₦airaland Forum

boom99:
➜ Hmmm...sometimes it's not the guys fault ooo. A scenario where the guy asked for account to no of the school to pay school fees the lady got angry and refused to pick calls saying the guy isn't ready yet( she wants the money in her account

The man no know where the lady dey live or where her mama and papa dey live or where the court dey wey him go go report her for not paying attention to his children who are registered under his name too— assuming they were formally a married couple?

stuffs2002:
This is a big fat lie. Most fathers want to be in children's lives but the bitter ex-wife will do everything within their power to keep the children away from the father as a way to punish the father.
Most ex-wives will even poison and brainwash the kids into hating their dads

. Do these fathers in turn abandon the children?

stuffs2002:
➜your inability to comprehend a simple scenario is totally your fault because you failed to see where the fellow drove all the way from Ibadan to Lagos and was still denied access to the child.

I really don't understand how you people think at all. Your friend drove from Ibadan to Lagos to see the kid, only to be denied visitation; should he completely abandon the child? Is that really how your brain works?

DarkJeddi:
➜You mean the same Mothers that makes a Man's life a living h£ll ,because he wants to be in his children's lives until he gives up for his mental health?

Does the man really desire to be with the children or does he use the woman as an excuse to shirk his responsibilities towards the children?

damoladeji:
➜I have a contrary opinion to yours. What about in situations some men evict their kids from home to their mothers just because their wives hurt them. Should children be made to pay for the sins of their mothers

In Nigeria, the average man sees the woman and her sins tied with the children, though. So, when a woman has a falling out with her man, traditionally, the man is allowed to chase the woman and her children back to her parents.

DarkJeddi:
➜Why should a man's life be turned into a living hell because he wants to be in his children's lives?
➜ At which point does he say enough! and prioritise his mental health?
➜ Abi his own wellbeing doesn't matter?

What worries me more is the fact that you pretend it is well within bounds to procreate while at the same time live as though those children don't even exist.

2. Prioritize a man's mental health and well-being over that of the children he has with the woman he now seems at loggerheads with?

3. Prioritize a man's well-being over that of his child?

ugodson:
✓ Would you advice your brother to pay the school fees to his ex or directly to the school?

Either, depending on the situation. As along as I know the children live with her and are catered for by her, why not? The courts are there for me to fight whatever issue I may have with her but there is absolutely no reason why I should abandon my children's needs for or because of any human.

ugodson:
✓ Why trying to twist things. Can't i know the school i will be paying for? When i say vacation i mean holidays am not out if the country

Read your very own words, abeg!

ugodson:
Samantha 125 is very correct. Am experiencing this currently she took my kids along with her , i called and called if i could be paying school fees no responses, she called years later asking for school which i told her i dont have a problem with it i will pay school fees but Firstly i need to know the school they attend a d secondly the kids will be spending long vacation with me. Please Nairaland is that too much to ask? Ever since then no reply.
Why will i be paying for school i dont know about later she can be telling the kids she is the one paying

No be you write am?

If the woman refuses, for instance to allow you this long vacation or holiday, or whatever it is, with the kids, will you still pay for their school fees? Your ending question there to us suggests it won't happen. 🤔

Ofekongsk:
Well some men neglect the kids so that the mother go feel am

It is, for them, a chance to get back at the mothers without even an ounce of consideration as to how to children would feel, right?

ugodson:
✓ Samantha 125 is very correct. Am experiencing this currently she took my kids along with her , i called and called if i could be paying school fees no responses, she called years later asking for school which i told her i dont have a problem with it i will pay school fees but Firstly i need to know the school they attend a d secondly the kids will be spending long vacation with me. Please Nairaland is that too much to ask? Ever since then no reply.
✓ Why will i be paying for school i dont know about later she can be telling the kids she is the one paying

So, the kids only exist to you if she will allow them spend long vacation with you, otherwise they might not exist to you?

2. Ah, there is it! Another directly admission!

Factcheck0001:
so for your mind u think I get strength to argue with someone like u?

I stated a plain fact, you dey talk argue...to what end?

[quote author= post=135702666]Apart from Catholic and Anglican, others are business centers.[/quote]Those ones are global business centers that is why their footprints seem small to you. Most of the corporate models used in the running if businesses and franchises even today come from models used by the Catholic and then the Anglican organizations. 🙄🙄🙄

[quote author=Expanse2020 post=135708001✓ Keep deceiving yourself when you know down there it's a business center you are running[/quote]That you have yet to realize that even your Islamic regimes are nothing but political business centers is what floors me at this point You keep running from thread to thread trying to laugh at the other religion not realizing that your own is exactly the same ...in that it is just a different side of the same religious coin. That is the shame of your comments. 😩😩😩

APCheat:
Satan will give you money, but with short life.

