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Well!
I have always believed in the EQUAL YOKING PSYCHOLOGY. . .
It makes life less complicated.
Unfortunately, the only kind of men available for MOST single women are either the married or divorced!

As a single woman. . . she ought to be with a single man who has NEVER HAD KIDS(don't hold your saliva on that one please )

A divorced man with kids SHOULD ONLY LOOK FOR WOMEN WHO ARE DIVORCED WITH KIDS!
But that is not the case in this scenario. . . and there lies the albatross of conflicting interests!

To answer your question OP. . .SHE CAN DO NOTHING. . . for she should have thought of all that before getting with a MAN WHO HAS HAD HIS CAKE AND DIGESTED IT TOO!

The man and woman(exes) will ALWAYS use the kids as the puns to resurrect passionate nostalgic feelings of lust, anger, LOVE, SEXXX. . . and so on and so forth.

How can she control those. . . ? NEVER!!!
She has set herself up an UNEQUAL footing in this relationship. When the man has a basis of comparison with his previous marriiage, HE WILL REMIND HER ONE DAY. . .that her soup is not as sweet as the one his first wife cooked. . . .nor are her phocking abilities when her toto is no longer sweet!

He really loves her. . .? SURRRRRRRRRRRRRRRE!!! He told his first wife all that too! Loving a man with kids comes with a price. . . HER ONLY PRIORITY IS SELF-PRESEVATION. . . .

[b]SHE MUST BE WISE AND MAKE SURE THE OTHER WOMAN LOOKS LIKE THE TROUBLE-MAKER ALWAYS! SHE MUST NOT ADD INSULT TO INJURY BY MAKING THE MAN HAVE TO CHOOSE BETWEEN HERSELF AND HIS KIDS AT ANY GIVEN MOMENT. . . especially as she is yet to have hers! SHE HAS NO UPPER-HAND IN THIS RELATIONSHIP WITH A WOMAN WHO HAS BORNE HIM 'FRUIT'!

She has to learn how to be a cohesive factor ON ALL FRONTS. . .WITH THE MAN'S CHILDREN AND HIS FAMILY. . .OR she becomes a BIANCA KE-KE OJUKWU. . . exiled from her husband's home. . . .hated by many. . .and with only his 'LOVE' as legacy. . . .SHE NEEDS TO BE DIPLOMATIC. . .AND NEVER SHOW HER NEGATIVE FEELINGS BY BRANDISHING THEM ON HER SLEEVE OR COLLAR. . . .EVEN WHEN SHE IS HURTING. . . . .HER JOURNEY WILL BE LONG AND TEDIOUS. . . .SHE HAS TOO MANY COMPETITORS!!!!

THE ONLY THING SHE MAY HAVE GOING FOR HER IN THIS RELATIONSHIP IS THE MAN'S LOVE. . .WHICH CAN CHANGE IN A NEW YORK SECOND!
SHE IS GOING TO BE THE UNDER-DOG FOR EVER. . . ALWAYS A SECOND BEST!!!!

EVEN WHEN SHE HAS HER OWN KIDS. . . THEY WILL BE SECOND HAND NEWS TOO! SHE AIN'T GONNA GIVE THE MAN NAAAATIN HE AIN'T GAT ALREADY. . . HE HAS THE UPPER-HAND. . . A BRAND NEW CHASSIS-WIFE! NA SHE LAND 'TOKUNBO-LOVE'!

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O gal be 'SECOND HAND NEWS O'!!!!!


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h3q_I_Y9l-E

kpor!
kpor!
kpor!

Ooooo dey 'ouse?
I don wake o. . . h-enemies PAWA don 'FAY'! I nor die for my sleep!
Muchechechechecheche

*4:30PM. . . .time for SHAWA, dinner and off to work! it is night #4 out of 4. . . . and it is gonna be a busy one. today is MOIN-DAY*

-------logging off my sweet azzze!-------WELCOME TO MANIC MONDAY!



https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HbJ6Jsy0JfY

pickabeau1: Is it the same daddy from the same species of people that you call pedophilic

Yes!

