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smileing:
@vululadilolo

thank you so much. I have not reported to anyone yet
hurt, pains and disdain on myself have left me discouraged.

all these while, I have been offering him all I could (companionship, encouragement, emotional support, friendship, spiritual assistance ,inspiration ) except for my body. and he made me love him so much little did I know he would come for my body .

my worth is not based on the hymen but yet I value my chasity.
I'm broken cos I encouraged people to be chaste. who do I talk to. the therapist I tried talking to tried molesting me too

I'm deformed now as I am feeling suicidal
what I built in years just crashed within a twinkling of an eye

I knew it will get to the suicidal part.

Please don't entertain such thoughts.

I can feel ur pain, cut ties with the idiot because anybody that cause u to have suicide thoughts is not meant for u.

Take this as one of those lessons in life. Move on, be celibate and if you find someone you trust again, tell him about ur past and you can show him this thread too. No one is worth dying for.

Oluwaferanmi90:
My gf met a man some years back, while we were both undergraduates. He bought her two phones within a year worth over 100k altogether and he gives her money "most times" she ask. She hid all these from me for over 2 years and even claimed it was her dad who got her the phone, when I asked. I am not the type of guy who doesn't provide or take care of his gf/her bills even if am not all that rich. I give her money and gifts, we go on dates as well.
We once had an issue sometimes last year, when she was always hanging out with an ex and after she turned down his advances. The guy came to attack me and sent cultists after me cos he felt I was the reason why she was collecting his money without giving him what he wanted. Makes me wonder after such experience why she keeps collecting money from a man she claims to have nothing with and doesn't intend to.
Broke up with her afterwards cos I love my life.
And I see no reason why any man will be spending on a lady without getting anything in return in this economy.
She's been calling, crying and pleading for a while and sometimes makes me feel I'm heartless or just wanted to break up with her cos she feels it's a minor issue. She can stop contacting the man if I want etc.
But with countless stories flying around of what men does with ladies(not necessarily sleep with them) to get whatever they want without the lady knowing esp for money
So what if there is more to what the man is doing than we both know
Cos she claims the man has never asked her out or demanded anything from her, he is even a pastor in a neighboring state so they haven't seen since he completed the burial he came for when they met and he went back(about 2 years ago) but if she should ask him money tomorrow and he has he'll still send to her
Though she's been a loving, caring and very supportive gf, and I love her so much even everyone around me and family knows her but I can't trust her on this
She said if I think she is lying she is ready to do anything I request even swear by whatever I want to prove her innocence and claims it's a different issue compared to her ex issue back then and if I had truly forgiven her I won't relate it together
But I see no difference here, have I overreacted?

I don't trust that girl

Forget the issue of swearing, girls don't fear again, my ex used to swear with her life, and her entire family's life that she wasn't cheating but I later realised she's been cheating all along.

I think he is walking on a rope. I have seen the video more than twice.

Why old men dey disgrace themselves like children.


Only kids and bitchhy men always want to have the last word

seunmsg:
It is premature to quickly conclude that the man who clearly displayed his ID card is bribing the INEC adhoc staff. It could be a gift for refreshment. No political party can be so foolish as to be bribing INEC staff publicly in this manner. If it was a bribe, agents of other parties would have protested publicly.

u think you made sense now, anything to make u feel better.

Now gerarahere.

Eberex:
Did you notice the prophets of old? When they preach to the people they start with either of the following "the Lord says", " thus saith the Lord", "May the Lord" etc etc

Jesus on the other hand never used any of that. Instead he starts with "I AM". Eg I am the light of the world, I am the living bread, I am the resurrection and the life etc.

Same word God told Moses on the Mountain when he asked him who should he tell the people of Israel if they ask who sent him?

Tell them " I AM that I AM"

In the beginning, God said "let there be light , and there was light ". The word he spoke was Jesus. " In the beginning was the word, the word was with God, and the word was God".

To shed more light. The sun is up there, millions away from us, yet we feel its heat on us. The heat we feel is the sun itself, because it contains all the nature of the sun....thus the heat is generated by the sun and not created by the sun. If the sun contain 22 elements, the heat has that same 22 elements.

The word God spoke was from Him. The word was generated, not created. The word is the same as where it was generated from; same elements, same properties etc.

When Thomas saw and believed him after he rose , he exclaimed " my lord and my God".
That wouldn't have been included in the Bible if it is not true.

flesh and blood did not reveal this to you but Spiritual understanding.


Nice one

CodeTemplar:
Do you guys agree?

was it stated anywhere in the Bible that the man's father was not yet dead then, or u are assuming?

Destroe:
P square and davido just dominate the whole list. This just shows that davido is the biggest music artiste in Nigeria now

true, wizkid Na yoruba people biggest but Davido Na Nigerian biggest.

