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Depending on their level of interest!
I started cooking at age 10!!!
Same goes for my kids!!! BOYS OR GIRLS!!!!

Sure they are!
And the MOST ROYAL PAIN IN THE AZZZZZZZZES TOO!

I NEVER think of them, till they show up!
Quite inconsequential NON-ENTITIES!

Only OUTSIDE Nigeria!
In NIGERIA, that would be the HEIGHT OF ALL INSULTS!!!!
Tufiakwaaaaaah!!!!!
What does a POOR, NIGERIAN-NIGGA know about LOVE?

Yes! It is possible to live with RESPECT, if not with love and harmony in a POLYGAMOUS HOME.
If the MULTIPLE-PARENT FAMILY STYLE PARTICIPANTS were CAPABLE OF LOVE BEFORE THEY HAD CHILDREN!
Polygamy or monogamy can MAR a loving spirit if it is A BITTER EXPERIENCE!
The children can ONLY get love if the parents ARE CAPABLE OF BEING LOVED AND LOVING IN RETURN!

If the children in your 'set-up' fight like cat and dogs, they learned from the parents!
YOUR SIBLINGS/STEP-SIBLINGS never had the right foundation of learning to live in love, peace and harmony!!!
THE LOVE PART IS SHEER PRETENSE!
That would not change even if YOUR LORD JESUS SHOWED UP AGAIN TO DIE FOR JUST YOUR FAMILY!!!!
It does not look like they are ready to live in peace as children. Children fight with each other in so-called monogamous families too!
The kind of fight makes a difference ONLY IF THEY LEARNED FROM THE PARENTS!
That would not change after your father dies! It only gets worse like the OJUKWU ROYAL FAMILY!!!!

Example:
On my father's side. . . . . My grand-father from EDO STATE NIGERIA had 30 kids++++ MAINLY BOYS!!!!
All the wives lived in ONE COMPOUND! THE ONLY PART OF NIGERIA HE DID NOT MARRY OR HAVE CHILDREN FROM IS EASTERN NIGERIA!!!! HALLELUJAH!!!! Some concubines ALSO HAD CHILDREN, but I COULD NEVER TELL THE DIFFERENCE GROWING UP!
I always looked forward to SPENDING the Christmas holidays in the village with ALL MY COUSINS and young UNCLES AND AUNTS!!! IT WAS FUN!!! Anytime we have reunions IT IS FUN, inside or outside NIGERIA!!!!

I NEVER KNEW WHAT WOMAN HAD WHAT CHILD. . . . Till I was waaaaaay in my teens! It was NEVER EVEN DISCUSSED!!!

On the other hand, my mother is from a STAUNCH, CATHOLIC MONOGAMOUS home WITH 9 SIBLINGS(5 girls and 4 boys) BORN TO A ONE-MAN ONE-WIFE, CATHOLIC-IGBOTIC, VILLAGE-PSEUDO-BIAFRAN-MINDED COUPLE from DELTA STATE, NIGERIA!!!! TUFIAAAAAAAKWA!!!!!! THEY FOUGHT ALL THE TIME, EVEN TILL TODAY!!! THEY PASSED THE SAME TRAITS TO THEIR CHILDREN TOO!!! Anytime they get together, THEY GOSSIP ABOUT EACH OTHER, QUARREL AND FIGHT OVER NOTHING. . . . WITH SERIOUS COMPETITION OVER NOTHING TOO!!!!!!! In or out of NIGERIA. . . . . I AVOID THEIR AZZZZZEZ LIKE DEATH!!!! THEY ARE SOOOOOOO IRRITATING!!!!


Bottom line?


PSYCHOTIC adults. . . . . . IN MONOGAMY, POLYGAMY OR WHATEVER. . . . ARE NEVER CAPABLE OF LOVING EVEN THEMSELVES!
So how can they love others or receive love? NEVER! Unless they ACCEPT AND CHANGE THEIR SELF-DESTRUCT WAYS AND MINDSETS!

