₦airaland Forum

aribisala0:
➜There is no culture in which that is okay at best it s overfamiliar and at worst it is rude and disrespectfulThe context of fast food restaurants is such that it is difficult to justify the emphasis is FAST and they are trained on what to say . They even have a script. Still the man was too loud he could have made his point without yelling like a teenager

I have rarely ever met any woman who took issue with being regarded in that manner, unless it was phrased as an insult. "Good morning, beautiful!" is not an insult to most women.

If your so-called culture does not allow women to individually react in this case, something is definitely wrong with your culture.

omoredia:
Wear her a burqa next time. That will help cos it is clear he is those extremist

Na wa ooo! The man forget say him no dey him land anymore.

Glimpsetv:
➜I once witnessed a similar scenario at a popular mall. The guy in charge of the shawarma section was telling a woman, “Ah, madam, you are so beautiful. I like your this and that...” Meanwhile, her husband was standing right behind us.
I was beside the woman, waiting to place my order. It felt kind of funny to me, and a lot of thoughts started running through my mind — especially because he was whispering it.
I got my order first and left. I don't know if the husband heard or reacted, but honestly, I felt it was kinda creepy.
People should learn to keep quiet sometimes, especially when a lady is with her man.
You may mean no harm, but the guy might see it as you trying to flirt with his woman. People think differently, and levels of maturity vary.

This you describe here is nothing close to what is said to have happened in the video. Let's stop attention fishing on unrelated threads, abeg! 🙄🙄🙄🙄

Treasure17:
➜Sometimes words betray your good intension. In that kind of scenario where her husband is present, he should have applied discretion. Or you compliment the couple to avoid unnecessary drama. A woman called me sweetheart in the presence of her husband, his countenance changed and said which one is sweetheart bayi.

Where you offended by her calling you "Sweetheart" or was your offense on behalf of her husband, bayi? Na the woman's mouth! If her husband has a problem with her using her mouth in that manner, let him take it up with his wife.

Purityland:
➜Purityland Dairies (Issue 001)
This Young Lady Also Experienced The Pressure Of Sexual Compromise
Chinaza was raised in a Christian home, taught the ways of God from childhood. She sang in the church choir, attended youth fellowship, and was known for her joyful spirit. But as she entered the university, the pressure to “belong” started to grow heavier.
Her roommate, Ifeoma, was the complete opposite—bold, flashy, and full of stories about dating and “enjoying life.” “Naza, you too dey form saint. Everybody is doing it. It’s not a big deal anymore,” she would tease.
One night after fellowship, Chinaza sat on her bed and stared at her Bible. She had been in a secret relationship with a young man, Eze, for four months now. He had started pressing her to “prove her love.”
Her heart was torn. She liked Eze. He was handsome, intelligent, and sweet. But each time they got close, a small voice would whisper inside her, *“This is not My will. Abstain from fornication.”*
She finally opened her Bible and landed on *1 Thessalonians 4:3*. Her eyes filled with tears. That night, she prayed, *“Lord, give me the strength to obey You. I choose purity, even if it costs me something.”*
The next day, Chinaza met Eze at a quiet café.
“I can’t continue this relationship,” she said firmly.
Eze looked confused. “Why? I thought you loved me.”
“I do. But I love God more. And if you truly love me, you’ll respect my decision to wait until marriage.”
Eze sighed. “You’re different. But maybe that’s a good thing.”
They parted ways that day, and although Chinaza felt heartbroken, her heart was at peace.
Years later, Chinaza stood at the altar in a white gown, her heart full of gratitude. She had kept herself, by God’s grace. Her husband, Chuka, also shared the same testimony. Their marriage began on a solid foundation of purity and honor.
*Reflection:*
Fornication may be normalized in today’s world, but God’s Word has not changed. What the world calls "freedom," God calls sin. Choosing purity is choosing God’s best. His instructions are never to punish us, but to protect us.
1 Thessalonians 4:3 - For this is the will of God, even your sanctification, that ye should abstain from fornication.*
**Purityland Confession:**
I am strengthened by God to abstain from fornication. I choose purity over popularity, holiness over compromise, and obedience over temporary pleasure

. This is pulled out of the pages of tales of endless religious hogwash, a compendium of some of the most ludicrous delusions that mankind can boast of to date.

immortalcrown:
➜Purity strengthens our relationship with God.
➜ I lost control at a point. I'm no more a virgin. But I admit that sex outside marriage is a sin. Those who have not deviated in this regard should not lose focus.

