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Admin9:
Good morning, I had to make an account because of Privacy reason.

I broke up with my GF of about a year and although we have shared so many beautiful times together, due to her family's opinion (regarding ethnicity) she said we couldn't go further with the relationship. She is very close to her mum and her mum is the bread winner as her dad died when she was still little. I had to respect her opinion but she is someone i love truly. Although she began acting strange before i confronted her to demand what the issue was, she finally told me that she can't continue based on the ethnic grounds.


Fast forward to about 6 months after, i started following up with another nice girl, and i did opened up to her. I tell her almost everything and I also told her about my ex. We have had sex couple of times and she keeps telling me that she feels there is a "missing bond" between me and her. She feels i am still bonded with my ex, she feels i the bond i have with my ex is greater than the bond i have with her.


I am scared i am about to lose this relationship also as i really feel she is saying the truth. I was very close to my ex and sometimes i still think about her though. I unfriended her on social medias just to assist me in forgetting her but she somehow made a new account and added me up again. I couldn't resist but accept the request and started communication with her again.

I really need some advice as i think my closeness with my ex is affecting me.

guy, why naaaa? leave ur ex alone. how would u feel if this ur current babe does the same to u. Am sure u would be angry. if u know u love her, discharge ur ex and be serious cos if dis girl places a curse on u, believe me you are in for it big time. you better make up your mind now

Kennedyiheme:
haa na wa.. so basically most of these ladies are like walking infected laboratories

yes o especially now that we see a lot them with big boobs and butts. those butts harbor terrible infections

Kennedyiheme:
first time knowing this.. so how long does it stay in the body?

its incubation period is btw 4 to 28days but the host may not show symptoms for a long time. the treatment is metronidazole but the organism is now resistant to it which means any guy dat gets it from a lady is on his own. T.vaginalis infact increases the chance of getting HIV virus

MiVida:
This was a message she sent me last night after sex when I went back to my place... Should I be worried please?

Modified: she has a boyfriend but wants me n she knows I have a girlfriend too... I'm in trouble

if she has broken up with her boyfriend, just go and buy a coffin cos you can die at anytime. you have become her property

Kennedyiheme:
Gosh i know some men here have had this issue, during the whole sex thing, the thing really starts smelling so bad, like fish you left in a hot fridge

thats Trichomonas vaginalis.
its a vaginal infection that produces that rotten fish odor

Butterscotch92:
I know I'm going to receive a lot of bashing here but I don't mind as I'm looking for solution. I've been following other related threads on the topic and it seems most men don't forgive women that cheated on them.

I cheated on my man. This happened over a year ago when the relationship was going through a rough patch. Actually I didn't set out to cheat and never planned it.

In fact the person it happened with was a person I was confiding in when I was trying to get solutions to my relationship issues.

This person was my married colleague that I joined to work in his car. I thought I could get mature advice by telling him. I was weak and emotionally down and on one of such days of crying to him it happened in his car.

It happened like 3 more times because I go to work with him and come back with him. But I was overcome with guilt (because he was married and for cheating) that I had to stop. But my mistake was that I didn't cut him off completely.

I remained cordial friends with him since he is a colleague and I stopped joining his car. He also moved to another branch. He called occasionally to try his luck but I never gave in. Somehow my man became suspicious by his calls and one thing led to the other and I had to confess.

My man said he has forgiven but can't get back together again. I have been following other threads with similar topics and I saw that men find it very hard to forgive a woman that once cheated.

In this case I'm truly sorry, I have learnt my lessons and I can never make that kind of mistake again. I don't love the man in question, I never wanted anything from him apart from advice from the onset, I stopped on my own, I only remained friends because he was my colleague. I love my man and will do anything to keep him and win his trust back. I'm not a cheat by nature.

I'm heartbroken and filled with guilt and regret. I can't talk to anyone in my circle for fear of condemnation because I'm wrong in every area.

Please is there any hope for me? How do I go about winning him back? How do I convince him that I truly regret my actions? How do I help him heal?

the married man bleeped u thrice in his car? damn u are so cheap. can you ever play with a snake that has bitten u before? thats exactly what u want ur man to do. just continue begging him sha and stop seeing and calling dat married guy. he just wants to ruin ur life. if u are close to ur man's mum or sister, speak to them about it. they'll convince him to change his mind. Don't ever repeat this nonsense again. no man on planet earth will ever accept it except he has bad plans for u. even women don't like men who cheat.

