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@frndfghtr, Can I just comment on how so heartwarming your transparency and honesty is? I swear I just feel this slight ache in my heart reading how you carefully enumerate every naira note donated to this woman - brother, you are rare breed. You are determined to do this and do it right. So few of us can boast of that attribute in today's Nigeria.

I promise you, when all this is said and done - when we finally get Lukayat ready to go home - you will get something special from me.

frndfghtr:
she gave us 80% assurance

Amen to it. Hope springs eternal.

I don't think I'll ever get tired of saying it: God bless you, @frndfghtr. I believe I'm not exaggerating when I say you are the angel Lukayat sees now.

@frndfghtr Happy New Year to you too, bro. I trust you remain in good health. Please has the date for Lukayat's surgery been fixed? Or has it been done already? Thanks as you continue your efforts to see the young lady back in good health.

Also @healthserve, I see your relentless efforts to get more people to donate; more power your elbows. God bless you all. God bless Lukayat.

@lalasticlala @Seun
Can we push to front page again please? HNY

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DNSPro:
the guy who broke your heart did a good job. Send me his number let me thank him.

This kain uppercut on first day of new year? Weekeed!

912:
Lwkmd hahahahahaha come on you can do better than this pathetic excuse

Even me sef, I taya for the excuse... Like, really??

@frndfghtr, I sent a token.
Do you have a whatsapp number, sir? I'd like to know you better in the new year. God willing, we'll see how it goes. You are a hero. God bless you, God bless Lukayat, and God bless all who are doing all they can to help. And others, please send what you can, nothing is too small. Let's join hands and give Lukayat her life back.

madridsta007:
I just hope Ndigbo and indeed the Old Eastern Nigeria, stay out of the fight between two lovers.

They will sort themselves out. Punch is the hand of Esau but the voice of Jacob. Tinubu is simply speaking through The Punch. The Ruling Regime are aware.

Others should stay clear while they sort themselves out.

I know so many fellow Igbos like you, sir. Forgive me for being this blunt, but I have to tell you that your comment is so cowardly. The autocracy being perpetuated by this evil regime, do you think it will leave out Ndígbo? Not too long ago, they sent "Python Dance" to come terrorise us in our homes, in the very lands Chukwu Abiama gave to us. Now here is a Newspaper house bold enough to join it's voice to what we have been crying out against, and your best reaction is "Easterns stay out"?

I don't know about you, sir, but my own forefathers did not leave behind a legacy of cowardliness. I will join whoever will join with me to speak out against this evil regime of Maj. Gen Mohammed Buhari rtd.

#IgweBuIke.

I don't understand why Ljunberg is looking so happy... Hope this hapless win against West Ham isn't blinding him to how horrible this current Arsenal team is right now.

seuncyrus:
Let Arsenal just stop that playing from back nonsense style, I'm very sure we'll be winning games ... See the squad na

Martinelli for ballon d'or

Same thing Alan Shearer said during halftime commentary. Every single week that style fails them, and yet they never learn.

Meanwhile, can someone tell Xhaka to please look at where he's passing the ball. He's forming useless passing style and keeps wasting the ball.

LewsTherin:
Seeing as this thread has been well derailed by those bashing men and those bashing those bashing men, I'll modify my post.


Your husband has just lost the most important thing to any man - self worth. He is depressed, he is frustrated, he is lost. He may come out of it tomorrow, he may never recover. You can take the easy way out like many so-called feminists will say and kick his behind to the curb...

...or you can honour your vows of "for better or worse till death do us part" (I am assuming you said those words).

If you choose this route, my advice (which may not work by the way) is
1. Pray for him. Constantly. That he find his way back.
2. Keep the house going to the best of your ability. It is difficult, I know. But it is possible.
3.Talk to him like there is nothing different. Ask his opinion on anything and everything. Leas him into discussions that will make him say "if it was me, I will do such and such" or "the best option would have been to do this and that". Something that will help him begin to think again, to plan again. It may help him out of his hole.
4. Keep trying to get his mother/father, closest friend, pastor he trusts to talk to him. But do not under any circumstances involve any other people that it can be said "you went to spread my news round the world". And very definitely no one from your family.

I actually have first hand experience of this so I have an idea how he feels. God help you.

Words of wisdom.

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miniziter:
When will the value drop? Instant, +1 or +2?

@ITEXintegrated, I'm interested, needed for a business in the East. I'll work getting someone to handle documentation with you in Lagos. Can you reply to the above question please - i.e. average duration to receive transaction value?

