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REALITY101: How about eating that iguana? Good for her dude is not Mexican. . Weird English folks

[color=#000030]Barbecued Lizard. . . Anyone? [/color]

[quote author=Inked_Nerd]
Hells no!

Na Mrs. Inked_Nerd and her Ex-husband Mr.~Killz~[/quote][color=#000030]What Ex? Are you discombobulated? [/color]

toyemz: ^^^^^

chei which one you dey now?
I said it quietly and now you have bolded it up and shouted it out!


any insults i receive oh,im passing onto you oh!

[color=#000030]Anybody that insults you further on this thread, has me to answer to! [/color]

talina: @ Killz, So basically what your saying is that if 2 people love each other, then they will do anything to provide for their upkeep. They are living and surviving together as a team. Since we must eat and have a roof over our head, making money is the means to this. We wouldnt watch our loves ones starve while saying "I love you."

But if there was money problems they would stay together and the key is, TRY to make things better as a TEAM because of love and commitment.

[color=#000030]God bless you and your Generations to come! [/color]

MRbrownJAY: you are missing the point here. that she is your wife or not is irrelevant.........so long as her love for you is based on "her upkeep".

[color=#000030]Like i said earlier in my very first reply : "Therefore, while Love can exist without money, money still has a vital role to play!" Her love for you is not based on her upkeep, but her upkeep is necessary! [/color]

what i have been saying all along is that whether you can take care of her upkeep or not (money), that shouldnt be a reason for her to fall out of love for you.

[color=#000030]That shouldn't. But it happens doesn't it? Neither have i said that lack of money should make a lady stop loving a man. . .[/color]

so LOVE is based on FEEDING in your world?! lol. who can survive withouth eating?! i guess in your world, if a guy can "feed" a gal then he is worthy of her love.

[color=#000030]What are you saying? If? What if? Which comes first, love or the food? Do you feed random girls, cos i dont! So i don't know how you'll say if i can feed a girl she's worthy of my love. I'm talking about a wife here. Would she marry me without love? So if she marries me out of love, we shouldn't feed? Feeding was used in a context to mean providing. Re read the comment i used the word "feeding". You only picked out "feed", took it to mean physical food, and decided to enumerate on that. . . Lol. Funny guy![/color]

bwaaaaah, Killz, you are a funny character, i give you that!
A) as i said in my earlier post, CARE and AFFECTION is all that is needed to love someone.
B) as i said earlier, the same way you care for her, is what you should expect from her. NOTHING LESS!
C) CARE has absolutely nothing to do with MONEY, as you can show it to her without a penny.

[color=#000030]Care and affection is needed to love someone, money plays a part in caring for someone. You need amenities that affection cannot provide. Affection cannot provide accommodation, neither can it pay the bills. Caring for someone entails provision of these basic amenities, and to provide these amenities, you need what? Money! It's because i care, that's why i work to earn money for our provisions. . . I dont know what you are saying![/color]

i hate women who are quick to say "i love you", but then dont act like it. if a man is hungry then there is absolutely nothing he can do to stop his woman from being hungry. thinking that a woman is a man's responsibility when they get married is WRONG, they are each others responsibility 8as they become ONE). so if they have nothing to eat, its THEIR fault, not solely his.....unless you live in the stone age.

[color=#000030]They are each other's responsibility, but the man is head of the family, and the natural breadwinner. That she has a job shouldn't make him lazy to his responsibilities. Like i also said earlier, "How long were they expecting the leftovers to keep flowing? Why are they so lazy? If they failed to plan, they've planned to fail!" Don't twist my words![/color]

so what you are saying is that: if people handed them free meals, would their love die? if people offered them free accommodation, would their love die? or better yet, would she start loving the provider? lol

[color=#000030]How long until they get off their arses and get a job that pays them? Money is needed to provide the free meals for them, or is it not? And like you earlier said, "if they have nothing to eat, its THEIR fault" Why didn't you ask CARE and AFFECTION to provide them food? LOL![/color]

[color=#000030]Fisher is a discombobulated Fish!

Fisher said he understands that George will always be "Lizzie's No. 1."

WTF!