*hah! dis NYANSH SABI ooooze disgrace porsin, i swia. make i go wash am small abeg, before SATAN pursue me comot from disu bed KAI!!!*

Arrrrrrrrrgh!
The good ol days, before BLOKOS h-enter for AN-US!
Mu Che Che Che Che

*home at last. time to baff, chop and SLEEP! life is goooood!!!!

The GREEEAAAAT ALMONDO logging off*

Thinking that a virgin bride's poohsie will stay tight for ever!
Or, thinking VIAGRA can cure his BUM EQUIPMENT!

Because NIGERIAN men raise their daughters that way! They never learned to appreciate women as EQUAL partners!

See what Stella Oduah is going through in that una Naija JUNGO? Which kain teif she teif wey NAIJA MAN never teif before?

If you are a strong woman NIGERIAN NIGGERZ will try to tear you down, with the help of women like YOU of course! ALL TO CHOP BLOKOS or to do 'ASHAWO-TEN-SHILLINGS'! With all their 'women empowerment NGOs' too! Hunh!

What else can a NAIJA WOMAN DO BUT FOLD HER ARMS?

My H-Agnostic Gawd bless H-America my home sweet home jare!!!!

*na who sen these senior citizens come gym this morning? na so-so MESS dem dey MESS for my front o. METAMUCIL abi na GAS-X all of dem chop this morrrrring?

Because familiarity aka 'see finish' ALWAYS breeds contempt!
Ask dati una Jesus Christ wetin Judasky do am!
I nor dey near NAIJA WOMEN O!!!!
Sam-Sam!!!!
Tufiakwa!!!!

Kpor!
Kpor!
Kpor!

Ooooo dey 'Ouse?
Work done close o!
30-minute daily work-out in progress!

My daddy!

Any changes?
Same 'Ol-Same 'Ol rot!
Mtcheeeeeew!

Utchry: Please kindly give reason(s) why baby should bear father's last name. She knows the father. In fact he was the only guy she was intimate with at the time.

Are you asking me for reasons why a child should bear his or her OWN FATHER'S name? Na my name im go h-answer before?
Abi na for Ghana una dey live?


As long as a man took off his rain-boots in a storm, he gave up his rights to that name!

He invited ANY Isaac, Esau or Jacob to bear it! He needs to head to court to prove otherwise.

Shikena-Shikena o!

Ha!

Yerima wife nor dey dia?
Wetin. 'apppin?

*i don reasssssh work. allaylooojah. h-enemies don fay!*

Gbam!
Dazzzz all o!

*driving to work o jare*

Please, when can find one WITHOUT KILLING IT, lerruss continue this long over-due "cuss-fest". Mine is not dead o. Just got off the phone as we plan our open marriage re-union!

We can't all be MARRIED TO/conceived by/of/with a HOLY GHOST BLOCKOS ABI?

Show us ya own, since we dey compete! Abi you don chop am like MAMA BAWOLOMO for una CHICAGO ghetto? Still death-poor after the ritual in the Chicago-ghetto drive-way huhn?

Pele dia!

30 minute daily work-out completed! Off to work!

Bye bye o

OLUWASEUN THE NL CLOSET PHAGOCTE!

Mu Che Che Che Che Che

Abi MUKINA2 don born ya 'TWINNY' ni?

Barrrrrren ol cargos of NERRRALAND!

Kimon move! How you go understand wetin happy marriage without stress be? O PHOCKER OF JESUS! Twa!!!

Off to work jare!

To read post na by force ni. . . ?
MISEEEEEEEEEERABLE STALKER! TWA!!!!

Here come the loveless WIZARD OF ALL AGES! aka 'I WANNO PHOCK JESUS'!
The she-malU of NL has struck again!

Kpafinka
Kpafinka

SEUN OSEWA GO MARRY AGAIN!

