₦airaland Forum

MiddleDimension:
✓ Also, you said something about working your entire life till you die.
Well, Joe Biden probably thought so too even to the point of standing again in an election despite the obvious fact that he incapable of carrying on.

Now, I am definitely certain of the source of the gobbledegook responses.

MrColdsweat:
Sentence a human to this satanic world, a lifetime of pain and suffering, just to secure your small house. Great idea.

This literally sums up Ops African megalith on this, abeg! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Racheal45:
Ur own talk always Dey somehow I no fit argue with u 😂😂😂😂

Maybe it is because you have never really considered marriage for what it really is, an agreement between two individuals...a partnership where responsibilities as well as dividends are meant to be shared.

The allowance a man gets from his monthly salary== made possible by his wife taking care of all domestic aspects of his relationship -- is not dash money; the allowance a wife gets from that same salary is also not dash money.

DiasGodinHeaven:
✓ If the man had married early or have children on time, they would have been grown up by now.
Secondly his eldest brother has built his house to lintel level.
It is not easy to kill the man's children because their maternal home people will come and defend them this is the culture in Igboland.

Maternal home heroes would come in from the same land to save the day as they have always done before now, abi? 😂😂😂😂

Racheal45:
Mere iq no supposed know say na 96k he dash u plus the 4k making 100k
Waiting u dey prove

Monthly allowance, for a partner in the marriage, no be dash money same as the allowance the man gives himself each salary, is also not dash money. It is more of a wage of sorts for all the efforts put in for that period. And yes, he out to pay back any loans he took from his wife in addition.

Gadafii:
✓ you are not wise junkie. We are talking about husband and wife here not a boss and his staff
✓ Ok now, if your oga borrowed 4k from you and later gifted you 100k, that's not your salary, do you still ask him for the 4k?
✓ Because if you do and I am your boss, I will relieve you of your duty the next day.
✓ Now a husband has given a wife 200k for feeding, which she may not exhaust, and extra 100k for her own upkeep, if she dares ask for 4k, she's an ungrateful and irresponsible wife, as the husband, I won't even talk plenty, I will give her the 4k.
But she's never getting 100k as her personal upkeep again, neither would I ever ask her for any money.
What level of entitlement mentality is that?

1 So, you think a husband does a wife a favor when he gives her money for her own upkeep in the relationship while he obviously takes out money for his own upkeep in the relationship as well?

2. Gifted? You think that money a husband gives his wife for her upkeep is a gift? Are you certain you are OK? So, when your parentis gave you allowance as a child, you regarded that as a gift?

3. I wouldn't want to work with an incompetent individual who does not realize that loans are meant to be repaid, not wiggled out of because because I also get paid a deserved allowance/ salary/bonus.

4. I honestly blame women who engage little minded individuals in the name of marriage. The situation is almost guaranteed to end up pathetic one for them 😩

imagine a man thinking the allowance he gives his own wife is more a gift than payment she deserves for her part in the marriage;the same man will have no problems giving himself all the allowance he desires by the way, all while considering it pay deserved for his own efforts.😩😩😩😩

Ezyp:
✓ Where in my post did I write that suicide is foreign to Nigerians? My post or the topic has nothing to do with Nigerians. Learn to comprehend simple sentences. I was only clarifying that these white people should not blame science or technology. They commit suicide like it's nothing. I only cited one of their reason. They always look for excuses for the reason they commit suicide.
✓ There is a reason the child was suicidal and it's a shame the parents couldn't notice it because of the system. Now they are blaming AI. In those days they blame it on Rock music.
✓ Again learn to comprehend simple sentences. My post has nothing to do with Nigerians not been suicidal. The boy parents should take responsibility.
✓ That's my point. But you funny sha... You wrote people went to bed and didn't wake. How is that really link to all them commiting suicide? Yeah some may actually did it but can't just say all... Where is your evidence?
✓ Yeah people commit suicide in Nigeria which I know but be honest, the reason some Nigerians commit suicide can be understandable (some not. Especially those who does it because of heartbreak from relationships). The way Naija dey, things hard. If not for discipline, many for don off themselves.

