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ePoster:
You still dont understand.
I logged into facebook earlier today and saw his message. I ignored it and didnt reply. Not because i dont love him, i do alot.
But because even if we chat, it would be about normal, boring stuff. He likes it, i dont!
He's like a tortoise in the relationship, im more of a cheetah.
Thats the problem

then tell him what you want. am sure he'll change. message me on WhatsApp so we'll talk better 070 three-57-zero-3008

Sainttops:
Check ur upstairs if what you guys is right before you tag anything childish.

am i the one who suspended d student. why are u asking me? psycho

ePoster:
Im really tired!
it seems that all my mates have boyfriends except me
i dont just understand. The guys are interested as hell when chasing. But whenever i say yes, the fire just dies.
Apart from that, i just get bored!
Dating is suh hard.

I like a boy who was my classmate. I know he likes me too but the way he acts... God!
Im aries. I dont know if thats what is affecting me.

you are the problem. there's no curse. you need to blend in. seriously you are boring the guys out and you don't appreciate them for whatever they do. females are naturally meant to be excited when dating the person they love and not boring them out. i know u might have grown up dis way but there comes a time in life when we all have to drop some habits so we can move forward. as for ur hot temper, its something u have to manage as well if u want to have a stable relationship.

ultimate77:
Hi guys... It's been a while. I hope y'all enjoying the new year and the winter. I practically sleep with my fan on and without cloth, I bath with cold water as well. Before you say I should go to jos and try it, I was born in Jos, plateau state and lived most of my life all in the north.

THIS WILL BE A LONG READ SO BUCKLE UP AND ENJOY THEN PUT MOUTH.

To my story. So I was able to do away with my ex as you guys advised me to, 2 years ago. After 3 months of the break-up, I got a good job and left the city. I wasn't posting any picture on my WhatsApp status neither do I post on Facebook. She was always viewing my status which are usually my poetry write ups. After a year, she called to apologise saying how I am the only best guy for her in the whole world, how I am the only guy who knows how to treat her well. Well, truth of the matter is I tolerated a her excesses and my guy just asked me to so I can learn how to handle any other woman.

I was celibate for the whole year before she came back begging and my guy asked me not to be rude, I should tell her it's ok, let's try again but I should just watch her for a month. Men and brethren, I was cautious enough not to allow us meet because she not someone you can easily come by and you will go without your JT responding to stimulus.... She had a way of getting my pants down. So I did everything so we don't meet.

So she told me how she had missed me, the love, the care, the outings, the foods I make for her and the sex most of all. She admitted she has within the year dated 2 other guys and still broke up with them.

Note: the longest relationship she has had was the one I and she had which lasted for 3 miserable years... But I learnt much lessons so I do not regret.

Refusing to meet her after we agreed, I was giving her excuses that I was busy with work this made her start showing that her attitude again.. I already had become immune to all those behaviours of her. I just ignored her and that was how it slid. I was happy we went silent on each other again.

So, mid last year, I was at work and one of my bosses brought this young beautiful lady to my office and requested that I help connect her to the company's wireless. I didn't even act as if he was talking to me neither did I respond to any of them, on that day, I was so furious about the job I gave my boys to do which they did not complete. So the man asked my colleague to help her do that. I was really not interested in connecting anyone to the network until I resolve the downtime. However, I really don't give face to female young chaps at the company because I know myself.. Someone might just fall in love with me and I can't even deal.

Fast-forward a month later, my colleague has started taking and chatting with the new lady, she actually Came for her industrial attachment. They were always chatting and she'll come visit him in my office during break hours. All the while, I only respond to her greetings but sometimes, I listened to their conversations while working on my system. She seemed to be a great personality as I noticed she barely get angry, each time she speaks, she made sense. She responds to any question you ask her. After 2 months, I asked my guy where the girl is from. He told me. I kept quiet. 2 days later, my colleague told me that the girl said she wanted to learn Java and he told her he doesn't know how to but that I can help her. He brought her to my table and I told her she was going to pay me 50k so I'll teach her all she needs to know. She bargained and we agreed on 40k. She came the first day during break period, I had to interview her and I was amazed at her responses.

