₦airaland Forum

yvelchstores:
I am ashamed. To those asking "and so",if u travel outside the country and see how airport should be u will know that sitting on D floor is an absolute disgrace in this situation because nigerian Airport is not a" high traffic" Airport like dubai and Co . except someone can show me same scenario happening in Ghana Airport, then This is really shameful.


Nigerian youth, pls stop being mediocre and accepting below average as ok.its not OK. God help this land.

jasper83:
The way this generation handles the subject of marriage calls for great concern. I seldomly comment on nairaland but i had to pour my mind on this issue. I dont know how old you are but i would advise you to calm down for the sake of your overall happiness in old age. You are not smarter, more intelligent than women of old who applied wisdom in their home affairs of which you and I were products of such. Why do we love to chicken out of our problems rather than facing it squarely and win. So after toiling hard with your husband for years, the moment he cheats on you the best thing to do is to walk away? I'm not holding brief for my gender but I believe with this mentality of " he cheats, i cheat back or he cheats i'l walk away " makes the marital future of this generation so bleak.

There is an adage in Yoruba that says" this issue is your issue and you say I'm going to the farm I have no time for nonsense" my people say come back from that your farm in 100 years that your issue you avoided then, is waiting for you in the cooler. So why not address it and win. Don't allow anyone fool you to believe if you walk away there is one innocent gentle man who will not look over your shoulder, it's a rare gift to be contented with a single lady truth be told. As a middle age myself i have brought up this issue within my male folks and it will shock you the reason why some don't cheat.

1. A man that is broke need not cheat because he's setting himself up for embarrassment because it take few cash to indulge in adultery. Sometimes it even expensive depending on your status, she ain't your wife so sex is not FREE.

2. When the size of manhood is funny and its not working optimally .So why show your John Thomas to the world and become a laffing stock because if your carry 5 ladies they will all see your unclothedness , so it's safe to stick with one's wife because she can't be so daft to make my case a subject of ridicule among her friend.

3. Natural low libido.

4. Grace of God.

Two days or so the social media was agoged even up till now the divorce saga of Jeff Bezos the world wealthiest. As polished, exposed and socially upright in the eyes of the world he still engages in illicit affairs. Sister leave it or take it the two genders ain't wired the same way. The earlier you get this the better for you. Don't get me wrong, I'm not justifying cheating but this issue has refused to go way for ages so what's the matter, why kill yourself over it.

Today's women always threatening to walk away, no problem but today's guys too will be wiser by not marrying your gender legally in the long run, so many children will be raised singlehandedly by women while the males continue with there wayward lifestyles. So eventually that depression you ran way from will be staring you in the eyes while raising your kids yourself. You can't fight him since he's performing his fatherly role. As he grows old being a single cassanova he retires fully or partially womanising and woman who knows how to manage him sticks around obviously for companionship. You that left many years back, will be struggling with nature not disappoint yourself or your kids by not flirting around, why go through all that torture. Even when you decide to settle down what number are you going to be in that marriage. Please think, when the natural pressure is much you may discover you are sharing someone's husband with the rightful owner, and remember you were once a rightful owner.

My dear ladies please be calm and try to apply wisdom, it's key. There is a trend in town now of your fiance female bestie being the best man, I have two examples now of the husband sleeping with the besties after marriage. Anything that can expose your man to danger should be fought, guard your homes, don't claim to be socially correct so that society won't tag you an insecure woman. Make that marriage work, it's your home don't go for an invader, the battle must be won.

@Op please pray for husband and call up that shameless woman if need be, threaten her to reveal to her husband and colleagues the amorous affairs she is having with your man, and be ready to do it. She will fear you and adjust. God bless and protect your home.

Gracias.

bestshimmer:
After he had an emotional affair with his female married colleague.
I don't want to say I hate him now. But the feelings are not the same anymore.
He apologized and stopped but they were still communicating.
I asked him to stop receiving her calls but he said he couldn't. She would still sometimes profess love to him again. But he would say No.
Until I threatened my husband to send her husband, colleagues, in-laws etc screenshots of her messages.
They've stopped communicating.

But now I can't seem to forget the chats and SMS I saw.
Once in awhile I feel angry and become rude to him.
It's eating me up.

I forgave him when he 1st apologized but when I started seeing them continuing having friendly chats. It pained me. Cos that was how they started.

I complained and he started deleting their chats. Even called me a nag.

Now everything has ended I still feel heartbroken.
I trusted him so so so so so much.
If we were dating I would have just left. But we have 3kids. And am job hunting.

I say in my heart that I forgive him but why do I still feel hurt. Why do I not trust him anymore. I use other issues to cover up and be rude to him. But I know it's not those issues.
Help me. It's killing me

uckennety:
You can't fix a broken mirror thats why you can't trust him!

But be matured! Let your home and children be your number 1 priority!

If you cheat on him and your caught you will be sent out! No matter the excuse you give!


If your rudeness starts to get out of hand! It may affect your relationship with your husband which will one day drive you out of the house voluntary or involuntary!

Besides what character will you be teaching your children! Your daughters will be rude to their husbands and expect their husband tolerates it like their father!

The actions we take have ripple effects in our lives!

P.s to be sincere with you

My father cheats on my mum
She knows ,we even complain to her and report some events to her but she doesn't care cuz she loves her children!

What will she gain if the girl outside comes inside in take full control!


Secure your position 1st!

