NwaChibuzor13:
With all those children, I don't think the wife p***y will be tight and have good grip again. If I were Sam, I will just go and marry another wife. I have a friend whose wife had all their kids through caesarean . I called him one side and told him its his advantage because the toto will still be intact. This month they will celebrate their 7 yr anniversary. A tight p***y is the bedrock of a good relationship.

you need help

UbanmeUdie:




T.B Joshua is not a prophet but a sorcerer!

He is an outcast and a spiritual bastard as far as the Nigerian christian community is concerned.

CAN does not know him!
PFN does not know him!

The Catholic church believes in tithing,
The Protestants also believe in tithing.

T.B Joshua does not fall in any category, so it is ok for him to tell his members to pay their tithes in anyway they deem fit. The question is, is that scriptural?

T.B Joshua is a dundee utd!
No bible sense at all.


Useless demonized pair from hell!

you are just pained because he spoke against your Orthodox beliefs, you just called him all sorts of names and you say you are a Christian. in Mathew 7 Christ said we should beware of false prophet by their fruits, so tell me just one reason you think TB Joshua is fake

she's ugly so I believe

hakeem4:
Wait!!!! Is this the frimpong that played for arsenal


I pray his marriage doesn’t end up like his football career

Emmanuel frimpong played for arsenal not this guy

If this is not a made up story or setup pics for fundraising then it's commendable. Don't pay attention to me, I'm paranoid.

Lionbite:
See all these mumus, you think a country can just load troops and bombard another country irrespective of the current state as they wish abi?

oga that is why we have regional integrations like AU, Ecowas, etc

Besides the first point, the rest is unacceptable.

the funny thing is his brother Dprince is 28 years old which makes him 18 when booty call was released...what a family

don jazzy started counting his age after secondary school hence 35 years. so when mohits released booty call's video in 2007 This elderly man was 25. chai!! fear God

maybe sir Victor Uwaifo invented the name "Joromi" or he's aging so he can't really hear properly..shame**

plainbibletruth:


Kindly explain the "kingdom principles and revelations" in that Mark 13:37 passage.

except you just want to argue its obvious enough, after everything he(christ?) has told them,they should understand it is open to all

betafuture:
I am very sorry, it seems like anytime I post on Nairaland is actually the time I have great challenges in my life, however, my posts also reflect the chronicle of my life. You may wish to check out my last posting about how I was sacked in the Bank with a debt that was guaranteed by a junior staff, whose job was threatened by the loan I obtained and she guaranteed for me. please find the link https://www.nairaland.com/2282140/loan-incured-before-termination-appointment Like I mentioned in that post, I got a job as with a Rep member and he appointed me as the Special assistant on a salary of 80k monthly and my boss paid my rent, of which I engage with my lender to take 50k with me monthly and right off the excess interest and stop disturbing the junior colleague, an arrangement they agreed to and everybody was fine, save that I had to struggle to cope with 30k monthly as a family man, working in Abuja. My wife never complained. I just gave her 25k from the salary, once received, to buy food for the family why I tried to manage with the remaining 5k. It was tough! Luckily, a junior lady cousin who works in a bank was posted to Abuja and we had to accommodate her. She was very kind and understood my plight. Sometimes, she drops up to 50k for my wife to augment the house expenses. She would tell me and sometimes, I would take additional 10k to ad to my pocket money.

The home was running, my son, my wife and my cousin, including myself were very happy. As a banker, I had learned the skill of marketing and networking and negotiation. In the course of my sojourn in the national assembly I met a head of a parastatal wjo needed me to do some strategic alliance between his organization and my boss. We later became great friends, and i realized I could access a scholarship to study in the UK through him. To cut the story short, I pursued this opportunity to the latter and I got a Federal government scholarship to pursue a Masters degree in the UK. I saw this as an opportunity to rewrite the story of my life. Two months in the UK, I began to look for means to bring my wife and son to join me in the UK. While I was in UK, I made it a point of duty to send 150k to my wife in Nigeria on monthly basis (Remember I was on scholarship) and I also do student work in the UK. Because we did not sell our car during the crisis, I also gave the custody of the car to her.

