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BodePolScience:
➜From the original post, it's clear that it's a domestic/family or couple matter and NOT a formal or business matter. It's very unromantic for couples to be counting scores. I occasionally collects 2k or 3k from my wife for conveniency reasons and I do give her money in 10's of thousands to do things for herself far far more than the times I collect from her. So it will be an ungrateful act if she asked or reminded of some little money that I might have even forgotten. What she's saying is that she can't make any sacrifice or tolerate any loss but me the constant giver is free to keep giving her and tolerating loss.

Marriage is a business agreement between two individuals/partners. Your wife is not a source of free labor for you. She, too, deserves a share of the profits of the marriage, and for most of you, that is the salary the provider in the household makes at the end of each month.

paragon10:
➜so is the husband paying his wife salary? How does that relate?

This is really straightforward. Your wife is not a source of free labor. She, too, has to eat of the dividends of the marriage, and in many cases(for people in the lower brackets), it is the husband's salary from which she deserves a share each month.

israelmao:
➜Rewarded labour has not broken the rule of financial literacy but it is now alright to regard my money as hers and hers as hers?

You are not making any sense! You claimed there is a man out there that you know of who chooses —note this — to handle all of the labor as well as the responsibility to provide all by himself. And why not ask the man why he chooses— no gun to his head— to live like that rather than come here pretending your case is exactly that of the man's?

Raregem9000:
➜I've seen someone who does all that and still provide for his family.

Then he should be the one you should be asking why he does all of that for his family. So, what did he tell you when you asked him why he chose to do all of that for his family?

davidtemi:
➜That I just paid you #9500 for a pack of Malta Guinness and u are asking me #10 for pure water I bought for my first son

you expected that a sentimental gesture you extended towards her should result in her making one towards you too, ignoring her own bottom line?

israelmao:
✓ I asked you a question which demands an answer.

I did respond to you.

davidtemi:
✓ When my wife gave birth in a hospital, I bought pack of malt for the nurses, lo and belove I bought pure water for my first son from one of the nurses and she asked me for the money for pure water, then na #10. That thing shock me seriously

Why you shock?

essentialone1:
✓ You are not ok at all.

Look who's talking! 🥱🥱

hoygift:
✓ I no come argue Oga theologist, go find another person way u and am go pass time.

See this one...pretending any of what he said made sense. 🥱🥱🥱

Raregem9000:
✓ And what if its the man that is taking care of the domestic aspects ( cooking, going to the market, cleaning etc)?

The man is the provider, homemaker, cook, cleaning servant, etc. in the home? Where did you find such a case?

engrelvis:
✓ lf you understand women mindset u won't be asking this question. They are programe differently from men. lf you like give them milliions that debt(no mata how small ) must be paid. The man shud v paid that 4k debt first then give her whatever pocket money he wants to give. Stop trying to rationalize whether is good or not. ls their nature. Accept it.

It js not a woman programming but basic financial literacy. When you take a loan you ought to pay it back. Pretending that by paying a bonus/allowance/salary or giving a gift to your creditor that your loan ought to to forgiven is fraud.

israelmao:
✓ When it comes her money it is hers while her hubby's is theirs not his right this not part of financial literacy or is it?

How old are you that you would need for me to break down for you why her labor in the marriage needs to be rewarded same as yours?

I believe a financial literacy tutor should be able to also teach you these things. A wife is not a source of free labor.

favour32:
Money wey you give your woman put name.

You give her as if you don't owe her an allowance?

israelmao:
She can simply deduct the 4k from the 100k which is her pocket money period.

You have to be explicit when paying off a debt is your intention.

This is why financial literacy courses should be made mandatory for people intending to date or marry.

Marriage no be magic stick wey dey make all rules bend your way..🥱

99thEnemy:
✓ https://x.com/davidhundeyin/status/1303641030647050241?s=46

I really can't tell you anything since I don't know the reason for this comment.

jaxxy:
✓ my daughter won’t even think of depending on a man to go to dubai.
✓ I'm wicked because I gave her the choice to choose? Even God won’t force u he will show u the options and advice u then use ur hand and pick.
I never said she should go to dubai with the guy. I told her the outcome of going.

Storyland! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

2. At least you finally admit to what you had denied in your previous comment.. Phew! 😩😩

99thEnemy:
✓ Why does that clown called David Hundeyin hate you so much?

I don't know that person so I can't say.

99thEnemy:
✓ You read what I said, still chose not to interpret accordingly, repeated the same thing in other words.

