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Boo3nity:
God did whaaaaaaaaaat?
Make I talk?
FTC untop 40 words.
Una doooh.

Why can't it be the same god of Nigeria who blessed your politicians and pastors blessing her too?

Glimpsetv:
Summary:
Two Norwegian women shared their honest views on dating expenses during a beach interview near Oslo. Both said they don’t expect men to spend money on dates and prefer splitting the bill 50/50. They value time, fun, and shared planning over expensive outings — a perspective that contrasts with cultures where men are expected to cover all costs.

Those women there also do not believe in the idea of the man as the head of the family or household and they certainly don't even conceive of the idea of women submitting to a man in marriage either.

Wordsfrombimpe:
✓ Different views and perspective . Once again I appreciate your concerns
✓ I already have self love for myself but that does not mean because you have self love you can’t love someone
✓ Love is essential in human existence And some of us are positive that the love will happen Only a matter a time Let’s do what work for us

1. A delusion isn't really a view though.

2. You don't need to work on trying to convince me at all. I am just asking that you build on your self love as these things are hard to hide. 🥱🥱🥱

3. First of all, love is also multidimensional. Second, if you already believe you love yourself why are you then looking for more love elsewhere? Could it be that you don't love yourself enough? 🤔

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Anyways, my particular thing is your posting your private information on a forum like this. it just screams a message that you may not wish to be associated with anyone you love.

PastorKosi:
✓ True Partnership in Relationships
You and your partner must work hand in hand. If one of you is earning more, that should never breed jealousy or insecurity. Sadly, many men struggle with the idea of their spouse being more successful. Some would even go as far as asking her to stop a thriving business — not because it's wrong, but because their ego is bruised. Notice I said, "most men" — not all.
But this mindset is toxic to growth. Marriage or relationship is not a competition. It’s a partnership. Your partner’s success is your success. When they rise, you both rise. You’ll thrive more in love when you stop competing and start supporting each other fully.

How can it be a partnership when men are consistently informed by way of traditional and religious scams that they are meant instead to be the head... Lords and masters...over their wives... a boss! Yes, your traditions and religions both abhor partnership in marriage. And the expectation is that a woman is to need and look up to a man for her life and livelihood. So, how can such men be expected to be OK with a woman who is not okay successful but independent in anyway?

You can't have your cake and eat it, abeg!

Goodlady:
Trauma eeeehhhh. Op trauma. Parenting in Africa shouldn't be judged cos many wanted to do more but lacked fund.

In essence, what you are saying is that good parenting is all about funds?

BXNX:
➜This post is painful but honest, and sadly, a lot of women will relate. It shows how being patient and supportive is often taken for granted, not appreciated.
➜ She stood by him when he had nothing, and he still gives her nothing not just materially, but emotionally. Calling her “Iron Lady” on her 30th birthday like it's a badge of honor for enduring mistreatment is tone-deaf.
➜ Love isn’t about enduring pain in silence. It’s about partnership and growth. Sometimes being “understanding” gets mistaken for weakness. It’s okay to demand more. Respect, love, and effort should go both ways in a marriage.

They should stop playing victims in all of this, abeg! Na person tell them say make dem continue to live life like mumu? Abegi!

2. Why did she do that if that was only to then come complaining to the world about it? If you are going to stand by someone sincerely, then accept all the sheet the person throws at you without vexation or complaint. Otherwise, you should not be doing that nonsense.

3. That's not love but mental problems, abeg! It is not about being understanding either, but being something of a pushover for someone else. Don't accept a poor individual if you are not ready to accept and condone all that goes along with being in a relationship with a poor individual.

LadyExcellency:
Everyone needs Jesus Christ as their Lord and personal Saviour. Jesus Christ never breaks your heart. His teachings bring peace, joy, love, and satisfaction in abundance.

Get lost with this nonsense, abeg! This na wetin una use destroy the lives of humans who could have done better for themselves without,

Kalulu44:
➜Is it bad if both of them are working. Abi Dem create women to only dey collect and not give

I didn't object to both of them working; I simply added that both of them should be handling the house duties as well.

