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My daughter is almost 2 and she doesn’t have a Nigerian passport yet. We’re planning to travel home this summer actually in less than 2 months. Has anyone gotten a certificate for their child? How long did it take? TIA

imadiyi:
Considering the xenophobic attitude of South Africans towards Nigerians in South Africa, they may not see her son as theirs. And this, perhaps, might be contributing to why the boy's family is unwilling to release him.

Also note that he may be the only child of his father, and as such, the family feels releasing him is a loss, as he may not visit them in his life time, due to his injurious mindset and the current hungry stance of the country (Nigeria).

How anyone can justify this senseless act is beyond me. Xenophobic what?? Irrant nonsense. Stupid tradition. A child belongs to his mom and dad. Relatives should go fin their own families and leave people alone

Hi all
I need some information regarding this passport renewal thingy. My fam want to renew and get a new one for our 2 year old born here. We already filled the forms but the site said because of Covid 19, we should call first to confirm dates available. As per normal, their number have refused to go through. Is it okay to just go ahead and book appointment on the website? Will it be valid?
Thank you

Please does anyone know when the embassy in Abuja will reopen. Even if it’s rumor or hint. We already booked an appointment before the covid shutdown and I need my mom to come down before January. Do you guys think it’s possible

DrTee1:
I hope I'm mistaken.

Reading of a previous divorce involving the bride made this an important find.

From the wedding invite, it appears the new bridegroom add well as the bridegroom (who is previously divorced) are both products of broken homes.

Its a sad situation today with more and more broken marriages. Men are always going to be men: alpha and dominant.

Our women must be careful about their choices of marriage too. If you deceive a man by pretending about your character and outlook of life before marriage, you are definitely laying foundations for a chaotic marriage.

There is also little gain in 'If he doesn't put a ring on it, he can't ask for character or input'. That's putting the cart before the horse.

A good woman who is self-reliant would have no problems exhibiting it at any time, before or after marriage. The world is worsening by the day with failed marriage as well as 'baby daddy' and 'baby mummy' ideas.

I am not blaming those who are unfortunate to have endured or are going through divorces or bad marriages. These people must consider a personal evaluation of character.

This is more about younger people who are yet to get married. A fruit never falls too far from the tree!

Your comment just increased the risk of your own divorce because it tells me what kind of person you are, a complete chauvinist. men are “alpha and dominant”? And you exonerated them. Let me just tell you now that the most common cause of divorce is the man thinking like he can do anything and get away with it. Marriage is between TWO people. The mans character is just as important as the woman’s in sustaining a good marriage. Get that into your chauvinistic head

Wow. I didn’t read up to six good stories in this thread. Things cannot be that bad

Anyway for me, I post a lot on Facebook and I don’t care who reads or comment. I just post and sometimes they’re very controversial so people end up arguing on my post and I will not even respond.
One time in 2016 I did something like this just for fun. It was the period of elections in the USA. I was a staunch Hilary supporter all the way from Nigeria lol and I kept teasing Donald trump. Any meme or silly video I see about him I will post just to kind of ridicule him. Anyway, as fate would have it, one guy saw this my post from the US and DM saying he wanted to “discuss” my views about the elections. Lol I’m just having fun man but I agreed to talk. He asked for my number and I gave him.
The next morning, very early (early where I was but afternoon at his end), he called and we kept going on about trump and Hillary for like 45 minutes. Lol. I can’t even remember what we said really but he tried to tell me that Hillary was not a godly person and why am I supporting her? I have plenty followers bla bla. Me I just told him I liked her cos she’s a woman. That’s enough reason for me.

We ended the call and I forgot about it. Until one month later, he said hi, I said hi. And we became friends. Apparently we also have mutual friends and I know some of his brothers. Clap turned to dance and last year he flew down to see me, came again to see my family and now we’re married. Haha.

Good morning,

I applied for a non-immigrant H4 visa as my husband holds a temporal workers visa in US. Today I checked my visa status. It’s been issued. How long would it take for my passport to be delivered to me?

Thanks

I don’t think it’s wrong to have pursued the person I loved. I know if I’d gone with person B (my church person) he might have made me unhappy. The man I married is kind and loves me very much. Sometimes I’m overwhelmed by how much he loves me. And he’s very nice

I’m using this platform to offload my mind and break down my experience but by bit.