Off to post more 'TMIs'. . .so THE USUAL OGBONI-Yoruba E-BADU BELLE AND E JOLOSI NL OL CARGOS CAN RUN BELLE!

Hymn of the day:

SOME CAN PHOCK. . . BUT HAVE NO LOVE
SOME HAVE LOVE . . .BUT CANNOT PHOCK
WE HAVE LOVE AND WE CAN PHOCK
GLORY BE TO THEE O LORD!


Asssssssssssssshawo ol' cargo nairaland WIDOW IN CHRIST. . . HAPPY SUNDAY O!

*cough-cough*

Abeg make I DRESS from this thread before my 'usband quench like BAMOLOWO! Tufiakwa!

THE NL GODS AND GODDESSES OF HUMAN SACRIFICE ARE HUNGRY FOR FRESH BLOOD. . . TEHN MUST BY DRY!!!

*feeling my legs. . .to make sure. . .they have not disappeared like 'perv-ert's'! SURE DON WANNO BE BURIED LIKE A LOW DOWN DIRTY DOG IN ONE BUSH IN EDO STATE!

*cough-cough*

. . . .Annnnnnnnnnd

THINKING THAT YOUR FEELINGS FOR EACH OTHER WILL STAY THE SAME AND NEVER CHANGE!

The real immaturity disaster in marriage!

kpor!
kpor!
kpor!

Oooo dey 'ouse o?
I don wake!

*time to change profile pic to show my ever-young, pweeeeeeeeeeetty, aje-burrra face. . . .!*

My REAL FRIENDS ARE ALL MARRIED!
I disconnected from them too!
Sorry, I am my own best friend to infinity!

Some 'singo' ol cargoes are jolosin you o!
Dem go soon start thread for you titled:
"Are you having problems killing babies" in your honor!

Muchechechecheche CHE!

Abeg, make we find small money give this BISHOP OF DOOM to keep kwayet like REUBEN ALBATROSS e jor!

Shiiiiiiiiiioooooooooor!

I see!

Invitation to carry more Ghana Must Go bags from CBN for shua!
Abeg, make una wait till 2014 o!
Make I go Nigeria 2 tiNes, before KOBOKO HARAM ABV h-airport!

Thank you in advancement.

After 6 years in office, I think ODE comes to mind!

Yes!
If a woman does not MOAN, GROAN, SPREAD HER LEGS SUPER-WIDE and DIG DEEP INTO A MAN'S BACK WITH HER FINGER-NAILS. . . . . .

She is being MOLESTED by her husband!!!


If a man does not GET A SUSTAINED EREKTION OVER FOR OVER 30 MINUTES. . . . .
AT LEAST. . . . . . . .

He is being MOLESTED!!!!!

Watch out for PART 2!
When CONGRATULATIONS become "E PELE MA" on NL!!!

Eyiiiiiin. . . . OP, CONGRAAAAASSSS O!

Singing to Masef. . . .

Isu a miracoo workin' gad
Isu a miracoo workin' gad
Isu da AFA anduu OMAGA
Isu a miracoo working gad

HALLAYLOOOO?
HALLAYLOOOO JAH!!!

*switches to my SUNDAY-IGBO-PREACHING-ACCENT*

For it izu RITUN . . Datu dozu whuu waitu onu da LORDU. . . .shallu waitu foru AYVA ANDU AYVA!!!!

AYMEMMMM!!!!

The father's last name ALWAYS!!!
Married or NOT!!!
If a woman does not know whodunnit. . . . .then the child should bear HER FIRST NAME as a LAST NAME or name the child JOHN OR JANE DOE!!!!

OR JOHN OR JANE "Q" PUBLIC like we do in the white man's land.
PERIOD!!!!

xynerise: ^hmmmm. You actually edited your previous post and came a bit closer to my point



My kids dont have much influence in my relationship but I just want to know the possibility of making both the man and the child happy .
Taking part of the parenting is something I love to do. But it seems am not getting that attention each time I want to.

