pocohantas: 10yrs ban? Did you try to hack NL? Lol!
The man should come share tips OP. Truly they will get a hang of it with time. Including the OP.
I got banned because I posted my “torrro” pic to annoy Tpia. Just to prove I was female.
Our father of 5 is not having it easy o. Grey hair has covered his whole body. He might start selling “ body parts” to raise money soon. His first child is only 13!
My dad was also a single parent. But my mom supported all the way. We lacked nothing. My dad suffered gaaaaaan. Finally died at 66. The stress kills men faster.
pocohantas: True, nobody can do it alone. The difference is, women do not mock single fathers or stigmatise the kids raised by a single father of any form.
I am just seeing this is Kanwulia. Happy new year, Ma. I saw "K" and thought it was someone else. Nice to see you again.
Thanks Ms P. Good to see you too. This ID was banned for 10 years. It just re-surfaced with password saved. Thank my lucky stars I never changed devices.
You know our Nigerian society remains anti-women. One of our family helper’s wife just left him to raise 5 children by himself. The wife decided she was done with the marriage and preferred “women companionship”! The man is doing a wonderful job. With more men becoming single parents, they will learn to be respectful. Give them time.
pocohantas: 18days ago he said his wife leaving is not an issue, because he has been the one taking care of the children. I wonder how that is possible given he didn't know what to do when the last child was sick.
This remains a major issue in many marriages. Men trivialise the emotional, physical, mental, and spiritual labour women bring in. Some while contributing financially. If these kids were with the woman, they will still mock her for being a single mother and say she cannot raise quality kids. But single fathers do not actively raise the kids. They still depend on the female community (mother, sister, another wife) around them to do the raising.
Just like the women rely on uncles, brothers and boyfriends to assist. No one can raise children single-handily. You must get help. Ned Nwoko is raising his children himself abi? Very easy for men and women to mock single mothers ke, till they on the receiving end.
Now you know how it feels when women are abandoned by men to raise children by themselves. Please enjoy “single fatherhood” jare. What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.
shinejackie: @kanwulia, you have a strong personality, you are not a follow-follow kind of lady, l don't think you are crazy nor have mental issues, you say things the way you see them irrespective of whose horse is gored, you mean what you say and you say what you mean, you are not a hypocrite and you are ready to stand and die by what you believe, even if the whole world says other wise............
Thank you! I think I agree with you 100%! I hate to lie to myself!
Now, are these the personality traits of a 'crazy person'?
freecocoa: As in seriously sometimes I just want to slap her, Tpia has no life outside NL I'm sure, this one is the grandma I think .
Well. . . I usually accord people the same level of courtesy I would love extended to me. The "he or she" Tpia personas(or any others on or off NL) do not bother me. . . really. People on or offline can only bother you if you really make them a 'priority' in your life.
I am to busy to give a quarter of a DAMN!
I do have a PEACEFUL AND BEAUTIFUL life. . .and NL can only be for sole 'entertainment value'. . . free entertainment! So who cares?
When you start to bother about what ENTITIES OR NON-ENTITIES THINK. . . .Your self-esteem begins a journey of DEATH!
freecocoa: Kanwulia, me thinks you just have too much guts is all which can be good and bad at the same time, I won't call you crazy like mentally but you can be weird, somewhat strange and awesome at the same time.
I used to wonder if there was something wrong with you the first time I met you on here but overtime, I understood it better, ofcourse I don't agree with how you see everything but I actually admire you.
Thank you for writing candidly. Most people do not understand me when they first meet me. But getting to know me is a different ball game entirely.
My philosophy in life has always been 'live and let live'. . . not live and let die.
Yes! I have guts. My employers will be the first to tell you that. I TELL THEM STRAIGHT TO THEIR FACES. . . And they can't stand that from a 'nigger-african-gal'! I don't mince words and fear is not in my dictionary(except with violence of course)
You are right. We do not always have to agree. . . or we would all be alike. Is being 'free-spirited' the same as being crazy?
There are 2 jobs I can NEVER DO IN THIS WORLD. . . Which involves deceiving YOURSELF AND OTHERS!
1. A POLITICIAN 2. A DIPLOMAT
Do I call them crazy? Heck no! Whatever floats a personal conscience. . . IF YOU CAN SLEEP WELL AT NIGHT! I just don't like 'inhibitions' based on religion or tradition.
tpia6: Ma'am, the picture of your toto annoys me, that's all.
If you like post pictures of yourself or your slaves being poked in your vaginas by twenty to fifty doctors as a sick fantasy, that is your own problem.
Your witchcraft ends the minute Jesus gets involved- your source dries up and you fly away before you get flown away.
Is that understood?
Were you the only one annoyed by it? I don't think 'Jesus' will be flattered to see his name on your fingers! We are now in the realm of 'witchcraft' abi?
tpia6: so posting a very ugly picture of your private parts on nairaland is not crazy, but me posting very relevant and well thought out, civil responses to any topic here, is.
cronyism, bad belle and kissass-ism no go kill una.
una nor dey fear God!
too bad.