1. Define this purity, abeg? We don dey here of this concept for tay, but no one in the religious circles seems to have a detailed enough explanation of what it is.

2. Sex outside of marriage is a sin, yet the lives of those who waited until after marriage to have sex— both men and women alike —are no better than the lives of those who didn't. No amount of religious smoke up our arses can erase this fact which is clearly evident to all. So, what exactly is the point of insisting on this form of purity?

heracles1:
u will never understand. wueurrjfjfjfififjfififi

Never understand what exactly? You created the thread to have others weigh your situation, right? We did not grow up with you, and we are not mind readers. You probably need to better communicate your pain and hurt for us to see things from your end. I am not siding with your dad or something like that; just letting you know you have not given us enough information to go on here.

heracles1:
1-paternal
2-he said i must work like everyone
3-to pay me for the years i wasted labouring for him

Well, that puts a wrench in things. So your father's own brother raised you and then you went to work for your father. Interesting! 🤔

2. Didn't you get paid for your labors? Wasted in what way?

heracles1:
✓ my father and mother got separated when I was 4years old, I grow up in my uncle's house, He fed me,clothed me and paid my school fees, wthout my father giving shishi to him despite the fact that my father is doing better than my uncle financially.
✓ my father has a block industry where I worked as a labourer for 13good years. the issue now is that my father is trying to get rid of me indirectly by doing all sort of bad shits to me because he wants to bring his another son as a manager.
✓ I felt cheated and I want to sue him, that man never any form of favour to me as his son, he is very selfish and cruel

Was this an uncle on your maternal or paternal side?

2. You went and got a job in a company owned by your father, why?

3. What is it you wish to sue him for?

ShenTeh:
✓ Please hold a conversation with your partner.
Tell him why you tried to stop. He is showing you who the boss is. You want no, he is giving you your no. He may not be getting it anywhere but trying to humble you.
Hold a conversation with your partner and free yourself.

Better still, she should exit the relationship altogether. She is literally forcing a change on him -- going form unrestricted to no sex at all. At this point, the relationship might as well be forced.

Geesaintagape:
✓ Why do women believe that men's life revolve around sex?
✓ U decided to keep off sex till marriage or whatever,the guy decided to cooperate now u are worried. I don't understand.

1. Because the average Nigerian man talks about sex as though it is food for living. 🤔

2. Don't gaslight her, abeg! She probably has food reason to be concerned since at this point, she is sort of forcing him into a sexless situation.

Blessed4sure:
✓ Why bother if your relationshipis going fine?
Having sex while unmarried is very wrong in the first place. Sex is designed to be exclusively between two people fully committed to each other, in marriage. Even many species of animals (swans, penguins, owls, wolves etc.) get this.

You folks and speaking through both sides of your mouths is unbelievable! How can the relationship be going fine if according to the same you, sex while unmarried is wrong? 🤔🙄🙄

