₦airaland Forum

ufotunang:
➜..why don't the law in UK and abroad protect men from their wife maltreatment and
➜ rude behavior towards their husbands
➜ and making men homeless

The law equally protects men from physical and mental assaults in marriage.

2. Rudeness is not against the law.

3. Are the women to blame or the men? The Law decides in each case.

OlawaleBammie:
According to ... and saphiere, he offended the wife 27years ago...I knew about the story sef. Good for him

So, na lie lie levels you dey now? I no blame you... na internet wey dey allow you knuckleheads tell these ridiculous tales I go blame.

efficiencie:
➜Are you married? If yes, is this how you relate with your spouse?

Partnership marriage is nothing like your submission marriage.

Firstcitizen:
➜Lol, is it cheap data or the very the poor education system in Nigeria I should blame for this?

Sure, sure! It seems a tad convenient to completely ignore the fact that Ghana is also battling its own criminal gangs because you wish to magnify the gang problems in the UK, all in some weird bid to win this one, abi?

Firstcitizen:
➜Like seriously are you just commenting due to cheap data or plain clueless. Knife crime here is an epidemic with empirical data freely available to see with cheap data . Mention just one place where Ghana has the same problem with evidence. People just come online and leave their brains under the mat.

Oh wow.... life in Ghana is very safe, right? No gangsters, no terrorist groups, no cartels to be found in that country, abi? 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄

drehdinho:
➜Why would the pastor not allow her tell her own side of the story? Does that suggest the woman is guilty?

Control.... Pastors/Imams/Husbands.... competing for control over the Nigerian woman.

efficiencie:
➜Well many are now embracing singleness after their divorce. The days of remarriage is drawing to a close. More and more men and women who went into marriage thinking it was all bliss are now finding out that they should have remained single.

I disagree! Remarriage is probably going to become the new norm with so many divorced individuals out there. My hope is, rather, that many of the divorced now would seek healing for their emotional burdens before heading back onto the dating scene.

Firstcitizen:
➜Seems you have no clue about the case. He is placed in a boarding school far away from the nutrients that nuture his inclination to knife wielding culture here in the UK. Please get facts about a case before running to comment next time.

You are not serious at all. So, there are no knife-wielding cultures in Ghana where the boarding school is located? 😂😂😂😂😂

Firstcitizen:
➜Do not be too quick to judge. Follow the story. That boy in Ghana may have saved one of your distant relative's son in London from being stabbed to death in a few years time.

While we conveniently ignore all of the people in Ghana who have maybe fallen victim to child gangsters during that same time, abi?

KillahPriest:
➜even when they're forced to take such decisions after seeing signs of gang influence in their child ?
➜ Prevention is better than cure or being a future statistics in our culture

. Forced to abandon the child alone in a third-world country? Come on, now!

2. Which aspect of what they did is considered prevention?

AerialMapper:
➜The UK system empowers nonsense. A subservient woman while in Nigeria will travel with her husband to UK, mingle with other Nigerian women who will teach her nonsense and next thing she goes home realizing she has rights she never had in Nigeria. She can call the authorities and have the man leave the house even with false claims of abuse.
I know of a silly woman who a man brought to the UK. He has worked for years, paying his mortgage and all. She comes and has him thrown out and she takes possession of the house..just like that. Children are not left out. They are taught in school that you cannot be beaten so they develop sharp tongues.
➜ Parents book holidays to Nigeria just to give their kids correct beating from accumulated misbehaviour. Men...use your head when relocating!

IF we ask you for the case number on this particular story you dey tell now, you no go fit provide am make we do our own investigation, abi?

2. Which parents? Make una stop all of this ridiculous storytelling... e don too much!

AngelahFlo:
➜Yeah Yeah You see it takes repentant heart to merit forgiveness otherwise that person is just playing on your emotions.

Wetin concern merit with any of this? Forgiveness is entirely for the sake of my own mental health as I said.

Belurved1:
➜For him at that tender age hired a lawyer to challenge his parent's decision means the boy is well connected both home and abroad. At this junction the Parent have to beg him, he can't be stopped. Omo oran le bi o.

