₦airaland Forum

delugadou:
➜She's very foolish. Nothing wrong with her original look. I think these ladies are just possessed with ungrateful spirits

Get lost abeg! How is seeking a better quality of life for her now and future foolish?

Double0h7:
➜I hope her children will not be impacted by her self serving actions.
➜She will inevitably pass those eyes and nose to her children.
➜ The message she is sending to them is awful. Looking like your parents is an important part of human development.
➜ To know that you have your dads smile, your mums eyes, etc. These people need therapy not plastic surgery. Absolute tools! 😔

Impacted in what way?

2. And if her children are each not comfortable with it, they can get work done to make it better. What exactly is wrong with that?

3. Nonsense! The message here is, instead, "Thank goodness, we don't have to live at the mercy of nature".

4.. Abegi, get away!! 🥱🥱🥱🥱🥱

Goosethetruth:
➜Madam, I have answered your question. You are the one dancing around into a cul-de-sac. The questions are simple. You are the one refusing to go down the rabbit hole.

YOu made an unsubstantiated claim without even a lick of backing, and that is your answer? 🙄🙄🙄

Abeg, I am not in the mood for this nonsense today! Waka pass me! 🙄🙄🙄

Goosethetruth:
➜I am asking you to re-think all you thought you knew. I have challenged your beliefs. There are two questions I have placed before you.
1. Are the names on the gospels the real names of the authors of those books?
2. Which came first: (a) Paul's letters OR (b) the gospels of Matthew,Mark,Luke,and John?

Are you simply here to go around in circles or something? 🙄🙄🙄

I already answered these questions of yours, so why are you struggling to answer my one question? 🙄🙄🙄

Goosethetruth:
➜Paul's letters had been circulating amount early Christians years before the Gospels were written. I understand that it is very difficult to adjust your mind from what you learned from your youth.
➜I will ask you another question, do you think the gospels were written by the persons whose names are attached to them as authors? Do you really think those books were written by persons named,Matthew,Mark,Like and John?

1. Where do you get this notion of yours from? What evidence do you have of this claim of yours?

2. I never had such thoughts, and I don't see what relevance they are to this discussion you have opened up. Let's limit distractions to an absolute minimum, focusing entirely on the main here instead.

Goosethetruth:
➜What year were the gospels written and what year were Paul's missives written?
Do proper research and don't rely on the misinformation you have received since childhood.

Sigh! 🙄🙄

Goosethetruth:
Answer my question first. Who wrote first? Paul's letters or the writers of the gospels?

I answered your question. Now proceed to answer mine.

What makes you think your ideas regarding the man named Paul came before the Gospels? Let's start with that instead.

Hamachi:
➜Good Evening Please I earn 400k per month I cannot boost of 5k after the month end. I have four (kids) and I am 32. Wife is a petty trader and nothing much is coming from her business. No investment yet, nothing is really working out for me. Is everything okay with me. Please advise me

. You are a one-income family of 6 living in Nigeria where a family of your size should be making at least Naira 1.5 - 2 million a month to be considered at least OK, not comfortable. What do you expect?

Goosethetruth:
➜Answer my question first. Who wrote first? Paul's letters or the writers of the gospels?

Who wrote first? The evidence we have points to the Gospels(at least one or two) being written before Paul came into the picture as a preacher.

brain54:
➜You don come again... I didn't link it with anything. I didn't say it was spiritual or not.I just shared my experience!

Op said his cobweb experience is spiritual. You posted that you have also experienced this same cobweb sheet. Are you seriously shocked that I would think to tie your claim to OP's? 🙄🙄🙄

Omihanifa:
To start with, you are suffering a serious witchcraft attack. Cobwebs and snail are part of the instruments that witches and wizards use in stagnating people. You will just see that others are way ahead of you in life. You will be on thesame spot.
To cancel this attack and reprogram it to where it's coming from, you will need plenty of fasting and prayers. But let me ask you some questions.
Do you patronise prostitutes? Have you ever fought with and elderly person before? Are you from a polygamous home?

