₦airaland Forum

MrSly:
➜Medical tests, with HIVnand Genotype are compulsory before church wedding no be today. The question is if they ever wedded in a church.

Was the man ever there for any of the pregnancies and deliveries... the story reads more like a man who was not particularly involved. 😒

Kanwulia:
➜This story makes no sense. Married with 3 children and no STD tests? What exactly did the wife die from?

Well, she may have been married to herself all of that time. Maybe that is how he was able to get around, never finding out until she revealed it to him. 😒

Ogbujaja:
➜ So in all the tests conducted on her while she was ill, non was HIV test? Some part of the story is missing.

Indeed.... the story is hole-icious! 😒

Dpsychologist:
➜ They are negative. She must have prevented them from having it through PMTCT.

That makes the OP all the more suspicious. 😒

Pinnup:
➜I'm going through a very difficult time that unless I say it, nobody would know what I am going through. People always say why didn't he or she say it, that's why I am here.

The internet is anonymous, and you don't need permission to say what you want to say. However, you should be sure to prepare yourself for the responses to come. 😒

KobolanderSegun:
➜Beautifully and perfectly put. When men real there is zero difference between men and women they will be at peace with themselves.

I am just saying! A lot of men and women out there spend so much of their lives thinking there is a sort of cheat sheet to dating someone of the opposite sex, when the simple answer lies with learning to treat the other person as you would want them to treat you(this works regardless of the gender of the other person).😒

flexgee:
🚨 Before you say “I do”… would you dare to live together first?

What if the person you think you love has habits you’ve never seen?
What if moving in together reveals the truth… or quietly destroys what could have been a lasting marriage?

This is not just another relationship conversation.
This is the question many people avoid until it’s too late.

In this intense and suspense-filled debate, two opposing sides collide:
One side insists cohabitation is the smartest way to test compatibility.
The other warns it may be the very mistake that ruins commitment before it even begins.

⚠️ Secrets will be exposed.
⚠️ Assumptions will be challenged.
⚠️ Beliefs will be tested.

By the end of this episode, you may start to question everything you thought you knew about love, commitment, and marriage.

👉 Don’t click away—this conversation could change your decision forever.

👇 After watching, answer this honestly:
Should couples live together before marriage — YES or NO?

This sort of reasoning is behind why I believe women need to not only decenter men but focus their energy primarily on that which benefits them in relationships and in life above all else. 🥱🥱

koms:
It all started in year 2021.
Before then I've read so many psychology text about woman behavior and even belong to two telegram groups of red pillers. To myself I was a red piller then (looking back now I'm just laughing at my old self).
✓ There is vast difference between knowing something and practicing it. It is just like watching how to drive car on YouTube and start forming professional driver.

Psychology text about women's behavior? I am afraid you learned absolutely nothing of women then. Why? Well, if you had simply used your eyes and head, you would have learned for free that there are no special behaviors when it comes to women. Women are literally men only with different reproductive plumbing. 🥱🥱

2. Yeah! I think it all comes down to you lacking genuine social skills. My guess is your never did have genuine friends is the issue here. Take your sight off women and focus instead on working out your emotional and social skills. Maybe learn what it means to love others as you love yourself. That will go along way in sharpening you from the inside out on how to treat yourself and others too. 🥱🥱

VeeVeeMyLuv:
Yes as long as you are willing to apply it

No course is useless

The problem is people not willing to apply these course giving flimsy excuses

Precisely! Even Library Science dey useful of the person knows how to apply the knowledge well.🥱

Mrexcell:
✓ Some women are really very difficult to pls seen and read about women who ended their marriages and relationships because their men are just too perfect and good.

A woman is a man with a female reproductive system. Once you realize this, you will know to worry yourself less about a lot of things. 🥱🥱

WriterrNg:
✓ Before the war there has always been discounts. That's what Russian oil have always been known for. Discounts. How do you think Europe grew their industries?

The reference is clearly from after the war and the current increase in purchase of Russian oil by the Saudis. Please try to keep up. 🥱🥱🥱

WriterrNg:
Lies. Before sanctions Russian oil have ALWAYS been sold at a discount. Even before the war.
Infact Europe and Germany built their entire industries on cheap Russian gas.
It has been so for over 50 years now. Russian gas always sold cheaper. There was never a time Russia sold oil for more.