jackals:
✓ Our relationship just ticked the 1yrs 3months mark. I told him at the beginning that I’d love for him to propose to me b4 we start getting intimate as most relationships built on intimacy don’t last. He agreed. But as we get along, we eventually started having sex even tho it’s not how I pictured it. But I had to because I didn’t want him to leave.
At the start of this year, I made a resolution to stop giving in to sex and see how much affections he has for me looking at the fact that he’s not even asked me to be his wife. It’s always promise here and there.
If he initiated it, I always find an excuse..and most times he convinced me and I’ll give in. I won’t lie I know it’s hard because he’s had to initiate a couple of time which I denied and he’ll mostly beg and assure me of his commitment to our relationship.
✓ However, I noticed since the beginning of the month of May, he’s stopped showing concerns. When he asked And I said no to sex, he will just say “ohh okay” and then sleep if it’s night time or pick his phone and off to gym. Nowadays he doesn’t even initiate anything nor ask for it. I asked him if he’s okay and he told me “he’s having some heavy back pain due to his recent workout routines” but I know he’s lying. He’s always like sex even after workout.
✓ My intuition says he’s cheating and my friend confirmed same since her last relationship also ended the same way.
Tbh, I’d just stop getting worried about this and stop asking him since he’s decided to keep mute.

1. If what you really desire is a relationship with a man who would love you enough to wish for you, why are you then in a relationship with a man who desires something else?

2. You are not in a relationship that suits your desire. This is a red flag.

3. Why torture yourself? Make up your mind on exactly what it is you want and find that person who shares the same goals that you do and respects you for who you are. Marriage no be by force so there is never a good enough excuse to settle for less only to then pretend you are some sort of victim when reality of your choice finally hits.

It is OK to let go ; nothing shameful or degrading about that.

EsotericTemple:
Can the Dead Feel Cremation?
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/16o2KoyP3d/

if all of their senses are dead and the lights in the brain completely out -- death -- how then does a dead man feel the cremation?

LordReed:
➜LoLz. I mean this is the exact thing I am calling out and you just repeated it. Atheism which is a lack of belief is also a belief? Na wa o.
➜ Yeah but nobody watches a TV while is off is the point.
➜ And you made it for me with the first part of your response.

Atheism isn't a lack of belief. Rather, it is a belief that there is no god— a belief in the idea that there is no god.

2. Not everyone watches TV while it is on, either.

3. Your first statement was regarding cable channels. And my response was that it doesn't matter whether or not there is a cable channel on or not. It is a TV whether there is white noise on, tuned to a particular cable TV, no one is watching or not, or even turned off. A TV is a TV.

LordReed:
✓ Well that is true that there is no place from the Bible that evidences the 2 Rahabs as the same person. But it is both Jewish and Christian tradition that she married into the Hebrew community of the time.

He story has it that she was already living in the land of Canaan meaning she was probably of Hebrew descent— the father of the Hebrews is Eber, Abraham's great, great, great, great, great grandfather(I think) — only that she may have gone on to marry an Israelite after she defected from her previous nation, right?

Anyways, no question that she may have done that but no evidence that the Rahab mentioned in the book of Matthew is Rahab, the prostitute.

LordReed:
✓ Yes and that is not what I am asking.
✓ LoLz. You say the darnedest things.

Atheism is a belief system -- a belief grounded on the idea that there is no god -- not an absence of religion itself.

2. There are days I spend with the TV in and me not paying attention to the programming at all. And there are other days I spend not even bothering to turn it on at all. Irrespective of the kind of day I may be having, the TV remains a TV.

LordReed:
✓ Not to mention Rahab was a harlot and gets a mention by name. If adultery was the big bad who is more adulterous between a harlot and some one who was probably intimidated into sex.

There is no scriptural evidence that the Rahab mentioned in Matthew is the same Rahab you refer. Christianity is wholly responsible for creating that particular link you posted.

Chilipepper:
✓ So, is cheating a choice for you or a mistake?

Cheating is definitely a choice and it is also intentional.

mannobi:
✓ You are still pained that you live in a self deluded life.
✓ If hatred has not eaten up your destiny you won't be dragging the pastor of a church in a religious teaching that has nothing to do with any pastor.
✓ You see you hatefilled people over there needs salvation. Can't you paddle your own canoe and let others mind their own ships?

1. The delusion here belongs to the one who has installed another literal human as a god over his life, don't you see? Of course, you do! 🥱🥱🥱

2. Destiny ke? Like fate and all those other ideas that came from witchcraft,etc., right? So you admit that your beliefs are not much different from those after all. Also, these delusions only apply to those of you within your mental delusions.

