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RevenuesBoost:
➜No one said a person was born selfish. Most times, words aren't just words, you have to think a little deeper. "She's been selfish from birth": Meaning, she wasn't taught how to give or she didn't like giving from childhood. It's a child that knows the benefits of giving that would gladly give. If not, don't stress! It's how you train a child that determines how she will be in the society.
➜ The fact is, children learn from their parents and elderly people around them. So like I said, she inculcated this character from childhood and it will be very hard for her to change.

1. I am afraid you have yet to see the world, hence the reason you make such a claim still. A serial killer could have the most decent individual as his child. While the most wonderful man or woman out there could have the world's biggest arsehole for a child. These things aren't as templated as you make them seem.

Nobody is born selfish from birth. That is a fact. Rather, people learn these behaviors from their environment, interactions, experiences, and to some extent, nurture.

2. Children, indeed, learn from their parents. But that encoding is not fixed. There are many examples in the world today of children who grew up to be nothing like their parents.

papyjaypaul:
➜Be a good person. Stop all these. A poster above said it. A good man can marry a bad wife too so stop sermomizing us on the sexes as if it's only men that go bad. There are bad and good men and women. Just be a good person.

I see that contained message went straight over your head there.

DEROX:
➜And who told you the other non simps don't enjoy life, They have peace and if they are rich they also can afford dream cars they did drive alone no stress but happiness ☺️, while the other mumu man will be having high BP

Oh, I see! They can afford dream cars through suffering much work, i.e., stress, abi? The same work that the mumu man equally engage in, right? Only, in this case, the mumu men don't stop at making money but also having romantic relationships — engaging with other humans?

correctguy101:
➜Some old ancestors will even reduce their age to chase younger girls... And when the younger woman points at their age... Old ancestors will be like: " C'mon gurl, I'm not that old o... I can "handu" u wehweh...
Not me though... I'm not that old too

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Bubu4Sea:
➜God introduced Himself as the God of Abraham, Isaac and Jacob to Moses..... God maintains His covenant to the Abraham, Isaac & Jacob and their Children...If your book does not mention this introduction and this covenant, then your religion is fake This explains why you hate those who their God is the God of Abraham, the God of Isaac, and the God of Jacob

I hate the way you relgiius folks almost always fail at using your brains. 😶😶😶😶

He IS the God of Abraham, Isaac, & Jacob (implies⟹) that He IS NOT the God of those not descended from the bloodline of Abraham, Isaac, & Jacob.
Even if you are descended from Abraham, or Isaac, so long as you are not also descended from Jacob himself, He is not your God.

What that means is, regardless of your religion, delusions or ideas, if you are not born from your mother's womb as a blood descendant of Abraham, Isaac & Jacob, He is not your God. 😏

Bubu4Sea:
➜Jesus gave us a way into the divine, so through Jesus He becomes our God too.
➜😃 That's why Jesus came. Rejecting Jesus means automatic condemnation.

1. Where in the words of Jesus Christ of Israel do you get this conclusion of yours from?

2. How could the same man who declared that His Father only sent Him to the bloodline of Jacob be said to have offered you, a non-Israelite, this which you claim?

atoliman:
➜Just because all your close padi or pals or boys or girls are all married, do not rush into marriage. It is more reasonable to stay single or break up with an unreliable fiance than to marry your future enemy disguise as a husband or wife.

More importantly, people should prioritize personal development— mental, emotional, and social intelligence— and improvement over romantic relationships a lot more. There are way too many damaged individuals out there trying to use relationships as a means to fix the damage from their pasts. It never works. 😐😐😐😐😐

EmperorIsaac:
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You label him a SIMP here. And claim woman worship non-SIMPS. But the moment that, for lack of a better term, SIMP steps outside, he will flaunt the girl as his woman in front of the many so-called non-SIMPs who have no women/relationships unless you date each other, that is. Even the men behind him at the checkout no say the SIMP still has the woman. So?