Back to what I stated earlier. YOU NEED MORE SEX!
When you decided to have children. . . you should have thought about that! CHILDREN CHANGE ALL THAT, sir!
You only get 'attention' when you are GIVEN some!
Don't make your wife/BABY MOMMA HAVE TO CHOOSE.
If I were her, I would have no problem kicking your horrrrrrrrrrrny-AZZZE to the curb!


*5:05 PM. . . time for work! HALLELUJAH. . .into the shAwA i jump *

*logging off in body and spirit*

xynerise: ^^ You are almost getting my point

Almost?
What did I miss dear?

One more thing. . . I LEARNED FROM MY NIGERIAN PARENTS' MANY MISTAKES!!! I DON'T PLAN TO REPEAT ANY OF THEM!

A child should be exposed to the achievement for self-actualization ONLY. . . I BELIEVE IN MASLOW'S HIERARCHY OF NEEDS.
If ANY MAN OR WOMAN CANNOT HELP MY CHILDREN GET FROM THE BOTTOM OF THAT LADDER TO THE TOP. . . He/she is not an important part of THEIR LIVES. . . OR MINE! THAT INCLUDES THEIR FATHER/S!!! They are not worthy of me either!!!

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No need exposing a child to a DYSFUNCTIONAL RELATIONSHIP right?
If my relationship can help them get through these phases. . . HELL YEAH! They can influence the relationships as much as they can. I WILL DO ANYTHING. . . I MEAN ANYTHING AND EVERYTHING!!!

[size=20pt]CHILDREN CAN NEVER INFLUENCE HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS IF THEY ARE PART OF THEM![/size]


If they are influencing YOUR RELATIONSHIPS. . . IT MEANS THEY ARE BEING USED AS PUNS!

*DAMN!!!. . .who ever knew that the tuition paid for my education would come IN handy on NL of all places? my daddy and mommy would be proud. *



Anyone love 'WEST SIDE STORY'? . . Always reminds me of my NICE childhood! I ALWAYS FEEL PRETTY!!!



https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L7BQRGXFLJs

Honestly. . .

Men are only the means to the end FOR WOMEN. . . .TO GET CHILDREN. Period!
When my children came into my life. . . .MEN CEASED TO EXIST IN MY WORLD!

Every woman needs to ask herself one basic question.

A child or a man/woman? Who meets your emotional needs more?
I am an EMOTIONAL BEING. . . and NO MAN has touched that part of my being. . . especially as they are all NIGERIANS, my father included.
I have never NEVER a PHYSICAL OR SEXXXUAL BEING(don't pay attention to what I post online o. . . you don miss road be dat! )


Bottom line?

Men need women. . .to meet their PHYSICAL NEEDS. . .aka SEX AND FOOD!
Women on the other hand USE SEXXXX to keep men to love them! HA! What a rip-off!
What they really need is UNCONDITIONAL LOVE. . .as emotional beings. . . . ONLY YOUR CHILDREN CAN GIVE YOU THAT. . . IF YOU GIVE THEM THAT FIRST!

Giving a man YOUR unconditional love AS A WOMAN, means you have set yourself up for a lifetime of unhappiness, because MEN ARE PHYSICAL BEINGS.

When children grow up to be adults. . . ever wonder why they change? ONLY BECAUSE THEY WERE EMOTIONALLY ABANDONED BY BOTH PARENTS!

The fathers chase after women for SEX. . .
The mothers chase after men for LOVE
The children? DRIFTERS!

In summation. . . .I separate my children from my relationships. . . .They have to go through MASLOW'S hierarchy of needs first. . . as in GROW UP LIKE HEALTHY CHILDREN FIRST. . . .BEFORE THE SHENANIGANS of my adult world CORRUPTS THEM. THEY DO NOT INFLUENCE MY RELATIONSHIP/S. . . .because they cannot be/should not be used as PUNS!

Took her to Las Vegas.