Do you know how many Billionaires out there patronize prostitutes? Do you know how many Millionaires out there fight and go as far as to deprive the elderly in their local communities and across countries of a better quality of life, all for their benefit? I mean, look at your politicians to gauge how utterly nonsensical your pronouncements really are before clicking the "submit" button next time.

brain54:
There was a particular town I lived in briefly...In the s/west that I experienced that cobweb thing. It was strange and I hated that town with passion. I haven't experienced that since I left that place!

So, what you experienced was not spiritual, given that you link it to a particular town in the SW— a specific place? How do you figure that is the same as what the OP described?

Ayomide11111:
➜Is this spiritual? Please 🙏 help me. Right from my teenages I have been experiencing this issue of cobwebs attacking my face when I'm on my way. The most confused part of this issue is that even after many people have passed the road when I passed I will feel a tangled cobwebs on my face and when I tried to stop to remove it gently and check if truly the cobwebs is real Sir I will not see anything to pick out of my face but I will feel tangles on my face. Even if the road is as wide as anything or in a shuttle area or environment or market or selling square, I do experience this. I am tired. Please fathers and mothers in the house should help me cry
I decided not to border my parents anymore since they did not do anything to the first experience I told them about that I do pick snails in my dream. I started noticing All these weird experience during my teenages and I am person that is very sensitive to himself and his experience.
And I did tell them that they should help me cry, but they were Soo...they were Soo.. cry cry I don't know what to say.
I told them that I do pick snails in my dream and I never felt good about it, but instead for them to seek an help for me they would knock me off. cry cry
➜ Pls someone should help me with any spiritual cleansing to save my life and destiny. I'm lagging behind and my life is slow. And my spirit is not happy with himself. Pls NairaLands pls cry cry cry

Cobwebs? Are you struggling with a fear of the unknown/success/failure? Or even lack of motivation or...? You need to be more open and detailed about what it is you are dealing with so we can better help. All this cobweb write-up and dreams of snails nonsense sounds a lot more like gobbledegook.

2. There is nothing spiritual about anything you are dealing with. You are a human being, and at most, you are likely dealing with mental setbacks or sickness.

Goosethetruth:
➜Why not disregard bibliography and tell me which came first? The true Pauline missives or the gospels?

What makes you think your ideas regarding the man named Paul came before the Gospels? Let's start with that instead.

Paut:
Okay I hear you and thank you for your advise at least you contributed much more than others

Are you online? Try to catch up on this.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7fsoWW_fZyM

It is 38: 25 long but it might help you get a perspective on what your loneliness is really about and what you have to take care of it. You are not alone, so no shame, but it is fixable.

nedekid:
➜Does madness run in your family? What has what you posted got to do with the topic at hand here in Nigeria? Did you even read the OPs post before commenting?

My apologies! I quoted the wrong person. Below is the comment that was intended for.

How is it possible for a man to rape a girl inside a car🤔,did he rape her in d front seat or at d back seat,cus I see no possibility of raping a girl inside a car without d girl been drugged ,are you this not a mutual agreement between the two of them

Moneyheart0147:
How is it possible for a man to rape a girl inside a car🤔,did he rape her in d front seat or at d back seat,cus I see no possibility of raping a girl inside a car without d girl been drugged ,are you this not a mutual agreement between the two of them

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Jamsam:
Please you have to be sure it's rape, because girls of now adays can be manipulating , it might be because she saw blood that it's why she called you, rape in a car am not sure

If you don't know something, why not do some research before commenting? It is 2025, and there is absolutely no good reason to remain dense!

https://apnews.com/article/mistaken-driver-uber-rape-arrest-71c6a6c25c83e763c374b0514f216c64

https://www.news-journalonline.com/story/news/local/volusia/2024/12/16/woman-raped-in-car-outside-florida-hotel/77021749007/

https://www.cbsnews.com/sanfrancisco/news/woman-raped-beaten-after-getting-in-a-car-she-thought-was-her-rideshare/

Negroid001:
➜You sound like you're not from around here. Where 17 year old kids are sleeping with their mother's age mate. Everything is transactional here. Don't act like you don't know.

All of those underage children are victims! Get that into your thick head first before you proceed.

Next lesson, a crime is a crime! No matter how rampant it is, it is still a crime!