FIRST SUSPICION

When she was about coming to the UK with my 7 years old son, we decided to give out some of our home appliances and sell most of them including the car. Since I was not in Nigeria, she was to manage the transactions. Because I opened her e-mail address, i do see her mails, so i could see the alert on her GTB. The first thing that prompted me was that the amount she received for the sales of our car was 100k higher than what she declared to me. (The fund was meant to buy the flight tickets for her and my son). There were other expense transactions that were over declared, but the actual amount debited to her account were quite low. I did not confront her on these issues until she arrived UK with my son. When I did, I could see the way she manipulatively and professionally lied her way out of the whole issue. I did not pick an offense, hence i made her to understand that I was never convinced. Since then my instinct told me that if she could lie to me so much on finance, maybe there are other things going on in her life that I never known. However, I opened her Facebook account for her years ago in Nigeria, but I never bothered to check it. Out of curiosity, I tried login into her Facebook account and I discovered she has changed the password. My first reaction was to check it, but had I done that, she would have been conscious, then I used my skill as an trained IT security expert to crack her password and then access her Facebook. I ran through all her messenger message and everything was fine. Apart from a certain guy who always beg her for assistance and prayer, there was nothing really suspicious about her messanger and then, we continued with our normal life.

After a week in UK, she started to work as a carer (her visa permitted her to work fully), and she began to make money. I know how much enters her account and we decide how to spend. My son also start schooling and life began to have meaning again. I finished my masters with a distinction and the best graduating student in my department and my University offered me automatic admission for PhD, with part scholarship.l To remain, we needed to source funds to show evidence that my family can stay with me in the UK and show evidence of the balance of school fees. We sourced for money everywhere. She brought all she had and we had to borrow both from UK and Nigeria. My boss was very supportive and I commenced the PhD this September. As a family, we have a problem. My son is now 8 years and we have been trying to make another baby but it does not seem to be forthcoming. We have been to hospitals in the UK, we were both tested and once told my sperm motility was low, treated, but later we were considered both ok.

Since her arrival in the UK, I noticed that my wife suddenly repel sexxx. Sometimes, we had sexxxx just once in a month, she would find a way of brushing away by advances. At a level, i had to ask if there was any problem, but she said it was because of the new environment, her jobs and what have you. This further told me that all was not well in my marriage. She knows I love her and I would do anything for her. While we were yet trying to pay my tuition, her mum got a US visa and all the children were making contributions for her journey, I had to take from my school fees and send to Nigeria and manage my school to give us more time. I tried to ensure that we continually live like one happy family.

Do not let me sound like one perfect good guy. I had also lived a rough bad life in the past and she is aware. During my days in the bank, I had been sexually reckless and irresponsible. There was a time I left office to a gal house, fckked her and I never knew that the condom we used was stick to my shoe. I drove with it home, entered home very late at night, my wife was already angrily waiting for me in the house, only to see a used condom with sperm inside attached to the soul of my shoe. It was an issue that we had to battle with for weeks, even though I never confess it was from, I told a story that it must have got gummed to me at the mechanic village where I had gone to pick my car in the evening (She was aware that someone has accused my mechanic of having sexxx in his car, leaving condom at the back seat). after few weeks, we resolved the issue and we continued leaving normal life. However, there was also a time I suspected her activities on Facebook and I realised a guy whom she has known in the past has been pestering her and she seems to be encouraging him (That was during our period of financial crisis). I had confronted her, she had denied they never had anything but the guy was just pestering her. I apologised and went sober. I called the guy (who was also married) and lived in another faraway city. The guy denied having anything to do with her that she just knew her while growing up. The guy originally blasted me, but later called back and apologized and promised never to disturb her again. I was hurting for months, after which I forgave, forgot and moved on. Let me also state that during the period of my financial crisis, I made a covenant with God, after listening to a message, that whatever the case maybe, I will remain faithful to my wife. This I have manage to keep despite advances from both married and single friends and acquaintances.

