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talina: I couldnt get on my knees and beg a man not to leave. If something was so wrong between us and we couldnt even talk about it then its over. Me resorting to being a begger and him being ok with it is twisted. What kind of relationship would that be There has to be mutual respect or common sense to know when its over.

freecocoa: Any guy that didn't budge after a lady must have cried her eyes out will most likely not budge if she kneels and any guy that will only budge when a lady kneels is not worth begging.

Well, save your relationship anyway you deem fit. . . Doesn't change the fact that kneeling is a Nigerian culture that cannot die! And i don't buy that he is not worth begging line. . . What warranted her crying her eyes out in the first place? If she's really at fault, nothing is too big to do, just to show that remorse. . . Pray you meet someone like me who needs only tears and a puckered face. . .

Miss EZ: I guess my question is, for those guys who must see knees hit the ground, what is it about kneeling down that is more superior to tears? Is the offended person more interested in me apologizing his way, or truly apologizing for my wrong? If someone is truly interested in seeing a sincere apology, i doubt they will give priority to any given act.

I hate to go all spiritual but even Jesus does not demand that we must be kneeling down to pray the sinners prayer, he only asks for a sincere heart and a confession of sin. If Jesus was more concerned about our hearts, why are we humans so focused on actions alone and not the heart.

Anyway i think i have over flogged my own point of view. To each their own.

Culture is just a way of life. Don't blame anyone for being born into such culture. The act on it's own is NOT demeaning. It only means respect in such culture. I think you take it to mean belittling the woman, while it's not. Jesus can see hearts. . . Humans cannot! Humans tend to work with what they can see. Don't blame them for that! BTW, some ladies see kneeling as the best way they can appease a man they love! Would you blame them for that too? Save your relationship the way you deem fit. Know the man you are in it with. Is he the tears alone type? Pray you meet a man like me who is sold out on tears alone!

Idowuogbo: U min d guy is discomble and ofusclaire? by d way dats d french of discombobulated and obfuscated.

You don't say. . .

Tell me abourit. . . Werey!

Idowuogbo:

Taaa! Not tears from you abeg! Shift. . . To the left, To the left. . .

Idowuogbo: Excuse me!

U cant change his style of writing or his approach to marras.

Abeg bounce jare! na freedom of speech dey reign mehnnnnnn

Miss EZ: Noted and well said. Kills i will gladly cry my eyes out if that is how moved i am by the situation. But all the pre-specified mode of apology/proposal/anything else makes me tired. Its like saying i wont accept my bf/hubbys apology cos he didnt kneel down, or accept his proposal cos he didnt take me out to dinner, give me a rose, kneel down and propose (haha, proposal has become a 3 step process...lol). I am not against kneeling down as an expression of apology, i am against the notion that if i dont do that when apologizing, then i am not truly sorry, or i am not a humble person

It depends on your offence, and the heart condition of whoever you are begging. Are you sincerely telling me that if after crying your eyes out and he doesn't budge and you realize that kneeling would solve the problem, you wont do it? You may be very humble but then it depends on the guy. Me, i'm sold on tears alone. . . But i cant say the same for the next guy. . .

Miss EZ: Kills, would you want someone to kneel because it was part of tradition only? so pretend like you are sorry and have the action to match it as well. I agree that if someone has wronged another, they should be humble enough to apologize sincerely. I think that sometimes we all get caught up in actions that we forget that its the thoughts or the intent that really counts.

By the way i am not saying that everyone that kneels down is pretending. I think that everyone should be permitted to apologize and express their apologies however they deem fit

CalienteMi: Bending to beg a man to stay is completely different from bending to respect an elder.

In most cases, the man is the elder. . . And even if he wasn't, Nigerian culture stipulates utmost respect from the wife. It doesn't make them less. It's just respect, and a sign of humility!

kelz88: Maybe traditional wedding. . . .not a big part of our culture. And that's something I am not adopting. And even if I was to do it I wont kneel. . . .he should feel free to kneel and feed me pammie sha.

Even if it is 0.00000001% of our culture, it's still a part of it and kneeling is not abominable. If you can do that to get married why can't you do it to make the man you married stay? Think about that.

And errm, as regards him kneeling and feeding you pammy, how about you wake up from that illusion? Is your surname Joseph?

Idowuogbo: I dey process am, she su ru.

U no trust Badosky ni? I dey roll dice atm, so no worry it go land on top six.

Errm, i hope double six is not asking for too much. . .

kelz88: Thank God kneeling isn't a part of my culture. And if it was I wouldn't even kneel. Only ever kneeled in school and church. Doubt I will have a traditional marriage so hopefully, wont need to kneel. Yay me!!

It is dear. . . Kneeling doesn't make you less a woman. If you wronged your husband or boyfriend and you kneel and beg him, it melts his heart faster than hot knife on butter. . .

Idowuogbo: Son mii, u see ur father married a good woman.

Mo fe bebe paaaaaa!!!

O de wa iru e funmi?

xynerise: boy how ur children na?

O boy, those dream children dey o. . . I still dey dream to get like 4 pikins. But she say na 3. . .

xynerise: yeah, u got me. I have a trick. Actually, I am her uncle. Pls stay off my niece before I turn your kpekus to babercue.

Don baba X. . .

penelope9: Killz, please explain using your own very words.

Oh. What that meant was that your cousin was being st[i]u[/i]pid while she thought she was being kind! Which sane person tells someone about her private life, and also grants every request?

Docjay487: Gal had a dose of the "I love you" confession/hypnosis(?) in reply she said: 'will THINK about it'
Just what do you make of that statement?

4teelaw: You are so funny you know?! How old are you again? Read my post again! He proposed, I said yes, and my introduction was done before we cohabited. I really shouldn't be discussing with lower cadre people like you. After you are married, we will revisit this issue. I can't even believe you are talking, less than half a man?!

4teelaw: You have bad friends, little wonder about those that have influence on you...SMH

Keep quiet jare. A man found you unworthy and you had to cohabit with him before he could propose to you and you are still talking. . .