So, na your God give IBB, and all the other criminal politicians in Nigeria, many of whom have been draining the Nigerian economy dry since the 60s/70s? Una formulae no dey ever work when put up against reality. You know why? It has to do with the fact that your delusions are built in nothing but pure unadulterated lies! 😩😩😩

AngelahFlo:
✓ I've shared a post on forgiveness on this forum but I'm being led to share it again with more insight.
I'll start with a question. What is forgiveness or more directly what does it mean to forgive? This is one question that seems easy to answer until you experience it. That's when you're hit with the raw truth. I've heard a lot of people say "I can forgive but I'll never forget." They fail to realize that it's impossible to forgive without forgetting. The two are like a snail and it's shell; where one goes, the other follows. As long as you still keep the hurt in your memory, you've not really forgiven the offender.
✓ To forgive is to blot out of your mind and consciousness every record of wrong incurred by an offender to you and my dear this ain't an easy thing to do.

1. I am sorry... What the heck is the meaning of this? First of all, where do you get this ridiculous notion that to forgive is to forget? Do you will your mind to forget the crime that was committed by the offending person against you? Do humans even have the ability to consciously erase the memory of an event that not only left you with some possible trauma attached? What makes you think that letting go of the trauma associated with the event means letting go of the memory entirely --- forgetting? 😩😩

2. Make una dey try deeply reason these ideas una dey hold so. How person go experience a possibly traumatic event only to then erase that memory --- by magic --- in the name of forgiving the perpetrator? Doesn't that leave that victim open to being assaulted in exactly the same way in the future? What do they say...fool me once shame on me..fool me twice, I be ogbonge Mumu be that. 🤔

fredoooooo:
✓ This one loud abeg
The problemtodat is that many people attach religion and faith to to succes. They wait for miracle to happen insead of doing rhe right thing to be successful in life .

43 years from now, he would be ready to try Islam or Buddhism next.😁

Ikukuudo:
Na mumu dey worry this one

Mumu dey worry am because he finally realized that he has been worshipping the Christian god(s) in vain?🤔

22jumpstreet:
✓ So in my analysis he scored about 38/100.
That does not sound like somebody who came to fulfill the scripture or somebody who is perfect.
What did he get in your own scoring .?

In following the Word of YHWH, God of Israel, though, His Law was absolute, implying that it was not possible for a man to partially uphold or partially violate any of His laws — it's all or nothing. But I see here that in your scorings, you take the liberty to partially process the carrying out of each law based on your ideas certifying that your judgement has little or nothing to do with a concern for the Law of YHWH —clearly, YHWH is a joke to you—, but more to do with a deep-seated issue you have with the person of Jesus Christ of Israel. To what end, though?

22jumpstreet:
✓ In so many places, he did say God sent him to come and give his life for many. Which is a blatant lie as God hates human sacrifice.
✓ He is bearing false witness against God. God already gave a solution to the problem of sin and it did not involve human sacrifice. For that he scores 2/10.

You claim that in so many places, Jesus Christ of Israel claimed that the YHWH of Israel sent Him to give His life for many. Can you please provide us with at least two or three of these places so we can try to understand the evidence that you, here, convict Him with? 🤔

2. Interesting claim since it is hard to argue against anyone whose ideas regarding YHWH of Israel begin and end with the 10 commandments. So, I won't even bother, but wait for the referencing for the first part. 🤔

22jumpstreet:
✓ It is only in this one he scores maximum points. There is no evidence in any of the gospel that he coveted anything that belongs to his neighbors. He was a wanderer...so he gets 10/10.

Even though the story instead has him sending them to get the donkey, with a message if asked why they were taking it, your biased conclusion is instead that he stole it all this in order to condemn him for a crime he is never in fact reported to have committed, not by the one who owned the donkey or those around? ,,🙄😩😩

22jumpstreet:
✓ There is a story that is found only In the gospel of John. It concerns a woman he meat at the well and promised to give living water. You can agree or disagree with me, living water is an euphemism for "male sperm/or seed". That is the only plausible deduction given the woman has been with 5 different men (probably looking for a child) and the passage continues that he spent some days in the town most likely in the woman's house. He scores 2/10
well, he did send his disciples to take somebody's donkey. That is stealing . He scores 2/10.
In so many places, he did say God sent him to come and give his life for many. Which is a blatant lie as God hates human sacrifice. He is bearing false witness against God. God already gave a solution to the problem of sin and it did not involve human sacrifice. For that he scores 2/10.

