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maasoap:
✓ Oh! I didn't know that he should come here to admit wrong doing just to please you. May be we should write invitation letter to the wife to come and state her side of the story. You will never change

Are you sure you are OK in the head at all?

shadeyinka2:
Lies!

A lady who kept herself for the first 23 years of her life will not suddenly turn promiscuous after marriage.

I am glad someone else posted this and not me. 🥱🥱🥱

maasoap:
✓ And in the end, you forgot to say something about your fellow wayward gender . Typical of you, never disappoint

Nonsense! I didn't forget 🙄🙄🙄

OP is the one here trying to convince us that his wife is the problem and all of this without proof, something he admits to.

otipoju:
✓ Dem don dey drill your wife borehole. Dem just start. She will go and look for other men until she satisfies her curiosity or contacts diseases . Then her body go calm down small.
Marrying a virgin I'd very risky as she will continue to wonder how it feels to have another man inside her. She is gone. Just send her away before she born pikin for you.
Or be a vengeful person and use her to experience things like party and other naughty stuff and when you are done with her send her on her way.

The way some of you talk, one would think you were born this mentally f-ked up!

So, what you are attempting to have us believe is that as soon as your mother/sister/grandmother/etc., were deflowered, the risk of them having so many other men inside of them went up the roof?

This convenient idea of yours did not apply to you after you were deflowered but to females including the ones in your home and around you?

Nnamdipapa:
✓ The concept of sin is to make people feel constantly guilty and easy to control and manipulate therefore creating a need for the product being sold by religion, God!

You are referring to the concept of sin, according to the religion of Christianity, right? And not necessarily the idea presented in the book of Israelite Scriptures which point out sin as the violation or breaking of legal codes handed down by the God of Israel to His chosen people, the children of Israel?

budaatum:
✓ But you did create your own definition. The definition you gave is your definition you created. Or did you copy it from somewhere did you? It expressed your understanding of what an atheists holds in their heads. Your definition is different to my definition, which I created for myself in my head just like you created your definition for yourself.

Search and you will find very many definitions of atheist and atheism held in many different peoples head, so why would you insist your own understanding is the only one possible definition? Wouldn't that be like claiming all churches worship Jesus?

For your "proof that gods don't really exist". Consider the following.
https://www.reddit.com/r/DebateReligion/s/gMTFJz41qR

As for your, "makes it more a religious idea than anything else", of course atheism is a "religious idea". It is the religious consideration of the existence of a religious god that billions religiously worship. What else could it be if not the consideration of religious ideas?

A definition. Better is books.
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Religion

Stop shifting all over the place. You go nowhere by doing so.

Atheism is defined as a lack of belief in a deity or deities, not an absence of religion.

I am reminded of Buddhism which presents similar idea. No deity yet it is a religion nonetheless.🤔

Buddhists do not worship a god in the way that many other religions do. Buddhism is often described as a non-theistic religion, meaning it doesn't focus on a creator god or supreme being. Instead, Buddhists follow the teachings of Siddhartha Gautama, also known as the Buddha, and strive to achieve enlightenment (Nirvana) through practices like meditation and mindfulness. While some Buddhists may venerate the Buddha or other enlightened beings, such as Bodhisattvas, this is done as a form of respect and inspiration, not as worship in the sense of seeking divine intervention, according to religious education resources.

Xso666:
➜Thank you for your contributions I really appreciate. I will monitor her and get her tested to know if she’s still okay. I really do love my wife and I waited and prayed for this girl to be mine only for this to be happening.

Monitor her ke? Get tested, ke? I no talk that one o!

Xso666:
➜If I was not ready I wouldn’t have gone to pay her bride price
➜ because I felt that’s the only way I could have intimacy with her.
➜ I won’t keep mentioning virgin because it seems people are taking advantage of my problem and thinking it’s a story

. Anybody can pay bride price, but that does not mean anybody who can is ready for marriage.

2. You wanted to have intimacy with her; that was why you paid the bride price and married her?

3. It is not the people that are the problem, but your particular fixation on an idea that no longer matters. She ceased to be a virgin according to you after you paid her bride price and plowed her, but you came here to continuously announce what she used to be, as though it should matter as far as your current problems.