3. Hate-filled .... Of course I hate the scamming of those who are gullible and unable to even think for themselves 💰🥱🥱

mannobi:
✓ Please take your Calamity life off here. If you are angry at God, that's your personal problem. Leave others to enjoy their God.

This is you admitting that Adeboye is the god that you worship, abi? 🥱🥱🥱

Mynd44:
✓ As at the, 13 was "ripe" unlike now that it is frowned at

Where did the scholars who fed you this tale get their ideas regarding the ripe age for girls back 2000 years ago from? Ever wondered or asks yourself of this?

writeprof:
✓ What you're saying now, and even worse, was once said by Dr. E. A Adeboye years ago as he and his colleagues drank beer in the UNILAG staff club, until a problem took him to God.
✓ Don't worry. When God is ready for you, He will make you eat your words against His true ministers. Shalom!

1. And then afterwards Adeboye built up his very own kingdom by defrauding and manipulating the gullible folks he came across? OK! 🥱🥱🥱🥱

2. I already come across that god many times and will continue to reject it as I see no reason why I should bilk people and destroy lives to make myself feel better. 🥱🥱🥱

writeprof:
✓ ....

Fraudsters always playing in the weaknesses of people -- manipulating them by way of words and spiritual gobbledegook -- for their personal benefits... That is what your scammers-in-the-lords -- this man too-- are.

LordReed:
✓ How is no religion a religion?
✓ It's still a TV so I guess you sit down and stare at a blank TV.

The absence of a belief is not same as the absence of religion.

2. You could too.

Mynd44:
✓ Bible historians put Mary at 13.
Some people put Joseph to be 90 years old saying he was a divorcee with a family already but the bible is silent on that.
But then judging that Joseph was a carpenter who already had his own "home" he couldn't be less than 25

The same historians who brought you all the tales of how the religion of Christianity which you have today connects back to the Jesus Christ of Israel who instead said His Father sent Him only to the Lost Sheep of Israel, abi? 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄

DeGLORIOUS:
Because I know what you are talking about. You think I am proud of being a northerner? Apart from multiple wives, what other thing can the north offer?

Again, of none of the 774 LGAs in Nigeria can boast of anything worthwhile in the country, what makes you think this is an attempt, by me, to exonerate the set that make up the northern states?

Mynd44:
✓ The same historians that told you about the Bible

In this here information age, you actually believe anything fed you just like that?

Natbrowny:
✓ Since its political.
✓ Based on Jewish marriage ages at that tym. She should be between 12 to 15 years old when she had Jesus

This is nothing but religious nonsense pedalled particularly by those of the religion of Christianity. There is no Biblical evidence that she was a child at the time that she was married. Even more telling ,the conversation she reportedly had with her cousin, Elizabeth -- an older lady at the time of her pregnancy-- , reveals that Mary was most likely at least 20, probably a lot older, at the time in question.

2. What leads you to believing this was Jewish custom at the time? What evidence were you presented with to confirm this claim for you? We're all women in the land married off within that age range during that time?

A Religion that viayss of over 46,000 different interpretations/idols/images of Jesus Christ of Israel, none of them confirming with any of what He is recorded to have said if Himself, and of His Father, from about 2000 years ago. Christianity is on a roll .

DeGLORIOUS:
You can never exonerate the north from this blame. A region full of unproductive population must embrace criminality has an escape route to poverty.

Exonerate? Person dey tell you say not even 1 out of the total of 774 LGAs in Nigeria can be exonerated, you dey talk like person wey no get ear at all. Why? 🥱🥱🥱🥱🥱🥱

Lordogaebuka:
Very inspirational. I wonder at this man's wisdom even till old age. God bless you sir for useful knowledge from the scriptures

Na with these sort of scams dem dey take get una. Na to cause una FOMO this one be...Fear of missing out! Na wetin scammers dey use to draw their people into accepting and enduring the most ludicrous be the main goal of this sermon of his.