Would you have preferred a 'pretty picture' of my private part on NL your royal highness? Is this your NL a 'holy ground'?
Your are posting "very relevant and well thought out, civil responses to any topic" WHERE?
tpia6: Madam, you posted your toto pictures wide for all to see, perhaps you are not getting any from your "husband", I don't know. What I do know is the concept of 'profile picture' was not created so people can view your toto when they have their own and can check it in the mirror.
I simply posted the photos to help you understand you do not hold a monopoly on vaginas, kapish? Other people are putting their vaginas to better use than yours.
You might need to go consult some more with your (sick) advisers on how you can wriggle out of the quandary you dug yourself into.
Do you actually call that a 'toto picture'? All I showed was a 'LABIABIA'! You are really from 'a BUSH'
This is my toto picture! If you really wanted to show you could play 'totopoly'. . . YOU WOULD HAVE POSTED YOURS, instead of uploading some "IJEBU BIOLOGY" pictures. You are soooooooooooooooo irritating!
I will restrain myself from exchanging words with YOU or any OTHER on this thread! Not my agenda for the rest of the year!
DukeNija: Well I think you are an intelligent woman with a lot of experience both with family and the corporate world, and many of your contributions on this section have been invaluable. But you need to check it, cos there's a thin and weak veil protecting you from going overboard and throwing caution to the wind which most people consider abnormal. But to you, its just a no holds barred expression. Maybe you need to see a therapist to help you manage and curtail your excesses, and rebuild or strengthen your values. But I don't think you are kray kray, well maybe just a little.
Thank you for your contribution. Very condescending I must say. Why would I want to adhere to YOUR STANDARDS. . . .? Of what use would your recommendations be to me or the world at large?
A boring life for 'NL VICTORIANS' could never appeal to me. . . .
Going over-board? What horizon?
I am a very passionate being and like I told one of my bosses last month. . .
"I MAKE NO APOLOGIES TO MY PERSONALITY TYPE. If you don't like it. . . you may need to fire me and get another employee."
I think she is working on it. . . but has had no excuse. . .YET! I wish her all the best of luck!
I think the problem with some of YOU, is that you like to kiss azzzes to COMFORM. . .because your life depended on it! Some of us. . .can never apprentice to such a 'workshop' of azze-kissing!
No matter how clean. . . I JUST CAN'T DO IT! You will just have to deal with it. . . till you don't have to! Simple!
pDude: So na now you dey know say you get mental problem?
Mu ha ha ha ha!
Callotti the Callo, nne you head don nock nor be today
The rules of THIS THREAD is that YOU MUST HAVE PROOF! I did not say I had 'mental problems'! How can I help 'some of you' IF YOU DO NOT KNOW THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN 'ACTING CRAZY' AND 'BEING CRAZY'!
Mental problems? Never had o. Upgrade your 'sensibilities'. . . SIMPLE!
tpia6: ma'am, you can expose your private parts in sexuality section, its very possible you will be let alone there.
this is not a question of norm or no norm, you have a product you want to hawk or sell, why not do it in the right place instead of blaming the world for your poor reception?
nobody said you should not post your toto pictures, but just do it where it will be appreciated,( your lovers can follow you there).
what you are attempting in the name of sexual freedom and libertarianism, should just be done in the area marked out for it, dont know why this is such a big problem for some of you.
I keep trying to tell you my repudiated profile picture has LITTLE to do with this thread. I understand that such images may cause some or LOTS OF GRIEF for[size=20pt] NL, LEGENDARY PSYCHO-PURITANS[/size] personas like yourself. You have made your ONE POINT. . . .which I still DO NOT GET! Can you please move on?
The so-called 'toto' pictures where in my "PRIVATES DOMAIN'. . . .AKA DP OR PD! You had no business going there.
coogar: crazy - not in an insulting way..... it's more like a shock.
Eheeeeen!
Now we are talking. That is exactly what I was thinking. I always knew you were 'super smart' even under that facade! I think you are the only one who has come close to the real 'issue'!
This means that 'most people' need to repair their shock absorbers. . . .especially, if they have outlived the 'warrantee' of their manufacturers. A.K.A. . . . God or Satan!
kandiikane: Lol, there are huge differences between someone that does not conform to the norm, a "deviant" and someone who has a few screws loose. Your pic speaks a lot of volumes since Google didn't come up with any other searches, I am certain that is you. I won't be surprised if you see things or have conversations and disagreements with "people" in your head about who should "show" each day. You can always go for a medical check up and know for sure because so many Africans are crazy and don't know they are.
Hmmmmm!
Soooooo, people who pose n00de ARE ALL CRAZY, and all need to go for 'medical check-up'? Going by your logic?
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