Xso666:
➜I saw them together that night coming back from wherever they went to probably an hotel or something

You saw coming back together, so you decided it was OK to conclude they must have slept together at a hotel? Well, I still insist you and your wife go get professional marriage counseling immediately, abeg!🙄🙄

Nnamdipapa:
Four kids at 32 with N400,000 per month income? On top that, wifey is a liability hiding under petty trading? You guys will never learn and experience will always be your teacher. You should not have more than one child at 32 with that level of income in 2025. I know madam will get pregnant again this year.

You mean a teacher they will never learn from, abi?

budaatum:
➜That is what atheism is to you.....

I didn't create the definition, nor am I responsible for the lack of proof that makes it more a religious idea than anything else.

budaatum:
➜Anything is not allowed in human thought and reasoning, of which the scope of religion is a part of, and mostly just what is decided to be chosen to believe in ones head.....

That is what atheism is. The idea is without evidence, hence it is religious in orientation, a belief held despite lack of evidence.

sampsonub100:
➜ If truly you are a doctor, then I am really disappointed in your comments. A man who births children all over the place doesn't pass his liability to an innocent women.

Pass his liability to a woman? What do you mean by that?

Xso666:
➜No proof yet and I am still thinking if truly he didn’t do anything with her that day because my wife has a very high sexual drive and I’m scared if my instincts are right

Something tells me you were not ready for marriage at all. 🙄🙄🙄

Xso666:
➜Yes I know she’s my equal but I can’t just stand the sight of her knowing fully well that she allowed another man see her unclothedness is something that has been disturbing me I really wish I could turn back the hands of time honestly.

Do you have proof of this accusation you make against her?

Sand2022:
➜That should be the main thing, the message. However, it doesn't mean the element mentioned are to be ignored.
➜For eg, imagine if someone were to say that there is no road leading from Jerusalem to Jericho. Now while the parable of the good Samaritan is not told to mention route, that element in that parable can be referenced to prove that there is in fact a road leading from Jerusalem to Jericho.
➜ It is obvious that although the lesson is the primary thing, but parables draw from realistic circumstances.

That's exactly what it means, though. You considered the elements of the story as fictional and, as such, do not give focus to them but to the message instead by the author.

2. But this is wrong! It can't be referenced for any reason. Why? Because the story was meant instead as a parable. 🙄🙄🙄

3. It does not matter whether they draw from what may seem realistic circumstances; the point remains that you are not to take anything contained in the story literally. That is the essence of a parable.

Xso666:
➜Now that’s another point …. I really don’t know how to handle this honestly

. She is not your child or your ward, but your wife(your equal). You are not her guardian but her partner in marriage. The fact that you are the first to have had sex wth her means absolutely nothing in reality and as you can see, in marriage. She is a fully grown adult like you, and so the same way you would appreciate others approaching you is the same way you should approach her.

You should be able to ask her what is going on. Tell her how you feel and let her tell you her side. If you are not able to, you should both sign up for professional marriage counseling and allow the counselor to guide you both to better communicate with each other.

Xso666:
➜No, not village. I was thinking of moving to another area maybe a little far from my present one. Like I said I need suggestions as I don’t want to take a decision I might end up regretting

Move to another place where she will not be able to make new friends or see new people?

LordReed:
It's very simple really, atheists lack of belief is not a belief.

Lack of belief in the absence of proof(for or against) is belief/faith or whatever religious people like to call it.

A parable, as we already realized by now, is a usually short fictitious story that illustrates a moral attitude or a religious principle

Sand2022:
➜There is a reason to think that Jesus was conveying something from the story/parable of the rich man and Lazarus.
➜ Assuming it is a parable, what reality did the parable draw from?
➜ We can quickly say, it was fabricated from unrealistic event. It is a fiction.
➜ But think about this, Jesus audience was the Pharisees, and the Pharisees believed in the immortality of the Soul, they believe also in after death torment of the wicked .
➜ Then Jesus began to tell this story of torment. The big question is: If this torment after death was a false doctrine, why is Jesus making a parable from that?
➜ Will that act not in fact be validating a false belief?
➜ I was just thinking, let's say a JWs is trying to teach another that a wicked act is wrong, then he begins to tell a story that so and so did this wicked thing to Mr B, then after so and so died, he found himself in hell with torment, how would that JWs think his audience will view that parable, that hell is false? Never! he is in fact validating that doctrine by drawing from it to teach a lesson .