The boy is smart, not small ooo! Imagine, at the age of 14, he already knows his way around the courts and his rights... I don't understand at all. Having many more kids who are that smart is what I call meaningful empowerment.

nedekid:
➜Bros, sometimes when you see a child is going rouge due to his environment a change of environs may be necessary. I will give you two examples. My late kid sister (God bless her soul) back then in naija just after secondary school was going rouge, there was this boy trying to derail her, she will drive out to go meet him, he will hang around the street looking for her. Her studies was failing etc. Next thing we expected to hear was "belle" etc. Dad (bless his soul) flew her out to the UK, put her in school, omo, she made a 2.1, did her masters and went on to build a good career, before relocating to naija.
Another was when my boy got into the babcock secondary school, boarding. There was this naija British boy similar to the story in question, his family deceived him and sent him to naija, took him to the school and kept him there, infact there were other kids like him from all over the world. Story was that the boy had gone heywire in the Uk and would end up a nuisance to society. Ofcourse the parents could not discipline him over there in uk. Holidays when kids will go home the boy and others like him will remain in the school or stay with relatives.
Guess what, today that boy finished from the primary school, entered the university and in his final year studying engineering. A proper young man. He will return to the UK likely advance his studies, leaving behind socially all those his peers in the run down community he grew up in the UK.
Sometimes parents abroad have to take drastic decisions to streighten up their kids to make them proper people.

If a child needs to be relocated, then the entire family should have to for the sake of the child. Abandoning a child in a remote location in a third-world country, away from the rest of the family, is not an answer. If it were, it would not only be popularly recommended but also considered by the courts, something it isn't.

kangminhyuksho:
➜I have tried to respond 2 different times but nairaland keeps deleting it oh well me I don't know what to do again o

IT happens to be several times each day too. I simply keep trying to repost, making bits of changes here and there to my post, in hopes of appeasing the bots in the end.

tunjijones:
➜No matter what story the woman have to tell, its totally unacceptable to send your 62 yrs old husband outta the house in a strange land.

Stop foaming in the mouth, abeg! He claims he was married for 28 years. Was he married to himself all that time? You need to hear the other side of the story, maybe to help you better understand why even a 62-year-old man is not too old for the consequences of his past actions.

AngelahFlo:
➜Thanks for your opinion. Indeed true forgiveness is a choice but I still have a little...not so agreeing with the forgetting part yet I agree with your contribution 100%. Can you share an experience where you've had to forgive someone for a wrong done to you. How did you feel after you forgave the person?

I simply don't hold grudges because they are not worth the mental stress. If a person harms or hurts me, I pursue redress where possible and let go of all other issues. In many cases, I also choose to ignore the individual who harmed or hurt me... to avoid a repeat, particularly if the person remains unrepentant, and I move on from there, respecting that person's right to remain an arsehole.

tiswell:
➜Can you please write in your native dialect next time. We are tired,Abasi mbok!

Stop attention wh00ring abeg! If you don't understand what is stated, move on to that which you are mentally able to grasp.

UnknownQueen:
➜Married but living like flat mates in the home, ladies in all u do, don't marry a narcissist, there's a difference between a man who wants respect and submission and a narcissist who is there to frustrated life outta u.....there's a thin line btw these two but I tell u for free, Nigerian men are freaking narcissists

This is 2025! Avoid men who seek submission in marriage altogether and embrace a more equal partnership so you can have someone who respects what you bring to the table as much as you respect his share.

Ashirioluwa:
➜I agreed with you that not everyone is supposed to be a parent, but when the good ones see their children heading in the wrong direction,
➜ they will do everything in their power to correct the problem, which may include relocating their kids if necessary to curb their association with gangs.

Abandoning your child in a third world country while you remain in an advanced clime, enjoying basic amenities and the lot, does not scream good parenting.