Work wouldn't let her concentrate so we cancelled classes till when she's done. A day Came she just came to my office and that was a day for just chats. I led through the conversations and she clearly opened up to me to say.. In her words "you know what? The day that man asked you to connect me to the network, the moment I saw you, I had a very strong feelings for you and since that day I couldn't help it but I was scared you might bounce me. But I said to myself 2 things must happen. It's either I make this guy fall in love with me by my actions or I tell it to him... But you were not just interested." I was smiling. She told me everything she feels... I already had within two days thought of asking to date her and marry her because she possess 80% of all I want in a woman especially her common sense and love for technology.

She had told me she has a guy outside the country who she said want to marry her, she loves him but then, she doesn't know what is going on because she can't seem to get over me and she said she knows it's not infatuation. I knew it wasn't either. I loved the girl like mad within 3 days. I knew I would. After 2 weeks, I told her I want us to date and I want to marry her I know she will too. She couldn't say a word so I let her.. Fact is, she can't stay off my path. I developed strong feelings for her that I could just do anything for her. As the days go bye, it was becoming stronger and stronger.

She decided to start acting weird to see if she's really fooling herself at that point I realised and decided to take a chill pill and have a break.. But after 2 days, we hooked again. Things happened and we finally decided to stay with each other and marry when the time comes. I know I shouldn't beg a woman to marry me as a man but guys, marrying that girl is in my own interest because she will preserve my home and everything that has to do with me. She marrying me too is in her own best interest because she will have a man who is worthy to be called a husband.

Now the challenge is... This guy outside the country is younger than I am and just 2 years older than she is.. She is 23..and I am 7 years older than she is. The guy has built houses, has cars and has a business but not educated as I am, not sensitised as I am.. Just anything academics and social and otherwise.. Most especially I have a profession and yea, he has a business but has achieved more than me.. The lady Has weighed the both of us and is still very confused as she keeps saying both of us are just perfect for her. On her list of 8 guys, she had deleted 6 it's just left the two of us and that she really wish she can delete him but the guy is too good to be deleted like that. She hadn't had sex with him because she said "the guy said they should skip sex till marriage because of how much he loves her" and me in the other hand, I don't have a house built yet, my business is in it's pitching stage and I don't own a car or cars too but that isn't my biggest worries now.

I had told her, before the year ends before she wraps up her 500 level, my business should have been set up and running and since she loves my profession, that will be a plus for her and she will as well know and be proud that she was and is a part of my/our success story. She was sick about the whole thing and finally decided she'll settle for me and I advised she shouldn't tell the guy until he comes back to the country so you guys can talk and you can kindly tell him. Though I feel the pains this guy will go through receiving this news.. But it has to be done.

We now talk more often, as I am planning to marry her this year hopefully after her studies because I am certain the money will be available even to buy her all she needs. She had read my vision and seen a headway and how I strive to make them come alive. She has been quiet supportive with her advice and love. However, at some point, I fear she might just change her mind and return to the guy. You know how inconsistent some ladies can be na. She told me the guy had visited her mum and her elder sister who is married and they all liked him but her father hasn't seen him yet.

My aunt rarely accepts girls I show her but then moment all my family members saw her picture, they all accepted her and asked that I bring her. Me on the other hand, I had only spoken to her mum just ones and that was because I needed to help them do a payment and we've not met. Most of the men at the company are asking the girl to marry them as she shows me the whole conversation.

Guys, at some point I feel she won't leave me at a point I feel threatened by the communications between her and the guy though it doesn't last longer than 5 minutes but we speak like 40minuites over the phone. On free days 2 hours sometimes. And I am not scared that she might leave or maybe that I can't get another. Nada! There are many options but she's number one and I know I love her more than any one else. She has other options too but I can't speak for her.

Guys, anything I can do to secure this girl? Even though I know I got her at angle 90° for now not even 45° because @45° there won't be much distractions. I hope no body comes to tell me to go acquire what the other guy has acquired because I'm in the process.