Wordsfrombimpe:
➜I understand your angle but my perspective is that as a woman even if you were born complete or you fill capable you still need a man in your life because you can’t do it all by yourself sincerely speaking ,
➜even in the scriptures it is expected of a man and a woman to become one flesh and it is ordain by God
➜ Just as a woman need a man , a man need a woman to fulfill God plans and not just any spouse like you said the one you will through in good and in bad times and fight every storms together and build a legacy together not for yourself but your generation
➜ You are right I put so much energy into it and I hope I find him and he finds me Much love

1. You still need a man in your life for what exactly? Please, don't hold back! Honestly state what it is you are thinking. I want to know. What are some of these things you feel you cannot do for yourself?

2. How can that be the case when statistically about 50% of men and women in every generation live and die without ever becoming one flesh as supposedly ordained by your deity? Does this make sense to you that your deity would ordain a thing, and it turns out that half of the time, that ordination never really pans out for about half of the people? Doesn't that make the god who supposedly ordained such a thing seem a colossal fool?

3. I see that all you are packed full of even at this point in your development is nothing but religious gobbledegook, which sort of explains a lot about why you felt to create this particular thread here. 😩😩😩😩

4. What I see is instead a lady who is yet to discover her true strength as a human and a woman. It is not wrong to date or go out to meet people, but I think what is much better than all of that is focusing one's energy and strength on building oneself up... learning to love and cherish oneself a lot more. If and when love finds you, then great, but if not, still great.

Kayberg:
➜You see? I know you will still push trash as usual.
Deuteronomy 22 (KJV)
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²⁰ But if this thing be true, and the tokens of virginity be not found for the damsel:
²¹ Then they shall bring out the damsel to the door of her father's house, and the men of her city shall stone her with stones that she die: because she hath wrought folly in Israel, to play the LovePeddler in her father's house: so shalt thou put evil away from among you.
You quoted this, and then twisted it that it is only for the Levites! How profane is your explanation!
“If any man take a wife, and go in unto her, and hate her,” — Deuteronomy 22:13 (KJV)
When did the "Levites" only become "Any man"? 🤨 Do you think you can twist the Bible for me? 😕 GOD'S standard is that you keep yourself intact for your husband. Not to play the wh*ore among the people because GOD knows what is prone to happen!
➜ Stop glorifying immorality! And saying GOD likes it like that. Do you think I'm programmable as they do to you in your denomination? If you like, report my comment again so that I can be handed another ban and this too be deleted while yours remain kept.

What is this nonsensical mound of bullsheet for? I will let you realize for yourself how senseless this retort of yours is. I am not here to feed your religious delusions. 🙄🙄🙄🙄

2. Stating that the YHWH of Israel, a God you pretend you follow, never condemned fornication in His Law of Moses, a known fact, is immoral. However, your suggestion that such a code must be included to satisfy your religious whim isn't? Religious scammers... all of you. 🥱🥱🥱🥱🥱

Wordsfrombimpe:
➜Thank you I appreciate you looking out for me Much love ❤️

What if you were born complete and capable of handling your business on your own but were mind-raped into believing that there is some man out there to make your life better than you can do it all by yourself? All of this energy you seem to pour into finding someone out there— probably more energy than most women who are currently married(many of them unhappy, by the way) put in—, don't you think you would benefit a lot more by focusing it all towards you and your peace?

Kayberg:
➜And how did what you quote rhyme with what you claimed? You think this is how the world works?
Your sister? Mum? Daughter? Why not say about the real deal that your sister, mom, daughter should get stoned to death if they ever get deflowered in fornication before getting married? Now that is the real law and prophets, not about a man having more than one wife. You need Biblical passages that supports this? Let me know. I won't be as hypocritical as you are.

