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After a THOROUGH examination of the family dynamics to ensure/ascertain THE NECESSARY KEY-INDICATORS for the MEASURES OF SUCCESS/FAILURE of the POTENTIAL relationship with my future spouse and in-laws. I want the BAREST-minimal effect from such COLLATERAL-DAMAGE-"SEQUELAE"(secondary/tertiary consequences) or negligible noticeable after-shocks of the DIVORCE-DYSFUNCTIONALITIES. . . WHICH IS ALWAYS A SURE-BANKER!!!! Most children, if not all. . .have problems with TRUST AND ACCEPTANCE!!!

SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO. . . . .It really depends on how psycholgocally-damaged/emotionally-confident and stable they have become AFTER THE DIVORCE with the appropriate coping mechanisms. Just like with any other kind of familial networks. THERE MIGHT BE NO DIFFERENCE FROM OTHER FAMILIES such as THE-POLYGAMOUS BULL-PENS OR 'PSUEDO-SERIAL-MONOGAMOUS, DOG-OUTS'!

Is the spouse CAPABLE of giving and RECEIVING friendship and love? Is he/she ALWAYS BITTER AND MOSTLY WITHDRAWN?

How MENTALLY-STABLE is he or she?
How approahable is he or she?
Is he or she able to maintain the necessary boundaries required to sustain both platonic and intimate relationships?
How easily hurt or forgiving is he or she?
IS HE OR SHE a HAPPY OR SADISTIC CREATURE. . .?
Is he or she spiteful or pessimistic about life in general?
MOST IMPORTANTLY. . .IS HE OR SHE AN ABUSIVE PERSONALITY. . .given to NEGATIVE THOUGHTS AND SELF-DESTRUCTIVE IMPULSES?
What is the relationship with his or her family?
Is the individual PROGRESSIVE OR RETROGRESSIVE?
Is he or she given to unnecessary ENVY of others. . . and UNHEALTHY RIVALRY AND COMPETITION?
IS HE OR SHE WITH A VICTIM OR SURVIVOR COMPLEX?

HOW NORMAL IS HE OR SHE. . . ?
Do WORDS AND ACTION harmonize with this individual?
IS HE OR SHE A BULLY?. . . .A KEY FEATURE IN INSECURE INDIVIDUALS. . . WHO LOVE TO PUT OTHERS DOWN TO MAKE HIM OR HERSELF FEEL BETTER. . .ESPECIALLY WHERE THE ABANDONED ROLE-MODELS WHERE NEVER AROUND TO TEACH THEM SELF-RESPECT AND RESPECT FOR OTHERS?
MANY. . . MANY. . . MANY QUESTIONS AND OBSERVATIONS. . . .

A case study. . . !

COOchi Univeristy!
What an insult!

Yoruba language is very sweet o.
See all the thieves wey sabi speak am?

Surrrre!
With your JUDICIAL PIRATES of course!

Fact!
The man is tooooooo POLISHED!
NIGERIAN politics is for MURDERERS and PIRATES ONLY!!
Politics of ECOLOGICAL OUTLAWS AND ANTHROPOLOGICAL MISFITS!

Well!
I have always believed in the EQUAL YOKING PSYCHOLOGY. . .
It makes life less complicated.
Unfortunately, the only kind of men available for MOST single women are either the married or divorced!

As a single woman. . . she ought to be with a single man who has NEVER HAD KIDS(don't hold your saliva on that one please )

A divorced man with kids SHOULD ONLY LOOK FOR WOMEN WHO ARE DIVORCED WITH KIDS!
But that is not the case in this scenario. . . and there lies the albatross of conflicting interests!

To answer your question OP. . .SHE CAN DO NOTHING. . . for she should have thought of all that before getting with a MAN WHO HAS HAD HIS CAKE AND DIGESTED IT TOO!

The man and woman(exes) will ALWAYS use the kids as the puns to resurrect passionate nostalgic feelings of lust, anger, LOVE, SEXXX. . . and so on and so forth.

How can she control those. . . ? NEVER!!!
She has set herself up an UNEQUAL footing in this relationship. When the man has a basis of comparison with his previous marriiage, HE WILL REMIND HER ONE DAY. . .that her soup is not as sweet as the one his first wife cooked. . . .nor are her phocking abilities when her toto is no longer sweet!

He really loves her. . .? SURRRRRRRRRRRRRRRE!!! He told his first wife all that too! Loving a man with kids comes with a price. . . HER ONLY PRIORITY IS SELF-PRESEVATION. . . .

