₦airaland Forum

UniQue84:
➜No I disagree is not about ceremony is about making it legitimate...pay the bride price. Ceremony is secondary. In the Eyes of the lord they were just committing fornication.

So, the same lord has now transitioned them over to no longer committing fornication, abi? 😂😂😂😂😂

Yetttymama:
God or you decided to make it official??

Abi.... the Christian God dey bless so many things wey the same Christian mouths dey also claim say him no dey allow. 😏

Mitsurugi:
➜Amen. Surrogacy is ultra expensive right now. So is adoption.

No dey tell this kain lie abeg! 🙄🙄🙄🙄

Compared to the many other options out there, adoption remains among the cheapest when it comes to getting a child. The problem is that Nigerians look down on the children of others(including their own, since many abandon their children if conditions allow for it), and so adoption is never even considered as an option on the table in the vast majority of cases. Every ordinary adoption of their nephews or nieces... many get serious problems with that, let alone adopting the child of a total stranger.

Bloomsvilledgit:
➜God bless you. Just in case you are left behind pls tell everyone you know not to take the mark of the beast. It's a micro chip as small as a grain of rice. It will be inserted on the palm of your hand or on your forehead.

I hope you don't plan to commit suicide when you realize this delusion of yours for what it actually is? That na my own. Go ask the JWs, Mormons, and other sub-Christian sects who made numerous foolish predictions of this sort over the years, too. Some of them ended up committing suicide in the end, while the others took to pretending the predictions never took place. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

QuickTyreNG:
This can only be done by God. Truly God answers prayers at His own time.

Really? Christian God has no problem killing off what seems to be 6 fetuses— they are all lives as well, according to you Christians — to give her a baby? This una Christian God really get as e be.

This is not even to address others who claim that their cryptic pregnancies, which necessitate the kidnapping of babies, are also of this same Christian God.

AerialMapper:
✓ Adopt them na abi what stopped you

Legal adoption is an option available to those looking for kids.

Please do not confuse this with the cryptic pregnancy phenomenon -- miracle via kidnapping --- that is also going on in that country abeg!

kindmman:
➜My wife and I are in the same shoes. With two kids and praying for pregnancy not to visit us

Praying? You mean family planning, vasectomy, etc, ....effective means are not even being considered?

ovie8200:
✓ Then when it's your turn, don't get marry. Just go adopt instead of having your own kid(s).

Turn? 🥱🥱🥱🥱

This woman claims to have failed 7 times at producing a child. From the much we know that likely means 7 foetuses have had to die at some point in the pursuit of her goal to having a child. Yet she wishes for us to believe that it was a battle for her. 😂😂😂😂😂

There are over 10 million ready made children in that country waiting to be adopted abeg. Regaling us with delusional tales of battles as though she be victim --- again the true victims are the foetuses that had to die during her seek for the child -- no dey necessary in that situation.

RealityKings1:
✓ Good afternoon ma. What I posted was what came to my mind that moment. I was trying to iinspire myself and others

. Sounded more like religious gobbledegook to me, given it is the same inspirational bullsheet that is being used to placate the religious masses regularly.

Celestialsword:
✓ So, procreation should stop in that country.
✓ In your country where there are thousands of hungry and homeless adults and children
Does that stops procreation, whatever happens in life, living doesn't stops because of anyone. Life goes on,put that into your skull

Not necessarily since there are other 10 million women out there in Nigeria wanting children.

2. Again, pointing out adoption as a choice does not negate the need for procreation. You would note this as countries with high adoption rates equally pursue and encourage procreation. This shouldn't be an emotional topic for anyone with a functioning brain..

3. Engage the logical portion of your brain next time.

thombud:
✓ You are a shameless person. You are the reason why I will always advise men never to take their wives abroad. Men have to learn and be wiser. In all you do, never be the dependant to any woman when relocating abroad. Also as a man, if you relocate abroad leave your wife in Nigeria. I repeat, leave your wife in Nigeria. You can send them money and come regularly to check on them. Good women are hard to find these days.