Look for a job or start a business

So you will not dependent on him


The bible says a good wife builds the home

It didn't say a good wife maketh sure the husband doesnt cheat


just ignore

See your marriage as a full time responsibility you have accepted to take!


I know you will say what about LOVE

Love is like a fairy tale told to young kids!

There is only one time in our life we may experience love and that's when we are old! About 70years still married! Children now parents n you see your grandma children

Then you both hold hands smile n laff about your mistakes,your failures and your successes together!

Your post broke my heart because some of u men think we should sit and swallow all sorts of bullshit from y'all. Newsflash, we r slowly walking up and time is coming when every man will regret their action.

Marriage is not easy!

frozen70:
Na them go tire

This is the same issue in naija, man made culture that is causing problems

So men can't go to God for prayers
Only women should do that.

Am glad that it wasn't documented that men should cheat on their wives both in the bible and Nigeria constitution

Na naija men take their hand formulate tradition that favours men and permits men to bleep out

Men said they can't be eating egusi soup alone that's why they have to go out and eat Ogbono soup from different pots of soup

Women have also learnt to add ogbono to their egusi soup while cooking it for greater taste

pocohantas:
This is why I suggest History should be made compulsory in secondary schools. You know nothing about culture/tradition obviously.

Just like "white wedding", a woman switching to her husband's name is foreign.

That said, Bride price was started by you men. Men are the ones that sit and collect it all. Ego will not allow you all stop it, because you people must always have something to feel superior about.

Honestly I do wonder if some of you can exist as women. So insecure, despite how society has given you guys a higher standing...you people still fight over the pettiest of things. Jeez!!!!

anonymuz:
na only that banga soup I want o

queenfav:
lemme coman carry one banga soup na Making mine Monday, dem no wan let me rest with banga and dry fish.

olawonder:
Oh Lord! Just see the dumbfucks coming out of Nigerians comments nobody has brain to even think his drink might hv been spiked for hating the guy! A remote town in Russia certainly couldn’t be so tolerant of some black African dating one of theirs... knowing how racist most Russians are
RIP to the guy, and to all you idiots on NL!

MobilityExpress:
I remember growing up, my mother has slapped the heck out of me, I never slapped her back, my mother has thrown shoes at me, thrown TV at me, thrown spoon, thrown ceramic plates, thrown glass cups, bitten my hand, all in a bid to raise a responsible child that will be useful for himself, family and society. Look at me now, I can’t thank her enough. She did a wonderful job to ensure, whatever it took, to drive irresponsible behavior away from me. People like me, when we were growing, we were surrounded by bad boys, we were bad boys but our mothers were the saving grace that didn’t let us sink into the hole of criminality and depravity. We became responsible children by fire by force. Now one girl that just joined the bandwagon at the finish line now says she will slap that same mother? *In Lasisi’s voice* Are you mad? . I’ll beat the madness out of you in a hurry, because you see, that mother, sweet sweet mother, she beat the madness out of me and I became a success for it. God bless my mother and all the good mothers out there. We love you unconditionally. Slap anybody you like, we will defend you with our blood, our money and our lives. You are too dear to us . Your tearful prayers made us great. A good Mother is the best blessing a man could receive. For me, it’s Mother over wife, God over everything!

mzMerci:
Street food for lunch after a looooooooonnnnnnnnngggg clinic..this particular seller just gets it

anayolity:
Lol... Nne its Ewu Gambia!

Justice310:
Take panado

princfred:
What if they don't know? Is it not by real comparism that they get to know that their is better way and that way is not out if this word? Do you know how many ladies have learnt one or two from all these criticism and submissions? Only those with under developed minds hate truthful criticism.

93Miles:
Go to hell! Useless tin

princfred:
@ (a)Please gladly do as i believe the guys are matured and emotionally developed enough to take criticism and use it o improve rather than childish doubling down on stupid.
@ (b) Don't think thats high esteem because its actually delusional ego which prevents the average black from learning and improving when their flaw is shown to them enough.

Justice310:
Sharap there. I dislike naija ladies, they're like poo

zinaunreal:
Sister Nigerian women are more financial in relationships. Maybe not you but most ladies. Boring as hell. That notion where you attract people like yourself, lady youre damn wrong.

I think you just dey use vex dey comment, white women know what relationships really mean, not the commercial black african money lovers, who call themselves wives to be

93Miles:
The guy did not even do more of the comparison and you are this pained.

If I start the comparison, you'll curse your God for making you an African woman.


Y'all African women are what I can't even put in words.


I can never advise even my worst enemy to date an African woman not to talk of marrying one.

princfred:
Go and improve so we can stop the comparism. Stop this nonsense Nigerian sense i the bolded for ones.

sodiqapril:
like most Nigerian girls, she is boring AF...chatting with most Nigeria girls identical to chatting with a robot..i think its due to this their stupid pride...i've like five White girls I chat with on watsapp, we met on Instagram..(I use my real name and pictures), we are just friends.I've Even gone as far as making video calls with one of them..the level of maturity and lack of boredom in the way these girls converse has made me sworn not to waste my energy chasing Nigeria girls..what most of them understand is money but there are few exceptions sha

cutiereborn:
Why are you looking for my trouble now?
This cool afternoon

strangest:
i know cause thats where you are from

strangest:
that awkward moment when they put draw soup on top nri oka... an Onitsha special... I ate it first at Umuase