On the 24th of October 2017 I dm’ed this to a page that offers counseling. It was posted and I got many comments with most people telling me to marry the first guy since I was close friends with him. Read below:

Hello ma please post anonymously
Please I need advice.

I am in a serious conflict. I accepted a proposal from someone that I loved very much and he loved me too. But I noticed that I was never happy with him. He told me some things that seriously bothered me about his past. Some of the ladies in his life are still around him. I feel very free with him and can discuss anything at all with him. He's very caring, nice and such and amazing man. He no longer pursues any of his former interests and I know he's fully committed to me. But whenever I think of marrying him I became afraid I don't know why.
I told my parents about him and it was the same reaction. My mom told me a kind of fear enters her heart whenever I mention him to her. That she becomes scared. And we can't even explain it. She has vowed that she would have nothing to do with our marriage if we should go ahead and get married. I have no doubt that this man loves me. My dad is also not happy that I even thought of marrying him because he's not a member of our church and my parents are top leaders in our church. They believe it's a shame for me to marry outside the church.

Now this is my dilemma. While this is going on, another guy came through the marriage procedures of the church and asked for my hand in marriage. I don't like this man for many reasons but he's comfortable as a doctor and also highly intelligent (as per bookworm). Because of the whole situation going on with my guy, I said yes to this one because I didn't want to miss out. I'm 29. I decided to give the second one a chance since my parents approved of him and he's very transparent about his dealings. My guy is also transparent but my parents don't want to hear it. The second guy grew up under the same training as me so there's no much differences as far as church issues is concerned. My major problem with him is that we don't flow at all. I'm always frustrated trying to get him to communicate. He can go weeks without talking to me yet he says he is determined to marry me. He's a narcissistic person and doesn't really care for my wellbeing. I've been trying to manage him and tell him what I like and don't like and he's trying to change but it's so frustrating. Besides I'm not very proud of him. I feel ashamed to show him off to my friends or talk about him. I don't like to see his pictures either and keep telling him to change his photos on Facebook. I'm an emotional person but he's strict and commands respect, that kind of thing. He doesn't allow me be free too. It's so stressful.
My parents were very happy when I introduced him to them infact they told me that they have prayed and believed he's the right one for me. but now I'm so confused. I don't feel ok until I have talked to my main guy. He's my best friend and He knows everything that is going on (I don't even know how to keep stuff away from him. I tell both of them everything) my guy still cares about me. He sends me money and continues to promise to take care of me if I choose him.
I'm seriously confused please I need advice from your friends. I know the will of God but it's difficult to follow it.

Ishilove:
Your story is not weird. It's just really sweet

Thanks Ishilove

MariaLavina:
So you would have married the doctor had it been he had no anger issues?



Hml sha

It was more than that. I didn’t really love him, just the prospect of being married and the fact that I had my parents support

AnonymousBee:
Congratulations dear, enjoy your new home. Weda you dated both concurrently doesn't matter. What matters is that you are at peace with your choice of man(Nairaland men won't like this sha )

I know a lot of people that don’t like it. Seriously even me myself I feel somehow atimes but I also know that none of it was intentional. And everyone is doing ok now

mrblessed:
Your story makes an interesting reading. It also reveals the mentality of a average Nigerian lady, and by extension, our irrational love and respect for the western world. I think you got it thoroughly perfectly planned all the way. Our preference is our vision. In most cases, what we like we called good; and what we dislike we call bad.

It is extremely difficult to give listening ears to the medical doctor, or seek ways to iron out a workable relationship with the American guy is having regular contact with you. My thesis is: you were completely overwhelmed by the prospects of moving to America with a guy you barely know. In fact, a part of me believes that you dated both of them concurrently. Do not use social media lovey-dovey appearance as a yardstick to measure the propriety of someone's character.

Nevertheless, happy married life!

You’re right. I never felt comfortable with someone I had only spoken with and not met in person.

Thank you!

And also because I didn’t know what he wanted. Eventually we got so close and started a relationship. Because he was so far away & I wasn’t very comfortable I didn’t put my mind in it.