The best they can do is SHYTE out children who MUST EMBARK ON A LIFE-LONG JOURNEY OF SELF-THERAPY. . . . In the quest of self-love OR REPEAT THE CYCLE OF EMOTIONAL AND SOCIAL ISOLATION, THEN PASS THE CURSE DOWN FROM GENERATION TO GENERATION!!! Many pastors and churches are waiting to make money off their azzzzes!

*so off tonight. . . off o the gym. . . to walk for ONE HOUR*

OP, YOU ARE THE SENDER OF THAT EMAIL! You sound like 90% of NAIRALANDERS who do not mind their religious-hypocritical bibnezez ON OR OFFLINE BECAUSE THEY ARE SUCH MISSSSSSERABLE SOULS WITHOUT AN OUNCE OF HAPPINESS IN THEIR LIVES!!! Pity!!!!

Here goes:

If you feel you did the right thing, you should not be HERE!
You should NEVER make apologies for doing the what you feel is right in your OWN MIND!
Your family already knew about your sister-in-law's runs, and so did your brother.

What I do not understand is WHY YOU DID WHAT YOU TOLD US YOU DID AFTER THE MARRIAGE!
Your brother and family members AND THE WOMAN you insulted have the right to be angry.
In your so-called acts of meddlesome-HEROICS, you only succeeded in portraying yourself as REAL SADIST!
It is interesting that not ONE family member is in your corner to sympathize with you.

You will remain an out-cast for the rest of your natural and spiritual life! SERVES YOU RIGHT!!!

Lessons learned! THE FACT THAT A WOMAN HAS HAS A LITANY OF FAILED RELATIONSHIPS DOES NOT MAKE HER A "HO"!
While searching for love, you can't really tell btw a good or bad FIT, until you get it right.

A woman gives her body and soul in search of love and happiness. She may encounter 1000 frogs before she finally meets her prince!

This woman you scorned may just have met that ONE PIECE to solving her emotional jig-saw puzzle, AND YOU HAVE RUINED THAT!

Chances are: YOUR BROTHER ALREADY KNEW!!! Do yourself a huge favor. . . . ENROLL IN SOME SELF-HELP THERAPY CLASSES ON HOW TO LEARN TO MIND YOUR PHOCKING BUSINESS.

You deserve some happiness in your life, or you will remain an EMBITTERED, SOCIAL-OUTCAST FOR THE REST OF YOUR MATERIAL AND SPIRITUAL LIFE!!!!

By the way. . . . ONCE AGAIN. . . . .SERVES YOU RRRRRRRRRIGHT!!!!!

Ohibenemma: You are right...to an extent. Marriage, like every other venture works with principles. Before one gives up, he/she should have done all to stand. Many times, we give up on the union, point accusing fingers when we are actually the catalysts behind our partners' reactions.

Life, like marriage is a choice!
If it doesn't fit, YOU MUST ACQUIT!!!
Simple!!!!

Clemzy16: Hmmmm!!! oya click here to read part 2 But what do you have to say about this particular one?

Nothing to say o!
You wrote it all!
This na your opinion abi?

Whatever floats!

Hmmmmmm!!!

Wey part 2?
Work don close!!!
HALLAYLOJA!!!!

Amen!!!!
I lovvvvvvit!!!!!
I tell ya! There are some things a wife cannot do!

jeffizy: What greater source of emotional abuse is greater than a spouse doing 'things with their PRIVATES' ?

Not in my world o.
More like stoopid mind games.
My opinion. Glad you have yours.
My emotions do not dwell inside my toto!
Thank you!

HA!
Like Nigerians on NL!
Tufiakwa!!!

The secret of a happy marriage remains a secret. -Henny Youngman

More marriages might survive if the partners realized that sometimes the better comes after the worse.” - Doug Larson

amtheone: @those quoting kanuwa, are u guys new on NL. Pls be informed that her response to issues are always the opposite. Its only once I read where she reply to a post in the right direction.