2. There are lots of gangs in Ghana as well, and many of the kids down there are hooked on those. So, how exactly does abandoning your child in a foreign land with no parents around help curb bad behaviour? I am reminded of how parents used to send their kids to boarding school back in the days as a way of reforming them, when I was not much younger, oblivious to the fact that many of these kids start there, enrolling in some of the worst gangs and cults out there.

dfrost:
➜Building a future with a man in his 70s already? Even insurance orgs won't even touch a 60 yo with a long pole

Was the man forced to engage the woman at gunpoint or something? This excuse of yours does not fly at all. The woman marry bullsheet abeg!

PwincessRukky:
➜Emotional abuse, silent treatment and lack of communication were what I faced. I sought a divorce, and I got it.

Please get mental health counseling if you need am, too, so you can better spot those monsters from afar next time.

yeyebrity:
➜This is why you think you have a beautiful marriage. Most people whose partners are not always with them think this way too , until they start staying together 247. That is when you will know the real person you are married too.

That is some unadulterated truth right there, abeg! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

JuanDeDios:
➜^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ .

Kids can be had outside of a marriage, so the same set of sacrifices are necessarily when pursuing that. These sacrifices are not unique to married couples.

dfrost:
➜He didn't stop her from remarrying, did he? Adults can do whater they like, no one is stopping her. Her happiness, her expense.

Stop reposting this ridiculous nonsense of a retort. Again, she married bullsheet! No one who truly loves anyone would bar them from remarrying freely after they are gone.

She did not kill him. So, penalizing her for wanting to move on after he is gone is gross wickedness, especially after all the years they spent together building a family together.

Taich:
➜She wasn’t barred from remarrying!! She can remarry but the property given to her will be returned to her husband’s family if she wishes to do so. Why the uproar? She can simply move out of the house and find love elsewhere.

Again, she married bullsheet! No one who truly loves anyone would bar them from remarrying freely after they are gone.

JuanDeDios:
➜Fair point. Maybe its for a higher purpose - as defined by the marrier. For example, you want kids and you feel that is best done within marriage. So you make sacrifices to get what you want.

Parents for sure have to make sacrifices for the good of their kids. However, not all parents are in marriages; therefore, sacrifices made towards the having and raising of one's kids aren't really considered marital orientation, are they?

agadam:
➜We Singles are afraid of getting married to the wrong one.

Please seek the help of a professional mental health psychiatrist to guide you through overcoming those fears of yours. Yes, marriage isn't do or die, but one does not need to approach it with fear, as there are ways out of bad ones and opportunities for one to grow in or out of it.

Goo0dHardDick:
➜As a young man, Look for a virgin and Marry, you're not wiser than God who looked for a virgin to birth his son

Correction, Christianity(a religion created by the Romans for political purposes) is the one that sold you all on the story about virgins. The writings in the book instead use the term virgin to refer broadly to unmarried women.

If you feel, like much of Christianity, that virginity has to do with purity, then what you are inadvertently indicating is that by having a dick, you are impure. There is nothing in the book that suggests merging the impure with that which is pure results in wholeness or purity. Rather, it is the opposite.

atobs4real:
Marriage is a sacrifice bit don't sacrifice yourself sha

Sacrifice of what and for what, abeg? Marriage is sold as a better alternative than singledom for those who are not satisfied with singledom... Am I wrong? If you are going to drone on and on about sacrifice this and that in marriage, why not just remain single, and enjoy it without all the supposed sacrifices?

olawaleatanda:
He got fired from work for slapping his boss wife

If say I be the boss's wife, on top the firing, I go make sure the man is charged and made to pay for damages— physical and psychological —for the assault. By the time, him eye open well-well, no be person go tell am say anger issue is not something a sensible adult should throw around as an excuse for what is a lack of discipline.🤔

Tell your friend to at least count his stars that he is not in jail at the same time.

jaksmillioniar:
nairaland kip banning me. If I chat am banned

It happens to all of us. You simply contact the mods when banned, remembering to forward the text that was banned, and then, after about an hour or two, you will be unbanned, provided you did not break any actual rules. After that, continue to post .... wash, rinse, and repeat.