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Doolove:
Some time ago my boyfriend brought my matter here because I went to visit a male friend and I was called all sorts of derogatory names without anyone hearing my side of the story.

We met early last year, he was just out of school without a job but I still accepted him regardless. I had a stubborn ex that wouldn't go away so he was taking care of my bills while I was dating my new boyfriend which he was well aware of. I later had an issue with the ex that led to him calling the police on me accusing me of stealing the iPhone 7 that he bought for me while insisting that I return it or he would take the matter to his village and make sure I run mad. I stood my ground amid all the threats held on to the phone.

Coincidentally, things picked up for my guy when the ex left, he started getting lots of freelance gigs online so I didn't feel the absence of the old guy. My boyfriend made sure I didn't lack anything even without me asking. I had to break up with him once because I felt he was doing too much and I might be running him down. He laughed it off and gave me screenshots of some of his account balance.

Fast forward to this year and things went south again, The gigs stopped coming in, and some of the firms he worked for closed shop so he was surviving on his savings which were depleting very quickly. It's worthy to note that before now the major issue that I have had with him is the way he sees my relationships with other men. He practically doesn't want me to have male friends or even go on harmless sitouts with friends. He thinks it's a disrespect to him for me to have anything to do with other guys while I am in his place.

This has resulted in serious fights each I come back from seeing a friend, At times he gets so mad that he flings my things outside to go stay with whoever I went to see.

Meanwhile, things have been very tough for him recently to the extent that feeding has become difficult. He quickly invested in a farm with with a friend when his savings were going down and used the remaining money to startup a blog. Now it's looking as if the guy he's doing the farm business with has scammed him because it's been from one story to the other and he's so broke right now that he can't even afford data to write content for his blog which we all know blogging is even saturated and takes time to start paying.

I started work two weeks ago and I have been the one taking care of my transport fare, he only gives me 1k once in a while to support. It's this same men he doesn't want me to communicate with that has been helping me out all this while. He sits at home all day waiting for the proceeds of the farm so he can start mini importation of wigs.

Every guy that asks me out seems to be well to do than my guy and it really bothers me. They all have nice cares and ready to spend while my own guy now depends on begging to feed. Even though he's smart and all but I don't know where the break through will come from and it seems I am wasting my time with him.

On Monday was my off day and I was at home, I woke up with a mood swing so I wasn't talking to him. He was busy cleaning the house without mentioning breakfast so I had to call someone to come get breakfast for me. He got mad at me tagging it an insult to him. It caused issues and I left the house and dared him to do his worst and he asked me not to leave because I needed some positive vibes since he was boring me with his attitude. I actually went to my family house but he feels I always go to see a guy each time I leave the house.

I came back around 8pm to meet the house locked and he kept ignoring my calls knowing fully well that I didn't leave with my key and I wasn't feeling fine and needed to take my drugs. I got drenched by the rain and my sickness go worst. He came back home by 11pm that night.

Now I haven't been able to go to work for the past three days and he's been running around buying drugs and food on credit so I can get well when he caused it. On the other hand a guy that has been giving me stuffs asked me to take a break from work and rest and he will give me my full salary.

I am just confused, it seems I am leaving better things out there for a broke guy and it's bothering me. What do you guys think I should do

Please ignore any typos, I wrote in a hurry

kennyjam:
I would say this thread has a great deal of invaluable tips already.


1. Have that desire and passion


2. Pursue that desire and passion with all it takes knowing that God has instilled in you what it takes.

3. Understand yourself(how your brain and body works). This could be in terms of understanding.

4. Learn from anyone and any of legal available means.

5. Neglect nothing in this race. One of the times I neglected something (a class) caused me to get a C instead of an A.

6. Have friends of the same goal or higher than yours.

7. After trying your best, leave all to God through your means of communicating with him.

Note: please explore other tips on this thread and other threads to get what yours exactly is.

Good luck bro and I hope to hear from you in the nearest future.

kennyjam:
Good day sir!

It's been quite a while even though we communicated in my earliest years.


By the grace of God, i have achieved that feat.

I finally Graduated with a 4.85 out 5.00 CGPA in Mechanical Engineering.


@Kenny4lyfe,
baum1, SetrakusRa and others on this thread.

This thread was one of my earliest motivation (if not the first).

I really thank God for this thread and opportunity of meeting several people here on this platform.


Better is not good enough, the best is yet to come!

ezenwaez:
You redeployed, probably unknowingly, call 01888340, 092203102, 018888148 or 018888189
Or just go to the new center if it is closer

The5DME:
hello bro. I stumbled upon your thread, and I just wanted to ask you if you later achieves your goal of graduating with a first class in mathematics?

maureensylvia:
Hi everyone,
What do you think about a school where
pupils are 4 or 5 in each class?

While some are 10 in a class...
No much population in the school.

Does it matter?

wolfrine:
whats the link pls

Kobojunkie:
Nope, the subject is still on Faith. Our instincts are built in versions of Faith.... The topic has not changed at all.

Now who is trying to derail the thread with ramblings that amount to nothing beyond the confines of his mind?

Kobojunkie:
Derail the thread? This thread center's around your understanding of what faith is, and how you understand it to mean

another set of so-called "spiritualists" in the name of God should walk into the lions den, believing God will save them when they do even that which defies common sense(some people's idea of how faith works)?

petra1:
Government should carry out autopsy before concluding wbeey death is covid related.

I heard they are conducting verbal autopsy in the Northern Part of the country.

Firstly we have fake diagnosis going on ,secondly we have reports of faulty test equipments that can even label pawpaw covid-19 positive

Very true. I'd just read Raymond Dokpesi saying that NCDC took malaria for Covid-19.

Kobojunkie:
Environment? you make me laugh!!
You speak today of environment or health of the mother(physical, emotional and psychological), but do you know before all these cares of today, man has been birthing babies without much care given to those?
In history, babys have been birthed in even in shit-pits.

Kobojunkie:
What do you think faith is?

That instinct to exit through the birth canal is what has driven many a successful births in both humans and animals for thousands of years.

Kobojunkie:
BullPiss! Babies have their own faith. Can be used to explain why it is near impossible to keep the baby in when it is ready to come out? And in the case the mother dies, there is still a window within which the baby can still be rescued from the womb, alive.

No need to invent different principles where there are none.

kingxsamz:
Nothing is being exaggerated...
Number of people who are infected are definitely a lot higher than the number of confirmed cases.

sophiap:
The truth is simple, Nigeria don't have any real COVID-19 patient, so if they allow you in to pray for them,you will see their secret that's why they won't let you in. Other countries that have real cases, if they won't let the minister enter the ward they will at least let the minister pray for the medical personal at the corridors of the ward inside the hospital and stretch their hands towards the ward were the patients are.

xyzindustreet:
Who wan die?
That act of love shown maybe as a result of some of the patient’s silent prayers to God to send a non-medical related helper. #Justsaying#

ademasta:
Pray for them from home