But you are being exactly that, hypocritical. You had earlier insisted that a particular idea was not one of the codes set forth by the YHWH of the Bible people. However, you push back on what you suppose is one of the codes set forth by the YHWH of the same Bible, suggesting it should be disregarded. 😂😂😂😂😂

Anyways, the YHWH of the Bible people did not demand that women be stoned to death if they were deflowered before marriage. Rather, He gave legal codes designed to discourage virginity scams in the land with a penalty of death for those who were caught in such a scam.

13 “A man might marry a woman and have sexual relations with her. Then he might decide that he does not like her.
14 He might accuse her of doing wrong and say, ‘I married this woman, but when we had sexual relations, I found she was not a virgin.’ By saying this against her, people might think bad things about her.
15 If this happens, the girl’s father and mother must bring the proof that the girl was a virgin to the town elders at the meeting place of the town.
16 The girl’s father must say to the leaders, ‘I gave my daughter to this man to be his wife, but now he does not want her.
17 This man accused my daughter of doing wrong and said, “I did not find the proof that your daughter is a virgin.” But here is the proof that my daughter was a virgin.’ Then they should show the cloth to the town leaders.
18 Then the leaders of that town must take that man and punish him.
19 They must fine him 40 ounces of silver. They will give the money to the girl’s father because her husband brought shame to an Israelite girl. And the girl will continue to be the man’s wife. He cannot divorce her for the rest of his life.
[b]20 “But what the husband said about his wife might be true. The wife’s parents might not have the proof that she was a virgin. If this happens,
21 the town leaders must bring the girl to the door of her father’s house. Then the men of the town must kill her with stones, because she has done a shameful thing in Israel. She has acted like a prostitute in her father’s house. You must remove this evil from your group. -Deuteronomy 22 vs 13 - 21

Understand that the Law required that Levite priests only— this stipulation did not apply to any other people or group in the land— were required to marry only virgins. A sentence of death to all who would think to ignore this awaited both the Priests who would think to do otherwise and the women who would think they could scam their way into becoming wives of priests in the land. There are codes in the Law of Moses requiring that all women and/or all men must remain virgins or should not engage in fornication until marriage.

The myth that non-virgins had to be stoned was concocted by the religious community, Christianity in particular. I

nnamdi640:
➜Your right, character first, just that ladies knows how to hid their character very well

But the following poster claims that virginity is a part of character, a clear mark of sexual discipline.

Godseed:
Virginity is part of character, an integral part. If sexual discipline is not part of your character, then what is left of it? What are you actually referring to as good character?

And this other guy agrees with him too.

FRANCISTOWN:
You have brain jàre. Unlike those failures

. So, why insist OP's wife still had a fault?

Ayomide11111:
➜NairaLands pls 🙏 help me. I have been going through comments under my thread since yesterday and I have never seen anyone to help a brother. Fathers and mothers in the house pls help me...

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eCj2DW2qvYQ?si=XoykIdn-5cSFybdO

suckprick:
➜While it's good to push your husband, It should be done with love. No push am too much make he no use you do money. Meanwhile are you handicapped? Go and work too. Na only for work women no dey claim gender equality.

She should go and work while her husband, too, should also begin doing housework with her, right?

Merry100:
➜ My husband brags to his friends how am a strong woman and how I have been with him since he had nothing till now he still has nothing but he shamelessly tells them how i can endure anything. Meanwhile this his friends don’t treat their wife like he does yet he cant learn from them.
➜ I’ve been keeping quiet but today broke the camels back. Today is my 30th birthday and all my husband could do is post happy birthday Iron Lady on WhatsApp and facebook.
➜ All this because i try to be patient with him or not nag him.
➜ Now i believe why is important to give men small High BP and less peace of mind so they can sit up because being an understanding wife only makes them relax and leads to this type of treatment
➜ meanwhile the wicked women are steady enjoying their home (Not my story. Came across this and it really hit me. What do you think?)

1. Birds of a feather, they say, flock together after all.

2. Endurance wives are iron ladies, naw... they endure all sorts of bullsheet as that is their particular claim to fame.

3. Patient? Oh, No! Endurance wives are not patient at all. Rather, they passively accept every scoop of poop shoved their way.