The man no talk say na him.take the woman abroad, ke! Haba! 😩😩😩😩😩

From his own mouth, he said he travelled to join his wife as a dependent meaning she made his abroad trip possible. it is OK for you not to take your wife abroad sha. That has the business of you and the woman wey marry you, but at least take time to learn the details before commenting.

EDOSBROWN:
E go better, na poor man take spend all him life for poverty

No mind the religion/close-minded agberos always seeking ways to hoodwink the gullible with even fantastical ideas to render them useless with..

RealityKings1:
✓ [sub][/sub]About the many that are dead: If people don't die to give way for new ones to be born, new inventions and ideas will not manifest.
Well the good news is you are still alive
✓ Its not as if anyone would live forever in this flesh.
But you can enjoy life while you are at it and try yo achieve

Finally, you cave to the fact that merely believing and holding on does not in fact make the impossible possible.

2. If you knew and accepted this, then why did you make the claim in your original OP as though to suggest to individuals that they merely needed to believe and hold on to cause the impossible to become possible?

Adeboyefa:
➜While a couple is married, the husband usually goes out to work while the wife takes care of the children and the home. After a divorce, how should the roles be shared?
➜ In most African lands, the father takes custody of the children and fends for them, while the mother goes away alone like a single lady. While this will make it easier for her to remarry, the father can't stay home all day and so leaves the children behind with a stepmother while going to work. He won't be able to supervise her treatment of his kids and be able to confirm or refute any allegation of ill-treatment. As a result, a bad stepmother maltreats the children or a good stepmother is maligned out of jealousy.

1. After a divorce, the man and woman can opt for shared custody of the children, where the children spend x number of days with the woman and y days with their father each week. This arrangement allows both father and mother to settle themselves within the area where the children attend school or have friends, and ensures that the children have access to both parents after the divorce.

2. It is for this reason that women ought to spend more time ensuring they take better care in selecting a father for their children. A man who would abandon his children to others in the event of divorce or death should be avoided at all costs.

Bloomsvilledgit:
➜I pray Jesus himself appear to you to confirm the above dates. Peace be with you

You mean like he supposedly appeared to the JW founder, who lied to you all that the world would end 100 years after 1914? 😂😂😂😂 Or the same way he has supposedly appeared to your many lying scammers-in-the-lords of Christianity, with its over 46,000 doctrines— all of them lies — also denominations of Christianity? I no wan that kain craze, abeg!

Bloomsvilledgit:
➜The rapture of the church will happen on the 23 or 24th of September 2025 on the feast of trumpets, on the last Trump. Jesus will return to earth (the second coming of our Lord Jesus Christ) on the 15th of September 2032. Repent now and make Jesus the Lord and saviour of your life. This is not a drill, this is not a joke. The church cannot stand what is about to happen to the world. The war between Israel and Iran is not a joke. I have passed the message Jesus asked me to pass. You are not seeing this post by mistake, this is pure grace from God. Don't wait to find out whether the rapture will happen or not. Be prepared. Put yourself and your entire house in order. God bless you

WOW... I guess the story that no man knows when the Christian rapture is to occur is all a farce! Christianity and contradictions are twins indeed.

Bloomsvilledgit:
I will see you all in heaven. Peace be with you

Which heaven? The heaven of the RCCG denomination of Christianity? Or the heaven of the JW denomination, the Kumuyi denomination? Which?

RealityKings1:
➜Nothing is Impossible just belive believing and holding on is key to achieving what is held in hope

Nonsense talk! Graves are piled high with the bodies of the many before you and I who believed— they held on until even moments before their last breath, but achieved next to nothing in the end 😂😂😂😂😂

ediko5:
➜NassBoy, It's funny how you think another man is readily available to willingly date and take care of a single mother and her child in this era. Men are no longer behaving like that so don't worry about another man claiming your child bro and don't bother chasing her. Just focus on making money so you can either take your child or give her money to support your child

Stop lying to him in what seems a sordid attempt at comforting him. He has every reason to be worried about his girl and his son. 🙄

Villa12:
That is what I'm saying. He's having the mentality that once it's a boy child then he will come back later to look after his father
I wonder where he got that school of thought from

. You know say our people dey always like to believe in the strangest and the illogical. If you ask for the source of the delusion, they'll try to convince you by recalling a tale or two of boys finding their way back to estranged fathers many years later. All this while conveniently ignoring the 1000s of other cases of boys who never bothered to find the fathers who abandoned them— like these other boys are not human beings.