People --- Blacks, Asians or Whites --- don't commit suicide like it is nothing. There is always a reason behind every suicide even if you would like to pretend that reason amounts to nothing for you.

2. You say this because you have always noticed the mental state of everyone around you and have always been able to spot those deep in the clasps of the monster from those who aren't, right? :I can't believe you are actually trying to totally blame the parents in this.

3. Did you read the story at all? They are literally calling attention to a potential danger lurking in all the gadgets that children are allowed access to these days, even in there schools. THE AI tool literally coached their child on the best way to tie a hang man's knot for effective result -- death -- , this after convincing him of the rightness of suicide in his case, in addition to helping him write his suicide note. What of that is safe for children to be exposed to?

You mention those who formerly blamed Rock music but conveniently forgot to mention that it is thanks to those cries that today we now have classification system to help keep nature music out of the hands of children with appropriate warnings too.

4. Take responsibility because you have determined as judge you are that they were responsible for his illness which lead him to commit suicide with the aide of AI tools?

5. Because conveniently, you have determined that these the only reasons why a Nigerian would commit suicide and people in other places could never understand or have the same reasons?

As far as you are concerned, the life is hard argument as well as the heartbreak situation only applies is excuse for Nigerian suicides, abi?

Suicideboy:
➜Beans has lots of variant , white beans is pure carbs but pigeon beans is protein
➜Ukwa contains protein this milky like form when you are thrpugh stage on, it has a wet sticky form when you are washing the messy part

1 cup of raw pigeon peas contains approximately 703 calories. Of those 703 calories, 4% is of fat, 25%(44g) is protein, while the remaining 71% carbohydrates(129g). Yes, it is high in protein, but we can't pretend the carbohydrate content is negligible. So, no, it is wrong to claim pigeon beans are protein. 😏

Yes, there are many variants as far as beans, and most of them are higher in carbohydrate than protein; most plant sources of protein are similar.

2. I know what Ukwa —African breadfruit — and no, it is mostly carbohydrate than protein. The milky-like form or substance is not protein, no. Neither are the wet sticky substances proteinous.

Cum4me:
➜Marriage wahala Why does marriage doesn't last
At first it will looks like true love soon after 10 years wahala done start some no stay reach 2 years

Most times, the reason it looks like true love to those outside of relationship, for the first couple of years, is that both partners in the relationship, particularly the woman, go out of their way to present a polished public image of a perfect relationship to wow you with. After a while, fatigue sets in, and before long, the cracks start to show. Then, finally, they give up on the futility of whitewashing what has been obviously a bad match from the get-go for them. That is usually when people like you come in, making the statement in bold there.

Gbadugbakun:
➜You're the one who seems not OK.

The one insisting that a woman who gets money due her, referred in this case as pocket money, should not expect a loan owed her to be paid back is clearly the one who probably has a couple of loose nuts somewhere. 🙄🙄

If your Oga borrowed Naira 4000 from you, do you write off the loan amount because he has handed you your salary/pay at the end of that month?

RealityKings1:
➜When I was young i used to be online alot. Facebook, 2go badooand several other apps I don't remember. You know the fascination that comes with owning a phone and interested in the Internet.
Through my teenage years and early 20s I had a lot of female friends too. Some I met and some I never met. It never bothers me to as if they were real or not.
But one thing was, whenever I chat with most, they always asked me for airtime. I always give them. I really didn't ask what they needed it for because they wouldn't use it to call me anyway 😂
So whenever I was sent to buy petrol for the generator, I always had extra as profit. Don't ask me about that magic I had a long list of Internet friends waiting for the airtime they asked and I just had to give them. Nowadays, I use to wonder how I was able to give so much and what exactly were they using it for?

What was the question that you shied away from again?

