abt us and they said we cant be man and wife". i asked him how long he has known, he said its has bin long, but he just couldnt say it.

thank God for my job, i would ve bin totally out of place, but i must be strong.
some guys are very terrible. but i believe good guys still exist and my own will locate me in Gods time.

mz mariah: seriously the guy was very unfair. Relationship is not all about money.when I was with my ex I was doing the spending. Relationship is above money. Understanding matters. I still feel what the guy did is very bad.money or no money and God will jurdge him.she should just try move on although its not easy

obelisk: Rebounded mercilessly with multiple partners both concurrently and consecutively until the pain left and I got my heart and conscience back.

Mynd_44: The truth is that people can't be trusted to remain the same and a lot of em pretend during courtship.

Thank God for the people who invented divorce

ajayikayod: Bro, u cant be on d fence. Its either it works or it doesnt.
Whr do u stand.

k2039: [color=soyouquotedme][b]It's complicated.

Prayer works and prayer also does not work.

If I have to pray for success, I must be certain to work towards the attainment of that success or else fail by default no matter the prayer.

Some prayers are stupi.d and pointless. Example if I pray for God to give me 40million by the end of the year(except I kidnap Finance ministers mother )

The bible talks about praying according to God's will, I will add you must also be willing to work in the will and channel your effort to the attainment of the will or the prayer is just pointless.

Only in rare cases does prayer work without effort from the praying indivdual, Divine Intervention.

For the president, he just being plain silly, he doesn't want to take full responsibility for his actions hence his boycourt is prayer.
The earlier he understand his effort towards making Nigeria better is all that matters, not necessarily prayer, he needs to start using his brain and stop expecting God to come down from heaven to help because it won't happen.

This is more reason I love athiest although I know they are on the wrong part and non of them should quote me. An athiest takes full responsible for his life, actions and decisions, he believes if you have to get something, work towards it but in religion we have decided to put everything on God and devil[/b] [/color]

Mynd_44: Why fear when I can always opt out?

notinmege: May God Almighty pour his grace upon you, strengthens you and bless you with a peaceful marriage simply because of your truthfulness, Amen!

Anonymous Heart: Where does the Bible say so?

Secret_Dreams: It depends on your frame of mind, I don't think there's anyway you can be kissing and romancing someone you aren't married to with a clean mind, lust will find a way to creep in. Jesus said if we think it, we have done it.

Policewoman: It is a sin of fornication because all your erotic points are stimulated.

The bible says if u look at a woman lustfully you have committed adultery or fornication already.

Diamondwriter: fiftly,hw old are you?

bellong: Contrary to popular and erroneous belief about Love, Love is not a feeling or emotions. It is a decision. For the girl to at least get your attention in asking her out, it is obvious there is an evidence of attraction to her. What you need do is to study her and see if you can live with her character and attitude. Assess her overall qualities and weigh what you can live with and what you can't. If your assessment qualifies for what you can live with for the rest of your life, then you can start working on yourself to be the ideal husband to her. With time, you will get to like and develop the feelings missing now.



Yes, I agree that you have a better job that can at least cater for your needs before marrying the girl. I am not saying you have to wait to get a high paying job but one that the pay is decent enough to cater for your household. Meanwhile, it doesn't stop you from building on the relationship.



Comparing themselves by themselves, they are not wise. One disservice we do to ourselves is to compare ourselves with others. Your friends had the means for an elaborate wedding, you do not have the same circumstance and so cannot operate under the same condition. Whenever you are ready for the marriage, do it according to what you can afford. Marriage itself starts after the owanbe ceremony, infact I do not count as too important the celebration celebrated by many.



What I see here is not confusion but an upsurge of hormones doing the thinking for you. Marriage is important but it is not done because others are doing or because I am getting old. You have to be matured in all areas viz-a-viz emotional, financial, anger management to mention a few.
Bro, sit yourself down and think of what you want from life. Map out strategy on how you aim to accomplish it. Look back on where you have made serious mistakes that have affected your progress and make correction for future purpose. Draw out a vision you intend to run with and stick to it with prayers.
Start working on becoming the ideal husband for your wife by reading good books and understudying successful homes. Take time also to identify what you want in a woman and the characteristics you will want to see (realistic expectations). When you see them in a lady, with time your attraction will become strong.

Finally, you need to let this sink into your heart that your life should not be compared with any. Some are early starters while some are late starters. What matters is for you to understand the purpose you are living for and run with it. Write the vision and make it plain upon the tables. The law of overtaking is a universal law. You are in no competition with anybody, savour your challenges and let them mould you to become a better person to your family and society at large. I pray that God settle you and grant you peace round about.

ledafaze: First of all, bend down low....

Get to love the elastic things as that will remove the kids out of the equation... then, think of it as what God hates most... Its Adultery!

Mynd_44: I have none.

ledafaze: That is something that is so sure... Someone must die first! or together... it is inevitable but our prayer is that the Lord should grant us long life

pasqal09: Fear of marrying an unfaithful person, its one tin to cheat in a relationship, its another in to cheat in marriage. If I'm cheated on in marriage, I'm might commit mother.
Also, fear of the enormous responsiblities of maintaining a family, bills, school feesa.... And shit. I see what my uncle goes thru and its SCARY!!!