THE REAL ISSUE

Now, we are living in the UK and very happy, she is working full-time, while I pursue my PhD full-time, work part-time and my son schools full-time and we were all happy, save the issue of delayed pregnancy and (to me, the poor sex life from her). Let me also state that I bought her a Samsung phone (when she arrived last year), which I have full access to because I know her password. Few months ago, she told me she wanted a bigger phone that she would send the one I bought her to my younger brother in Nigeria who had been disturbing her for a phone. Even though, I thought we did not need to spend money on a new phone at that crucial time because of the looming school expenses, I consented just for her to be happy and she got herself a Samsung galaxy s8 plus for 700pounds, which she would repay of 2 years. The first thing that prompted me about the phone was that she changed her password, but I never mind because I thought she was preventing my son, who always loved to play game on her phone from accessing the phone. However, after few weeks, I began to feel very uncomfortable about the whole stuff. My instinct just told me all was not well. Whatever was it, I could not place my finger on it. But after reviewing my work with my supervisor in the University yesterday, I just felt like going home to rest, instead of studying in the school and then, I met wife in the house with my son. She was trying to order some items online for my son for Christmas and on arrival, she gave her phone to select what we should buy for him, and then, the FB message came into her phone and I could read...'it is not what you think, I have been very busy'

I selected the item I thought was ok, gave returned her phone, picked my laptop and logged in to her Facebook. My wife pretended she was enganging me in discussion, but was responding to the message from a guy, who obviously was her lover and she wrote (I was reading from my computer without her knowledge) 'You know I will ALWAYS LOVE YOU'. and the other guy responded 'I love you more baby' (By this time, I was already burning on the seat, but I somehow managed to keep my calm). She wrote 'But you don't call me' ...and she stood up and went to the kitchen (I wanted to gather enough evidence before I reacted), but immediately she got to the kitchen, she deleted the conversation. At this time, I could not take it. My son was in the sitting room, watching cartoon. I went to her in the kitchen and aggressively confronted her. She originally pretended she did not know what I was saying, but when she say the aggression and seriousness in me she started begging and crying. I lost control of my emotion. I was angry and shouting. My son was there. He was too young, but very intelligent. he understood everything and began to blame his mum, at the same time asking me ti give mum a second chance. I was bitterly hurting. I felt like tearing her into pieces, but if I tried that in UK, it will be straight to jail. She could not state the reason behind her action. She was still trying to lie. She said the guy was her ex and they recently became friends on Facebook and the guy is trying to rekindle the old relationship. The guy is based in Nigeria, they do not even see. Everything she said was incoherently sense. All she wanted was that I should forgive her. I should not tell anybody. She cried, wept and what have you. I was hurting. If it were to by Nigeria, she would have left my house yesetrday, but in UK, it is difficult. The love turned to hatred. She managed to convince me to enter room with her, so that she will discuss the issue with me, without getting our son involved. In the room, it was the same crying and plea for forgiveness and a promise it would never happen again. I told her i was ok, but she would not let me out. I had to angrily shove her away from the door and she hit her head against the wardrobe. i was too angry, too sad, and too hateful to care. i called her all manners of unprintable names. I cursed her, I was just too angry. She kept begging. I left for the sitting room and she came back, knelt down before me and kept begging. My son was crying that two of us were making him sad. The young boy even threatened to tell his teacher in the school on monday. I was too angry to listen. I just told her to let me be. She stood up with tears in her eyes to enter the toilet, I checked her Facebook account again and realised that the lover had sent another message thus: "My dear I don't call you always to protect your home, but I always check your pictures every night before I go to bed" As I was reading, she stupidly deleted that again in the toilet. (Please note that my wife always post our family pictures on facebook, stating how I am the best husband in the world).