I just need a few words guys.

Please help

bro, just prepare for the worst. she might later decide to ditch u at the last minute. women usually do that o. if she's yours, she won't leave u. don't stress urself and don't get too attached until she has decided to marry u truly. i just hope after marriage, u won't be hearing "i should have married him instead of u"

Difrent:
Any Muslim that graduated from that school compromised his religion. he couldn't have practiced as a devout Muslim in an environment where theres no mosque, where you go to chapel everyday and only go to mosque on fridays.....its not a matter of abiding by the law, but denial of ones right and suppression akin to religious persecution........thats why i maintain, they shouldnt be given admission in the first place. university is an academic environment that accomodate diversity of ideas, beliefs, religions, tribes e.t.c......whether private or not.

the school can't reject students that wanna attend even if they are Muslims. so far they can abide by d rules and regulations. if a Christian wants to attend a Muslim school, he or she has to abide by their rules. its simple. nobody is forcing u to apply. wisdom is the principal thing. if you are true Muslim, going to church won't change ur mind about islam. i remember the Christian guy that was recently freed by bokoharam. he had to pretend as if he had accepted islam and he had to follow their rules to stay alive. they had a change of heart and released him. his wisdom saved him. abeg just leave religion issues joor.

Difrent:
Agreed.
But it's deceitful to collect money from people you were not meant to give admission in the first place. Simple, you don't want Muslims, don't give them admission at all. Say No to deceit..... Honestly it's a deception no two ways about it.

there are Muslims in the school that are enjoying the school. see ehn some people are just in the habit of going against rules. the school has graduated muslim first class students. those ones don't have two heads na. infact christian guys and girls have been expelled and suspended from d school also for breaking rules. its just personality. some people are just not law abiding. anyone dat gets suspended due to church issues in d school has to be a very naughty person. most students in d school skip services and they don't get punished. i have friends there. for this one to bag a suspension means his case is very serious. the suspended guy overdid it.

Mayflowa:
The rule doesn't even hold water in the first place. You cannot religious academics at higher institution in a secular state. That is the heart of the matter. The terms is null & void. In fact, if any true exist in their forced religious attendance, the NUC should start the process of de-accrediting them

NUC won't do that. abi u have forgotten that this is Nigeria. i don't think u know how influential davido's father is. as for the rules and regulations on the agreement sheet, they are not void. someone almost took d school to court for this issue. guess what. lawyers advised her not to do it cos of d agreement signed. they had to send an appeal letter to the school to reconsider her. she is now back in d school in 300lvl

LegendHer0:
You are saying rubbish. Why did they accepted a Muslim into their institution in the first place?

Why is a university even making it compulsory for students to attend churches when they are not kindergartens. This also applies to the Christians in the institution, so I will always need to be at the chapel everytime even if it’s against my will?

Government need to change some laws governing these private universities coz these guys are currently managing them like a cult group.

funny... why did the people choose the school after seeing those rules? dats the question u should ask. during the admission process, the rules are clearly stated so u either accept or reject and move on. in life when u make choices yourself, u just have to endure whatever issues may come along and cross the finish line. its just four years or five. just keep ur head low and get ur certificate.

slimthugchimee2:
But to be honest, say the truth, if this was the other way round would you say this?

Just an honest question, no sentiments attached

yes i would. hope i have answered your question?

Glare247:
Is adeleke university a faith based school? Are u alright ?

yes i am. maybe u should ask yourself. its a faith based school. you can confirm it if u want. seventh day Adventist school. They worship on saturdays. The owner Dr. Deji Adeleke is a seventh day Adventist. He worships at victory sanctuary, Lekki. Davido comes around sometimes as well. now u know

soke02:
the university should stated it from the unset that it is a Christian school not normal university

they have stated it. its on their website

Difrent:
christian university that was blind to the fact that they were issuing admission to Muslims abi?
or was it the money?
even with their billions, the adelekes were scamming muslims of their money