In South Africa there was a guy that wanted to marry me as well. My parents knows him very well and were close to his parents. They encouraged me to forget the guy in the U.S and marry the one who’s present and available and they know. I returned to Nigeria after my program and this guy returned too from where he was. So it was like confirmed that we would marry. My parents were very excited. But I wasn’t very happy. I tried very hard to love the second guy but my mind kept going to the first. He was very very kind. The second man wasn’t nice at all. He was a doctor but had anger issues and wanted things done his way all the time.
This struggle went on for more than a year. Off and on with each of them. My reasons for not wanting to be with the USAperson was coz I hadn’t met him and he was too good to be true. The second guy, our relationship was just odd and I wasn’t in love with him.

By March this year, my husband hadn’t showed up still. I made up my mind to go with the second guy. We planned to get married in May and had even signed marriage registry with tears in my eyes cos I didn’t want it at all. I just felt I had to settle for one person so I could move on with my life. Despite my struggles, we had a conflict few weeks before the wedding in fact that’s another story in itself. I was in Lagos, my parents came by themselves to pull me out and fly me to their home.
It was then that I realized that God didn’t want us to get married because each time we tried, something just happened to scatter it. I just gave up and told myself that if I will get married I will. Else I don’t care. I was done and tired.
Two weeks after this, my main guy came to Nigeria. The moment I met him in person I just felt peace. I knew this was it. Our churches at uSA and Nigeria got involved and confirmed us to get married. The process went so smoothly and last week we tied the knot!!

What an amazing day. I’m at the deeper Life December retreat in Lagos state (DLCC). Earlier this year during the April Easter retreat I spent the entire program hanging out with my ex fiancé. We were engaged to be married in May this year (6months ago) ...
But today I’m spending the entire program with my husband, someone I married last week, Completely different from the person I was engaged to earlier this year. I’m just laughing. I’m speechless

How it all started.
Two years ago my now husband messaged me via dm to say he wanted to share a view with me. He’d been following me on Facebook for some time and thought that a post I had shared at that was contradicting so he wanted to “discuss” it. I didn’t mind since it was not the first time a follower of my page would message me. At the time I was in South Africa running my masters program. He asked for my phone number and gave me a call. 6 a.m in the morning this guy called and I remember we spoke for like 45 minutes straight. The controversial topic was Donald Trump. Since he lived in the USA he didn’t agree with my views that Hillary Clinton should have won. He felt that Trump was the better of the two candidates even though he was also bad. As silly as this topic was, somehow we spoke for that long. After he ended the call I pushed the conversation behind me & continued with my life.
Exactly one month after, he messaged me again to ask how I was doing. He was polite and I was also polite. I responded well and we got talking. That day I realized I could share just about anything with him. I even told him that there was someone who wanted to marry me. He responded so nicely and said he wished me the best.

It was December time so there were reasons to connect with each other again and again. I began to withdraw when I realized I was starting to like him. And also because

This is really good. In other continents he would be given awards

I even thought it was like clutch pencil or one of those pencils with holders lol.

I don’t understand the award. Why are we celebrating racism

Lol. this headline is completely misleading

ANGELMARVE:
Funny enough the lady is still exposing her cheating husband and the side Chick.
The husband even slept with the lady, blocked him and still kept her nudes in his phone.
The lady should not blame the side chick because whether she rants from now till tomorrow, there are ladies out there that are out to get rich married men.
The problem now is that, why did your husband cheated on you?
If he loves and respect you, he would had quickly blocked her the first time.
Funny enough the husband must have slept with the wife without protection since he slept with the side chick.
who knows if he foolishly slept with the side chick without prospection too.
This is how cheating men exposes their women to sexually transmitted diseases.

I will advice the wife to go for medical test then summon her husband to an elder in the family for advice, he should apologize to his wife and vow never to cheat again.
I won't advice divorce though but if he tries it again then she should divorce.

Your English is terrible

Hello. I have a scheduled h4 interview for December 18th but my wedding is in the 15th December. Is the timing too close? What are my chances of getting the visa? We hope to travel right after

Funny enough being outside Nigeria is not as homely as when you’re among your own people. The cultural differences, family intrusions, pokenosey attitude of Nigerians generally make me feel more at home than outside. Besides, in the abroad, you can’t be a local champion, almost everyone is good at what they do and even better sef. But here people have worse problems so you can feel good about your inabilities.

Sage7:
Bro, I'd suggest you ignore some responses.