[b]SHE MUST BE WISE AND MAKE SURE THE OTHER WOMAN LOOKS LIKE THE TROUBLE-MAKER ALWAYS! SHE MUST NOT ADD INSULT TO INJURY BY MAKING THE MAN HAVE TO CHOOSE BETWEEN HERSELF AND HIS KIDS AT ANY GIVEN MOMENT. . . especially as she is yet to have hers! SHE HAS NO UPPER-HAND IN THIS RELATIONSHIP WITH A WOMAN WHO HAS BORNE HIM 'FRUIT'!

She has to learn how to be a cohesive factor ON ALL FRONTS. . .WITH THE MAN'S CHILDREN AND HIS FAMILY. . .OR she becomes a BIANCA KE-KE OJUKWU. . . exiled from her husband's home. . . .hated by many. . .and with only his 'LOVE' as legacy. . . .SHE NEEDS TO BE DIPLOMATIC. . .AND NEVER SHOW HER NEGATIVE FEELINGS BY BRANDISHING THEM ON HER SLEEVE OR COLLAR. . . .EVEN WHEN SHE IS HURTING. . . . .HER JOURNEY WILL BE LONG AND TEDIOUS. . . .SHE HAS TOO MANY COMPETITORS!!!!

THE ONLY THING SHE MAY HAVE GOING FOR HER IN THIS RELATIONSHIP IS THE MAN'S LOVE. . .WHICH CAN CHANGE IN A NEW YORK SECOND!
SHE IS GOING TO BE THE UNDER-DOG FOR EVER. . . ALWAYS A SECOND BEST!!!!

EVEN WHEN SHE HAS HER OWN KIDS. . . THEY WILL BE SECOND HAND NEWS TOO! SHE AIN'T GONNA GIVE THE MAN NAAAATIN HE AIN'T GAT ALREADY. . . HE HAS THE UPPER-HAND. . . A BRAND NEW CHASSIS-WIFE! NA SHE LAND 'TOKUNBO-LOVE'!

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O gal be 'SECOND HAND NEWS O'!!!!!


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h3q_I_Y9l-E

kpor!
kpor!
kpor!

Ooooo dey 'ouse?
I don wake o. . . h-enemies PAWA don 'FAY'! I nor die for my sleep!
Muchechechechecheche

*4:30PM. . . .time for SHAWA, dinner and off to work! it is night #4 out of 4. . . . and it is gonna be a busy one. today is MOIN-DAY*

-------logging off my sweet azzze!-------WELCOME TO MANIC MONDAY!



https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HbJ6Jsy0JfY

pickabeau1: Is it the same daddy from the same species of people that you call pedophilic

Yes!

*hah! dis NYANSH SABI ooooze disgrace porsin, i swia. make i go wash am small abeg, before SATAN pursue me comot from disu bed KAI!!!*

Arrrrrrrrrgh!
The good ol days, before BLOKOS h-enter for AN-US!
Mu Che Che Che Che

*home at last. time to baff, chop and SLEEP! life is goooood!!!!

The GREEEAAAAT ALMONDO logging off*

Thinking that a virgin bride's poohsie will stay tight for ever!
Or, thinking VIAGRA can cure his BUM EQUIPMENT!

Because NIGERIAN men raise their daughters that way! They never learned to appreciate women as EQUAL partners!

See what Stella Oduah is going through in that una Naija JUNGO? Which kain teif she teif wey NAIJA MAN never teif before?

If you are a strong woman NIGERIAN NIGGERZ will try to tear you down, with the help of women like YOU of course! ALL TO CHOP BLOKOS or to do 'ASHAWO-TEN-SHILLINGS'! With all their 'women empowerment NGOs' too! Hunh!

What else can a NAIJA WOMAN DO BUT FOLD HER ARMS?

My H-Agnostic Gawd bless H-America my home sweet home jare!!!!

*na who sen these senior citizens come gym this morning? na so-so MESS dem dey MESS for my front o. METAMUCIL abi na GAS-X all of dem chop this morrrrring?

Because familiarity aka 'see finish' ALWAYS breeds contempt!
Ask dati una Jesus Christ wetin Judasky do am!
I nor dey near NAIJA WOMEN O!!!!
Sam-Sam!!!!
Tufiakwa!!!!

Kpor!
Kpor!
Kpor!

Ooooo dey 'Ouse?
Work done close o!
30-minute daily work-out in progress!

My daddy!

Any changes?
Same 'Ol-Same 'Ol rot!
Mtcheeeeeew!

Utchry: Please kindly give reason(s) why baby should bear father's last name. She knows the father. In fact he was the only guy she was intimate with at the time.