10thTenthMan:
➜And that’s why so many men stay stuck in cycles of emotional manipulation and quiet frustration. No one said OP killed someone, so let’s not ''strawman'' the argument, if you know what I mean. The critique isn’t about having feelings. I have no issues with anyone having feelings.
➜ From jealousy to anger, to frustration to fear, etc. It is how they are managed and how they becloud one's sense of judgment that matters. It is about how those feelings were managed, misplaced, and ultimately disrespected. Yes, he liked the girl o..Ok no problem...But he needs to stand on his value and not tolerate being sidelined, disrespected, and emotionally strung along, hoping she'd eventually pick him after dealing with other men.
➜ You say “humans use each other” as if that justifies emotional exploitation. Sure, people use people. The question is, do you let yourself be used without getting value in return? If a man is investing time, money, and emotional energy while getting zero commitment, zero intimacy, and open disrespect, then he’s volunteering for his own downfall. That’s not noble. At all. That is simply self-inflicted foolishness.
➜ No one said she owes him love. Who can force love biko? But he also doesn’t owe her provision either. Reciprocity is the baseline of healthy interaction. If she’s free to chase other men, fine. But don’t sit in another man’s house cooking and collecting money while talking to your real interest on the phone. That’s disrespect, and he was right to walk away.
➜ The message is not that women owe men relationships. No one owes you anything. It’s that men owe themselves dignity. The emotionally damaged ones are the men who keep hoping loyalty will be rewarded, even when the woman has made it clear he’s just a safety net. And men who defend that behavior under the guise of “being human” are justifying weakness and codependency. Men need to stop romanticizing disrespect just because they’re afraid to admit when a woman doesn't want them.
➜ Please, Mr OP, I have not come to pamper you. I have posted my response. Read through all the responses here. Eventually the choice is yours. This is my final take on the matter.

1. The one psychologically manipulating OP is not the girl but OP himself. Enough of you projecting what seems to be your own victim mentality on the OP, abeg! OP literally admits that the girl does not have feelings for him, but then goes on to assume that if he is available for her, she would somehow twist herself into liking him, as if he has ever been able to do that for the women around him who have feelings for him. 🥱🥱🥱

1b Not tolerate being sidelined? Are you sure you are OK at all? She clearly did not have feelings for OP before he invited her over to hang out and cook at his place. And she still didn't like him afterward. What did you want OP to do then? Force himself on her? I really don't understand why you think this is some entitlement battle for you when it should not be any such thing. 🥱🥱🥱

2. There is no case of exploitation here. OP kept calling the girl who eventually — after quitting her job — decided to hang out more at his place during her time of unemployment. He did not say anything about her exploiting him, nor did he suggest that she claimed to love him during that time. 🥱🥱🥱

Again, learn to stop projecting! 🙄🙄

3. OP allowed her, knowing she does not have feelings for him. He literally allowed her into his space to cook and stuff with the hopes that she would develop feelings for him by allowing it. What part of that sounds like exploitation to you? If anything, they both used each other during that time. She did not force herself into his space or life— he let her in. She did not demand that OP serve her whims. He invited her into his space with hopes that by doing so, he would gain from the investment.

Again, learn to stop projecting! 🙄🙄

4. Na wa oo! All this because OP tried to take advantage in the way he felt best. Again, learn to stop projecting! 🙄🙄

5. You did not come to pamper him but to belittle him for doing exactly what so many men out there in his shoes would have done, abi? Kwantinue!

ebubeson:
➜Is This Statement True About Today Relationships?

There is no truth— truths are universal after all — to it!

DonEd:
➜To me, social media is doing more harm than good. Everyone is having a warped mentality about love, relationships and money.

Those warped ideas existed for many centuries before social media showed up, revealing them to all and sundry! People are finally being forced to have those conversations we never got around to having, all thanks to social media. And I can definitely see how many are scared that their brand of bullsheet will eventually be brought to light, likely on social media.

kiddaz:
➜Truer than true

Then please go ahead and explain to us how you came about this conclusion.

WroisWrindle:
She likes a lot of the cheesy humor in Nollywood movies, but my girlfriend doesn't like American B-movie comedy (she hates this https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YKamYmmdZbU) She refuses to watch it. I don't understand her reasoning, we have just started dating so I don't want to push her too much. What are some humor movies Nigerian girls like?

Where do you get off believing your girlfriend is like every Nigerian girl though?