Pick feedbacks from the main people wey sabi, not some trying to form woke with their responses.

Once again, Ignore!

Honestly. So much sarcasm and childishness on this thread.

Please the age declaration I did, nobody declared for me. I declared for myself saying I know the date to be true. Will it be accepted?

seyewest:
This thread is for Non Immigrant visa applicant.

Ok

I don’t know if it’s easier to go as a visitor and change it when I get there. That’s why I’m posting it here

LadyGuinivere:
Welcome to part 3 of this thread, Like the Phoenix, Part 2 must go down for part 3 to be born (Although the info in Parts 1 and 2 remain priceless and Must/Ought to be read by any serious applicant.Part 2 was wonderful. Lots of lovely people offering great advice. Each in their own unique style. You guys rock!!! You know yourselves.

For enquiries relating to likely interview questions and self evaluation, kindly go through both parts 1 and 2 of this thread so you have a fair knowledge of answers to such questions.

Kindly note that this is a do it yourself thread. Nobody here is an agent. Nobody is a VO, hence cannot authoritatively predict your chances of visa success .

Happy reading and good luck to all the honest visa seekers!

Please see part 1 here for reference:
https://www.nairaland.com/608780/usa-visit-visa/322#38856287

See part 2 here for reference https://www.nairaland.com/2656320/usa-visit-visa-part-2

Due to the fact that some questions are frequently asked, repeated and retreated, the links to the questions are contained herein for easy reference
For instructions and documents required for the application
http://nigeria.usembassy.gov/mobile//non-immigrant_visas.html

To book appointment and fill DS 160
http://nigeria.usembassy.gov/mobile//niv_appointmnent_instructions.html

Note:The steps for the whole process is set out step by step. For your own good, adhere. If not, a possibility exists that the final ds 160 number will be different from the one used to book the appointment . Applicants in those situations will neither be allowed to enter the embassy nor will they be interviewed.
In the event of such an occurence, kindly call/email the embassy to sort it out .

Peraventure you wish to change a detail in an already submitted ds 160, fill a new one, submit and call/email the embassy

For US embassy contact Nos and email
http://nigeria.usembassy.gov/mobile/contact.html

For video interviews with actual VOs on frequently asked Questions
https://www.nairaland.com/2656320/usa-visit-visa-part-2/180#47174473

https://plus.google.com/app/basic/s/%23AsktheVOs

For documents : http://nigeria.usembassy.gov/mobile//non-immigrant_visas.html

For sample transcripts of some interviews (as posted by the users of this thread) Please check this link https://www.nairaland.com/download/4692218


Finally, Lying on your ds 160 or during the interview is misrepresentation and a crime. This thread's aim is not to teach / coach applicants on how to lie. The truth is ALWAYS the best course of action no matter the situation. Please DO NOT ask about how to misrepresent on this thread.

I'm grateful to God that I am alive to create this new part. And for the several friends I have made hereon.

Thank you.
Humbly
LadyGuinivere

Please can you update the links on this post? None of them is valid

Hello everyone. My fiancé holds a h1b visa and we’re getting married in December. We want to be able to travel together immediately after the wedding. Which visa should I apply for that would be easiest to get?

Kentrasso:
Hello all. Please what’s the best visa to apply for in order to to travel immediately after a wedding ceremony. The husband holds a H1b visa but wifey is just going there for the first time. They want to travel immediately after. If she does spousal then they would have to wait till after the wedding before they can schedule the interview. Is there any possibility of them going together shortly after the wedding?

Can someone please answer me? Is there anyone who has been in this situation? Can the lady do a visiting visa and convert to spousal once they get there

234GT:
Oversure.

Banks don't gamble with their money. They won't spend so much on the recruitment process and leave you guys. And banks are always understaffed. There's so much work to be done.

Lol even after the three months rigorous foundation school where they would have spent nearly a million naira on each person, some were dropped for not being social enough, or came late too many times etc. some silly things like that. And you think they won’t let documentation people go

Hello all. Please what’s the best visa to apply for in order to to travel immediately after a wedding ceremony. The husband holds a H1b visa but wifey is just going there for the first time. They want to travel immediately after. If she does spousal then they would have to wait till after the wedding before they can schedule the interview. Is there any possibility of them going together shortly after the wedding?

What a beautiful animal. I hope it wasn’t killed