The facts are what I prefer to give on.

jaxxy:
✓ my brother she came to us for advice and we are giving her just like we would give our own sisters.
✓ U are the one thinking we hate her when we are infact trying to protect her.

She asked you what would happen to her if she were to refuse the man sex and get abandoned in Dubai? 😩😩😩

2. Protect her by trying to convince her that giving in to sexual demands is in her best interest? And someone like you will go on to have daughters, right?

99thEnemy:
✓ According to Cambridge dictionary, and Escort in this context is "someone who is paid to go out to social events with another person, and sometimes to have sex"
This is just an indirect case with no contract binding..
But we know what the man expects.
She is under no obligation to deliver though.

Escorts only owe their clients what is stipulated in the their contract, not sex. There are escort services out there who absolutely will not take clients looking for sex. There are prostitutes out there for such purposes. Escort services are not replacements for prostitutes.

hoygift:
✓ Every O"man is a child of God, Atheist or whatever they're called, is only a label, God doesn't look at whatever label that's placed on anybody. He blessed Jacob and changed his name to Israel. Think about Paul wasn't he worst than an Atheist?

You pretend you speak on behalf of YHWH, God of Israel when you claim everyone is a child of his, abi? The kain think you Christians dey always smoke, ehn...person no dey even know.

Basically, contrary to what is in fact stated of the God of Israel, you claim instead that atheists and Non-Israelites like you are his children and Paul, an Israelite is worse, than this group? Yikes! 😩😩😩

99thEnemy:
✓ She is only asking to know the meaning of Escort.

Escorts don't owe their clients sex though.

ebubeson:
If✓ Government failed you, do not blame the church.

How is government to blame when he clearly stated it was his Christian mother who did?

hoygift:
✓ God can use an atheist to work, the guy who changed my state of mind to pass an exam I already concluded before leaving my hostel I'd fail back in school wasn't a church guy, infact he was known for his notorious lifestyle, but he saw me walking slowing to the exam hall and called me by my name, he was my hostel guy, and asked me are you writing this exam? I said yes, and he told me 'you'd pass this exam'. The moment he said it my state of mind changed, even my walking step fastened up because I was already late to the hall. That was a carry over, to sum it all, I got that exam C. No accessment, not even quiz or attendance. God can use anybody bro. Forget who go Church or not.

So, the Christian gods are now using athletes to provide for the Christians while the Christians wait against atheists and all they stand for all day long? 🤣🤣🤣🤣

butterfly777:
✓ Where is the statistics? Where are your figures? You can't just wake up with an assumption an post it online for sensible peope.

This isn't a secret though. You have internet, please educate yourself.

richmond500:
The difference is that Christianity is now a religion of give and expect.
It's like bet9ja, put N200 and win N2m

Christianity has always been that from its very inception, a religion of give and expect.

jaxxy:
✓ She's the one who wants to go get herself stranded in another man's land because of her greed. I wish her luck 🥱🥱

That is her business, not yours. 😩😩😩

tommylee:
✓ Let me ask u some questions here,
What was her purpose of accepting to go with him on a trip to Dubai in the 1st place??
✓ When dey reach Dubai who will take care of her feeding,shopping & lounging there?
✓ Will u ... do the same thing if u were the man?

1. Vacationing, maybe. I mean that is what is in the title of the thread, right?

2. That depends on whether sponsor paid for an all inclusive package or not for her, right?

3. All men are not created equal after all. You can't sponsor a trip does not mean others who can shouldn't. Know your levels and stop pretending you speak for all men.

These rich people ... Na dem be your parents -- your papa and Mama -- wey suppose care and provide for you?

jaxxy:
✓ when they are broke and hungry what do u expect? 🥱🥱

This coming from a broke ans hungry Nigerian who can't even imagine ever sponsoring anyone's vacation anytime in the near future, abi?

Bigmouth3:
✓ If you were valuable ,your mind wouldn't have gone to owing him sex.
Why dont you think about oweing him another trip to Maldives or Bahamas? Why kust it be sex ,doesn't that say how useless and invaluable you are?
Why not owe him another vacation to even Kenya?

Why do you hate her having to use sex as the basis here though?

jaxxy:
✓ yes I'm sure those dubai men are looking for girls for their potty fetishism. With that I'm sure she can get her ticket back home sorted with extra change to flex in Nigeria.

Oh wow ... Now all Dubai men are implicated in this then? All the Nigerian women living in Dubai illegally are the this potty fetishism victims? 🙄🙄🙄🙄