VBCampaign:
Sex Tapes and Depraved Viewers

In the past week another sex tape hit the Nigerian social media space. A young couple can be seen in the video in what is best called compromised positions. It happens that the two of them are students of Babcock University. Almost immediately after the tape was published, the university issues a statement saying that the boy in the tape had since been rusticated from the school; while the university has now taken the decision to also expel the lady.

In a bid to get more information on the story I thought I should view the tape myself. So I searched on YouTube and saw this seven minute video of a young man saying something like this:

“Eh, so what are you looking for? Sex tape abi? I don’t have any sex tape here o. I just want you to subscribe to my channel. You know, you people come here and watch me tell jokes all the time but you don’t follow my YouTube videos. Is it good? Now sex tape has been released and you are all running around looking for it. It is not here… Just subscribe to my channel; abeg…”

While his message was meant to be cheeky and a creative way to get people to follow his videos on YouTube, it turned out to be a rebuke on my own heart. What exactly did I need a sex scene for? The facts of the story were already in the public. So why was I looking for the video to validate the story? I realized that my own depraved mind was looking for something which was clearly pornographic but couched in the guise of a breaking news. It did not take long to see my heart. I repented.

The fact of this story is simply this: all of us are in one way or the other culpable in this matter. I would use the rest of this essay to describe our sins to us with the hope that we all can find repentance and possibly that kind of faith in Jesus Christ that would spur a holiness that can prevent partaking in the next sex tape will hit the Nigerian social media sphere.

First, the couple are guilty. Their guilt is not in the fact that they had sex. If these young people are above the age of eighteen, they are adults and they have the right to do whatever they wish with their bodies. And since they are clearly not professing Christians I cannot use the standard of God’s law to judge to them here. Their sins are in recording their actions on tape. No one knows yet who published that tape but it appears that the very filming was done by the duo themselves and possibly preserved for each other’s viewing pleasure – in private. But with time, things could have happened. There may have been a fallen out between them. One of them may have given the tape to a friend, who eventually began to use it to blackmail them. The possibilities are endless. So the foremost mistake they made was in putting a private act, a precious and sacred act, on recording. I hold the theory that 100% of nude photos and sex tapes will come to the public – sooner or later. It is better those things are never recorded. A naked human body is a sacred picture that should be preserved for that person alone; or for their spouses within the boundaries of a marriage. The moment it goes beyond those boundaries, anything can go wrong. In these days of recording videos on phones, people should realize that it is wrong to make nude recording. It is a sin against human nature that has the potential to destroy one’s life.

Second, Babcock University is guilty. I am hoping that the young girl and her family would realize that there is no law in Nigeria that forbids anyone from having sex – whether or not it is recorded on tape. I hope that they can find lawyers that will sue that university blind and collect damages. Babcock University, an institution owned by the Seventh Day Adventist Churches in Nigeria, are being hypocritical in sending away a student all because her sex tapes were published. Of course they would say that they are both a university and a religious organization and such acts contravene their moral code. But they forget that there are hundreds of other acts like these going on right under their noses. The difference is that those ones are yet to be caught. If Adventist’s Christianity is genuinely redemptive, restoring that girl to a relationship with Jesus Christ should be higher in their agenda than separating themselves from her failures. This situation reminds one of Jesus’ words to the Pharisee: “…he that is without sin should cast the first stone…” (John 8:7). Babcock University will expel that young girl because they have failed to bring their own children and wards up in the way of the Lord. And the moment an act that will tarnish their reputation is published, they now do everything to distance themselves from it. They remind me of Foursquare Churches Nigeria, who quickly distanced themselves from the Mr. “Lecturer” of University of Lagos, following the BBC publishing of sex for marks in that school. If these institutions are genuinely intent on instilling morals in their wards, they would not be casting them out the very minute they discover they fail.

Third, the viewers of the sex tapes are all guilty. That is you and me. Has anyone ever wondered why sex-tapes go viral? Viral means that something has gone everywhere – like the spread of a virus. The reason such videos go viral is because certain people are watching them. If you do not watch a video and choose not to pass it on to the next person, the video will stop right there on it tracks. But there is a depravity in all of us that loves to see nudity. Many of us do not watch pornography but we enjoy the sight of others being exposed while doing what people should be doing in private. It is sin in us that makes us crave to see sex tapes and this is where repentance is required of us all. We are all guilty.

