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MrDoGood:
✓ What point are you trying to make?

There are people for whom unclothedness is not a big deal; you imposing your conservative values on them for what I clearly not a criminal offense is considered reproachful and disrespectful. 🤔

Vergovert:
➜She's from south Africa where nudity is their culture. I have seen their virgin girls pictures stark naked displaying their assets to their king so that some of them would be chosen. She is used to nudity.

Interesting!

Obviously, the man is comfortable with his choice; it is others who seem to think it is up to them to comment on his choice.

AntiChristian:
➜The Biblical God changes! The father is always God in heaven! The son can be in heaven or on earth!
➜ He can be man or god or hermaphroditic man-god! God turn man!

He didn't change at all, at least not according to the book. If you read the book, you would see that His Laws — the agreements He made with the descendants of Jacob —have remained intact even to this day.

2. Rubbish! He clearly stated in the book that His Son would come to rule over Israel eternally; that was a promise He made to David.

themainman600:
➜Becoming a graduate has always been my what I look forward to, As it stands now due to me studying botany and probably graduating with a second upper.
I come from a very low income family no connection nothing that means few months from now I'm starting my life from scratch and I have no one to call upon, I'm asking for advise generally am still 22 I don't want to make rash decisions that would hinder my growth I would need serious advice to help me on a path to succeed and be financially okay.
Skills I have :I am good with computer I can use Excel for data perfectly and am perfect on Ms Word. I also design all these I learnt while schooling.

You went to school to study botany with the intentions of doing what with the degree?

dahmie2013:
➜Op, your siblings concerns are valid. You're only writing these because you're both far, by the time you live together, then your love will be tested.
My advice is seek Godly counsel. If I were in your shoes, I'll talk to God about it. If I get the conviction of the Holy Spirit, I'll proceed & ask God to touch the hearts of my siblings so they agree.

Stop hiding behind the mentions of God when you all know that at the end of the day, it is all your very own decisions to make.

Reekv:
Kindly drop your comments please

The Old Covenant is in fact the Constitutional Law that God of Israel gave to the blood descendants of Jacob— children of Israel—, whom He created the country of Israel for. While the New Covenant is the Constitutional Law in the nation referred to as the Kingdom of God, a Kingdom that YHWH created not for humans but for angels(born-again, hence eternal beings) of which, again, only the blood descendants of Jacob can partake of.

The God of Israel —YHWH— did not change His mind at all as both nations were set up specifically as covenants only to the bloodline of Jacob, and can only be ruled by Him— Jesus Christ, Son of YHWH, rules over the second Kingdom/nation. The difference you likely perceive between the Old Law and the New Law is likely linked to the false narratives that have been fed to you by those of the religions of Judaism, Christianity & Islam at least, who have, over the 1000s of years made ridiculous attempts to hijack YHWH's reign for their pleasures, their many scholars, and the gods of men.

Tayorshd87:
➜😂 My brother I understand u but logically this can't be by nature 🤔
Why not other people's children or family but his own alone and not a child but the three children at once 😳
➜ Let's think Abt it from the angle of metaphysical state then u will understand me better

You actually believe this story that lightning struck 3(different) children at the same time and killed them?

2. Think about what exactly? You should be querying the details of the claim to figure out exactly what happened, not pretending the claim made sense as-is to the point of being worthy of needing to ruminate on it. 🙄🙄🙄🙄

PerfectStranger:
➜OK if every lady keep dreaming of Mysterious Obi Cubana, who go come marry broke men?

Let's reason this a bit, shall we?

⚉ Broke men should do their best to avoid women with high hopes because they will never meet up to her standards
⚉ Broke men should altogether avoid marriage, unless they are certain they are infertile— a vasectomy in the case that they are not.
⚉ Broke men should avoid having kids altogether, since having children in that situation is sheer wickedness due to generational poverty.

You pretend to be concerned for the broke man, but have you fully considered the evil of the act, and why broke-man marriages should instead be widely discouraged, not encouraged?