Naija no go carry last. . . That lizard would have died since yesterday. . . Thunder fire the lizard + Chemotherapy! [/color]

[color=#000030]^^^
Nice one. But in Nigeria, we don't call them cops. . . We call them "Police" [/color]

[quote author=Inked_Nerd]Nope, I'll be Mrs. Inked_Nerd, then I'll introduce you as my husband Mr.~Killz~[/quote][color=#000030]Mrs Inked_Nerd Killz! [/color]

[quote author=Inked_Nerd]Simple explanation sista onila. If Nigerian women are gold diggers, then Nigerian men are visa and toto chasers. [/quote]

toyemz: @debrake




since i dont know the real reason behind your rudeness i wont stoop to your level,
However, i will say this to you,not all fingers are equal and not all ladies are gold diggers!
but you wouldnt know that, would you? [size=15pt]since in your miserable terrible existence there has never been a time when any lady ever dug any gold out of you,has there?, since you have nothing to contribute[/size]
Having said this much, here's my challenge if you desperately need help with your mite existence,why dont you just ask in the nicest possible way? it really isnt hard to have manners,you can always learn!

seek with manners and you shall surely find!

onila: NIGERIAN MEN AND WOMEN ARE PRODUCTS OF THE SAME SOCIETY. .a materialistic society. .blaming nigerian girls for their problems does not make sense

[color=#000030]Makes Sense.[/color]

kelz88: Stop going off topic lol. What if they were never married -legally? Doesn't make a difference. Some people get together and live on nothing. These things happen.

[color=#000030]It CANT happen! Get together and live on NOTHING!. . . Sounds like a movie title!

Seriously, all the ones i've seen are from legally married couples. Have you seen where two jobless individuals who are not legally married, come together and decide to live on nothing? Abeg, let's be factual o. . . In 2012? Where relationship between co habiting couples are ended on the flimsiest of excuses such as "The way she presses toothpaste?" Jor o![/color]

kelz88: Even if they didn't have money to buy food and continued to receive leftovers from a nearby house I'm sure they would still be together.

[color=#000030]How long were they expecting the leftovers to keep flowing? Why are they so lazy? If they failed to plan, they've planned to fail! If they were still together, that is love without money that i explained earlier, they still need money to keep them going at a point or are they depending on leftovers for the rest of their lives? Money has to come o!

Or, is that a scene from a Nigerian Movie, where everything turns out fine in the end? [/color]

kelz88: Ok, going back to the couple I mentioned are you saying they survived on right attitude? I'm sorry but people in that kinda situation will be resigned to their fate. It's not like he was a graduate and was hopeful that one day bag an awesome job or something like that. That's how I see it sha.

[color=#000030]So he had no job and got married? Wickedness![/color]

MRbrownJAY: bro, are you saying that the love that a GF has before you get married, is different than the love she would have for you just after she says I Do? lol!

[color=#000030]Like i said in the last phrase of my first reply to you, "i would never encourage spending on "just" a girl!" Would "just" a girl become my wife? [/color]

now we are getting somewhere.....so as i said: her character is what is important, not what she demands from you financially...... if she aint supportive then she never loved you to begin with. like someone said above, the couple who were living under a bridge is a clear example of what love SHOULD make any women do when the money is gone. STAND BY YOUR MAN/FAMILY!

[color=#000030]Who is asking you not to stand by your family? So because the money is gone, you won't find a way to sustain your family or what exactly are you saying? Did you not read my first reply where i said "There is love without money?" What i'm driving at is that you NEED money to feed, and that is where/how money sustains love. Dont twist things here pls![/color]

YES you should care for her needs, as she care for yours! and if you cant then that SHOULDNT be the reason for her to lose love for you. if such flimsy excuse is the reason for the end of that love then she never loved you to begin with.

[color=#000030]Again, it shouldn't be a reason. If you CANNOT care for a woman, you never loved her to begin with. . . Deny that again![/color]

yes many foolish people are quick to say "i love you" while they dont have a clue of its meaning (and use flimsy excuse to bounce), BUT, that shouldnt be a reason for you to judge what you have with them. if anyone understands love then they will work hard to make it last, whether with or without money.