MiddleDimension:
➜kekekeke So, all of a sudden, our resident 'enlightened' has run out of ideas now that he has been properly challenged

I see you may be a bit lacking in the comprehension department, too! Now I understand the reason behind the gobbledegook of a response! 😑😑

Christianoir:
➜As a man why would you be vibing to Rihana,Beyoncé, cardi b or ice Spice or Tiwa savage??
Real men listen to Eminem,pop smoke, weekend, drake, Chris brown, Tory lanez not listening to any ice spice or cardi b it gay behaviors.. real men listen to traps and bangers not love or gay shi vibe Same for men watching Korean or India movie. Real men don’t watch those shi….they are for women

Yet another confused and insecure Nigerian busy projecting. 🥱🥱🥱

Daejumong:
➜“My wife-to-be stayed with me when I was frying buns as a houseboy despite the fact she was an undergraduate of University of Ibadan! It was a tough period for me and I had no choice than to take up the houseboy job. I even begged her to look for other men to marry but she declined. We are married for over 40 yrs now and I make sure I take her along on all my ministrations worldwide! I make sure she’s on business class in the plane.” - Evangelist Isaac Omolehin.

Stories of things that probably never happened the way they claim. These are the very same scammers-in-the-lords who feed Nigerians lies for a living, for Pete's sake! 🥱🥱🥱🥱

virginboy1:
...If not for the fear and Hope religion inspires...so many Nigerians would have been commiting suicide in droves...with this extreme hunger and hardship. That word "E go better".... is therapeutic

So, we are litterally brushing under the carpet all the progress that was made during the OBJ and Goodluck eras concerning the reality and the existence of mental health issues in Nigeria? There are many cases right under our noses in Nigeria, of people committing suicide, but society at large conveniently ignores or erases them, chalking it up to ogbanje, abiku, witches, etc. 🥱🥱🥱

Ezyp:
➜Nahhhh science has nothing on this. These people commit suicide like it's nothing. [b]Once winter period don reach, many of them are suicidal.[/b] Blame the system. Blame the parents. These kids lack basic discipline. In those days they blame it on rock music. Now it's AI..

It is sad how, even in this day and age, we still have poeple like you who still believe that depression and suicide are foreign to Nigerians. I mean, you are literally trying to link suicide to winter, parents, and lack of discipline right here. 🙄🙄🙄

Growing up in the 80s/90s in Nigeria, I knew a handful of individuals from Ikorodu who we were told had gone to bed and didn't wake up the next morning, all of them young people with their lives still ahead of them— no report of previous illness(ogbanje, abiku, or witches were, of course, blamed for their deaths). There were also stories of men and women in their later years who had the same happen to them. But no, people like you would rather have us believe say na only for places where winter dey suicides happen, abi? 🥱🥱🥱

Gbadugbakun:
I saw this and decided to share it here. Why are our women like this. Guys what would you do in this situation if you are the one?

Are you sure you are OK at all?

albacete:
➜They have done the much they can. It's now left for you to decide how your own life will be. At 40 something, I hope you have your own family? The father you criticized had one before he turned 40. He had a job too, he wasn't dependent on his parents for his livelihood. Do you?
If you have a job, I doubt if you would have the time to start listing what and whatnot they did for you. You'll understand the hustle.
I believe they sent you and your other siblings to school. Try to feed and send just one of your children to school first, we want to check something.
➜Some kids lost their parents at a tender age, some others have had to live with distant relatives and suffer different kinds of abuse, yet they still made something out of their lives. But here you are, having lived (or still living) under the care of your parents, yet you talk about them in such a condescending manner. Do you know the story of Victor Osimhen, Timaya, or other individuals making waves in different sectors of the economy? If you don't come from a rich family, can't a rich family come from you?

Stop with the desperate attempts at distracting from the main issue which is that OP's parents intentionally started his life in the midst of poverty and without a clear plan of getting themselves and their children out of it; when your starting point in life is poverty, it literally means you are literally in the middle of some of the greatest disadvantage. 10s of millions of Nigerians — over 160 million at this point— will likely never see life outside of poverty because of the choices made by their parents before them.