My anger erupted again and I rushed to meet her in the bathroom and asked her why she deleted the last message of the guy and she tearfully answered that she did not want me to see anything that could aggravate my anger the more. I angrily snatched the phone from her and smashed it on the floor. She knelt down at my feet and continued to cry and beg for forgiveness, but I was hurting so badly. I left for sitting room again and my son was confusedly crying. She came back and knelt before me and continued begging and weeping and begged we should go back to the room to discuss, at least to protect our son. After a while, i followed her. There was nothing to say; the same weeping, crying and promises to not do it again and swearing that they never had anything together. I told her I needed to talk to the guy and she pleaded I should not. I told her she is giving me an impression that she is protecting the guy so that she could continue her illicit affairs with him and told her it would not work. The can change tactics, but its is only a matter of time. I told her, I would forgive her, but I cannot trust her again and when there is no trust in marriage, the marriage is gone. I also told her I must engage that guy that she should give me his number, but she said her phone is no longer working. I made her feel comfortable that I have forgiven her, but honestly I am hurting. I went back to my laptop, continued chat with the guy on her messenger, but he was now online. We both slept on the same bed, i realised she could not sleep. In the middle of the night she woke me up to beg again, she was offering a make-up sexxx, but I was not interested. I told her i had forgiven her, but I am still hurting and there is no way i could have erection with her. In the morning, I checked her messanger, i discovered the iddiot has responded, still claiming to love her. I checked his profile, I realised he is a muslim, who has a wife with two kids. His location was not shown, but most of his pics her in Nigeria apart from two which have foreign background. I also realize he has limited posts on FB, but the phone number on his FB page is US phone number.

From my wife's FB account, I sent a message thus:

Hi, Mr Farouq, my name is Adams, I am Grace husband
I just wish to inform you that all the rubbish you have been doing with my wife are now exposed to me
I advise you in the name of whatever thing you believe, STAY AWAY FROM MY WIFE.

I also realize you are a married man. If you have any moral integrity and respect for family values, you will know that
responsible men do not run after married women or break homes.

I do not care whatever you claim you think of her, just heed this warning STAY AWAY FROM MY WIFE.

He read it an never respond. I went to her facebook setting and unfriended him.

I left home in the morning to go study in the library, but honestly, I could not assimilate anything. I am so emotionally broken down, so psychologically disturbed. The whole event kept playing in my head. I found it difficult to rationalise it. I continued to find fault in my being and my personality. I know I am very attractive handsome young man. Despite showing I am married, ladies still flock around me. I am also a passionate lovemaker. I dress well and look neat. I don't seem to understand where I have failed. Sometimes I just close my eyes and i feel tears dripping, but I have got to be strong. As for her, she has remained in the room since morning, hiding her head in shame and crying profusely. I have cut off communication with her since I came back from school and I have enganged myself in drinking spirit maybe my spirit will be strenghtened.

This is my story, this is my ordeal. Please I need advice.

Thanks.

no one can give you a definite solution in this case brother because only you knows how hurting it is. but I'll advice you based on two reasons, the first been that if you still love and want to keep your wife,you should first forgive her and then discuss,tell her to open up everything without concealing any truth and be prepared to receive any shock no matter how hurtful it is. like they say "conversation opens the deepest secrets of the heart". secondly, you need to seek God almighty coz its only him that can give you the courage enough to even look at that woman's face again. and for a bonus, understand that she's human and is prone to mistakes but don't gemme wrong whatever decision you take as long as it's not violent you're right,but for your son and feelings,try to forgive.

Jesse01:
he's a Nigeria pastor,so d pastors who are in Nigeria y can't dey do d xame?

why didn't he come an do it in Nigeria? Since you want other pastors who are tech illitrates to teach you tech

Therock5555:
Hello folks, I just came back from a court summon with my close pal and I really think his case should serve as a warning to others.

He has been dating a lady for the past three years, his parents didn't like the girl and discouraged him but he was adamant, he usually visited her parents and bought gifts for her siblings, she was his world or should I say she was his weakness.

He spent frivolously on her, She wasn't working but her room was more decorated than even an oil worker while he managed simple appliances. What caused their rifts was that he opened a hairdressing saloon for her, collected a loan of over 150k, coincidentally his younger sister was about going back to school and she needed 40k, his dad didn't have enough so he pleaded with his son but the boy said he didn't have any, his sister had to sell her phone to him just to complete the money when she had no other choice, and he on the other hand was opening a saloon for his girl.