Dudeweedlmao:
Sorry, but you're wrong. She is THAT beautiful. I would have uploaded just one of her picture but I'm sure it would be immature. Her skin is like a baby's ass, (yes, it's that smooth)even when she would stay in my place for a few days and not take her bath as religiously as i did, her skin was still smooth and maintained it's natural color. Her nose is as small as a button, don't even get me started on her lips, very luscious and red lowerlip, her butt & boobs are very moderate (for a Ghanian) and she's 5'9'', she has cat eyes and they are always white even when she's hungry (only red when she wakes up lol) She was a literal melanine princess. She's half Ghanaian, half Nigerian. If you know anything about Ghanaian is that when they are fine, they are extremely fine and when they are ugly, they are extreme ugg, this girl is fine. I didn't have money when we met and you could see it clearly on my face, while she was rich but I was also good looking because I do get mired a lot when I'm on my own, but when you're with a girl (whether fine or not) people (at least over here) tend to look at you guys a lot, both men and women and they respect you more (which i think is very stupid) I miss how rude she would be to them because we both thought it was a stupid thing. We stayed together for so long that she started to look like me and people usually taught she was my sister, we bonded to much, i guesss. Every single person I knew wanted to Bleep this girl, she's looked like sex, very comely when she sweats, I wish I was matured enough when I met her, could have handled things differently, could have trusted her more.

I stoped believing most guys that say a lot about how beautiful their girlfriends are because it often turns out to b d opposite. Beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder.

If she was that beautiful you probably won't have a chance with her.

deybholar:
I miss how he used to text me sweet messages even while we were in the same room.[b] I miss how he used to wake me up from sleep [/b]with his kisses. I miss how all my worries automatically became his. I miss the way he used to look at me and kiss me. Sadly, life had other plans but I can categorically say he was my soulmate and he gave me the greatest love I have ever felt

kissing a sour smelling mouth is what I can't do so far.


For u to call him ur soulmate haircream and you still broke up with him, it probably means u cheated on him

ZIMDRILL:
You are using emotion to think simply becoz you are woman and the statement is against women

Let break it down

All abuse in marriages and relationships have links to financial stability

Ever since the begining of paid work men brought average 80% of family income meaning traditionally men were financial providers and meaning women would be attracted to someone who is financial provider in his right, without her looking into what she can provide financial. Hence we have women who ask “can you look after me” meaning she wants to be look after without providing but managing what the man brings on the table

We have women who set bars for men eg i want a man who drives a car but herself has nothing to her name not even a cat

So basically traditionally women have been depending on men financially and men have been taking advantage abusing women becoz a woman can not walk out from marriage becoz she was never a financial provider but depended. And becoz of year of being a depended they dont no were to start so many stay in those abusive marriages

So if a woman is financially stable before marriage, she wont marry to be looked after financially

So having her own income helps her if things turn sour in marriage

Many marriage from african born and raised couples who moved to the west are failing becoz most women are financially stable, women nolonger depend on man for finance she works and even brings more money. No more advantage for men eg he cheats and forgiven becoz without the man financially she is stuck, no more than you find most men being kicked out and also most women being abusive and in any small issue the man is being threatened to call police on him(in the west any violence towards a woman is big issue)

So basically from tradition women have been leeches they look for the fat man who can look after them

A financially stable women wouldnt be a victim of abuse via finance aka man being the provider she can easy walk out than a woman who depends on a man financially

Hope you got my point

well said

spiceadole:
I don't understand why this topic is still an issue.

Social media and reality are 2 different situations.

On social media, Nigerian men claim to love /prefer working class, independent women who do not have to depend on them for anything.
They say they prefer women who can pay their bills on a date.

In reality, Nigerian men prefer to marry dependent women.

Many jobless broke dependent ladies are married while the working class independent well to do, financially stable ones are single and avoided because they are seen as too "proud".
They are tagged "ashewo, olosho " and other unprintable names because the Nigerian man doesn't believe that a woman can be financially sufficient without selling her body to men.
In Nigeria, every financially successful woman must have been involved in some form of prostitution before she made it.

Even married women are seen this way, how much more a single lady??

As a lady, try taking up your bill on a date... That man will never want to have anything to do with you any more. In his mind, "what kind of lady pays her bills? If she can afford to eat without my money, then what can I offer her? "

That's the reason why some of us are advised not to show that we have money so that "men will not run away from us".
Society advises us "Do not buy a car while you are single"...

It's very easy to type and argue gibberish on social media but we all know that in reality...
If you put Miss A, probably an undergraduate or a jobless graduate or low-income salary earner
And Miss B, a working class well paid, business owner, financially stable lady...

90% of All Nigerian men would rush and go for Miss A.

A dependent woman is the Nigerian man's ideal woman. Nothing feeds a man's ego than woman who depends on him for "survival".

Such woman is easy to manipulate, use, disuse, abuse, maltreat and she won't bait an eyelid.