u can check it during the admission process. the rules are there. I've seen them myself. they give the students copies to read and sign if they agree. students can choose not to sign and leave. once they sign, they keep one, submit one to the hall admin and one to the senate

ignis:
God bless you

amen. thanks

ignis:
God bless you

amen. thanks

ajl:
You are so right. This student is a typical religious zealot who is showing intolerance from a young age. Will God see him as a sinner for attending a church. Likewise, if the school is not allowing student to practice other religious faith then that's also not acceptable. The purpose of a university is for creating and spreading knowledge, religious knowledge inclusive. What pain the heart sometime is both African muslim and Christians have no clue what they are doing. Please before you "kill" yourself because of one religion, go pick a history book to know the origin of each religion. God is not religious. At the end of the day most of humanity will found out that virtually all the things and belief they hold onto are all a ruse.

honestly this religion thing is no longer healthy. now people don't know what is right and wrong anymore. all they know is religion. this is the reason why Africa is not moving forward.

Oches4me:
u are a fool, if it happen otherwise now u wont be saying this.

you're not mature. if it happened otherwise, i would also question the Christian guy. when u go somewhere u have to live by their rules. u can't behave anyhow u like. like they say: when you are in rome, act like the romans

AnanseK:
And you insist on drinking alcohol in Kano , which is faith based city. Dishonest develish people who would still shout Islamization.

omg. when did i insist on taking alcohol in kano? plus i don't take alcohol so what's ur point? pls think before posting. read my post again and you'll understand my point. nawa o

Realstick941:
I will try to do this without insult,but first of all there is nothing like a christian university or a muslim university before NUC gives you licence for a university it has make sure u understand that all the universities in the land is open for all nigerians that can afford it regardless of religion or ethnicity.

There is Al Qalam university at katsina which is (i will use your grammar) faith based and there are christian students but they are not even encouraged to go to mosque,i wonder what going to church service has to do with bachelors degree.

NUC saw those rules and still approved the school. so now its not d school's fault anymore. if one can't cope in d school, he or she shouldn't register. its simple

maasoap:
Hypocrite is what you are, simple

how pls explain

Sainttops:
The level of stupidity and intolerance shown by some Christians is beyond human comprehension. If a Muslim did same, you will be crying like egbere all around. As a Muslim, I also blame him for attending such hypocritical institutions.



Who is actually intolerant now.

You will die of vexation. Islam shall prevail.

bros why all these? this is really childish

Mayflowa:
Anyway, Nigeria's constitution cannot allow the university to discriminate against Muslim. The constitution surpasses the university handbook. Why would NUC even grant licence for such academic institution to exist in Nigeria. The boy will win Adeleke University in court.

he can't win in court. he has already agreed to the terms and conditions of the school and it has been signed by him during the admission process. that alone would finish him in court

crap... you are a Muslim that don't wanna attend church programmes and u go to a Christian university. you are forming stubborn and crying everywhere. rubbish. if u cannot cope, don't attend the school. its a faith based school. its even on their website. i don't know why people are like this

know your strengths and weaknesses

Jodha:
I totally forgot.... I'm going to follow up the match for sure....
Man U are clowns and I'm sure we're gonna beat them..

its either both teams settle for a point or emirates will go up in flames. sorry

oldtruth:
Told you I am not so good with phones that was why I was confused when the guy said he has been using it for close to 3 days while I am seeing different info on the screen.

I have phones way costlier than what he is holding but this phone TECNO Pouvoir is a good one. And I got it at that price.

Thank you

oh ok. tecno pouvir can't stand asus rog phones in anything even battery life. I'll tell u why. its cos of the soc. tecno pouvir is mediatek while asus rog fone uses snapdragon 855+ which is very efficient. tecno pouvir is like a domestic cat and asus rog fone is like a tiger. the gap is too much to be compared. tecno pouvir is not even optimized for gaming. forget the 5000mah in pouvoir. try playing pes2019 and see how d battery would drain like magic.