Nsexy333:
➜My dear if the story is genuine then just know she's lying to you, the man cum inside her, that's the only reason she's looking for a drug since she's scared. She only lied so u won't take the case seriously. In as much as she wants drugs then she's a victim.

Nonsense! She is an 18-year-old Nigerian gal, not a medical student, of course, she would be terrified that some of it might seep into her and get her pregnant. 🙄🙄🙄🙄

Can we please stop with the ludicrous attempts to gaslight the gal for not having her entire story scripted perfectly and rehearsed before approaching OP for help? 🙄🙄🙄🙄

Negroid001:
I don't even trust the girl. I'm just saying the man should have should known better. When i was 20, i had a 18 year old girlfriend that confided something similar to this to me. I asked her why didn't she complain when the man was gifting her items and cash. And she's not that naïve to not be able to detect he had intentions. Afterall na me and her gather spend the money. Not saying the man is right buh adults should know better.

Gifting someone items and gifts DOES NOT grant you, or anyone, permission to violate their right to bodily autonomy. If you don't understand this simple fact in 2025, then I seriously suggest you get yourself properly educated. This is particularly important if you plan to visit or live outside the shores of your current safe zone.

Casham:
➜According to her though, there was never any real penetration, but the man (who is a high ranking government official) actually "released" ON her, not IN her. (Does that even make sense?)
How can I handle this issue right now? For me, I am planning to go all out and let hell break loose and let the heavens fall if they have to.

Just a while ago, a 92-year-old man was convicted of rape and murder that took place back in 1967. What got him was his DNA and fingerprints. The man left his DNA all over your cousin, and that DNA can be used to bring him down, even if it takes 50 years from now. I hope your cousin still has it, and you all report to the authorities immediately.

RealLordZeus:
➜That tradition is very repulsive...In the SW, usually if you died below 50years, it's oku ofo and won't be celebrated

You actually think the tradition of celebrating only lives that go beyond 50 is less repulsive? Nonsense!

MrBrownJay1:
➜sadly both male AND female children should be raised with love... although many male children may not show it, many are damaged emotionally beyond repair.

It is impossible to hide damage caused by bad parenting.

Sand2022:
➜There is something about the rich man and Lazarus story I didn't consider while a PIMI JW.
I had long believed that the story is a parable, so everything there had to be explained away as pointing to something else other than real life event. This is because of several scriptures including Eccl 9:5-10; Romans 6;23
However, aren't parables built from events familiar to once audience? Think about it, all the parables jesus told was not what his audience never knew about, it wasn't from fiction. It is true that some elements may be exaggerated or added to make a point, but events in a parable are not entirely from fiction. The good Samaritan story, the Wise Steward, the prodigal son all were stories his listeners could relate to. I mean the man who was robbed while journeying from Jerusalem to Jericho. That was a location people knew was dangerous. But the story Jesus told didn't actually happen. But the location exists, that actual event can also happen. It's not fiction.

All it seems you did here was successfully confuse yourself and not much else.

A parable is a short, simple story used to illustrate a moral or spiritual lesson. It often uses human characters and everyday situations to convey a deeper meaning or truth. Parables are not meant to be taken literally but rather as a comparison or analogy that helps people understand a particular point.

Mrperfecto:
➜I will just be brief without writing too much.
We are based we have 4 children, my first child is 13 from my previous relationship, she has become very terrible, she doesn't listen to me or my wife. She tells her that she is not her biological mother and she cannot control her. She had threatened to call the police on my wife telling her if she touch her she will fight her back and call the police. She goes to school and closes at 3.45 her school is 10 mins walk from home, but she is always late for home.
She comes home around 6 sometimes 7pm , as I am writing now every friday she closes at 12.30 but she is still hasn't come back home yet.
I am on my way to work. I start at 6.30pm till 2.30am so I rarely get to see her and she only misbehaving when I am not around. So far we have seized her phone because we had found so many inappropriate messages exchanges between her and boys. We had also removed the TV from her room and her behaviour has gotten worse. She is behaving like she's possessed.
My wife and I are fed up. Even her siblings are tired of her. We want to send her back to Nigeria maybe in a boarding school until she is 18 in order to protect her younger ones. If we keep her and she continues with her terrible behaviour I may beat her badly and we may end up loosing all 4 children to the authorities.
Please what advice will you give to me concerning this issue?