PerfectStranger:
➜ I agree with you, until reality hits

Reality does not stop anyone from dream, though. Fortunately, if on the first try— even marriage—, you don't succeed, dust yourself off and try again. The pursuit of our dreams does not end and should rightly not end until the grave! 😏😏😏

play5050:
➜Good Morning Everyone, Happy Sunday. I Dnt Know The Right Place To Post This But I Believe This Is The Most Visiting Section On Nairaland, Mind My English And Sentence. Happy Birthday To Myself. Today Am 25, I Thank God For My Life But Am Not Happy The Way Things Are Going In My Life, I Cannot Blame God But I Have Every Right To Question God, He Make Me. Why Am I Suffering? Why Good Things Never Come My Way? Why Am I Lacking Almost Everything In Life? Why Am I Not Successful In Life? Am I Not Destiny For Greatness?
If God Can Reply Me This Question, I Will Be Glad Becus I Dnt Know What Am Doing With My Life Again, I Dnt Know Who I Have Offend..
God I Dnt Ask For Two Much But Pls Transform My Life, I Have Pray And Fast But Nothing Is Work, Is They Any Other Thing Am Doing Wrong?
God Dnt Let Me Reach 30 Like This Pls.

The one you need a reply from is not God but your parents; they are responsible for your birth, your training, and raising you to become a more productive individual in life. That you are not productive at this age is not because of God but because of your parents. I suggest you take all these questions and lay them out before them.

Sunnyrado:
➜And another thing there is that, she works as a secretary as a civil servant level 9 and she's telling me that she can't leave her job, my plan is to bring her down here to Lagos but she insists so she does that mean I have to relocate to Kogi state it's also what have been thinking about.

Given the current situation in Nigeria, do you wish for her to quit her job for you?

Abeg, leave the woman alone where she dey. Ask your siblings to find you a woman in your area who they approve of and who is probably already jobless. Please, na beg I take beg you. Leave that gal alone, make you no ruin her condition with yours.

Tayorshd87:
Even if this is real then its certain that village people hand is involved

Village people no fit give themselves common electricity, but you believe they can wield control over thunder and lightning? 🙄🙄🙄🙄

Sunnyrado:
➜There's this lady am in relationship with for more than a year now, we meet online and we have not seen for once due to the distance between us, the lady is physically challenge she's on wheelchair and and she can't walk but I lover her so much, she is is from Kogi state while am in Lagos and we have been talking about getting married and settling down, but when I told my siblings about they kicked against it, that how can I go and marry such a person like that and are there no other woman around, and that really discouraged me, they said how will she cooks, do house chores and stuffs like, although my parents are late so it's my eldest sister that said I shouldn't do it.. and the lady said I should come over to Kogi state to come and see her parents Wich am still considering, and another this is..even if I go ahead with her, I doubt if any of my family members will follow me to Kogi state, looking at the distance and all like that.. and she is a very nice person with a good heart. Honestly am confused at this point.

It seems the expectations of your siblings matter so much to you in this way that you would rather date someone they approve of than someone they don't approve of. Isn't that already an obvious red flag for you? Set the woman free so she can go find herself a man who does not need the approval of your siblings, please.

Supers:
➜Nigerian couple is plunged into tragedy following the devastating loss of their three children, with details emerging online. The details surrounding the tragic incident were shared by a close associate of the couple via a Facebook post.
The close associate, identified as Caphas Nkadum, revealed that the grieving husband, a devoted brother and servant of God, lost his three children in a lightning strike stemming from heavy rainfall.
Furthermore, he expressed deep grief for the couple over the tragic incident.
His post reads,“MY BROTHER AND MY FELLOW SERVANT OF GOD ELDER EMMANUEL PHIRI , THIS IS HEAVY FOR YOU TO CARRY. MY FRIEND HAVE LOST HIS THREE BELOVED CHILDREN BY THE LIGHTENING AFTER THE HEAVY RAINS”.
“MY FAMILY MOURNS WITH YOU DEAR FRIEND. ALL YOUR KIDS ARE GONE.😭😭😭😭😭”.

The details of what happened are not included, though. How did the couple lose 3 children to the lightning strike, abeg?