EmperorIsaac:
➜Women punish simps with reckless abandon...they worship non-simps! Don't pity him, he has sold her his dignity!

The guy you are calling a simp is seen going back with the woman he argued with at Walmart, and will probably continue giving her $2000 for many months to come.

after4:
➜Look at the time and energy a weak man took to defend foolishness. Boy, go ahead and accept a cheating woman, buy her a gift and maybe kiss her foot. At the end, we accept the love we think we deserve Simpleton

Our ancestors did exactly the same thing he is doing now. That is why most Nigerian men believe to this day, to their very own detriment, mind you, that women are to endure male cheating in a relationship.

richie240:
➜Hehehehehe......the only time you can hear a woman reason logically in situations such as this is when her married son/brother is involved. Every thing she had stood for will be reversed sharperlly. Why do you think mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law don't get along in almost all cases? It's because she fears the d-i-L will put her son thru the same hell she herself put all the men in her life through. As the saying goes, "it's only a thief that best knows how to catch a thief". I won't go back-and-forth with you. When your son marry na day time your aiz go clear.

Spare me the bullsheet story telling— illogical cho cho cho! Again, This is 2025, stop telling these obvious lies for check likes! Science has already proven that women are not born selfish by nature, nor are they rewarded by their brains when they attempt selfishness. Instead, it is the male brain that rewards selfishness.

https://www.today.com/health/brain-rewards-women-being-nicer-men-being-selfish-t117305

lowkeybahdguy:
Bro to bro.. All women are selfish. Women do not give unconditionally. Even world acclaimed mothers. Pray to never see proof of this statement.

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chibuikejohn:
Its not about wrong or right woman, women are naturally selfish in nature when it comes to their man. once she opens her legs for you she feels she has repaid any gesture. we are always on our own which is why you must save for days like this.

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RevenuesBoost:
➜She's been selfish from birth. A woman that's a giver will gladly help

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richie240:
You can give ur woman money so long as you don't expect her to reciprocate your kind gesture, so that you don't get disappointed.Women by nature are very very selfish. The only being a woman loves unconditionally is her children. She can tell her husband she doesn't have $1 but she can go to d ends of the earth to borrow $1 million for her son.
Women have been conditioned to believe that their responsibility belongs to their husbands and not the other way round. If u as a man is interested in "returns on investment", then give to your male friends. They won't disappoint you in the day of trouble. Give only what you can afford to dash to a woman so as to avoid stories that touch like the man in this story.

This is 2025, stop telling these obvious lies for check likes! Science has already proven that women are not born selfish by nature, nor are they rewarded by their brains when they attempt selfishness. Instead, it is the male brain that rewards selfishness.

https://www.today.com/health/brain-rewards-women-being-nicer-men-being-selfish-t117305

Mekuseh11:
➜Time and time over it keeps happening, Men cannot handle a cheating woman despite the knowledge that a large percentage of women cheat.The average man is more concerned about ego instead of how he's been treated. Do I think cheating is bad? Definitely. Do I encourage cheating women? No
This article is focused on paying attention and receiving the best of affection from women, rather than finding solace in exclusive loyalty which is very rare. In the context of this conversation( a good girlfriend) is someone who puts you first, cooks and cares for you, motivates and assists you in a way that the average girl doesn't. Now the question beckons, why should I throw all of these attributes and genuine affection away because of who a woman bleeps or makes out with? Reality is that the average woman cheats and somehow most Men think theirs is a Saint. So whose babe are other men fucking?!! Isn't it laughable and quite delusional. Men need to realize that only in marriage should cheating be a major deal breaker in my opinion. I'd rather stick to someone that treats me well than choosing a supposed loyal woman who most times is just hiding her shenanigans.
➜ The truth is women love freedom and most of them get swarmed with horniness induced compliments and gifts by so many men every time which makes it difficult to stick to one Man. I think the average Man still finds it difficult to believe women are actually polygamous in nature and it's not gender based. By all means a cheating woman who doesn't treat you well should be thrown out and shown the exit door, but I still think Men need to leverage on the fact that getting good treatment from a woman should be placed above cheating in a relationship ( marriage apart).
➜ A woman that cooks, cleans, is feminine, grateful, kind , submissive and caring is a rare gem and I could careless if she bleeps another Man as long as she treats me well according to my standards. This is not gender bias, I'm concerned about Man's inability to leverage on what is beneficial instead of satisfying his ego. Lastly you don't have to marry a cheating girlfriend ( I have my personal opinion on this), but don't throw away all the good attributes on the ground of her cheating especially if she's very caring and loving.