[color=#000030]Yeah work hard. That's more like it. Work hard, earn sustain and be happy! I hate lazy men that believe once she loves you, she can go hungry![/color]

focus on the issue at hand: their LOVE stood the time, whether they died or not. money helped them but it sure didnt change their stand on each other's love. which is the subject of this thread, duh!
so by that story we can clearly understand that MONEY meant absolutely NOTHING to their LOVE!

[color=#000030]Differentiate between money and Materialism and then, maybe you would understand better! While living under the bridge, were they eating sand? With what did they buy food? Money?[/color]

kelz88: But you're the one talking about providing stuff. Some people manage to eat once a day and are still together. The wives haven't left to follow rich men. The woman might be the one managing to find this once a day meal. . . .so. . . . . To me money is important but if we happen not to have money for some reason I will still love my husband or boyfriend. As long as we can find a way to laugh at the situation whilst being hopeful. Or maybe I'm just dreaming. After all I'm half asleep as I type.

[color=#000030]That is you! And that is what i'm saying, craving the right attitude towards money. Without the money, the love is there. So, because the love is there, should i relax and allow love to feed you, even once a day? Right attitude towards money is using it to provide. Not providing doesn't portray love. Being hopeful for what? Money?

Don't get it twisted. Money doesn't mean Millions!

Or should the Op have asked Is there really love without material things? I think that would m\have been more appropriate! I see you are confusing money to mean material things like a car, a big house blah blah! That's not the wavelength i'm broadcasting from![/color]

BodyKiss: Money is essential = There's no love without money.

[color=#000030]You provide out of love. Provision = Money! That's why you have a job, so that you earn money. And when money comes, what do you do with it? Burn it? Providing makes money essential. It shouldn't be in millions. Just be comfortable. Money doesn't mean extravagantly rich, or does it?[/color]

kelz88: Not really. Some Nigerians are still very poor and still very much alive.

[color=#000030]Being very poor doesn't mean they do not have money or does it? It only means they are living on very low resources. You can have a Job and still be very poor, or can't you?[/color]

kelz88: Some relationships can survive without money. What about the couple from under the bridge?

[color=#000030]LMAO! Are they still there? What rescued them? MONEY! Does it mean they love each other less? NO! But without money coming their way, i bet you'd have read their obituaries. . . [/color]

MRbrownJAY: i see no difference between such love being for a GF, a future wife or a wife.

[color=#000030]There is a difference. . . Except you refuse to see it![/color]

if you have no money to buy her a meal then SHARE YOURS WITH HER.

[color=#000030]Whatever is yours is hers also. You do not buy separate meals when you are married. The point of Marriage is sharing. Where you'll hate yourself is when you do not even have money at all. . . Pray she's the supportive type![/color]

if you have no money for a BB, then SHARE YOUR NOKIA 5110 WIT HER.

[color=#000030]Irrelevant! We can live without gadgets! BB is not a must!What is BB?[/color]

if you have no money for school fees the HELP HER GET A JOB TO SOLVE THAT.

[color=#000030]What school fees? [/color]

......and my point is that: no way should these flimsy issues be a reason for this lady (gf/future wife or wifey) to fall out of love.......if it is then she never loved him to begin with (or clearly has no idea what love is).

[color=#000030]The filmsy issues should not be reasons, but these are reasons why most relationships fold up. U wanna argue that too? It's better to be on a safer side! Even if i love her to death, i should care for her needs. Emotional needs, and material needs. You wanna argue that material needs are not important? Or that we can live on emotions alone? Money is essential![/color]

MRbrownJAY: as much as money can help love "feel" better, it has absolutely NO WEIGHT on the issue. if it does then surely this CANNOT be love.



what about:" her love for you will have her sort out her own upkeep to help your r/ship"? lol! whoever told you that a man should take care of a gal's upkeep is clearly missing the point. Love has absolutely nothing to do with what you can do for her BUT all to do with what you both can do for each other. the minute her life/upkeep is more important than yours then it is no more LOVE, but simple foolishness.



- her self.
- her parents.
- whoever took care of these issues before you met her, duh!