This is the height of all desperation, abeg! No be brain fart dem dey call this? 😩😩😩

The law you quoted clearly states one is forbidden from committing adultery -- sexual acts with a married individual one is not currently married to. What evidence do you have that Jesus Christ of Israel literally had sex with a married woman? 🙄🙄🙄

22jumpstreet:
✓ He did not kill anyone persay, but telling people God sent you on a suicide mission is taking it too far. He gets 7/10

According to the same you, Jesus Christ of Israel did not murder anyone, meaning He can't then be judged by that very law. Yet, you took it upon yourself to judge him as guilty anyways? This here is another one of the many reasons why I avoid directly interacting with you religious bots. You are neither here nor there, almost all of the times. It is so infuriating. 😩😩😩

22jumpstreet:
✓ His mother and brothers came to see him when they heard he was becoming a bit of a Looney, he totally blew them away. Not a good behavior from somebody who claimed he came to fulfill the law.
I will score him 0/10

Wait a second ...honoring of one's parent involves not blowing them off? Are you joking?😳😳😳

Where does this explaination of yours for the law come from? Provide reference, please.

22jumpstreet:
✓Epic fail on this one. The commandments is clear and he broke it to peaces l....I will score him 1/10

Where is your evidence that He broke this law?

22jumpstreet:
✓ He does not even know the name of the true God. He kept using generic terms like God, father and Lord. Who knows maybe he is referring to Zeus or Poseidon
I will score him 8 /10

The law clearly says not to misuse the name of the Lord, your God. You provide no evidence of actual misuse of the name itself but still went ahead to condemn Him against the very details of the law He obviously did not violate as you have no evidence for such taking place. Are you certain you are alright up there?

22jumpstreet:
✓ By making himself the centre of worship and drawing people away from worshipping their creator, he has made himself God. Though some of his utterances suggest such. I will score him 5/10

Again, I disagree with your judgment as what seems apparent is a literal refusal, on your part, to acknowledge what is in fact written in order that you may impose in its place what is clearly a personal interpretation of your urs-- a delusion --- in its place. 😒

2. The Law you quoted States one is not to make for oneself ... Jesus Christ of Israel did not make any image for himself --his personal use. What He made abundantly clear to His followers was that He worshipped the one and only God in the land of Israel in the land of Canaan, a nation which existed at that point in time. He never changed His mind regarding that fact of His declaring His Word as Everlasting too. My question to you is this. Why the dishonesty? 🤔

Even though I am fully aware that you quote ignorant here --- and there are about 613 statutes declare as part and parcel of same Law which you quote from, I will, for the sake of boredom, choose to overlook this time.

22jumpstreet:
1. Here's a summary of the Ten Commandments:

By misleading the people to approach God through him, he fails woefully in this point. Thought he, himself went to God directly. So I will score him 3/10

I disagree! 🤔

The law you quoted clearly says, "You shall have no other gods...", not the people or others because . Clearly, you are not being honest with this judgement here. 🤔

22jumpstreet:
✓...so my question to him was let us score Jesus based on the 10 commandments as see if he is going to score 100% based on what we know about him. According to my scoring he did not get up to 60%. And I was very generous with my scoring.
So I am bringing the same question here. Let us score him and see how he performed..
Thanks.

I am so fking bored right now so I will bite for now... currently waiting on movers. 😩😩😩

So, according to you, Jesus Christ failed on 40% of the 10 commandments. Which 4 did he fail to uphold? 🤔

Expanse2020:
The rate people were moving from Christianity to others religion is alarming...I think most have seen Christianity as business center..

But.... Islam is also a business center only it is more political than Christianity as Muslims would rather dominate countries than share it with anyone else. So, people moving from my religious system to another is not really of meaning they are pretty much all different sides of the same useless coin that is religion. 🤔🤔🤔

Factcheck0001:
✓ it's not like u think
My friend is in d same scenario u described now but he was forced to abandon the child.
The couple had issues as usual n they went their separate ways, the court ordered that the man should pay child support every month n should always b allowed to see his child anytime he wishes.
The guy is always paying money every month on a steady but 4 good time he drove from Ibadan to Lagos to go see the child n he was denied accesS
Imagine how annoying that would b? He had to stop paying n stop going to visit the child.
✓ So will u tell me it's d guys fault?

From what you described, your friend was not forced but chose the abandon the children, though.

2. We don't know whose fault it is but we know from your post that you friend decided, of his own, that abandoning the children altogether was in HIS BEST INTEREST --- irrespective or the interest of the children in question.

janetbassey:
✓ He does not sound cruel. Stop judging people based on their first impression.
He could be a way better man than you are. 😐

A person who relishes in inflicting pain of rejection on others does not sound cruel? Yet, I don't see you volunteering your sister or daughter to him🙄🙄🙄

Pasquale212:
My brother this is what I'm facing presently. When people noticed that you are kind, they will want to take that advantage to use you. I don't just know why people are so wicked and bad to their fellow beings .
✓ This trait is also in my gene being kind to manipulative people,who won't go extra miles for me.

Being kind is no excuse for being Stewpid, though. There is no law against people asking for help. So, you should instead ask yourself why you let people take advantage of you as you are to blame for being Stewpid.

2. Stewpidity is in your gene? But it is a learned behavior and can be unlearned if and when you're ready to be rid of it. 😳🤔🤔