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MariaLavina:
Lemme guess, you ask these 'conversational questions' this way .

What are your hobbies?

What do you like about culture?

Hey Dupe! what qualities do you like or dislike in a man?

What would you like to change about yourself?
even these questions dey somehow.


The problem is you guys are always in a rush , like you want to know everything about a person in a day. You don't ask some questions directly, you pass some as a statement and wait for affirmation or denial, some questions are chipped into conversations not at the beginning. If you know your way around women, you will have them spilling things to you even without them knowing it.


Stop dishing out questionnaires in the name of having a conversation.

sod09:
yes o missed few today again, we have to beat Chelsea anyhow

sod09:
it was shared
Mane
Salah
Auba

monarch101:
shout out to every nigga on legit hustle,i can assure you that pay day is near.let's keep the fire burning

dokyOloye:
Northern state,dem no go hear English sef,and if dem hear,dem go struggle to respond in English .
Talking from first hand experience ooo

WisdomFlakes:
A lot of Tonto-like bitter women baring their fangs.

Blakjewelry:
I am telling you. check out that fool with his many likes shows you kind of brains we are sharing the same space with

sod09:
just look at those fools passing around

sod09:
I swear
Let's give wolves abeg those guys are mvp

mrsthang:
@OP,I will go off point a bit, sorry.


It is important that women become very ruthless and non sentimental in their choice of partner.A man you choose to marry will contribute a lot to your mental stability in the long run.

It is better to lay out your expectations BEFORE marriage and see if values match up.

A good number of men are very clear as to their expectations ,some very unrealistic.This plays out in the dating phase and yet we find women thinking marriage would suddenly make the person change and become more considerate?

If you are dating someone and playing househelp while also footing bills,how would this translate after marrying?

A- very traditional will expect you to do all the housework ,will expect to make all decisions while you don't contribute any of your money to running the house.

B-will expect you to work,do all the chores,submit your money to him and he will then dispense as he pleases.

C-will do house chores without breaking a sweat while you are the bread winner.

D-will out earn you and be happy to let you run things,may not even care about your cash.

E- 50-50 finances with chores split evenly or almost evenly.

It goes on and on,we as females have a choice as to whom we decide to spend our lives with.

Find the one that keys in to your own vision,do not make the mistake of thinking that a wicked, selfish person will mellow and become an angel.

Humans vary so much in their wants and needs,there is always a suitable person no matter how long it takes.

Not every woman is built to be submissive and a number of men are happy for the women to make final decisions.

There are also men who lead their homes seamlessly.

Yet again there are homes where there is partnership and each partner makes decisions based on their proficiency.

It goes on and on,we just need to respect our differences.

What matters is that the home front and the individuals in it stay happy.Can we boldly say the ones that don't follow the usual man is the head pattern are unhappy? Every ones parameter for happiness varies,none is more valid than the other.

I would say discuss money, religion,raising kids, sex,chores ,headship,tailship, neck ship,abuse etc before saying I do.


Marriage is a windy road with two imperfect people,there are ups and downs,but it can be mostly beautiful if it is done with the right person.


Disclaimer: I am no expert,my own marriage is almost at the 10 year mark and the only thing I didn't give a thought to is now what is haunting me, lol.Outside that,things are very good

No, I am not submissive neither do I believe that I'm made to be monogamous yet there's a man who loves me to the moon and back,lol.


Bottom line,choose wisely.

Karrma:
It's not been long i finished my NYSC program how am i supposed to get a job when every firm needs your medical report. It's a matter of time before i get sacked from a school i'm putting up with because i'm very sure i won't concentrate at work again.
How am I supposed to pop pills everyday without my parents noticing? I'm confused

Karrma:
Thank you to everyone who tried to make me feel better, but truth be told it's not helping. I'm miserable right now and may just end everything tonight. God bless you all.

dhabeautyjas:
forgiveness is good, but are u encouraging men to keep being calous to their women and the women should just keep forgiving since they are women.
Most women are going through alot and they hardly say it out just to protect the men, if the table was turned, the men will tell every tom dick and harry adding lies to make their story sweet.
Nobody is even seeing the kind of pain she had endured over time. None of you is bothered about her physical and emotional trauma, all u care about is for her to remain there.
A woman thats not working mostly endure pain and hardship (only few strong ones will say no cos most fear for their future and would rather die) ,now she is fit to take care of herself and u still want her to keep enduring. Thats wickedness.
If this story had been the other way round, am sure u will still blame the woman for not representing the man well in his new status. double standards if i may say.

Ugosample:
only if you know how many women have bottled up grievances against their significant other and are waiting for the right time to pounce

you will fear women


but if you treat your woman right in the first place, there won't be room for the "grievances" in the first place

Lexusgs430:
Maybe Babymama's & Babypapa's, should be the new norm.........

Abi wetin remain...........

Ugosample:
nwanne listen....


By now you should know the way women behave


In a situation where she has no leverage, and the man is misbehaving, she will suck it up, but now the tables have changed, she is giving him the boot

I have seen this play out again and again in real life, that is why I am somewhat sympathetic to Jumoke.

Women with no leverage in relationships with typical naija men dey see pepper in many cases.
that is why when the opportunity comes to get even, unlike men, women are not that forgiving
they will get even ruthlessly

Lexusgs430:
But we cannot continue with this narrative....... Has marriage lost it's true core & meaning?

Why bother getting married, if at the slight show of wealth and change in status, the other party bails out.....


They say in marriage, marry your type...... They did that, so what's the next formula?.....

sod09:
add wengay that foolish man bought us these foolish players
Mustafi, elneny, Jenkinson, Dino melaye etc

Roland17:
The magic words are CONSECUTIVE and ""AWAY". I am speaking specifically about CONSECUTIVE CLEAN SHEETS AWAY FROM HOME, not our entire games.

Roland17:
Consecutive away clean sheet.

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