₦airaland Forum

jaxxy:
✓ That's what I said. And he ones her nothing too.
Meaning if he takes a gamble to take here there and she rejects his advances he reserves the right to abandon her there and find someone else. 🥱🥱

Abandoning a Nigerian woman in Dubai is probably a blessing for her. 🥱

Dynamicboss:
✓ Na you go spend tire while the woman go chop your money and enjoy the rendezvous. Na man Dey lose more eventually.
If men zip up, women Shakira go fall. Na dem sef go Dey beg for am, even if na incomplete building

All of this is unnecessary and meaninglessness since the fact remains that men refuse to zip up and men will always think to spend it all on the woman to please her. 🥱🥱🥱🥱

franchasng:
Dubai is too far. Before you allow a guy sponsor your trip from Lagos Mainland to Lagos Island, be prepared to also offer him something in return, talk more of Nigeria to Dubai.
I don't know who told our young ladies that you can get things for free from guys just because you are a lady, such reasoning is absurd.
The only people you should expect favors from for free are your blood relatives like your siblings, cousin, nieces, nephews, Aunts and Uncles. Outside your blood relatives, always have it at the back of your mind that there is no free thing in Freetown

Simple question, you decided to go off on an unrelated tangent! 🥱🥱🥱

Unless an explicit agreement was made by the man and woman to exchange sponsorship for sex, she owes him nothing! It is that simple! 🥱🥱

bmd1010:
he has more to offer u, but na only sex u fit offer.
strong independent gender

So what? Allow her her freedoms.

chiiraq802:
No, you don't.
You're going there to preach to him... Ewugambia!!!!!
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Wrong! This is why you all need to get civic education before you can declare yourselves mature enough to even date. Unless an explicit agreement was made by the man and woman to exchange sponsorship for sex, she owes him nothing! It is that simple! 🥱🥱

whippersnapper:
Which kind WAEC CBT question be this nitori olorun. Does she even know how much it takes to go get to Dubai.

It does not matter how much it costs. Unless an explicit agreement was made by the man and woman to exchange sponsorship for sex, she owes him nothing! It is that simple! 🥱🥱

thisisit:
let me report her to the nearest police station... she playing with 6 months sentence

It is instead the man that will get himself locked up in his case, and for many many years. Unless an explicit agreement was made by the man and woman to exchange sponsorship for sex, she owes him nothing! It is that simple! 🥱🥱

AZControversial:

The deserved response. Try sponsoring your own flight back. That's another way of saying 'NO'.

Nonsense! Na poverty response be this

Blackman101:
When a lion kills an antelope, does the antelope have a say in the matter again.

Try the rape laws in Dubai... They are worse than what you have in Nigeria me🥱🥱🥱

Thundafireseun:
Poooooooor people will always ask funny questions 😆😆😆

Repeat after me in Pastor Chris voice…
“I will Never be Broke in my life “

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

gigabyte13:
Because na your Papa You follow go vacation abi All these flashy girls with empty skulls eeeehn
Entitled thieves.

The question is a valid one and if the man is not careful, he might end up accused of rape and arrested in Dubai for life.

jaxxy:
Nope u don't just like he doesn't owe u anything too.
No free lunch in Freetown my sister.

Wring! Unless an explicit agreement was made by the man and woman to exchange sponsorship for sex, she owes him nothing! It is that simple! 🥱🥱

joachimnkenchor:
Can you tell us what other thing you have to pay him back with

Pay back for what? Unless an explicit agreement was made by the man and woman to exchange sponsorship for sex, she owes him nothing! It is that simple! 🥱🥱

jaycruizenbs:
Is this a questions sef. Oya babe sponsor your trip back na, that's why guys need ghe ghe class

Yes it is a valid question! Unless an explicit agreement was made by the man and woman to exchange sponsorship for sex, she owes him nothing! It is that simple! 🥱🥱

Dynamicboss:
What financial value is even tied to sex sef? Both sexes enjoyed it and from research, women enjoy it more. Why men Dey fumble like this?

The value placed on it by the woman and the man who wants it from her.

ufotunang:
See question ..is there anything free in this world?

There are lots of free things in this world.

RightToReject:
No. This is so because sex isn't expensive. Any man whose intention of sponsoring your vacation to Dubai or anywhere at all is to have you pay back with mere sex isn't normal.