NO, you dont! you only need care and affection. but you're right about ONE THING: to take care of a broke ass golddigger, you need money, yes!



so in a way what you are saying is that a man in love should provide for his partners meals and upkeep? may i ask: since love is 50/50, does SHE also provide for the same thing? or are all gals broke ass begging women in your part of town?
nothing can kill faster than loving someone who doesnt really care about you, or only care about what she can GET from you.




money has absolutely NO ROLE to play in love. here is what you should have understood by now:
- if you love someone and you are not "well off financially", you simply have to share YOUR own meal with her, to show her that you love her (not provide her with her own).
- if you rock a Nokia 5110 and she demands for a BB, simply tell her that she can use your own phone whenever she desires (instead of thinking you need to buy her one)
- if she cant pay her school fees then help her find a job and take care of this issue (instead of paying for it, while not solving the problem at hand).

again, love is about caring, NOT providing a easy way out of poverty for goldigging broke asss babes

[color=#000030]My reply wasn't based on goldigging broke arse babes, but rather, on a wife. I strongly believe in spending on the woman i'm married to and not just a girlfriend. . . Most of your points were off! You may want to reply based on "she" being a wife! Then we can talk at length.
I had a thread not too far back where i aired my views about Love Money and Relationships! Your reply was totally out of my context, as i would never encourage spending on "just" a girl!
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[quote author=emöfine2]She might just be showing someone that she broke her nail [/quote]

skydeep: ori e ti fokasibe

[color=#000030]Xynerise, stop pretending to be skydeep, you discombobulated He-Antelope! [/color]

folorunso oladeni: the ans. is CAPITAL NO, because i ve not married. but i promise after married i'll be 100% faithful

[color=#000030]I hope your English becomes faithful too. . . Amen![/color]

skydeep: this man is right. . When I was still in school, this guy who is dating my friend came to me and complained about the bad attitude of my friend and I gave him some pep-talks, later he started calling me on phone and said he is in luv with me.

[color=#000030]Why wont he be right? Is he not your husband? Make una two sit down, face each other dey ping nairaland. . . Una hear? [/color]

Idowuogbo: Mi bi mo ode oooo

Joooor ooo!

Elewa no get sense na, so let's continue to run things in our own special way.

Derail every gadamn tin mehnn!

[color=#000030]We don't have a choice now, do we? [/color]

[color=#000030]What is there not to like about Nigerian Girls? Don't they like Nigerian boys? Are we foreigners living in Nigeria, to be asked this kind of nonsensical question? My mother is a Nigerian, and she was once a girl. Can anyone claim to be a test tube baby? What is it with compartmentalizing ourselves as Nigerians? If you hate Nigeria, or it's female citizens, why don't you take a hike to other countries where they love their own ladies? When the fcck exactly are Nigerians going to be proud of what they call theirs? When will guys be matured enough to get into relationships and be matured enough to handle eventualities like break ups? Nigerian women are 75million+ strong, and yet thoughtless comments and statements are generalaized to include the lot? This is insanity in 3D high definition!

It's really a shame that Nairaland has become an avenue that springs forth lies, and negativity about Nigerian ladies. People now quote Nairaland as the source of the many spurious ridiculous fallacious tales they hear about Nigerian ladies. Any guy that get's heartbroken uses Nairaland to vent his frustration on Nigerian ladies, rather than the lady that jilted him. It becomes "hot" news and is deemed worthy of a frontpage space.

Seun, you are only allowing this to your own detriment. Nairaland to me is now a big fat joke! You ban people when they respond to criticism, but you allow criticisms of female citizens of a country which your website bears the name to go on "swaggerliciously". We've suggested you open a section for chauvinists, those who hate even their own mother for being a woman, yet you refuse. Your excuse is that you and your moderators cannot be everywhere everytime. Well, to whom much is given, much is expected. Nairaland has left the stage where it would be only regarded as a business venture. It's Nigeria's window to Africa. . . To the world. What would false comments like these say about Nigerians, about Nairaland, and about you?

Let Nigerian Girls be the object of mockery by their own Men. Yes, it's good for business. more grease to the elbows and fingers of Nigerian female bashers. . . I hail thee! [/color]