There is this scripture that has helped me to deal with my own heart depravity regarding sex. It is the words of Apostle Paul:

“For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you abstain from sexual immorality; that each one of you know how to control his body in holiness and honor…” 1 Thessalonians 4:3-4.

While the command to abstain from sexual immorality is clear in the whole of the Bible, the latter instruction is very helpful: it says to know how to control one’s body. Now that is the key to dealing with sexual immorality: know your triggers and separate yourself from them. It may be a look; it may be a touch; it may be a gist-partner; it may be friends; or it may be movies or recorded videos. The trigger points for sexual immorality are abundant and if we are intent on pleasing God with our bodies as Christians, we must know these things and separate ourselves from them. The very act of separation is what sanctification entails.

But even much more than these: we would realize that these admonition was not to everyone. The letter was written to Christians in Thessalonica. It means therefore that anyone who is not a Christian does not have anything in himself to control his body against sexual sin, besides will power; and the moment your will power is compromised, you are done. Thus the very next admonition is to call all who wish to know victory over their sexual appetites to believe in Jesus Christ and find the help of his Holy Spirit to overcome their inner depravity.

The words of Paul puts the Babcock students’ scandal to perspective: separation from sexual sin is holding the human body in honor. Humanities’ use of sex may either lead to glory and honor, or to shame and disgrace. Sex is a sacred act that God has created within the boundaries of marriage alone. Anything outside of these boundaries will lead to shame, dishonor and sometimes even death. This is the story of Babcock and her students; and it will be the story of all who choose to dishonor God in their bodies with sexual immorality. The next victim can be you if you choose to continue in your way of sin and dishonor.

© Deji Yesufu

Deji Yesufu is the author of the books of Victor Banjo and Half a Millennium. He teaches a Reformed Bible Study group every Saturday morning at the University of Ibadan.

Source: http://mouthpiece.com.ng/sex-tapes-and-depraved-viewers/

slowpoke. So the school should not send them away. The school should award them abi. They knew the school rules and regulations and still chose to go against it. Even if d sex was outside school, they shouldn't have recorded since they were still schooling. It would surely get out. I heard it was the guy dat even showed his friend the video and his friend tapped it from his phone. They got their deserved punishment. I support Babcock on this. If it were ur daughter, so u wouldn't get annoyed. U would just pet her and talk abi as if she's a kid that doesn't know what she did. They're adults and they knew the consequences. That's life... People that would be foolish would still be foolish. Not everyone would play by d rules.

Very stupid writeup. So the school should take her in and pet her for the video. She's an adult dat knows d difference btw right and wrong. Thats why the school has a handbook that contains the laws and punishment for offenders. Its usually given to new students to digest during their first semester. No matter what, there are people who would always wanna break rules. U have to send such ppl away to protect ur integrity. That video is carrying the school name and u expect the school owners to sit and smile? Haba. Just keep ur weird opinions to urself. Think about it yourself. They are not kids and they were aware of d punishment. If it was a case of rape, fine i would never support expelling the girl but this was intentional. In life as adults, we have to take responsibility for whatever we do. We don't always have to play the blame game.

I just received a new msg from MTN. They said it would be 4naira for 20seconds on USSD

Nigeria is surrounded by french speaking countries so am not surprised. The main countries funding bokoharam are: chad and Niger. Especially chad. These things are obvious but the Nigerian govt is ever gullible. Idriss Debby stopped an offensive dat would have ended bokoharam during jonathan's regime but yet our new president will never learn. Bokoharam will never end until Nigeria take action on the republic of chad

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MrBlessedd:
Please Sir, I felt AMOLED GENERALLY COMES WITH NEWLY RELEASED PHONES

Amoled has been in use for a long time but it only exists in flagship phones and some mid range phones but that that price u r displaying would never give u Amoled display. I can suggest good phones at 30k with great displays but definitely not tecno, itel, infinix

Amoled U must be kidding. Do u know what Amoled is? U want Amoled display for 30k and below?

I stopped rooting after viruses crippled my last phone

G boyz dem

Location: Ojuelegba, Lagos.

MTN is very strong around here. I'll give MTN 80%

Airtel is terrible here. Its hell... Even on 3G it fumbles big time. 30% for airtel. Its only good at midnight

richie240:
hajahaha...d way u carry ds trcn tn 4 head ehn?
U are still in self-conceit dt ur 'trcn' fetched u d job, when u've made it clear dt had there bn a crowd at d interview, u would most prolly have failed to clinch d job (as usual)


siddon dia.