Unless an explicit agreement was made by the man and woman to exchange sponsorship for sex, she owes him nothing! It is that simple! 🥱🥱

Bahamas95:
Why didn't your father take you to Dubai? Nonsense!

She found someone else to. It is that simple! 🥱

Gotocourt:
✓ Very dubious and cunny vessels 🤷🏿

It is called freedom... people have right to enjoy it.

ufotunang:
So after sponsoring you..so the guy will looking at you like television in the other room?

Unless an explicit agreement was made by the man and woman to exchange sponsorship for sex, she owes him nothing! It is that simple! 🥱🥱

franudi:
Yes! You owe him a lot of things including sex.

Nonsense! She owns him nothing!

EmperorIsaac:
Yes. But if a lady sponsors you, no!
He has paid, you should also pay with the only thing you have!

Nonsense! She owes him nothing. Simple!

Miyovwe:
✓ You said you recently got married in May 2025, did they say you won't/shouldn't give birth in this new marriage?
Anyway, you should ensure to keep all evidence of you catering to your first daughter financially and otherwise for future purpose.

Keep it fqr future, why? Because a child will be swayed by stories of how he/she had to be abandoned after his/her father remarried and decided it was too much of a hassle to continue support with the new marriage?

Onojasteve:
I married my ex-wife in November 2020, after we had our daughter in March 2020. About a year into the marriage, her attitude changed — she became disrespectful, careless, and ignored my happiness. I complained, but she didn’t care. In October 2022, she returned my bride price and left with our daughter, who was 3 years old then.
In April 2025, I reached out to ask if she still wanted to come back before I remarried. She wished me well and gave me the go-ahead. I got remarried in May 2025, but immediately after, she blocked me on calls and WhatsApp and restricted me from my daughter. I still pay her school fees and buy her clothes, but I cannot spend even a full day with her. She’s 5 now, and I feel like she’s being used against me.
Now I’m torn: should I keep fighting for more access to my daughter, or focus on my new marriage and trust that one day my daughter will understand I never abandoned her? Please share your advice with me — I need guidance from those who may have been through this. Be honest with your advice please

This is one major reason why I frown on this whole traditional marriage nonsense.🥱🥱🥱

If you had, right after your ex had given back the bride price, gone straight to the courts to demand shared custody of your child, you likely wouldn't be here many years later, asking us if you should completely abandon the child to focus entirely on your new marriage. This is really sad here... this question you ask. And I pity the child the most in all of this.

EnergyEnergy:
✓
I agree with you except on 10s of millions and 95%, can't throw out stats like that

According to your countries own stat, what was previously at about 120 million, it is now reported that over 160 million Nigerians exist below the poverty bracket. The previous set were mostly unable to escape it. But now you the numbers have ballooned making access to resources need to escape so many times much harder for those who fnd themselves in poverty. 🥱🥱

galantjoe:
✓ Your thought is not considerate; it is selfish. Having children is fundamental duty binded on man to do by nature. China is having a low child birth rate, many countries apart from Africa are having low birthrate. The reason is that they choose prosperity against posterity. Prosperity brings wealth while posterity ensures that wealth is maintained thru generations
✓ Children are gifts from God.
✓ So don't overthink yourself on how your children will survive if you re no more. They will survive as you re surviving now without parents.
✓ Throw bones to dogs and leave it fight with spirit. If this man has children it will not be reasonable for his killer to do so. Because they know that he has a successor. So you can see having children in Africa or nigeria prevent poisoners from getting you killed.

1. So, the man's duty to Nigeria was to have a child, abi?

2. Children are gifts from God yet not once have I heard of a Nigerian couple that never had sex conceiving and birthing a child indicating that children are instead the product of the sexual desires of either a man and a woman or at least one of them.(Children are not a gift but a result of an action in the past of humans.)

3. They will survive yet every year, 10s of thousands of children die before their 5th birthday of ordinary malaria. Many others die from other preventable situations such as malnutrition/starvation. The suffering of many of these beings is what you consider survival?

4. Is this sarcasm or pure wickedness, abeg? E reach make I ask.

Makavelli001:
✓ The 'property' that I mean, which probably is what the guy mean applies to sexual waywardness. Not individual ownership.
✓ I am currently running a background check on her, and what I have found is so amazing.

Sexual waywardness is a delusion that lives rent-free in the minds of boys who think a woman's body is property for them to grade according to standards even they do not live by. 🥱🥱🥱

There is a reason why successful and mature individuals in societies do not go around degrading others or females in the same manner.