4. Won't giving them high BP backfire more times than not?

5. They aren't all wicked women. Those who lied to you that such women are wicked are probably the same men who hail you for being an endurance woman. Those women instead know what they want and deserve in particular situations — I acknowledge it is hard to have it all in Nigerian marriages — and they choose never to settle for less than that. Human who truly love and value themselves should live every moment of their lives with a similar attitude.

Nnamdipapa:
➜Forget who wrote and lets see your opinion about the article.

The entire writeup reads more like a religion-fueled tirade against doctrines connected to the religion of Christianity than it is an actual attack against the Bible or the person of Jesus Christ of Israel and His Father, YHWH of Israel. There really isn't much one can do with that except point out what it, in fact, is.

Kayberg:
➜And who are you too to ask me something unreasonable when you know you have nothing reasonable to say? Show me where GOD in the Bible say, "Thou shalt not marry two wives. Or if thou marrieth two wives, thou shalt send away thine second wife for it is adultery before me." Go on, show me.

This here is the meaning of unreasonable.🥱🥱🥱

YHWH of the Bible people proclaimed that the context of His Law is His people, the descendants of Jacob. But you completely disregard that fact altogether, as you posit a completely different context of your whim. So, tell me, how are you any different from the other in asserting your own will as the will of this God you speak of? 🥱🥱🥱

AntiChristian:
➜Did Jesus prayed in his own name?
➜ And why did Jesus gave the people the "Lord's prayer" and not "Jesus's prayer"?

Please, this is not to be confused with an attempt to hold brief for the religious gobbledegook spewed by the OP here.

1. Jesus Christ of Israel could not have prayed in His own Name, given that He came to serve His Father, YHWH of Israel, under His Old Law of Moses — the legal code under which all Israelites in the Land were born.

2. Jesus Christ, like Moses, came to deliver to the people of Israel, YHWH's new legal code which applies to only those among them who would transition from the Old Law of Moses— the legal code in the nation of Israel in the land of Canaan— to living under the new Legal code — the Gospel and Law in the Kingdom of God which He was King over. The Gospel is Jesus Christ of Israel, meaning He is the embodiment of the Law itself— He is the Way, the Truth, and the Life. It is for this reason that His followers are to pray in His name — the Law is Jesus Christ— to access its benefits over the benefits of the Old legal code.

Nnamdipapa:
2. let's use the Bible against itself. If Jesus died for your sins, then, why do you still suffer? Why do you still get punished? Why do you still need to tithe, pray, obey, and repent? That sounds more like a contract than a sacrifice. And remember this verse, Faith without works is dead, James 2, 17. That means if you don't act, nothing happens. So it's not Jesus making it happen. It's you.

This is culled from a religiously f-cked mind and nothing of the Bible, abeg! How can one claim to use the Bible against itself when nothing of what one then proceeds to argue is recorded in the Bible? 🙄🙄🙄

The Bible does not posit any of the following:
1. That Jesus Christ of Israel's sacrifice amounts to the absence of suffering for the people: Jesus Christ of Israel promised His followers at the time that they would suffer tribulation, in addition to that which He did.
2. That Jesus Christ of Israel commanded His followers to pay tithe: Not once did Jesus Christ of Israel command His followers to pay tithe or give offerings to Him or any gods of men. He instead commanded them to give only to the poor.
3. That the need for prayer, obedience, and repentance is taken away the moment one repents — adopts the new legal code offered to Israelites in place of the Old Law of Moses(the former legal code under which all Israelites are born): Obedience, Prayer, and Repentance remain requirements in the New Legal Code that is Jesus Christ of Israel.

@ Xso666, please suggest to your wife that she go out and get a job as soon as possible. You said she finished school, meaning she is not uneducated. The Nigerian economy is hard, and who knows if the two of you will eventually need to break up from all of this. You claim you love her, so please advise her to begin working out her own life at this point. She is young and has a long way to go in life. She needs to have work to keep her busy and involved in other things while you are out or working too.