Sunnyrado:
➜There's this lady am in relationship with for more than a year now, we meet online and we have not seen for once due to the distance between us, the lady is physically challenge she's on wheelchair and and she can't walk but I lover her so much, she is is from Kogi state while am in Lagos and we have been talking about getting married and settling down, but when I told my siblings about they kicked against it, that how can I go and marry such a person like that and are there no other woman around, and that really discouraged me, they said how will she cooks, do house chores and stuffs like, although my parents are late so it's my eldest sister that said I shouldn't do it.. and the lady said I should come over to Kogi state to come and see her parents Wich am still considering, and another this is..even if I go ahead with her, I doubt if any of my family members will follow me to Kogi state, looking at the distance and all like that.. and she is a very nice person with a good heart. Honestly am confused at this point.

It seems the expectations of your siblings matter so much to you in this way that you would rather date someone they approve of than someone they don't approve of. Isn't that already an obvious red flag for you? Set the woman free so she can go find herself a man who does not need the approval of your siblings, please.

SHIVA001:
➜You this Person, You Sha wan trigger comment from men sha .. i know your Scope no worry. A WOMAN THAT TALKS DOWN ON HER MAN IS NOT A WOMAN.
➜ don't talk down on people because of life situations.
➜ A WOMAN SHOULD ENCOURAGE nd MOTIVATE HER MAN POLITELY when things are going rough.

Nonsense! So a man can talk down on a woman, but a woman cannot talk down to a man? Keep living your existence inside your head, while reality passes you by. 🙄🙄🙄🙄

2. Open your mind! When life situations happen, the most foolish thing to do is to remain rigid. The best approach is to learn to change and adapt the best you can to the new circumstances. When a man is no longer able to operate as the provider in his traditional marriage, he is no longer, by tradition, guaranteed submission from his woman. The common-sense thing for such a man to do, at least until he can raise himself back up to provider status again, is to renegotiate his place and role in his marriage until then. Continuing to live as though entitled to being treated as a god when you can no longer provide for your family is a loser's approach to hardship in marriage.

3. It isn't a woman's job to be a mental health counselor to a man who does not even know his right from his left. If the man needs counseling, he should seek professional help as OP suggested, many already do.

Gentleman009:
➜Recently, a video interview surfaced where a man was narrating the emotional, financial, and all type of abuse he experienced with his wife. He said he was a provider when things were okay and his wife loved him. But things change when he lost his means of livelihood. He went on to narrate how he’s always scared to go home but rather chose to be staying with his friends now.
➜ As a man, I feel you’re not supposed to complain about abuse from women. That’s why you’re a man. A man’s supposed to accommodate abuse from women and respect women decision. Today’s men seek therapy for little abuse from their women instead of being accommodating, respectful and supportive for their women.
➜Today men are more likely to leave a woman and stop providing for her just because she cheats or bring home another child. That’s not okay. Our forefathers didn’t act like this and that’s why their marriage last. You’re a man.

The man is no longer a provider in the marriage, but a mooch, and rightly, the dynamics in the marriage should change too.

That is the setback that is the traditional marriage system. The man is promised submission by the system if and only if he retains his role as provider in the marriage. The moment he ceases to be a provider, the woman is no longer under any obligations to submit to him. The best the man can and should do then is renegotiate the marriage agreement he had with his wife, choosing an ultimate contract that best suits his situation.

2. Are men not human beings?

3. That arrangement may have worked for your forefathers, but you shouldn't go around pretending it should work for everyone in this day and age. Let individuals decide what to do in their own marriage, abeg!

Farrason:
➜I believe this question is open to all for insightful responses. Let's chill and wait.

Hold you! Earlier, you had insinuated that it is the husband's place to uproot all of the plants in his wife's life. Why do you not equally insist that the wife must do the same to those roots in her husband's life?

PerfectStranger:
➜I like as all of them think there's one Obi Cubana somewhere waiting for them

Everybody is allowed to dream... nothing wrong with that.

