₦airaland Forum

hayoholla:
You are mixing things up, and this what African parent do too. Moral values need to be taught and need to be understood by the children. You don't just throw it at them . Children are unrefined and naive. You mold them to not what you want them to be, but what they need to be. This is by making them take responsibility, not by forcing it on them, but by making them see reasons why they need to, to make them better and responsible person.

I have been a child. Children don't think there are consequences to actions. it's an intuition that need to be corrected
not pampered. I went to a missionary school (it was like half military, half seminary)
at night, we scaled the fence to go watch football, eat out or play video games. we were talked to,
but we still did it.
our manager Rev. Fr. Vitus Mbamalu knew kids are stubborn and example has to be made to deter others.
he punished us severely. I hated him then, and felt he was wicked. but now I understand it was for our own good.
because one of us could have been kidnapped, killed, suffer serious bodily harm, ran over by a car. but as kids,
we always wanted to do what they said we shouldn't do.

He had to be the bad guy. I thank him for it today because I was a kid. even though I made great memories with friends
still it was bad

adonbilivit:
nothing is wrong with it. I can decide to wake up in the morning and not say good morning to my dad and instead say "Dad, how are you this morning?". must we be stereotypical?

yes do not copy western culture too much

Amanee:
Everything abeg


From the forceful religion to the heavy discipline to maiming of dreams to the ignorance...

I keep praying that I never raise my child the way I was raised

when you think about it, it hurts. but it was necessary even though you feel you didn't need the discipline.
look at America where parents don't discipline their kids. all they tell them is 'you are grounded'.
what kind of English is that grounded. it doesn't exist in Nigerian parents dictionary.

which is why every week you hear of school shooting in America because the children weren't disciplined and punished
when they were younger. as an African child, you fear and love your parent but white kids only love their parents.

that fear needs to be instilled in the kids. if you don't believe me, come to Ghana and see how spoiled kids are.
they don't even greet their parents good morning or say thank you. this things don't happen in Nigeria.
you may hate it, think it is too extreme but it is necessary. someone has to be the bad guy in order to get things done.

Men are willing to be that bad guy which is why kids love heir mothers more

Lionessza6:
1.I think a lot African parents ( mothers in particular), tend to treat their sons as mini-kings who can do no wrong in their eyes. This is where the culture of Male entitlement starts from; the upbringing. The boys grow up with a sense of superiority that somehow absolves them of certain responsibilities.

2. Staying in toxic relationships for the children. In many cases,the children end-up worse off psychologically ,than kids coming out of two healthy parents living separately.

3. The "if Kevin can do it ,you can do it too ".mentality. you have a lot of parents who see the neighbour's kid doing well selling bread ,& they start pushing their own children towards that trade or career without assisting them in what they are really good at so that they too can be a shining example in their own right. You see the results of this in many African markets ,everyone sells the samethings ,hardly will you find people who produce the products or selling something that is not readily available.

i don't believe they're treated as kings. parents feel the soft works/ indoor should be done by female while
the outdoor / heavy duties should be performed by males.

like my community, female sweep the compound and wash dishes while the male,
wash the cars, go to farm, fetch firewood, break them learn how to defend themselves and others.

e.g female sweep around the farm while the male cut down trees, clear the forest and go hunting

babyfaceafrica:
you forget one million boys and awawa

God help us

bad market.

at the end of the day nigerians are living in fear of boko boys and herdsmen

nwamaikpe

lala special

Imagine a girl having Anal and still say she's a virgin

see

men of God seem to think they posses the power of God
instead of thinking of themselves as vessels

wike the man

Wiseandtrue:
Simplyleo, blunt, Sarrki, mannabbq/vulturegrills, vedaxcool, helinues...

Another IPOB have spoken

buhari have set the bar so low that the next president doesn't have to do much to be considered the best president in our history

someone just trying to have fun to relieve himself from depression caused by coronavirus lockdown

home economics

none. I'm 24 years old. but psychologically, I am not a virgin

how wide it had to be for them to come out

omoburuku:
*Pardon any typos*

Drs in the hauz,

I am an undergraduate, currently in 200L. While we were in 100L, my Roomie used my favourite boxer and I soaked & washed it with hot water thinking it should purify the boxer but I noticed ever since that incident, there has been an unpleasant odour from my balls/thigh area. I noticed the colour is somehow pinkish as well. It scratches sometimes.

I have tried using all sort of antifungal cream's from Ytacan, Funbact, Nixodermx, Dusting powder etc but still the stuff seems to be resistance to all of them.

Is there hope??