Are you asking me for reasons why a child should bear his or her OWN FATHER'S name? Na my name im go h-answer before?
Abi na for Ghana una dey live?


As long as a man took off his rain-boots in a storm, he gave up his rights to that name!

He invited ANY Isaac, Esau or Jacob to bear it! He needs to head to court to prove otherwise.

Shikena-Shikena o!

Ha!

Yerima wife nor dey dia?
Wetin. 'apppin?

*i don reasssssh work. allaylooojah. h-enemies don fay!*

Gbam!
Dazzzz all o!

*driving to work o jare*

Please, when can find one WITHOUT KILLING IT, lerruss continue this long over-due "cuss-fest". Mine is not dead o. Just got off the phone as we plan our open marriage re-union!

We can't all be MARRIED TO/conceived by/of/with a HOLY GHOST BLOCKOS ABI?

Show us ya own, since we dey compete! Abi you don chop am like MAMA BAWOLOMO for una CHICAGO ghetto? Still death-poor after the ritual in the Chicago-ghetto drive-way huhn?

Pele dia!

30 minute daily work-out completed! Off to work!

Bye bye o

OLUWASEUN THE NL CLOSET PHAGOCTE!

Mu Che Che Che Che Che

Abi MUKINA2 don born ya 'TWINNY' ni?

Barrrrrren ol cargos of NERRRALAND!

Kimon move! How you go understand wetin happy marriage without stress be? O PHOCKER OF JESUS! Twa!!!

Off to work jare!

To read post na by force ni. . . ?
MISEEEEEEEEEERABLE STALKER! TWA!!!!

Here come the loveless WIZARD OF ALL AGES! aka 'I WANNO PHOCK JESUS'!
The she-malU of NL has struck again!

Kpafinka
Kpafinka

SEUN OSEWA GO MARRY AGAIN!

Off to post more 'TMIs'. . .so THE USUAL OGBONI-Yoruba E-BADU BELLE AND E JOLOSI NL OL CARGOS CAN RUN BELLE!

Hymn of the day:

SOME CAN PHOCK. . . BUT HAVE NO LOVE
SOME HAVE LOVE . . .BUT CANNOT PHOCK
WE HAVE LOVE AND WE CAN PHOCK
GLORY BE TO THEE O LORD!


Asssssssssssssshawo ol' cargo nairaland WIDOW IN CHRIST. . . HAPPY SUNDAY O!

*cough-cough*

Abeg make I DRESS from this thread before my 'usband quench like BAMOLOWO! Tufiakwa!

THE NL GODS AND GODDESSES OF HUMAN SACRIFICE ARE HUNGRY FOR FRESH BLOOD. . . TEHN MUST BY DRY!!!

*feeling my legs. . .to make sure. . .they have not disappeared like 'perv-ert's'! SURE DON WANNO BE BURIED LIKE A LOW DOWN DIRTY DOG IN ONE BUSH IN EDO STATE!

*cough-cough*

. . . .Annnnnnnnnnd

THINKING THAT YOUR FEELINGS FOR EACH OTHER WILL STAY THE SAME AND NEVER CHANGE!

The real immaturity disaster in marriage!

kpor!
kpor!
kpor!

Oooo dey 'ouse o?
I don wake!

*time to change profile pic to show my ever-young, pweeeeeeeeeeetty, aje-burrra face. . . .!*

My REAL FRIENDS ARE ALL MARRIED!
I disconnected from them too!
Sorry, I am my own best friend to infinity!

Some 'singo' ol cargoes are jolosin you o!
Dem go soon start thread for you titled:
"Are you having problems killing babies" in your honor!

Muchechechecheche CHE!

Abeg, make we find small money give this BISHOP OF DOOM to keep kwayet like REUBEN ALBATROSS e jor!

Shiiiiiiiiiioooooooooor!

I see!

Invitation to carry more Ghana Must Go bags from CBN for shua!
Abeg, make una wait till 2014 o!
Make I go Nigeria 2 tiNes, before KOBOKO HARAM ABV h-airport!

Thank you in advancement.

After 6 years in office, I think ODE comes to mind!

Yes!
If a woman does not MOAN, GROAN, SPREAD HER LEGS SUPER-WIDE and DIG DEEP INTO A MAN'S BACK WITH HER FINGER-NAILS. . . . . .

She is being MOLESTED by her husband!!!


If a man does not GET A SUSTAINED EREKTION OVER FOR OVER 30 MINUTES. . . . .
AT LEAST. . . . . . . .

He is being MOLESTED!!!!!