2. These are unrelated issues.

MiddleDimension:
🥱🥱🥱 What exactly do you mean by this? What ia the logic in what you have expressed here?
This poor arguement is becoming stale already! Anytime we bring up the fact our parents and their parents had marriages that span 50 years, people like you bring up the quality/quantity arguement and try to make it look like long marriage = poor quality marriage. At the same time, you ignore completely the fact the short marriages we see today are often riddled with the same things you see in what, in your opinnion, is bad marriage simply because it is long. And you mentioned living conditions for the wife. Again, you are bringing up that stale old feminist propaganda that the marriages of previous generations was such that the wife's condition is bad. I would like you to mention those 'bad' conditions of life women endured in the marriages of the older genaration and show that it was the norm? You think there are no people who are aware that this arguement of yours is nothing but mere leftist and feminist propaganda? Again, pure lies!
This whole idea of women being victims in older marriages, is nothing but pure lies meant to decieve the public about the reality of its social heritage and making it unpopular.
Mention ''what the woman allowed'' or what she was ''forced'' into and show that it was the norm at any point in time!

When you are ready to digest and dissect reality as it is, let me know. You can't really expect me to dissect what are mere delusions, now, do you?

Hhh4444:
[size=8pt]Lol,I agree with kobo on this[/size]

No mind am! Poeple like him probably think in their minds that only disrespectful children end up kidnapped, raped, or killed by terrorists/armed robbers/police/etc, or carried away or killed by floods/other natural disasters in Nigeria. Just imagine the mentality and audacity of many of these people. 🙄🙄🙄

Mrexcell:
✓ Are u disputing the effects of ur parents prayers?
✓ I have personally seen terrible things happen to stubborn children whose parents laid curses on.

Yes, because in the Nigerian context, there is absolutely no evidence of the effects of parents prayers. Over 160 million Nigerians are stuck in poverty with majority having their parents to thank for it.🥱🥱🥱

2. So we are conveniently choosing to completely ignore the fact that the same sheet also happens to lots of non-stubborn children out there whose parents only had good things to say about them? 😩😩😩

Mrexcell:
✓ The boy doesn't even know he can work hard with the blessings of his parents and totally transform the lives of his family disrespecting his father will only make his father lay curses on him which will only make matter very worse for him.

There are about 160 million Nigerians today living in poverty with over 120 of them stuck in poverty for at least a generation. How come these phantom blessings you speak of has yet to help pull the millions of respectable children among them out of poverty to date?

prenazy:
Ukwa is not complete protein oga, 100g ukwa contains 60g carbohydrates and just 2.2g. Protein.
lol. It’s not even a top protein source but it contains multiple vitamins like magnesium, phosphorus, zinc and multiple others.

Thank you! And the protein, much of it is lost once the skin on the seeds is removed. 😏

GeneralDae:
So you mean immediately you acheive unification you also immediately win trust and start getting more remittances via official channels? No time lag? Is that how it works?

Abeg waka pass me with your brain damage! 😩😩😩

Nnamdipapa:
✓ Ukwa is protein dense go make your research and this is my only meal for the day. Whatever I post is my life and what works for me and, I do not advocate for anyone to follow my lifestyle. Our local palm oil is good when taken in moderation.
✓ You love to be combative at all time sha.

Abeg, stop all dem lies! Nigerians equally claim beans is protein dense but we all know that ain't all the truth now, don't we?

Ukwa is of the breadfruit family and the fact is that they are all heavy on the carb side than the protein side. The only thing can be considered protein dense about Ukwa seeds are the skins that cover the seeds, skin which are typically taken off before the insides and then prepared.

2. That is smug coming from the one who created the OP.

Nnamdipapa:
✓ Ukwa is protein dense go make your research and this is my only meal for the day. Whatever I post is my life and what works for me and, I do not advocate for anyone to follow my lifestyle. Our local palm oil is good when taken in moderation.
You love to be combative at all time sha.

Abeg, stop all dem lies! Nigerians equally claim beans is protein dense but we all know that ain't all the truth now, don't we?

Ukwa is of the breadfruit family and the fact is that they are all heavy on the carb side than the protein side. The only thing can be considered protein dense about Ukwa seeds are the skins that cover the seeds, skin which are typically taken off before the insides and then prepared.