2. For what purpose? Why do you still wish to carry her matter for your head, going as far as to pretend she is property for you to judge according to standards she never told you she holds to? 🥱🥱

vinboss:
No be only God. Why God no use her papa

Maybe her papa is busy sponsoring another gal somewhere that na why she too think say she'd better find herself one bobo to sponsor her too.

BodyCount:
Dey play It doesn't make sense at all. Why would I be paying money on or for something I don't have access to?

This is really telling about the kind of person who is speaking. 😑😑😑

Makavelli001:
➜I don't have any intention of taking her back either. Since that day she misbehave, I haven't pick her calls till date. My feelings for her blown when she disrespected me. Knacking her wasn't really my priority, if it's was, I would have done it. When she come, she use to pull off her dresses, remaining her undies.
I latter get to believe that the guy that made the first comment in this trend was right. That I was trying to personalize other people property.

If you view people in that manner, then can you definitely state that anyone can be your property then? If even that guy were to, tomorrow, find out that the girl he has been dating has chosen to abandon him for someone else, can he ever definitively state that she belonged to him for the years she was with him?

I think that is generally a psychologically immature way of reviewing persons and relationships. People with whom you are in a relationship do not, by nature of that, become your property. No! They remain individuals fully capable of making other choices at any time or point in the relationship. You, on the other hand, can only enjoy being with them for the time they choose to be with you, and accept when they leave that it is time for you to move on from them, too.

This gal is right now entangled with some other guy does not mean she is the guy's property, as she may decide to leave him for someone else soon. The same applies to you and to everyone else. It really is and can be just that simple. We complicate these things when we think our identities should be tied to those we are in a relationship with and what they stand for, only for us to feel our whole world has been crushed when they eventually walk away.

Hhh4444:
➜Lol,where are those that will say "not all women are like that"? Una go learn the hard way. Women don't deserve your kindness. You might be doing what ever you are doing just like a philanthropist would normally do,but women don't see it like that.They see your kindness as foolishness.
➜ If you happen to be in their midst when they discuss men,you would vow never to be nice to any of them.
➜ Make sure any woman you deal with calls you stingy. The word "stingy" is a compliment from women. One was calling me stingy the other day. I told her I am a proud stingy man. Na so she laugh. Last last we ended up having fun. Money when I go use train woman for school,I go gather the money set fire on am. I go use the money as rizler to roll weed smoke. When I finally understand female nature,I stop to dey dash dem even #100. No be say #100 big pass me,but I hate to be called a fool for giving out my money.

1. Stop deceiving these men, abeg! Clearly, nothing that these men do compares to what philanthropists do, since in their minds, these men are convinced that by sponsoring the women, they gain ownership rights to those women. That is, instead, what sociopaths do, not philatropists. There, "kindness" isn't kindness at all, an attempt at purchasing the rights to another human for themselves. 🥱🥱🥱

2. Sure, some women go all out to take advantage of such gullible yet dangerous species among men, but that does not mean the men are themselves in their right mind, or backed by sane ideas.

3. Well, if being stingy towards women is your thing, then go for it. So long as you commit no crime and violate no other person's rights, you are free to chisel out your character in the way you want, while you also accept that those women who hate stingy men are also in their right to do so.

Onojasteve:
I married my ex-wife in November 2020, after we had our daughter in March 2020. About a year into the marriage, her attitude changed — she became disrespectful, careless, and ignored my happiness. I complained, but she didn’t care. In October 2022, she returned my bride price and left with our daughter, who was 3 years old then.
In April 2025, I reached out to ask if she still wanted to come back before I remarried. She wished me well and gave me the go-ahead. I got remarried in May 2025, but immediately after, she blocked me on calls and WhatsApp and restricted me from my daughter. I still pay her school fees and buy her clothes, but I cannot spend even a full day with her. She’s 5 now, and I feel like she’s being used against me.
Now I’m torn: should I keep fighting for more access to my daughter, or focus on my new marriage and trust that one day my daughter will understand I never abandoned her? Please share your advice with me — I need guidance from those who may have been through this. Be honest with your advice please

This is one major reason why I frown on this whole traditional marriage nonsense.🥱🥱🥱

If you had, right after your ex had given back the bride price, gone straight to the courts to demand shared custody of your child, you likely wouldn't be here many years later, asking us if you should completely abandon the child to focus entirely on your new marriage. This is really sad here... this question you ask. And I pity the child the most in all of this.