No mind d guy. Trcn will not do anything. Let them be deceiving him. Private schools will continue employing those that don't have the cert. This is Nigeria.

DeHumbleTboy:
Dear nairalanders please I need your help urgently. I bought my phone 7 months ago now the camera is bad.
When ever I took pic and post on Facebook the picture will look some how blurry.

How can I fix it?

What's the model bro?

ednut1:
Lets be frank. Fair ladies get the most toasters and opportunities. Its not only the ladies fault. If tacha was still like this no one would send her. The world is fuked

I love dark skinned ladies so much and i don't know why.

Goldensign:
Am Ngozi. fair in complexion, looking for a good and humble guy. Am ready for a true relationship.
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Major001:
Sadly, a short while back, my wallet went missing. And with it went my National ID Card and some cash.

The National ID card was my sole government approved ID.

Meanwhile, I got a few text messages from MTN requesting I update my account info to ensure my phone line isn’t blocked by 19th of August.
A government approved ID was required.

Concerned, I called the customer care service and narrated my ordeal…stating that I had no government approved ID at the moment.

I asked if a duly signed court affidavit for self identification was acceptable for the required info update.

They firmly assured me it was.

So, this morning I dashed down to The Chief Magistrate Court Of Lagos State at Sabo, Yaba, where I paid and obtained a duly signed, stamped, and sealed affidavit…containing all my personal details.

However, on getting to the MTN store, at e-center, Sabo, Yaba, my affidavit was rejected outright on the grounds that it was ‘irrelevant’ for the account info update. In fact the person that was to attend to me didn’t as much as read through the document. The instant they learned it was an affidavit they silenced me with a huge NO!

Surprised at their rejection of what I felt was a strong legal document, I resorted to pleading with them…but it all fell on deaf ears.

With a strong air of indifference they told me to go and get another ID or risk my line being cut off on the said date.

Well, I’m off to start processing another National ID Card…hoping to beat the line-blocking deadline.

But I am compelled to wonder at MTN’s utter disregard for a duly sworn affidavit issued by a respectable chief magistrate court of law domiciled in Lagos, Nigeria.

On a final note: isn’t it time MTN and other telecoms companies develop a system where things like account update info can be done by customers from their mobile devices…a DIY platform?

Must we always visit a store or center for such kindergarten things?

May God deliver us from the curse of ‘choosing’ to remain a third world nation.

if you have your original Nysc discharge certificate, make a copy and take it there. as for me, am dumping my mtn sim this week cos av already borrowed 500naira on it on purpose

Major001:
Sadly, a short while back, my wallet went missing. And with it went my National ID Card and some cash.

The National ID card was my sole government approved ID.

Meanwhile, I got a few text messages from MTN requesting I update my account info to ensure my phone line isn’t blocked by 19th of August.
A government approved ID was required.

Concerned, I called the customer care service and narrated my ordeal…stating that I had no government approved ID at the moment.

I asked if a duly signed court affidavit for self identification was acceptable for the required info update.

They firmly assured me it was.

So, this morning I dashed down to The Chief Magistrate Court Of Lagos State at Sabo, Yaba, where I paid and obtained a duly signed, stamped, and sealed affidavit…containing all my personal details.

However, on getting to the MTN store, at e-center, Sabo, Yaba, my affidavit was rejected outright on the grounds that it was ‘irrelevant’ for the account info update. In fact the person that was to attend to me didn’t as much as read through the document. The instant they learned it was an affidavit they silenced me with a huge NO!

Surprised at their rejection of what I felt was a strong legal document, I resorted to pleading with them…but it all fell on deaf ears.

With a strong air of indifference they told me to go and get another ID or risk my line being cut off on the said date.

Well, I’m off to start processing another National ID Card…hoping to beat the line-blocking deadline.

But I am compelled to wonder at MTN’s utter disregard for a duly sworn affidavit issued by a respectable chief magistrate court of law domiciled in Lagos, Nigeria.

On a final note: isn’t it time MTN and other telecoms companies develop a system where things like account update info can be done by customers from their mobile devices…a DIY platform?

Must we always visit a store or center for such kindergarten things?

May God deliver us from the curse of ‘choosing’ to remain a third world nation.

if you have your original Nysc discharge certificate, make a copy and take it there. as for me, am dumping my mtn sim this week cos av already borrowed 500naira on it on purpose

Is d unilag post utme registration form out?

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