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That's sad Hey, I googled some stuff about dealing with shyness. Hope it helps...

1. Act confidently.
Confidence comes through action, learning, practice, and mastery. Remember when you learned how to ride a bike? It was terrifying at first, but after you just went for it and tried it, you got it, and felt confident. Social confidence works the same way.
Feeling anxious is not the problem; avoiding social interactions is the problem. Eliminate avoidance and you will overcome your anxiety.
2. Engage.
This means participating in small talk in the checkout line and talking to strangers at bars, stores, sporting events, and the gym. Additionally, approach the individuals to whom you are attracted romantically. Talk to them. Ask them to dance. Ask them out on dates.
Life is short. Who cares if you get rejected? There are seven billion people on this planet. You’re not expected to like or be liked by all of them. Take some chances and put yourself out there to meet new people.
3. Try new things, even if they make you anxious.
Join a club, a sports team, or an improv class. Pick up a new project, take on a difficult task at work, or learn a new skill. Do something to get out of your comfort zone.
Part of overcoming shyness is about developing confidence in several areas of your life and not letting anxiety, fear of failure, fear of rejection, or fear of humiliation get in your way. By practicing new activities, you are confronting your fear of the unknown and learning to handle that anxiety more effectively.
4. Talk.
Start practicing giving speeches or presentations and telling jokes or stories at every opportunity. Be more talkative and expressive in all areas of your life. Whether you’re at work, with friends, with strangers, or walking down the street, you can practice talking more openly. Let your voice and your ideas be heard.
Confident people are not preoccupied with whether everyone is going to like what they have to say. They speak their mind because they want to share, engage, and connect with others. You can do this too. Anxiety and shyness are not reasons to stay quiet.
5. Make yourself vulnerable.
A fear of being judged contributes to social anxiety and shyness. The only way to overcome this fear is to make yourself vulnerable. Practice doing this with the people you are close to and can trust. You might realize the more you do it, the closer you feel to others and the more pleasure and meaning you get out of those relationships. This will lead to increased confidence in yourself and in social interactions.
Being vulnerable requires a willingness to let others see the real you. Be proud of who you are. Being genuine and vulnerable is often the quality that others will appreciate the most about you.
6. Practice displaying confident body language.
Make eye contact when talking to someone. Walk with your head held high. Project your voice clearly and effectively. Shake hands. Give hugs. Stay in close proximity to others.
7. Be mindful.
Mindfulness has been defined simply as awareness. Wake up. Be present to all of your thoughts, feelings, sensations, and memories in any given moment. There is no part of your experience that you have to run from, escape, or avoid. Learn to appreciate yourself and the world around you, including those “panicky” thoughts and feelings, and just notice them without judgment.

Courtesy: Google

SweetBuns:
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Stupid men indeed

Shut up!

Obviously, everyone loves Khaleesi but she ain't my favourite character.
I'd pick Tyrion Lannister and Little finger anytime any day

Major reason why Nigerian men don't respect ladies anymore See someone's mother

Op, bring your head ...

*whistles* Hehe, oga Lefulefu come and see oo

I think the world is finally going to be a better place

[quote author= post=74311452]Oh, we just got to see that we quoted a kid, as his name implies. Sorry kiddo. Happy New year. Bye![/quote]who is this one? Go and sit down jare

[quote author= post=74311343].....and what is savage about the lame comment?!

Better start listening to Tiwa Savage's song![/quote]Obviously, you're a total ignoramus to football related issues hence you would have known the comment was neither lame nor exaggerated

Who's Tiwa Savage? Does she also strike cleaner than Iwobi?

"Sterling’s son strikes the ball cleaner than Iwobi"
Pure savagery!

who be this? Oga go and sleep abeg! stop wasting people's data

I love babes like this, no time to dey waste time just straight to the point not those ones that forms "Love" and at the end they will milk you dry

Oga , if you ain't interested send me the digits abeg ma run am...

craze no hard to form, na the trekking be the wahala

Dream man? Pwahahaha! To those hoping to find a man that can accommodate your eating habits (eating two HUNGRY man indomie as snack) best of luck oo!!
We'll be here, waiting for the goodnews...

ubunja:
I love this new Funmistic. it's sexy when a girl ain't fighting men.
Funmistic call me and get your dick reward. Its waiting.

Oga face front abeg she's taken!

servercodes001:
Your small d¡ck makes them dizzy

O boy! what is this?

The boobs are needing pillar support and the buttocks are no longer comely anymore but rather ‘loosing’, the face has a lot of pimples and holes. Many things have gone wrong. The tummy is out by the day, your local government is beginning to have some kind of mature odour and the armpits are darker. The waist tires are forming with speed

Lwkm!

Zimbabwe, South Africa, Zambia and Kenya Fear 'em! Every time sex sex sex...

OK oo! we have heard

Lwkm! It worked oo... Nice one OP

End time fasting!

Bae' crush!

Oga, come first ...
she wants us to go through the full cycle before anything further Yet she wants monthly stipends??
And you've already spent over 100k on her, receive sense!

==>Try knowing the sexual life of your partner before marriage. Girls check if the dick of your partner is funtioning well by hand job at least if the guy can last on hand job for 30mins, then you are lucky and good to go! Don't let him fūck u b4 marriage. If you are in the mood, encourage romance only.

Orisirisi!

E pain am!

Love makes you weak! Yea' it keeps you humane but its easily exploited!!
2019 ain't getting broken hearted again!

LaDolceVida:
fellow nightcrawler

Lol, you're sighted. Can't sleep?

The first lady is very slim.infact she is so slim that I feel ashamed taking her out I always call her out at night or take her to a very dark area to avoid my friends seeing me.but I love this girl...

This is no love mhen, probably when you start having sex with her you might start feeling distorted, let her go now before it turns sour!
And no, don't give a phone to a lady you ain't sure you've got a future with if you don't wanna feel used! Shalom.

Oluwapanda1:
Give a man Good sex, loyal girl , money to spend and he’s satisfied bro. Try this with the female Counterpart and end up with an even more enraged girl

Really? If that's the case then we should be having less relationship/marriage failures in Nigeria, don't you think
Although it may be suppressed for a moment or so, but over time the urge for more comes alive again Humans wants/needs are limitless!

She said she stays with two guys she doesn't know...
Lol, In this Modern Era? If you know, you know...