This reminds me of the many bullsheet arguments— traditional beliefs— held supposedly sane individuals during the time of our ancestors(even to this day) to normalize male cheating relationships and marriage. Today, we see many men going as far as the debauchery has come... men cheating with the wives and girlfriends of their own best friends and women pushing the consequences of all of that cheating— on that cheating on other men. It is amazing!

2. Can't cheating be considered a nullification of the contract between two people in a relationship? If not, then fine. However, if it does, isn't a new relationship contract needed for the two to continue on?

3. So, the men you direct your case to are ruled by their egos, not that they have healthy self-esteem, to begin with? Ok now!

This story gave person a headache.

DrAda:
I find it interesting that he is announcing to the entire world that he gave her 2000 dollars last week. Looks manipulative to me.
➜ Nevertheless, if she had the money, the least she could have done was to help pay for the groceries. It's only ten dollars.

That was his intention, hence the reason why the other guy didn't think to comment at all.

2. You don't have that friend who always seems to need a quick $5 or $10 from you but never remembers to pay you back?

owobokiri:
➜Could be they're buying stuff for their baby

Imagine ooo!

torqque7:
➜He has known the type of woman she is for a long time,and yet he still pampers her?That makes him a simp,
➜ why is he taking her out and spending on her even when he knows she doesn't give a flying fvkc about him or what he thinks?

Bullsheet! What part of the write-up tells you he pampers her? The part that he conveniently refused to reveal the details of how the money he paid is meant to be used? Or the part where he mentioned that the woman is meant to get the $10 to give him, is to come from? Or the part where he revealed how he has never failed in paying her back even $10 owed her before this point?

2. How is going to Walmart with her the same as taking her out?

Ah, Ah! Why do you lot constantly allow your private insecurities to spill over into every comment you make? Na wah!

Starz825:
I wonder why some women shout: disrespect about men of which na dem dey disrespect man pass

She is telling you her father's advice to women(not men)is that they endure suffering and disrespect in the name of marriage. Her claim is that her father is the one doing the shouting at women(not men).

henrycloud:
why give out more that you have?

It could have been rent money or money that was used to pay back bills, or a monthly financial obligation, or money he owed her. He conveniently didn't reveal what the money he gave her was for since his intention seems to be to garner pity from all the gullible folks around listening.

SouthSouth1914:
➜Yet you are unable to leave your childish skin.

Are you sure you are OK?🤔

Zanzibar1:
Generally women don't believe in helping men. Naa men Try help and impress them. Try not to fall short of funds o

Stop spewing bullsheet!

ricson11:
➜A heated exchange broke out at a store after a man asked his child’s mother for a $10 loan when he came up short at checkout. Tension rose quickly as he reminded her, “I gave you $2,000 last week, and you can’t spot me $10 now?”

I am with the other guy... I can't say anything since I would need more details to do so. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

tfrancis:
➜Psalms 20:7 says "Some trust in chariots, and some in horses: but we will remember the name of the LORD our GOD. They are brought down and fallen: but we are risen, and stand upright."
When you put your trust in God and only God, you will rise and stand upright no matter the confrontations but others who doesn't, like your enemies will be brought down and fallen for your sake. This is the heritage of the children of God.
Put your trust in God alone. SHALOM!