So please free her. She lives in a different world.

Damn right! I live in a different world. . .WHERE BRAINS ARE USED. . . no apologies!
You may continue with this local topic. . . . I AM DONE!
I am VERY capable of solving my own problems MYSELF. . .without involving NAIRALAND, GOD, PASTORS, HUSBAND, RELATIVES OR 'FRENEMIES'!
I am too busy to deal with such trivialities as this poster is so frightened about. . .

I would have handled things differently than this OP. Thank my lucky stars. . .I AIN'T NO CHRISTIAN. Solving simple problems will continue to be ROCKET SCIENCE. . . I WOULD HAVE WRITTEN ONLY ONE E-MAIL TO BOTH THE 'EX-FIANCE AND HIS MOTHER. . . . .SAYING:GOOOOOOOOOOOD RIDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDANCE TO BOTH OF THEM!

My husband is too busy for such nonsense! Hallelujah!


*thread unfollowed*

To answer your main question. . . .

My question is; [size=20pt]could I have been responsible for his business and marrital challenges?[/size] I dont think so, but just has to do the biddings of my husband and pray with him. What do you think great nairalanders?

ARE YOU GOD? Mtcheeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeew!!!!

You know. . . .? I have a problem with group-think or group therapy. It is obvious you lack the necessay emotional and cognitive independence to solve SIMPLE problems. . . .This is between YOU and YOUR EX. . . . (EVERYONE ELSE NEEDS TO BUTT OUT! THAT YOUR JOBLESS HUSBAND INCLUDED!)

You have forgiven him. . . .I REPEAT. . .LET HIM AND LET GO!

IT IS YOU THAT HAS THE COMPREHENSION PROBLEM. . . NOT I!

THE INVOLVEMENT OF HUSBAND, PASTOR, EX-FIANCE, CHURCH, EX-FIANCE'S MOTHER and so on and so forth smacks of 'BUSHMEATISM'!
How does something that concerns just 2 people BECOME A VILLAGE MATTER?

I REPEAT. . . LET HIM AND LET GO. . .WHILE LETTING GO AND LETTING HIM!

https://www.iskandar.com/waleed911/letgo.jpg

Like I stated earlier. . . I will not look in the direction of that your so-called ex-fiance. . . (frankly a LOCAL CREATURE. . .WITH HIS MOMMA TOO)!
This is what really IRRITATED ME ABOUT YOUR WHOLE WRITE-UP!

I am frightened about all these, I stopped having ill-feeing against him immediately I met my own husband.

What exactly are you frightened about? ARE YOU ALL IN A CULT WITH INTERTWINED DESTINIES?
You stopped having ill-feelings against him IMMEDIATELY you met your own husband?
SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO, IF YOU HAD NOT MET YOU OWN HUSBAND. . . you would have continued to have ill-feelings?

I REPEAT. . . YOU HAVE ISSUES. . . REEEEEEEEEEEEEAL ISSUES! So, your husband was a 'relief-pitcher' in your game of MISERY?

From what I can read from you. . .YOU SOUND LIKE SOMEONE WHO HAS NEVER REALLY KNOWN HAPPINESS. . . . If you say you are happy in this your marriage. . . .Fine, I am happy you SAY so!

madamshepopo: Dont really understand what you are saying sir, kindly read through my post, Bless you.

I read your post. . .CLEARLY.
I cannot knock you down because of your faith and beliefs. . . Not my business. . . .
BUT THERE ARE ISSUES I HAD WITH YOU FROM YOUR POST!
I will not even address the 'nut-job' who came back to ask forgiveness from you on account of his TROUBLED SPIRIT. . . .He is really inconsequential. My problem is with YOU and some aspects of your posts. Here goes:

To cut the long story short, he proposed to me when he came to collect his call up letter, being one year ahead of me. I agreed.