The smarter and more independent you are, the less attractive you are to men in reality.

sad but true

highqueen:


whatever,even when I'm financially stable,it's the duty of the man to provide for all that's needed in the home.

keep praying, hopefully the maga that will marry you will come for u

kimbraa:
You can't even spell your moniker correctly, and you wish someone somewhere is jealous of you. You're deluded, my dear.

Jealous and envious of you, 'cause you are who? A nameless person? At times, I try to picture the environment in grew up in when you have a formed mindset that people are jealous of you.

she seems better than you in English madam.

You saw something she wrote in quotes "." and u still correcting it.

Colourich:
Here comes the idiot that won't stop pointing out the typographical errors I made out of hastiness to reply her fellow idiot. You think you are a smart ass by pointing out typos, but you are not, you are just a dumb lil girl, now go cry to your mummy.

Does it hurt you to know that he created a thread just to register his displeasure towards me? About making irrelevant people relevant, we all know you are the nuisance here, so don't get me started crackhead. Just f.uck off!

to me "said" isn't wrong where u used it

kimbraa:
He should also ask you of the school you graduated from.

Jack, you're a man. You easily get angry, and it will be better for you if you work on your anger. The issue doesn't warrant you creating a thread for her, 'cause you ended up making irrelevant people relevant.

she is right, you wanted her to use "say"

Bidobado:
Most Nigerian traders are like, the igbo traders are even worse, if you make the mistake of haggling at lower prices, they threaten you and banish you from their shops.

exactly what you said is what I have noticed with some Igbo traders and also what the guy you quoted said, is what I have noticed from some yoruba traders.

One yoruba woman that is close to my house, anytime I buy something elsewhere I will b afraid to pass in front of her shop because she would confront me so I usually take a longer distance.

Some Igbo traders will badmouth you if u price too much, some won't even reply u again, you will just b talking to urself.

ChiefAzubuike:
I don't know whats always wrong with these people. Most especially the yoruba traders among them. You dare not be a regular customer of one and make the mistake to buy goods from another nearby shop. The moment you're caught , he/she will start having grudges against you. Someone that used to shout from afar "Chief Azubuike good afternoon o" will start hissing and spiting when you walk by. .

true

Nice1

The tiny voiced kid go soon go rent one or may hire purchase.

MManuel:
Wetin this guy dey play sef?

he's good

Sagay212:
I wish the mumu Nigerian youths wasting energy supporting and cheering their senators will use that same energy to ask the devilish and bast.ard senators to show them the number of projects carried out in their constituencies. If you cannot hold politicians accountable for simple things as constituency projects, I wonder if the youths are not more useless and foolish than the politicians.

they ignore the most important things and chase shadows, praising politicians over stupid and petty things.

how many has ur non mumu and non bastard buhari done. Stop being emotional kid

Like some guys said.

He may not be that good looking. Or


You have seen his all, nothing left to expect.


He can't take care of ur bills if u decide to date him.



Just tell him that he's like a brother n father to you n that u like him but not in sexual way.

lilmax:
from what I gathered from this crap

he's not very intelligent, during my days of this bestie thing, I used girls like tissue,they are so vurnerable.... but I don change



well now we know why girls are being treated like trash.....

exactly, u don't ask such a girl out.

Wait for when she is vulnerable, probably after a brake up. Try to cuddle her for long and if you play ur card well u end up having seks with her.

I thought some set of people were claiming him in the other thread

lawbabs:
Saraki is hitting his target (gullible brains) with precision. I have been saying it since last year that that Daura is a mole in Buhari's government for two years now. Remember, he bungled the confirmation of EFCC Chairman's appointment. Dont also forget he was behind the smuggling in of Maina from Dubai. I knew this day was coming... I only wished Buhari was smart enough to pick the glaring signal early enough until now that much damage has been done.

this stale efcc excuse. So he hypnotised APC senators to fall in line with the plan, then saraki is the real MVP.


No wonder these guys are called zone Bs. They don't think

The only condition it can be accepted is if Tinubu gave his life to Christ that day and stops being a Muslim.

These people are delusional, once they are exposed they find a way to blame opposition.

Sahara distorters that hate saraki so much, why won't they link it to him.

veekid:
She can go and die joooor

after you've died several decades past then she would gladly die

Maybe he is going for high class women. Let him go for a groundnut seller let's see the result.



But women like material things pass love sha.

That's why Yahoo boys keep using their destiny for ritual, one of my childhood friends just landed from Ghana with enough Yahoo money and already in market for a car. Just see how all these hungry slay queens would follow him around.

Maybe he is going for high class women. Let him go for a groundnut seller let's see the result.



But women like material things pass love sha

Suicide is not an option.


She probably didn't believe in judgement n life after death.

The experience must have been unbearable for her. You should have asked more experienced people for counsel