That book and the promises you quote clearly apply only to the descendants of Israel when they put their trust in the God of their ancestors. If you would open your eyes to reality as it is around you, you would see that your Christians instead live a life of suffering and endurance for all the trust they pretend they put in the God of the Israelites. I mean, this has been the fact for centuries.

Prettyangelng:
➜Keeping your wife forever. Although it is a known fact that men are sexual beings while women are romantical and emotional beings. This is why your gesture makes more meaning to a woman than your action. To keep a woman forever. Treat her as weak. Even though she is strong but even the bible says treat them as weak. ...AS WEAK. 1st Peter 3:7. Even if she can open that door, open it for her, you know she can carry that load but carry it for her. Treat them softly and they will never leave you. They respond to romantic gestures more than sexual actions. How you present that gift to them is more important than the gift to them. So be creative in your show of love. They like money but I tell you if you are not romantic and sweet to them they will take your money and give to some man outside that treats them better. Love your wife like a professional nurse would nurse a patient. Most times just decide to bathe her, feed her, cook for her.

You religious nutjobs are indeed the same breed as the traditional eejits wey full everywhere for Nigeria. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Mistersolar:
➜alaye,yes no city where such dont happen, but its very minimal n ilorin compare to other states cities, people just cite ilorin because its a religious city... i stayed there from 2011 to 2015.. i attended unilorin

. Which other city does this happen in where the law says one thing while the people assert their own ideas instead in public space, abeg?

sammiewrite:
➜For your point 1, it is not my idea. Those were the words of your fellow gender whose posts was referenced, which I simply replied to. In the post, she stated she will not seek marital advice from a pastor because pastors usually advice women to tolerate suffering and disrespect. And my reply was off that premise, that it is only your gender who believes and can voice the opinion that it is only women who are suffering and enduring disperect in marriages. You lots believe that as far as a relationship between a man and woman, the man is automatically the aggressor or culprit, while the woman is a gentle angel that cannot lie or hurt a fly. For most men, we believe within our ranks, there are the good, the bad, and the ugly.
➜ For your point 2, I have been around here for sometimes now and I know you like unnecessary arguments and drawing silly conclusions to suit your own agenda, which is fine. But, I didn't say or mean any of what you highlighted. You may want to go back and read my last post that you quoted.

You don't seem to have comprehended the post at all, do you?

According to the OP, pastors(implying her father, a male, and sometimes even the women among them) advise women(not men) to endure suffering and disrespect in marriage. These pastors are fully aware of the fact that suffering and disrespect are pains, but they advise women(not men) to endure them in marriage.

nwirinedu:
Why are you rebelling against your father ? Have you forgotten he trained you with tithes and offerings fraudulently obtained from gullible members?

😂😂😂😂

SouthSouth1914:
Her father probably is a fake pastor! So yeah, no one should ever take advice from a fake pastor as they are everywhere!

All pastors, imams, etc, are fakes! She is young and has discovered this early. You, at your age, have yet to. How come?

Recuse:
➜There are no good pastors anywhere in Nigeria. They are home breakers always dishing out fake prophecies to gullible followers. Some will even try to snatch your wife away from you when you go to them for marital counselling
I CURSE all the fake Pastors in and out of Nigeria

What do you expect from people who scam other people for a living hiding their lies behind the mention of deities they themselves have never interacted with?

owiko:
➜Who takes advice from a pastor, when you have friends waiting at the salon to give you beta marital counselling?

Go church, mosque, shrine every week and see millions of the same taking advice blindly from their back door gods of men. Africans are addicted to them.

Sonnobax15:
➜ If that's her only reason for saying that,then it simply means she go really stay tayyyy for her papa house . Until probably when she must had signed a MOU with meno-stop,thats when her brain would fall back to factory settings....

Nonsense talk! 🙄🙄🙄

inoki247:
➜Lol So far your father isn't beating or abusing your Mother....What's bad In enduring...What's Love is endurance not part of Love...If the two people in Marriage can't endure then why're they married...

Are you currently living this endurance life that women live in marriage, or do you at least plan to live the same endurance life in marriage as well?