Shaw007: Dude!! . . Ur frigging shallow minded!!!!

danny301: Guy, your sense of reasoning and value system is terribly bad... What is wrong with someone working as a security man in a bank?.. Is he not receiving pay?... Do you prefer a rich criminal coming for your sister?....Dude, know that there is dignity in labour... If every graduate in Nigeria has a job that pays him or her the equivalent of what a security man in the bank receives , people would not be complaining of unemployment in this country as they complain today. Your sister has found happiness, and it doesn't matter whether, the man is working as a security man or as CEO, what matters is that he is responsible. Everybody must not start big in life. Its not a 'crime' to start small, what is a bad is remaining small... You need a shift in your paradigm, because its people like you that celebrate people with ill-gotten wealth and despise legitimate and honest low income earners , which is the major problem of Nigeria, because we succeeded in creating the impression that the low or middle-income earner is a nobody in the society, so everybody wants to be a high-come earner,either by hook or by crook and tomorrow will turn around and say Nigeria is bad.

johnwizey: U quoted all dat to say 'K'. Check my signature, u are one of dose dat are mad but nt roaming

Afam4eva:

This is Funny as Hell. Do Nigerians still behave like this?

mindtricks: Might be mere coincidence but, really weighty words, enough for all to pause and ponder.

Mystic Vibe: Interesting topic. I have been attracted to someone before, it was for a long time - about 3 years. I understood the feeling wasn't mutual so I moved on...it was hard but it became easier when I put myself in his shoes. And when I moved away the change of scenery helped. Point is, you cant force anyone to love you. If everyone accepted this basic truth the world would have less pain.

Eeja Nla01: K2039 has been impressive in the thread so far ,
He's been handling the mieldfield of this thread like Arterta and distributing passes(advises) like Xavi.

@topic Even God wants us to love our neighbours like ourselves and not MORE THAN OURSELVES,y kill myself over some1 that dosent love me in return.

sunny t: Why wud u love someone who dosnt love u in return or someone who belong to anoda person?

Its d most stupid tin any livingthing will eva do. Live is too short to waste ur time crying ova d height of mt. everest.

kayClt: Its a normal tin,u don't always eat ur cake n hv it,if u get rejected,take a walk bck to th river n throw ur net,U will catch another big fish.

usermane: Hmmh,story of my life. But overall,u girls have it easier,u have other guys texting,showering you with praises and flowers,you have other guys to take his place in your heart. If i tell u my unrequited love story, u will understand my opinion better. Sometime ago, you loved someone who was a friend but madly in love with another guy who treat her badly,cheating on her,yet she would choose him anytime,anywhere over u. Yet,u can do nothing. Hoping and praying that one day,u will be considered more than a friend, you will be hers and the future will be the happiest man on the earth, but year after year of day dreaming, it only get worse. U have no better option than to go back to your bedroom and cry yourself to sleep because love in most cases isn't sweet. It is bitter. Because one day,you had to say 'bye',you had to watch helplessly as the only girl very dear to your heart had to finally move on, the girl of your dreams for 5 yrs is finally gone and your heart is completely shattered. 5 good years of your life wasted,5 years of rejection and dejection, an half decade of your existence destroyed. U feel broken, you lost in the end big time and that won't change. Now, you v lost everything, the dream, the hope, the friendship, did i say everything? U clearly are alone in this whole earth, despite all the people around. U 've bcome a downtrodden loner.

Wu Zetian: I remember when I was a sophomore, I used to crush on this guy called Ryan. He is an Alpha Phi Alpha, Alphas are just cool, period! I'm sure if I post a picture, the ladies would understand the torture I was passing true.

Fortunately or maybe unfortunately for me, we registered to the same class spring semester. He was a senior when I was a sophomore.
Very early into the semester like 2nd day of classes when most people haven't bought their text books, he came to sit down on a chair beside me. I was already dying inside, stealing glances @ the god beside me. My professor then made reference to something in the textbook.

I don't understand the liver I chopped that day, I mumbled something and made gesture to my textbook. He moved closer and I shifted the textbook a little so we could share. Na so liver fail me oo.
My people, I could not move as in, I think I stopped breathing. I just focused my gaze on my professor, I was scared to move a limb. I just sat down glued to my chair, scared to breathe or even cough. I don't think I have ever been so tensed in my life. When the class was over and he said, "thank you", I couldn't say a word. He said it like thrice, I just nodded and focused on putting my textbook in my backpack.
I couldn't look @ him. (No way, he would see right through my melting heart) I was shaking inside, trying to recover and this mofo was trying to hv small talk KAI! I hv suffered!

I swear when he dropped the class, I was happy ehn, having such hotness around was torture.

xoctic: that book is for deception, why nt advice them 2 play calm, if the guy notices you he ll certainly come 4 u. All u av 2 do is let ur sef been seen

El Guapo: [color=#0066ff]Havent we grown past this bullcrap?

Dying and crushing inside while the other mate goes around giving his/her partner a hot Bj service!

Likes repels, you alone dont just have to store up those loves - there should be a 'link' that connects the both of you.

If he/she doesnt finds the need to establish a mutual relationship with you or isnt fond of you, then chances that your proposal would be declined spans from river nile to the atlantics [/color]

wandeykul: I'm a victim...in my case,we were alredy dating n it lasted 4yrs buh I was d 1 loving more,.ds month,he acts gud,nxt month,na anoda thin,I do most of d callin,text etc...ladies,we realy nid to knw our worth smtimes,I'm in anoda raltionshp nw where d luv is mutual on same level,I v learnt my lessons tho

Linqsz: here z ma story.
i fell in love wit a girl. I approached her,we talked for a while an she gave me her number....we started talking on phone buh she has never called me b4,so I do all d calling ...problem started when I told her my feelings for her...she hardly pick her calls,she won't flash after seeing my missed calls,she doesn't reply ma txt,msgs on whatsapp and Facebook ....
NAIRALANDERS,make I still dey try?

mayten30: guy when u truly love someone u will put them first,self love na wash sometimes,are u a christian?did u see what jesus did in the bible?he gave his life for you and I,didn't he think about self love?did you see that he put other party ahead of himself?and we are the other party