...🥱

. Russian oil is cheap primarily due to steep discounts, sometimes over $30 a barrel below global benchmarks, offered to entice buyers after Western sanctions over the Ukraine invasion restricted its market. India, China, and Turkey now dominate purchases, leveraging their position to demand lower prices, while high transport costs and the need to use a "shadow fleet" for shipping further reduce the net

AgentNairaland:
https://dailypost.ng/2024/10/10/im-an-atheist-who-prefers-orisa-worship-wole-soyinka/

Like I said, according to reports, he is more a traditionalist. Learn to read beyond fancy article titles, abeg! 🥱

fobiflex:
✓ Your input is of great help to me, I need to ask myself these questions really and find answer within.
I won’t deny the girl is really a nice person, 💯 wife material in all ramifications

Red flags should never be brushed under the rug. She is not the problem or the source. But it's existence would likely impact her happiness and life if not properly taken care of. 🥱

CodeTemplar:
CC kobojunkie

I don't subscribe to conspiracy theories. We all know that Europe imposed sanctions are reason why Russian oil is sold at a discount. As for the claim regarding Saudi's supposed mixing of Russian oil into its stock, that I do not have evidence for and would rather not bother with until I ocme upon evidence for it. 🥱

CodeTemplar:
Saudi is an oil giant so why import from Russia. Something fishy cooking there.

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Saudi Arabia imports discounted Russian fuel oil primarily to fuel its domestic power plants during high-demand summer months, allowing the kingdom to export more of its own premium crude oil at higher international prices. This strategic move maximizes profit, maintains internal energy needs, and leverages cheap, sanctioned fuel while preserving local resources.

Fika01:
https:///4mR6q3z
“Have you ever loved someone who didn’t love you the same way?”
This has been a major relationship breaker which is yet to be addressed. This article addresses such issue in a way you'd never expect!

Addressed how? If so sleek does not love you, the onus is on you to do what is in your best interest which is to leave before it is too late. 🥱

fobiflex:
➜I didn’t know about all these information until last month I asked after her family

OK, I will give you that. So, what are you waiting for, or asking us this for, when you already see it as a red f😒lag?

Look, you say you like her, but her brothers are an issue. Are you planning to have her cut off from her family when you marry her, or something? Are you ready to put her through that level of wahala for your sake? Or are you considering that maybe her brothers might be of help to you if you are to stay with her? What is it? I ask because you say their lifestyle is a red flag to you, yet instead of acting immediately, you have chosen to stay. 😒

marcusverum:
➜ The scary thing about marriage is that your partner can wake up one day, tell you they are done and walk away. What is terrifying is they can make that decision and you don't have to have done anything wrong. There is no court of appeal. There is no argument that will change a made-up mind.
➜ If you rush into marriage you will rush out. Time alone does not protect you. Discernment does.
➜ The best protection in marriage is choosing correctly at the beginning. Fix the foundation, not the cracks. When choosing a wife be selfish. This allows you to selflessly discharge your duty as a husband. What do you think is the biggest mistake men make before getting married?
— Marcus Verum

1. Even before you were born into this life, change has been a constant. That constant applies to relationships as well. 😒

2. Even those who take their time face the same odds in marriage. Yes, it does not matter how much time you take in choosing your partner; if that partner, after so many years, decides he/she should leave, there is nothing you can do to stop him/her. 😒

3. Your so-called good beginnings are not guarantees against a bad end. As long as you are dealing with humans in a relationship, expect the unexpected. Rather than invest so much time worrying about that which you have no power to change, focus your mind and time on being the best person you can be; work on yourself throughout. If and when things eventually go sour, you can at least walk away having no regrets.😒

fobiflex:
➜I will be simple and direct here.
There’s this girl I have been seeing for almost a year and she ticks all the dots in a wife for me. But the issue I’m having in my head is, I’m a 9-5 guy, I believe so much in hardwork and so much detest fraudulent tendencies buh my girl’s family are full of working boys as they’re been called in this side. Her eldest brother, eldest sister and the one directly older than her all into fraud. Isn’t that a red flag for me.
Even from my own perspective, the family might not even accept cuz I don’t have that kind of money fraud brings.

You knew you had a problem with all of this, yet you continued dating her because? Seems you enjoy wasting your time with that which you are aware would likely be of no benefit to you. Yet, if that girl up and leaves you tomorrow, na your kind go come here dey blame the girl for all that went wrong. 😒

Yorubastardz:
It was 2022 I was a lower rank in my job.
Tho I maintain myself. I sumon courage and ask this babe out.
She is my co worker.
She refuse to give me her number
Saying sorry No, I don't give out number
I come see the way she dey smile dey happy say she don use me boost her ego.
2026 I was promoted and given my own department. Now I'm making so much cash and we work together but different department
I stop looking her side and started talking to other women. Become leader of my department and made company more profit.
Fellas if I was busy chasing validation from her. I wouldn't have worked hard to the point of getting promoted.
Now I see the regret in her eyes daily
It's tormenting her it's sweeting me

Nonsense story telling! 🥱🥱🥱

andyjrii:
Someone I was dating at the time once gifted me a picture frame for my birthday.
Now you’re probably wondering - what’s wrong with a picture frame?
Except this one had no picture inside. Just my name. Boldly spelled out. Framed. Glitter everywhere. Like I had been inducted into some kind of celebrity hall of fame I didn’t apply for.
I had no choice but to smile and collect it with a straight face, saying “Thank you so much, I love it,” while in my head I was like: WTF is this?!