This here is why I reason that the average Nigerian does not understand how to be a decent parent, particularly the men.

Your wife called her a bastard at age 11. The same wife argued that you have to put a 2-year-old in an expensive school because you have your 11-year-old in one. And I bet your daughter overheard all of that, too. What do you expect? That she would be happy and in the clouds with you and your wife? Would she be comfortable sharing the same space with you and your wife? However, your solution is to further punish the girl for not pretending she is from a loving home. 🙄🙄🙄

I hope you did not go through with this plan to send her to Nigeria. If you are tired of raising her, kindly send her back to her mother's people out there in the UK, or maybe put her in the Childcare system after letting her know you no longer want her. After all, Nigerian fathers and child abandonment is no new thing at all. 🙄🙄🙄🙄

Purityland:
✓ The LORD will keep helping us all in Jesus Name. Amen

Where is the proof of this Lord helping you lot, abeg! 🤔🤔

CaptainFM1:
✓ SMHFU! Women generally need protections. They often don't know when they are being violated. That's why they are called weaker sex.
✓ That said, irrespective whether there is relationship between them or not, when you see a man and a woman together, courtesy and civility demand he conducts himself in a professional manner. He wasn't employed to be complementing women up and down.

1. Let the women decide for themselves when they need that protection from you all. A man is not a god or superhero to a woman that he should think it his place to fight her supposed battles for her, abeg! 🤔

2. Nonsense! That reasoning may belong to those of you from the religious world. However, in the real world were the rest of us reside, being married is just a contract between two folks on paper and that is all. I would have advised for folks who have this mentality of yours to carry themselves enter commune but having seen the many atrocities committed particularly by men against woman and children in such places, I am of course against such and would demand freedom for all. That used to be the way but thankfully no more of that nonsense allowed. All humans are individuals with individual rights until death.

Treasure17:
✓ I wasn't offended cause she often calls me that. I júst laughed it off since it was all joke. We men can be jealous o.

Being jealous is one thing, acting out in am utterly immature manner is another thing, abeg. 🤔

alphonsojaybaz:
➜She later discovered that he had been in Nigeria the entire time, and not for work—but to visit a girlfriend.
“He Lied and Died There” — Widow Shares Painful Truth
The woman, who revealed that she and her husband had been married for 15 years and shared three children, was devastated to learn of his deceit.
“He kept in touch via video calls, especially when he said he was back in his hotel. Then one day, he didn’t answer. Eventually, someone picked up and told me he had been in an accident.”
Her husband’s younger brother later broke the news of his death, confirming that he had never gone to Northern Ireland — but was in Lagos all along.
“I asked, ‘Wasn’t he in Northern Ireland?’ My in-law said no—he was in Nigeria the whole time,” she recalled.
“That’s when the truth hit me. My husband flew from the UK to Nigeria just to cheat—and he died there.”

The man left you with three kids. Better buckle down, check your account and his, and ensure he didn't send anything else you all will need there in the UK to his girlfriend in Nigeria. Now is not the time to mourn but time to be pissed. You can mourn after you have made sure all of your documents, accounts, and pennies are accounted for.

profmallor:
Since my wife is beautiful I ld ask if i can get a discount...

Exactly! Come dey make issue out of ordinary compliment. One would even think the man believe he owns the woman's beautiful.

CaptainFM1:
➜The most important thing is, if someone takes an offense in your complement, you owe them an apology. A simple "I'm sorry" will do.

The one taking offense is not the woman but the man. That is a problem. My guess is the woman probably smiled and went on her way, but the man, probably in some foolish, macho sense, decided he should take offense in place of her. Not realizing he made an eejit out of himself by doing so.

Your wife or woman you are in a relationship with is not your property, not by law or even by societal standards out here.

Apcshit:
➜One Nigerian was killed in Italy for calling a woman beautiful ,he was killed by her bf

I hope you know that the BF in question is the one at fault in that case. Marriage or relationship DOES NOT give a man the right to decide who can or cannot speak to the woman or what they can or cannot say.