1. A man proposes to you. . .AND YOU NEVER MET HIS FAMILY DURING THE COURSE OF YOUR DATING. . . .And you won 'COUPLE OF THE YEAR AWARD'? Na so the man value you reach? I think NOT! What where YOU thinking?

Later I got to know that his mum didn't like me because I was "too big" stature wise. He didn't handle it well, he ditched me, I nursed my "wound" and one year later after my POP from Cross River State, I met my own man who have been looking for a "big woman", we courted for two years and got married in 2009.

It is obvious you DID not really love yourself THE WAY YOU WERE. You focus on this your 'BIGNESS'. . . You nursed which wound? Did you create yourself? Part of a healthy self-esteem is dealing with REJECTION. If anyone does not love you JUST THE WAY YOU ARE. . . I think you need to give him or her a 'heave-ho'!. . . .INSTEAD OF NURSING 'WOUNDS'!

So ironic that a so-called CHRISTIAN like you has no concept of love and forgivness. . . .SURPRISE-SURPRISE!!!
OP! If you call yourself a REAL CHRISTIAN. . . LOVE AND FORGIVNESS SHOULD NOT BE TOPICS OF CONFUSION FOR YOU.
You need to LEARN how to 'LET HIM AND LET GO. . . .WHILE LETTING GO AND LETTING HIM'!
So you carried OLD BAGGAGE. . . into your MARRIAGE huhn?

You have issues! ESTEEM ISSUES!!!!You do not know how to MOVE ON! AND NEVER WILL.
You believe so much in prayer. . .YET THEY ARE NOT WORKING IN YOUR LIFE!
Why should you have ill-feelings about someone who told you THE TRUTH?
Yes! You were PHAT! NA LIE? Your ex lacked sensitivity. . .BUT HE TOLD YOU THE TRUTH!
Learn to deal with that before calling on PASTORS, PRAYERS AND GOD!

Shioooor!



*5PM . . . off to work jare. logging off my sweeeeetazzze*

I blamed the Igbinedion man at first. . . till I explored other possibilities too!
HOW LONG HAS THIS BOY BEING ABUSED?


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VdaKDbSpPSA

WHO KNOWS WHAT HAPPENED?

Who knows HOW LONG. . . . has the child been abused. . . .
The effects of 'BORN-THROWAY-BABY-SYNDROME'!
Where are the PARENTS!


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VdaKDbSpPSA

Not important in the grand scheme of things. I have other things to worry about than when a man or woman decides to exercise a FREE WILL!
The only thing I will NEVER tolerate from ANY HUMAN BEING. . .MAN OR WOMAN IS PHYSICAL, VERBAL OR EMOTIONAL ABUSE!

Whatever he or she chooses to do with his or her gaddem PRIVATES, is none of my gaddem bizz!

You are already pregnant. . . .YOU NEED TO START WORRYING ABOUT BRINGING A CHILD INTO A WORLD OF HATE. You only prerogative is to make sure the child is LOVED. . . BY YOU! So, you must REMOVE yourself from ANY negative influences. . . .Hopefully, time will heal all wounds. . . .If not. . . .YOU HAVE TO TOTALLY FORGET ABOUT YOUR BABY-DADDY'S OR HUSBAND'S FAMILY ENTIRELY.

Love is not by force.

Given that MOST women are nurturers. . . It only means that women can ONLY become abusive if they LEARNED TO BE ABUSIVE . . .from the MEN in their lives! A woman that was raised with love and respect. . . .trust and THE UTMOST SENSE OF BELONGING. . .can never be abusive. . . .UNLESS SHE IS SICK IN THE HEAD. . . .!


Just like MEN LEARNED TO BE ABUSIVE FROM THEIR FATHERS! BIG THUGS. . . BREED PHOCKING LITTLE THUGS!

BEHOLD! THE LEGACY OF DYSFUNCTION IN THE BLACK RACE!!!