Your sister and yourself are thinking too much of this. A picture frame is a good enough gift for you to put the picture of your choice in. 🥱🥱

Bluffly:
✓ It is not rambling but a fact. Why can't Russia pour all. on Ukraine, the same USA cannot do to Iran.
✓ And be intellingent enough to identify what is called an hyperbolic statement.
Simply because USA cannot go all out, Iran now thinks USA has lost the steam.

1. I don't know what this means. 🥱

2. Huh? Hiroshima is a hyperbolic statement? 🥱🥱

Bluffly:
Na lie. The fact remains that there is a limit to go in war now from the angle of humanity. Is Iran expecting another Hiroshima from the USA?

What reason does Iran have to expect a Hiroshima? Why are you all rambling on about this unnecessary reference? 🥱🥱

LordReed:
✓ You are the one dredging it up. I asked why you lot fail to produce the facts you assert evidences your god.

What god? I have never engaged you in such meaningless back and forth.

Anyways, the same way an atheist has no evidence to prove his belief is the very same way the others have no proof for their own side. That is where things remain to date. 🥱🥱

NerdCat:
✓ Sounds like the usual, desperate attempt to redefine atheism to me - probably because you lack the wits to engage with atheism in it's purest ontological form.

Of course, it would sound like that to you.🥱

ZUBY77:
✓ How many places have you seen peace in the world without police?
Just name one place in the world worhout police?

Good question! 🥱🥱

SmartPolician:
Nobody should be policing the world. We need peace, fairness, equity and justice

How will you obtain this so-called peace, fairness, equity and justice which you desire? You mean by sacrificing absolutely nothing in exchange? 🥱🥱

LordReed:
✓ So if I say Harry Potter doesn't exist, I am practicing a religion?

Wrong! Thanks to the author of the series, we know her works are of her imagination. 🥱🥱

Anyways, you and I have already been through this many times in the past. Are you really thinking to dreg this nonsense back up again? 🥱

LordReed:
✓ Is it god belief that is built on facts? Why then can you lot never produce these facts when asked?

On the God issue, Science still does not pretend to have the facts. That means the very claim that God does not exist is also of religion. So...yeah! 🥱

Obi1kenobi:
➜I took your comments in the context you intended it and you've gone further to confirm that context, so I have no idea what you think I "truncated". Your argument seems to be that every society has at the very least some small surviving population of religious zombies, therefore human society can't "survive" without religion. This is incredibly fallacious.
➜ I might as well claim human society can't function without murderers and rapists because every society has murderers and rapists. Religion is irrelevant to the "survival" of Japanese society cos it plays no role in public life. Its utility value is largely in cultural identity and history - same as most Europeans see Christianity as cultural identity rather than an actual religion, and their churches are basically museums with beautiful architecture and art.
➜ I've already told you the roots of human morality, which you didn't address, so it seems you're arguing "meaninglessly".

1. Your submission regarding my statements thus far is wrong. Now, please try to take your personal delusions out of everything I have said thus far, and begin processing my responses as written. 😒

2. That is a very naive assumption that you make there. What we all know as the Japanese way of life, work ethics, respect for the environment, etc, all come from traditional Japanese beliefs, which are all tied to the Shinto religion. If you do not know this at all, then what are you attempting to argue here? Why? 😒😒

3. All you have done is spew forth brain fart after brain fart expecting something to land at some point. Well, nothing has! 😒😒

yemmit90:
1. Can you please define 'morality', "immorality' and 'Nature"? If you can perfectly do this, you will understand how the concept of these natural laws prescribed morality for all. In short, it is a moral standard for animals and humans because they are the acceptance social norms brought by nature.
2. You still never answer the question, or may be you don't get the logic behind the question. That something is bad, doesn't mean people are not doing it, so try to focus your argument on whether it is morally acceptable or not.

1. Morality refers to the foundational set of principles, beliefs, and standards that a people, society, or nation subscribes to. It provides clear differentiation between what is considered right (moral) and what is considered wrong (immoral) for a particular people, society, or nation. Thinks of it as axioms(base truths) aka the grounding on which all subsequent laws are meant to derive from. 😒

2. I can't answer a literally stewpid question though. There is nothing universal about what is considered moral in your society, state, or nation. When you say such things as laws of nature, you hint at some sort of universal moral standard to which we all hold, a standard that nature itself administers and adjudicates, yes? Well, when men sexually assault their children or relatives in places like Afghanistan, Pakistan, or any other -stan where women are seen as tools for the pleasure of the men, I don't see nature stepping in to do anything about that. Therefore, I think it is ridiculous to suggest at this point that nature has moral rules for us to argue on. 😒

Again, pay close attention to the meaning of morality, so you can better narrow your scope to that which is relevant to the conversation.😒