Villa12:
okay if na girl child she won't ask? Africans! Who do una this thing

He is not actually lying, you know. Child abandonment na culture for Nigeria. The only pause dey come typically when the child in question na boy. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Obaaderemi2:
↪ Many of them know nothing about the reality of life.
My brother's pastor was usually using his wife as a perfect example of the kind of woman the young men in church should look for because he married her a virgin in those days. Unknown to him, his close friend slept with her later on, some of the time in his room. Those who knew didn't know how to tell him because he had anger issues and because they knew he would never forgive the woman and may even harm her. The pastor himself was a bit suspicious because he found them together in his room one day but he was confused because the man was on the ground prostrating to the woman. He ended up helping the man to beg his own wife despite the fact that they refused to tell him what the matter was. He died without knowing anything.

What a very funny story, made even funnier by the fact that it was his own friend in too. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Zidac:
➜That's exactly what happened. No love without money the rest is history

What the heck? And when you tell endurance wives in Nigeria that accommodating a deadbeat husband ain't marriage, they flare up at you as if you are the problem. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Over 10 million orphans in that country are in need of a home, yet....

Na the way dem dey always throw around the mentions of God in attempts to justify their obvious hate and discrimination... dey always floor me. Religious zombies are indeed some of, if not, the most hateful beings on this planet.🥱🥱🥱🥱🥱

Christianoir:
➜There is this neighbor of mine, I haven’t seen him with any girl, only guys. It been 4years in this apartment I’ve could it be that he is gay? I’m suspecting him tho. He always hang around boys nd boys do visit him, in the morning him and a boy will be leaving the house in the night both masculine and feminine boys . The boy you see today with him, u won’t see that same way with him tommorow it another boy that you will see…
The neighbor are already gossiping about him, calling him homo behind his back…. He doesn’t make trouble sha but I wonder how a man will be and he will flocking around young boys no girl… haba a wondering mind might wonder… could he be gay or if you’re the beighbour won’t u think he is gay.

What is the real problem with your life that makes you think it is OK for you to sit as a monitoring spirit over your neighbor? Who do this thing to you?

aswani:
You're not having a conversation Anti, you're trying to coerce that poster into justifying something that they never propounded. Bikonu rest.

Again, I don't understand your rant at all!

naijapikin2:
↪Her friends definitely played a decisive role. She gets a lot of attention from the make folk soni guess she downplayed what we had.
↪ Question 2: professional counselling? Gee! Can't count how many righteousness people counselled us. I'm talking from pastor's imams, regular guys with deep understanding of relationships, older folks, way younger folks. Almost everyone.
↪The fact of the matter is that many of these things I did see the telltale signs but I decided to ignore them believing vainly that marriage will eventually erode them. How wrong I was . I'll take my time before nosediving Into another union. Platonic or intimate wallahi

Friends can truly only influence one as much as one chooses to be influenced by them. We typically gravitate towards those who we feel can fill the holes in our lives with something— may not be the right something— at any given point. Yeah, I wouldn't blame friends at all.

2. Abomination! I said professional marriage counseling, not that righteousness bullsheet people mistake for marriage counselling.

3. At least you admit to yourself that the handwriting was always on the wall, only you chose to ignore it then. Glad to know you are willing to be more cautious next time. And I wish you the best of luck, too.

QuinModah:
But let this be a lesson to the men that if you're too nice/kind this is always how they end up treating you.

Nonsense! What about her too nice/kind to him when he was down on his luck?