It truly baffles me when so-called "biafrans" make fun of so-called "afonjas", and vice versa. I mean, how stewpid can you lot be?? Is it not amazing that both Kanu, Sowore, and every other "protester" out there, are all fighting for more or less the same thing, and yet you their followers keep fighting and mocking each other - and ignoring your common enemy?

Smh...

I pray Sowore gets his freedom. He deserves that much.

LadySarah:
Thanks.Noted right away.
Is Mile 3 close to Mile one mkt?
I'm coming frm artillery axis so i dunno much of that area

Mmmm, "close" is kinda relative. As the name implies, Mile 3 is basically 2 miles further along same Ikwere Road. Coming from Artillery end/Aba Road, you'd have to stay on the Express to go up the Mile 1 flyover then take right to get on Ikwere Road.

But... You don't necessarily have to come to Mile 3; I think any big foodstuffs market should have Bull. I can't say for price though.

LadySarah:
Pls those in Rivers State,which brand is good?

Cos The Ebony rice i bought was Half rice,half stone

I bought Bull at Mile 3 last month; best 18.5k I ever spent. I'm still eating it in my house now.

Preciousgirl:
Can you have sex with a woman in her period?
Have u ever done it?
How was it?
What is the difference between it and the normal?

#facepalm...

Buzz, help me out please..

bigpriik:
Any guy who takes this thread serious is on his own believe these ladies at your own peril,experience and research has thought me the had way women are as confused as ying yang,emotionally unstable as beach wave no be today if you want to catch a fish ask the fisherman not a fish.

So true!!

waywardpikin:
Lol my nigga. Why I like your thread is because of the honesty with which you communicated your pain. We have all been there, even guys that are more capable than James Bond also get rejected, whether they admit it or not.

From what you wrote, everything checks out and I think you're on the right path. But you're making one crucial mistake that is ruining your game and making a waste of all your effort. I don't even work as hard as you to get ladies.

Your mistake - STOP ASKING WOMEN OUT!

Yeah I put it in caps in hope it'll sink in. You say you hold them around the waist and stuff, that is very good. Your next move is to try and kiss her. Focus on being a flirt, go heavy on the jokes, but sometimes switch and let them see a mean side of you you really don't want them to see.

Be like a light switch, on and off, on and off, hot and cold.

I tell you bro, you will just find yourself in several relationships because the women have already started dating you in their minds. Na after the sex she go dey ask you, "What are we?"

Then you can smile and answer her in Michael Jackson's voice that, "We are the woooooorld, we are the childrennnnnnnn."

Also I think you're taking this dating thing a little too seriously which could be a turn off for some women. Have fun, bro. Have lots of fun. You're still young and the world is your oyster.

P.S. Ideally, I'd advise you to stay off women altogether and focus on building yourself but you need the experience. Men without any experience in Womanology get seriously burned sooner or later so go hard, learn your lessons and grow.

Xoxo.

OP, all the answers you seek are here ^^

Pay special attention to that bit in all caps - STOP ASKING WOMEN OUT.

Real life story: first two girls I asked out in my life gave me an outright No. Maybe it's something with Nigerian girls at that age/stage - late teens, early twenties. Anyway, the very next one I didn't bother with all that formality, I just jokingly told her I was going to buy snacks, does she wanna come? Jokingly said I'm still hungry, what did you cook? Jokingly followed her to her house, jokingly eat her rice, jokingly stretched out on her bed like I've been sleeping there all my life... pretty soon we were jokingly kissing and smooching.

Relax and have fun, bro, and you'll see it happen like magic.

asdfjklhaha:
Let me tell you something biko, ayam not a feminist and I don't believe that what a man can do a woman can do better.
It is your duty to protect me, ayam tell you now because anytime you are not around and cockroach enters the house, I will use basket and cover it and keep broom beside. When you come back, you kill it.

If you can't protect me, who will...
Ayam praying for you

From your fucho waif

Funny gyal...

Me likey sha.

funmisticqueen:
clubbing. I wish i had more fun in school, but i came to get a degree so.

Same here.

And frolicking. I wish I frolicked more.

ElsonMorali:
#sigh

I just have one small favour to ask you bro, when you get heart broken and you decide to write the episode here, please could you kinda cc me? Thanks in advance bro. Appreciate.

I first saw OP's thread some days back; when I read up to where he gave her his car - a babe he's known for a combined grand total of THREE days - on some stewpid plan to get her to visit him, I just stopped and clicked on something else.