SamuelAnyawu:
Amen bro. If i eventually leave here alive i am going to write a book about this insurgency. I Have lost several military and humanitarian friends i met here

I'm really scared especially with this Iswap. i hope Nigeria doesn't turn into iraq or syria. can i send a private msg?

oldtruth:
Although I am not tech freak but what does 10hrs screen usage since full charged means? And you are claiming 2days (48hrs). What is happening here? Was the screen inactive all through for most of the time? Honestly, sometimes, I just find somethings confusing here.

My phone can stay more than 10days on 10% if at sleep mode. Screen usage can last not more than 20hrs if full charged and I bought it #45k.

20hrs? bros haba pls stop exaggerating. dat asus has d best battery in market and its 6000mah. tell us ur phone model and I'll dig out d facts for u to see. i doubt if u even understand the difference btw screen usage time and standby time

Jewessgratitude:
Hahahaaa... Thanks. Though I didn't type this comment just to get attention, I appreciate.

The lady is just annoying me with the way she keeps going about the phone and social media without even considering the man's feelings. I'm sure she wouldn't have the mind to do so if it was someone she truly loves. I'm also sure the man is a caring person thats why she jumped in in the first place.
She wants to have her cake and eat. No way!
You're in, you're in for life.
In her next life, should would not go after the cares of this world and look before she leaps.

aiit.

Jewessgratitude:
Hahahaaa... Thanks. Though I didn't type this comment just to get attention, I appreciate.

The lady is just annoying me with the way she keeps going about the phone and social media without even considering the man's feelings. I'm sure she wouldn't have the mind to do so if it was someone she truly loves. I'm also sure the man is a caring person thats why she jumped in in the first place.
She wants to have her cake and eat. No way!
You're in, you're in for life.
In her next life, should would not go after the cares of this world and look before she leaps.

aiit�. i think the only solution now is for her to drop her pride and apologize to her husband then stop communicating with those home destroyers. if she can do this, her husband will respect her more and at the end of the day, she'll enjoy her marriage

Jewessgratitude:
Did you not say you deleted the social media app in your second post? I said it that you're not a straight forward person.

He even tried and bought you another phone, you're complaining that it doesn't browse. By the way, why is a married woman so crazy about browsing? Don't you have other important family stuffs to attend to? And then you're saying you're tired of the marriage because of phone?
It shows you never really loved your Husband in the first place otherwise your attention will be on him, not social media.

A quick on for girls who are not married.
Please dont rush and marry because all your mates are married and then you now settle for any man for the sake of it cos you'll will tire out easily.
If you truly love a man, even if he says lick my ass, youll do it without complain. Girls you and I know this. Its only when you marry a man you dont love, you'll be "beraving" (my little nephew will say beraving. hehehe) like this woman here.

Please wait for that man! That man that you wanna browse life and direct 24/7 without getting tired.
That man you wanna be in his arms through thick and thin
That man you wanna say, "see your big head" and laugh it off when he upsets you. Marry that man.
Dont tie an innocent man down and be punishing him for not being able to find true love hence trying to mange him. If you dont want him, quickly let him go now to avoid stories that touch.

May true love find us and may we find true love.
True love still exist.

Op suit yourself. The same marriage that shacking you that year is turning sour now because of another guy. SMH. Some ladies sha.

i love u for this. you are a wife material. wish i could get to know u more. whatsapp?

Admin9:
Curse as in... And why

don't u know what u see as minor may be serious to some people? she wants to be serious but if u waste her time and effort, she may take it really personal or even go spiritual on ur case. don't waste her time if u know u have chosen ur ex. she deserves to be happy just like u. think about it. most times we don't get to marry the ones we love the most. there's a reason for that. its more spiritual than physical. despite d fact dat u loved ur ex so much, she may not be your future wife. God knows best. going back to her is not a good idea. for d fact dat she couldn't even defend ur ethnicity, it means even if u marry her later, ethnicity would still split u both. love goes beyond ethnicity but if someone has chosen ethnicity or religion over u, my brother don't go back to such person. its dangerous cos she would definitely yield to pressure again. focus on ur new girl. am sure the love would grow as time goes on. delete everything about ur ex and stop communicating with her. God has given u a second chance. don't waste it