1. Well, a parable is used to convey a message. The fictitious elements of the story aside, the message is what is valued instead of value.

2. A parable draws from the imagination, from real-life stories, ideas, etc. However, the story is fictional, meaning the actual event never took place. What matters in a parable is the message embedded in the story for the readers.

3. You don't quickly say this because this is the very definition of a parable.

4. And Jesus Christ of Israel used many of the elements from their belief in fabricating the story— the parable — making it easily understood by the Pharisees to convey the important message He wished for them to have at the end of the story.

5. You stated that the Pharisees believed in this idea of eternal soul and torment, all while living under the Old Law of Moses— this law never prescribed any such to them. And since the context of the parable was framed as that which applies to those still under the Law of Moses, what reasons do you have to regard the elements of the parable as having factual grounding in that instance?

6. How can it be if the information is presented in the form of a parable — a fictional story intended to convey a message, meaning the fictional elements are of no value?

7. Ignorance of the fact of what a parable is and how not to apply literal meaning to the elements of the parable remains the major issue here.

Xso666:
➜Thanks for your contribution, a friend suggested this too as I am thinking of changing environment I’m afraid if I still remain in this area and I leave for work it might repeat itself and this time she might be more smarter😔

You mean you are moving back to your village because you are insecure and you are afraid your wife now has friends other than you at the current locale? 😏

LordReed:
➜Atheism is the lack of belief in any gods. Therefore it is not a belief. Maybe stoned people do that. Are you stoned? It doesn't matter when the TV is off it not displaying a channel therefore you cannot claim to be watching a cable TV station when the TV is off.

This is simple, really! There is absolutely no scientific or philosophical proof as to the existence or non-existence of a God. The assertion that no gods exist is contained within the scope of religion, where anything is allowed.

Xso666:
➜Thanks for your thoughts but why I put virgin wife was because I was so proud that I was able to marry a virgin as I promised myself never to marry a woman that is not a virgin and now this is happening to me so it’s like my fate is being manipulated and I don’t know what to do at this point in time

No wonder it seems most of you have been mentally mindfucked.😂😂😂

You placed your bet, in marriage and life, on the virginity of a woman— not even your own— to solve over 80% of your life issues, including those in marriage. Now that you realize it does not solve anything — that was all your mental delusions talking to you — you quickly jump to accusing your fate of being manipulated? Of course it was, and by you. 😂😂

What is even sadder is that you think of the woman as property for you to monitor and hold down as you like. Anyway, ask your woman what is going on and try to learn to give her the benefit of the doubt until you have absolute proof that she is seeing someone else besides you. Even then, all you can do is divorce her and maybe go find yourself another mythical virgin creature out there to cure all of your problems in life. 😂😂