Word fluttered around that his girl had began cheating on him, he stubbornly refused to listen until he caught her red handed, instead of breaking up with her and counting his losses, he decided not to be a maga, so he kept her and kept sleeping with her like every time they were together.

The girl later found out that he had started dating another girl, she confided in a friend who was closed to me that she was going to punish the guy for wasting three years of her life.

She took in and accused the guy of being responsible for her pregnancy, of course he couldn't outrightly deny her, both parents knew they were dating as he was the only guy she ever brought home to her parents.

He denied the pregnancy on the grounds that he always played safe with her but of course who would believe him, now he's running around trying to source funds for a paternity test while battling court summons and an impending disownment by his dad, infact his dad almost got cardiac arrest when in court he was told his son opened a saloon when his own sister needed just less than 10k to complete her school tuition.

None of his family members even follows him to court again, they left him to his fate.

Now to my fellow guys, please if your girl is cheating, just free her, don't look at what you had spent on her because some ladies lack conscience and could ruin your life due to their selfish interests.

pls be warn, if you would do 'chop and clean mouth', do it with a side chick that won't destroy your life or who is just a friend with benefit.

A Word Is Enough For The Wise My Friends....

and the sidechick is a programmed sex robot without emotions abi? As much as female infidelity is bad it's not right to term any girl a side chick coz she has her feelings too

Is the jellof rice invisible?

This is super story, a life of strife and sorrow

martineverest:
it's really appalling..... The comments above is shocking. Black mentality is still backward

The Arabians who spend millions of dollars on a mere collate(plate number) they are also blacks abi? Or the numerous American businessmen who are known for extravaganza and luxury flaunting they are also blacks eh? So Elun musk, Mark Cuban, Donald trump, etc pls its a humanity problem don't just make it exclusive to us blacks

Luukasz:
Between this people who show off and bill gate, warren buffet, dangote et al who dont show off, tell me who is rich who is poor.
A man who is truely rich never show off, only poor men do

how then did you know that Bill gate is the richest man in the world since he's so meek and secretive about his wealth. Abeg leave her alone

NigerDeltan:

You want to start posting rubbish?

lol, yessur

Anything to get a husband before 2018 jare!

Na their concern

Sombori pls tell me how I can post too on nairaland

YoungRichRuler:
Glo? Never! I had to be climbing tables and windows just to send whatsapp messages.
Nobody tell me as I take port out of that network

I no fit laff abeg

teemanbastos:
News like this makes me happy and shows we still have millions of Honest Nigerians in this country

you're spot on.

And you have to rob it on your husband's face. Some things should be kept private

toyoC1:

I dont get the joke ......

I don't either

banky w is trying to give us the impression that his wife is a virgin hence the movie....lol

this bloody iboic child. mtcheew! I will even believe if you say Flavor rather than OBO

neoapocalypse:


of course he knows his colour. Maybe be didn't explain well , Man 1 would have shouted if he had seen either 2 black hats or 2 white hats , if he sees two black hats that means he and Man 4 are wearing white ( since there are 2 white hats and 2 black hats ) , the same goes if he had seen 2 white hats which in turn means he's wearing a black hat definitely. Do you get it up to here ?. This can only mean he sees a white hat ( which is on Man 2 ) and a black hat ( which is on Man 3 ) , not knowing which colour he's wearing he keeps quiet. Man 2 picks up on this and realises Man 1 is seeing two different colours , seeing Man 3 has a black hat on he concludes he can only be wearing a white hat so he speaks up.
Very easy to solve

true, i stand corrected

Necromancy

LesbianBoy:
See how "flat" caroline danjuma was back then, one wonders where she got all these her curves she is flaunting upandan

so you can see flat curves through that translucent habit she is wearing... Wow!

mega411:
man 2 will shout first.
Reason: he knows man 1 can see his hat and that of man3, so if him and man 3 are wearing thesame colour of hat man 1 would have shouted since there are just two blacks and two whites. Man 1's silence will mean him and man 3 are wearing different colour of hat and he can see man 3's hat.

your explanation is wrong cos he still won't know his colour