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=i0w9iG5TqaU


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HW5a57B3CCI



https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Qje0Ior6Wj8


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BcrbJ7mlObw


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kqOJZ9seUkM


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=e7Mh62vmZR4


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VdaKDbSpPSA


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Vi1lQOxLUtU


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UujyoEG5XQQ

Mu he he he he he he he


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lp6z3s1Gig0

Lessons learned. . . .

NEVER MARRY A CULTIST!

Kpor!
Kpor!
Kpor!

I don wake o. . ..
Oooooo dey 'Ouse? H-enemies don 'FAY'. . . I nor die for my sleep!

Sometimes you JUST CAN'T!
That is why IT TAKES A VILLAGE.

alisigwe: It's crazy the state of denial we africans live in! All my life I've noticed that most men marry girls they are much younger than them,ma uncle recently married a girl of 20 and he's 35 and no qualms! I wonder if u guys are all diasporian nigerians. I ve tried dating matured girls but couldn't cope with their lifestyle,am somehow comfortable,still young and cute too! So those girls literally throw emselves to me here kuz of God knows what. Am not boasting but I have a lot of young girls within 18 and 20 that really wish we could be. Maybe it's d only son sh*t!

You still have not mentioned anything about MARRYING HER FIRST!

Is YeriMMA not better than you? At least he made his teenage 'love-interest' a WIFE! You on the other hand looking for a CHEAPO-VIRGIN-WHORRE!

You nor dey shame BABA JOWO!!!!
So your uncle is your role model eh?
So na BABY JOWO una dey fain huhn?

I am sorry for you! You think 18 year-old remain 'young and cute' forever?

O ga o!

Tight poohsie na waya o!

Mu he he he he he he

Dear OP,
Good day!
Can you in one sentence tell ME what this burden of guilt really is o. I don't get it.

Your sister is confused.
It is either she accepts him the way she is. . .or she moves on!
He is not going to change.
Cheats need love, sex, and marriage too!

MEN ARE THE CHEATS BEFORE MARRIAGE!
Women become the greater cheats AFTER MARRIAGE!


Ask your father and mother! YOUR SISTER HAS NO BUSINESS DATING A NIGERIAN MAN. . . NOT TO TALK OF MARRYING ONE.
SHE NEEDS TO JOIN A NUNNERY. . . AND PHOCK JESUS CHRIST ONLY. . .EVERY DAY AND NIGHT if she wants TRUE MONOGAMY!
She sef go soon turn 'ASSSHAWO', with all this STRRRESSSS SHE IS GIVING HER AZZZZZ. . . locked phone and all. . . . . After the so-called MARRIAGE-SHAM! Mu he he he he he he

I would rather have a PLAYBOY in bed than A NAUSEATING, BORN-AGAIN-HYPOCRITE-CHRISTIAN-PSYCHODELIC-MONOGAMIST.
If I were to choose between being a 4th wife to a Muslim or an ONLY WIFE to a CHRISTIAN. . . .I WILL CHOOSE THE FORMER!
At least. . . I always know where I stand!


[size=20pt]EVERY WOMAN OR MAN HAS A CHOICE TO MAKE! OP. . .DO NOT CRY FOR ARGENTINA PLEASE. . . .She has a choice to make![/size]

[size=20pt]A WOMAN WHO DECIDES TO GET MARRIED. . . TO A NIGERIA MAN ESPECIALLY HAS SIGNED A DEATH WARRANT. . .
She either dies of AIDS or a MASSIVE HEART ATTACK!
Either way. . . death is a SURE BANKER!

LADIES. . .PLEASE, CHOOSE 1 OR BOTH!!!
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NIGERIAN WOMEN SABI STRESS DEMSELVES SHA. . . . BECAUSE OF BLOKOS! TUFIAKWAAAAAAAAAAAAAH!!!!


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zu9QM1LQR2g


*4:15. . . .off to work jare. . .and the holiday shopping continues. . . .just when i thought i was done*

. . . .logging my sweetazzze off. . . .