Xso666:
➜ Hello nairalanders, I am new to this forum and I was introduced by a friend of mine to this forum to seek advice on how to go about my marital issue. Here is the proble, I married my wife a virgin and as at that time she was almost done with schooling as I met her when I went to stay with a friend around her school area. So we connected and and then I told her I had interest in her and I would like for us to be in a relationship so she agreed and we started dating. Fast forward to 2024 she was done with school so I went to pay her bride price and then brought her over to Lagos where I stay and then we started living together as husband and wife. Everything has been moving fine after I disvirgined my wife and I felt like I was the luckiest man on earth and I feel like I already made it in life because I believe as a man if you get a good wife then you have solved 80% of your problem the remaining 20% will be making money to sustain the family. So if lately I notice my virgin wife became so addicted to sex that she barely can’t go a day without sex and I am ready to give it to her any day any time. So I traveled for work sometimes around feb 2025 and I stayed 2 weeks over there so when I came back I decided to take a stroll with my wife to get something down the street so I notice as I was getting something she greeted a guy that sells female stuffs in my street so immediately I turned to talk to her she quickly discharged the guy and then they both acted like they were not talking together well I was unbothered because I mean the guy is just a trader doing his business and maybe she bought something from him and so I suspected nothing. Not until I noticed my wife likes going out to get things and she would spend time outside and this is something she doesn’t like doing before so I thought she is getting used to the Lagos life and so she is enjoying herself now and comfortable now in Lagos. I never had any insecurities whatsoever because I don’t believe she could have anything to do with any man since I married her a virgin although I know she has high sexual drive but I still think she can’t do no such thing. Fast forward to sometimes around June I traveled again but this time somewhere close to where I live so I told her I would be spending a week or more and so I left to work getting there we lodged and waiting for update as regards to why we are here so on the 3rd day the contractor called and said we should all go and come back that the job has been rescheduled till the next month so I decided to go back home that same day since it was not far from where I stay so I tried reaching out to my wife’s number but she wasn’t reachable so I thought her phone was off, so I boarded a bus home to relax and break the news to her only to find my house locked and my wife wasn’t home and her phone was not going through so I managed to open the door using my spare key and then went inside and took my shower then I went to the kitchen but there was no food to eat so I decided to prepare something for us to eat in the house. I tried reaching my wife again and still not reachable and it was getting late already so I was worried and was curious to know what happened to her because she’s not so conversant with areas in Lagos. So I decided to pray and take some wine while I wait to think of my next action. Suddenly she messaged me and told me she has not been able to charge her phone and there have not been light in the house, so I asked her where she was and she told me she was in the house and then I told her to come on video call I want to show her something I got for her but she told me the ba3 will die that she managed to use this to call me so I know she’s fine well I told her there was no problem and she should do her to make sure the battery don’t die so we can communicate tonight. So I went outside the compound only for me to find my wife coming back that night with this guy that sells female stuffs down the street and she was so shocked to see me at home she shouted immediately saw me and the guy just disappeared from no where. Till now I don’t just know what to do because I married this woman a virgin but she has turned something else and I don’t know if to tell her parents or handle this like a man within us here although she told me she didn’t do anything with him that he tried to have her but she didn’t but how do I believe that please guys help me move this to front page so I get more suggestions as I am really confused.

You married her a virgin, you deflowered her, and had 80% of your problem solved, according to you. Now, the real world —outside of your previous delusions— is calling. You can opt for professional marriage counseling, like most people would, and see where that would take you both. 😏😏

jamuta:
➜This fraud has been perpetuated for centuries, only God can save the male species. ..DNA test to the rescue! Muscle 💯⚖️🇳🇬🧐

A man who has no money to cover for DNA test should not bother impregnating any woman out there, jor!

ediko5:
➜From your comment you're the type of lady that will jump around and get pregnancy from God knows where to give an innocent man. This is what the so-called low budget feminists in Nigeria are looking for
I believe with time, there'll be a policy [b]criminalising paternity Fraud so this evil spree can be reduced. DNA should be normalised in hospitals after childbirth.[/b]

I doubt that is ever going to happen in any sane society. Some of your ancestors, well aware of the widespread existence of the phenomenon, chose to create laws to allow men to give power to claim all children born within a marriage to the man currently married to the woman.

Jayrow08:
An atheist sighted

For the umpteenth time, Mister Moronicus II, I am not an atheist.

Sand2022:
➜You're right. Fiction will match both scenarios. I felt the description should have prevented a misunderstanding. The difference is between Realistic Fiction and Fantasy Fiction.
My point is that parables are realistic fictions, as opposed to fantasy fiction that is not known to happen in reality. Thanks for pointing that out.

The better point here is that Parables are fictional stories, and should not be taken at face value. Rather, the focus should instead be on the message intended by the teller of the story.

TheStranger:
So you're trying to say that Angela Okorie dey smell?

Why una no dey like read at all even in the year 2025? Dem use ignorance curse una abi wetin? 🙄🙄🙄🙄