Also, in case something happens and you are no longer able to provide for the kids you both plan to have, she should be able to at least feed and house her kids. She needs to get a job and get her life shaped, beginning now that age is still on her side.

OluwatobiJoshua:
Adds up to my previous response. Don't expect love from a lady, a lady can't truly love you, a woman only loves a child but a lady can respect you, infact in any relationship you should demand respect. ...

Can a man truly love a woman? Should a man expect to receive what he is himself not able to give in return?

Nealson:
➜Ah I am not lying to Op, am just telling him my mind that's why I said I pray God help him. Wait a minute, sir are you saying God doesn't exist or you choose not to believe in him?

With over 4000 different religions out there, there are over 4000 different deities as well. Do you know OP personally to you would insist that your prayer will cause your personal deity, and not his very own deity, would help him, if at all any helps?

thatsleepboy1:
➜ Seeking Resources on Christian Mysticism & Jesus’ Teachings.
Good morning NL, my name is Koffi. I’ve been deeply inspired by Bill Williams’ and Manly Hall’s sermons on Christian mysticism (especially the Holy Grail symbolism), and it’s been a truly wonderful journey! 😊 I’d love for us to share thoughts and insights on the teachings of Jesus Christ, especially from a mystical or inner-transformation perspective.

I am more interested in learning what there is truly to gain from all of these religious associations, apart from networking?

OP, remember, stop popping your pimples

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nKwitQWK5Tk?si=q7LvEJuE1HlgfVyV

jetson06:
➜If you catch her red handed, send her packing to her father's house. Enough of this simp behavior in 2025.

Will they ever listen or learn? 🙄🙄🙄

Dzzzz:
im not implying he should go fight but you have to confront the man face to face and let him know to back out..No be girlfriend but wife,this is what got a guy killed in my area..The husband constantly warned the guy but he didn’t listen until he was gunned down at home..

You don't have to do any such since anything that goes wrong, OP might end up in jail for. He has no business confronting the man on any grounds.

Nealson:
Hmm, I don't want to comment before because I am not married yet but my Conscience won't let me.
Sir, if you will like to hear me... From what you write up here I can say your wife did not have anything to do with the guy yet [you said she has swore with everything] although she might be considering it because you said it yourself she has high sex drive.
One, this is the first time you would notice something like this just try to give her a benefit of doubt but be watchful sir and be prayerful for God to take over your home and if there is anything hidden let it be reveal to you.
I pray God help you

Stop lying to him about a god supposedly helping him because you pay or something along those lines.

A woman having a higher sex drive than the man she is married to does not make her a monster or a deviant. She was able to hold off on sex, something OP clearly was not able to himself, until after marriage. But then, what else can one expect from even you religious folks who are convinced in your own minds that your thoiughts are justified by your little gods there. 🙄🙄🙄🙄

AntiChristian:
➜Sometimes, people are indeed honest enough to admit that the Bible really does not prohibit polygamy (polygyny). However, as a hedge against that admission, such ones may then resort to saying one of the following assertions:

Why this particular obsession you have with whether the YHWH of the Israelites allowed Polygamy in the nation of Israel which He created in the land of Canaan— a nation which He later destroyed or should I say exiled the people from? Is this an attempt to sort of posit that because polygamy was allowed in Israel, therefore YHWH has of the Israelites must be the Allah of the Muslims or something?

AnotherZik:
➜A careful reading of Acts 3:2-8 reveals something profound. According to NKJV, NIV and other translations, Peter disconnected from John, his travel companion, when he was about to heal the crippled man at the gate called Beautiful.
This was when he switched from requesting the lame to “look at us” into using the personal pronoun in verse 6: “Silver or gold I do not have, but what I do have I give you. In the name of Jesus Christ of Nazareth, walk.” Peter may have sensed that John wasn’t on the same spiritual frequency with him at that time, hence decided to go it alone. What this teaches is that gathering people to pray for you won’t help if they are not aligned. As the Scripture rightly asked: Can two walk together except they agree?

Like every other doctrine contorted by other religious adherents, this submission of yours here makes no lick of sense! 🙄🙄🙄