Biko help my case.

did any headmistress give you head?

she looks lovely

funkmrflexx:
We Have Been Dating For 1 Year and 6 months now. I’ve met her parents, we wanted to get married last year but her dad told me to wait till she finishes school which is supposed to be next year. I’m 25 years old and she’s 22 .

I live alone in the city while my mom lives in the village. My younger sister who I’m sponsoring through school sometimes comes to my place during holidays and weekends. My girlfriend practically lives with me because she comes from a type of an Abusive family. So she lives with me and I even assist her with school fees and house rents sometimes. I’ve spent even more than her father for her school.

Everyone In my family knows her and she’s a very wonderful girl. Typical wife material. She supports me every time even when I’m broke. I’m not the type of guy that dates a lot of girls . I don’t even cheat on her. Since I met her I’ve done away with a lot of ladies. I’m 100% committed to the relationship

But the problem is that she Has very bad anger issues. I mean she can destroy your property when she’s angry and I’m the quiet type. I don’t like hitting a lady execpt once in a while a general brain resetting slap. When she starts she doesn’t listen to anyone. Not me, not even her parents. So anytime she’s angry like this I will just find a way to make her laugh. Both of you can just be eating and she will get angry if you ate the fleshy part of the meat and left oily part for her (we have quarreled because of that I mean serious quarrel) . Sometimes I get tired of the whole situation. At the end even when she’s wrong I’ll let her for peace to reign. So I try to manage the anger at home so it shouldn’t go out

So we went to visit my mom in the yesterday. Because of curfew we slept over. So my mom bought us mangos this morning and told us to carry.

My girlfriend then said she doesn’t like mango that if I want to eat my mango I should carry it myself. Then my mom (she is the type that always shouts at every body. The real wahala woman) told her that if she can’t carry the mango then she should just put it on my head for me to carry na (If you no fit carry the mango u for kuku put am for e head make e carry am na).

That was the only thing my mom said. Then she sparked. Started shouting at my mom. That she should stop talking to her like that, that she doesn’t like it. In fact she’s going home. So she carried her bag and started going home. Every one in the compound started saying it’s ok (Na dat thing why dem tell u Dey make u Dey vex so) she was still shouting. I was even try to calm her down but no way. She was still shouting. Even my sister who had never seen her angry before became angry (na so you b? She said). I was really disappointed In her

The issue is what even made me angry is how she reacted. If she didn’t like what my mom said made her angry. At least she should have waited till we got home (this was the first time we were both sleeping over) then she would tell me. Or she could have called my sister and told her what my mom said. After all the fracas, she went inside the room till we left. I just told everybody to just leave her.

So when we got home I told her what she did was wrong that she shouldn’t have reacted like that. Na there war start. She started yelling and shouting at me that if my mom talks to everyone like that she won’t take it (my plan was to tell her that she should apologize to her. Because my mom already apologized that she won’t talk to her again like that. Which I know she will o . So we can just forget about the issue. But she never accepts she’s wrong ) She said I took her to my village to intimidate her in front of my family people, I was really angry and called her uncle and told him what happened. He said there was nothing wrong with what my mom told her (If you no fit carry the mango u for kuku put am for e head make e carry am na) and that he would talk to her .

I even scolded my mom before I left that I didn’t like what she said what she did that’s she was just causing issue. My girlfriend said when my mom said the word (If you no fit carry the mango u for kuku put am for e head make e carry am na) that I should have immediately rebuked my mom. But me sef no see anything wrong with what my mom said( If you no fit carry the mango u for kuku put am for e head make e carry am na)

I just Dey follow her uncle advise and leave her be until she calms down and I talk to her

So my people what’s offensive in this word? If you no fit carry the mango u for kuku put am for e head make e carry am na)

But this her attitude don tire me. Break up is not on the card for me at least not yet. She always thinks that they are other guys out there because she has a lot of toasters but I know they can’t do quarter of what I’m doing for her. In this modern time it’s difficult to see a guy who will allow his girlfriend stay with him thereby losing his freedom to do certain things. A guy who doesn’t cheat, a guy who takes care of her does everything for her .

I just think the things she went through in her family is affecting her physiological. And sometimes when I think about leaving her I feel pity because she can’t go back to her parents house.

I'm sure you know what you are doing

obembet:
Haaaa ah

ok how old are you. tell me codedly.
you do look lovely

list incomplete without oloshoism

if I find him in the next life, I'll strangle him before putting him in a big pot of boiling oil

i thought that was a mall

supremenews:
Source: https://www.titiloyeblog.com/2020/05/i-dont-have-sex-with-my-partner-even.html

every thread you kept posting it. now you've made fp. I bet you're happy now

a$$ licking

indeed many are mad but few are roaming