Do you live in a major city? In a populated residential area? You can consider going into laundry business. Mind you I have no experience with it, but I've heard quite a bit about its profitability. The way I hear, most important is learning the business first; see if you can apprentice for a few weeks with at another laundry to learn all about the business. Then talk with your wife (you truly need her support for any new venture), extended family, and good friend as per raising start up funds. You will likely need a good washing machine, a reliable pressing iron, and possibly a sizable generator (so our epileptic power don't make you disappoint your customers). And then of course, rent for your new shop.

I'd like to think that ₦300k - ₦500k should see you started - but don't let funds hinder you. Start with whatever you have and push, push, PUSH to succeed.

All the best.

@ OP, all the answers you seek are here ->>

RiyadhGoddess:
Op you and your mom or any other person in the family should stop forcing her. Just stop it!!! Instead of forcing her, channel all that energy to find out what her interest are. Like you said she loves reading story book so I am very sure that asides story books there might be some other areas of interest that you guys haven't discovered or she haven't discovered or she knows but afraid to talk about it since all you are after is Study Study Study. Find out what she loves(areas of interest) and use that as a tool to bring out the love to study again. Also please get her a mentor. It could be an educational mentor or counselor or something related trust me they will do the work and bring out the best in her. I know a lot of people whose lives changed after seeing one. They are doing well now...
See Op, I use to have a distant cousin who hates to study. He hates school that how he crossed secondary school I don't even know but his parents must have pushed him by force without taking time to know the reasons behind his lazy and unserious attitudes toward studies. The real deal blew out when he got to Uni. Nobody to bribe in the private Uni he was and his grades were so bad. Bad is an understatement. His parents talked and talked, scold and scold for where no changes. He was sent away from school because of his poor performance. Everyone thought that was the end for him. Some were already saying ko lo ko ise mechanic lols. Not until a man visited them and when he heard what happened, he called my distant cousin and spoke to him. The following week my distant cousin began a few weeks mentorship class and that was how my distant cousin in depth passion, interest was discovered. He use to like computer. He just loved playing around computer. He will pieces and fix it, do one thing one thing with the computer but nobody noticed it. When he was in the Uni before being sent away, the only class he loved and enjoyed was CIT and he was a business admin student imagine.
My distant cousin dropped out of school but today he is an IT Guru working with an oil firm. Them dey fight for am sef... I hope he doesn't get to read this...

Another case is a young lady who the parents pushed her all through secondary school but she had no interest but the parents didn't care because she must just go to school by fire by force. She just knew no jack, nothing but the parents had the money for special centres and all. She got into the Uni, the girl just didn't understand what was happening there. She began to skip classes and even miss school. Of course she lots of carry overs. Her mom will come to school and cry and cry until one day during her parents visit to the school, after the usual cry and cry, she told her parents ENOUGH! Stop it! I do not like School. I don't want to be in school but you all keep forcing me. Her parents were shocked. Her room mates and friends tried talking to her to stop it. Her mom cried more saying people will mock them and it's the work of the enemies. Her mom begged her friends to talk to her but this girl begged her parents to stop wasting their money. She said she wants to be a Top Fashion Designer. That was how this girl dropped out of school to pursue her dreams. Her parents are rich, she was sent out of the country to pursue her dreams after the parents got counseled. Today she's a big Time designer.

So Op or whoever reading that is also experiencing this, find out what your passions or area of interest are. It is a tool to bring out the greatness in you. Op find out what your sister likes or even ask her what she wants to become in life, what are her dreams? Start with that. Then we can then use that as a tool to bring out or unlock the greatness in her.
Lastly pls show her love! Not just you but every member of your family. Do not call her, I repeat, do not call her NEGATIVE names.
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God has a destination for you. He has an ultimate plan. He knows where you are right now and where you are going to. He is not just interested in the destination. He is interested in the process and the progress. Oh when God picks you up, He has a destination in mind for you and He wants you to be there.
Good Morning FAM. I wish you a Blessed Day Ahead.

*Shile*

I just want to ask: Who is that brief, potbellied man in oversized red t-shirt?

Just here for the comments, thank you kindly.

Ex no.1: Braveheart

Ex no.2: Gone In 60 Seconds

Dami12345:
Come on. Its a typo.
Can you compare?

No, you can't.

Dami12345:
Those books are just average. I wonder what you will say if you read the wheel of time.
You will probable run made.

I have read the Wheel of Time. No, I didn't run "made". But opinions are like asses, right?

MJBOLT:

no hulk vs thanos 2,thanos did not beat the avengers to my satisfaction

He already beat them beyond recognition in Infinity War. Would have done it again if not for the appearance of Captain Marvel.

I did hope Hulk would get a turn with Thanos though.