Hier:
➜All my life I have always wanted to know God. Like can I really know this God and the answer is yes, it is possible to know God. The promise God gave the Jews millennials agos. God told Prophet Joel that He would give His Spirit to all men. It is through this Holy Spirit we can understand who God is

I understand your delusions, but that God made it clear that His chosen people are the blood descendants of Jacob, meaning that they alone can know Him and abide by Him. That requirement, He is never written to have removed.

Farrason:
➜What is the purpose of the man in her life when she has you. Na like so e dey start. The longer their relationship, the more vulnerable your wife becomes and just one day, she will loose guard and he will knack her stupidly. At this point, he is gradually testing his boundaries and expanding them in her consciousness. Very soon, that love emoji will mean something to her. Women love attention and he is giving it to her in quantum!! Not long, he will start asking to see her in person and not just chatting on phone. A harmless meeting after he gains her trust will over time turn to a fantasy of intercourse!! Uproot this plant before it gains stand!!

If a husband starts talking to a woman outside of his marriage, is it equally up to his wife to uproot the plant before it gains a stand? Will the wife also need to take it on herself to uproot every other plant around her husband?

papyjaypaul:
➜Don't let anyone play smart ass. A private event has now gone public, how? If it's like this, then let's all start recording ourselves in the bedroom and bathroom and be streaming it.

That a photo was leaked into the public space DOES NOT change the fact that it was a private party — paid for with private money and resources and not public funds.

papyjaypaul:
➜Public decency. I know you will reply with another one but even in Amazon where they use palm fronds as their clothes, they still have some decency.

Public? This was at a private party!

Thazard:
➜Bro I'm not quarreling with you my comment may not apply to other communities or people. But I feel that's what may help my case.

Your earlier comment suggested more than what you now claim here, though.

Thazard:
💯 Correct. The wise one has spoken. Noted for us yet to get married.

You sounded like that suggestion was the absolute solution for all unmarried people rather than just for you to be willing to test in your particular situation.

Thazard:
➜If only you are in my shoes. Due to the community I live in (with beautiful girls but total write off) , I really like beautiful girls but I love them to be well trained so I have to agree with him. Referral is the best way to go. So I wouldn't make blinded judgement.

Yes, let's ignore the numerous examples —Northern Nigeria, where referral marriages have remained the norm for at least the last 200 years — of how arranged marriages can go very badly wrong for those involved, so we can pretend it a solution for those in your shoes, right? Let's ignore the fact that, mean up north still find themselves divorcing arranged wives and marrying new, sometimes arranged ones, because we all need to be in your particular psychological situation there.

Thazard:
💯 Correct. The wise one has spoken. Noted for us yet to get married.

You actually believe an arranged marriage is the solution you need in this day and age? Una no dey ever learn... that na una major problem. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

You better go and ask people in the North, who have been engaging in that kind of marriage without break for at least the last 200 years, how that particular option has been going for them when it comes to finding good wives.

Kobicove:
Why is she showing us what should be well covered up on her wedding day?

Her groom is OK with her showing it, so what's your own?

Blitzking:
➜In my marriage I am the happiest man alive..but I av never seen a man or woman get married unhappy their picture dey always fine with everyone smiling
➜ later u go see stab wounds, beheading, etc u go con ask urself wetin happen so that fear is always there..we don't lack God dey provide monthly so the fear is always there.

1. That's probably because you prefer to deny the truth that is right in front of you a lot of the time. Many people are like that. Also, there are tons of pictures of married people with unhappiness hanging on the side of their (fake) smiles online for those who don't know it exists to see for themselves.

2. Those red flags that resulted in those stab wounds, beheadings, etc, were probably there before the marriage but were conveniently ignored by the parties involved. Humans love to choose denial over the truth and reality.

badaru911:
... When you marry a professional hook-up girl.. Those men around her,I hope they are not her sugar man.

A man who marries a professional hook-up girl is either one of her former clients or himself a patron of professional hook-up girls, used to having other men around the woman he is into. Why castigate him for his obvious choice?

Smitaro100:
➜U for just kuku say mk singles no search for wife na..

At least a quarter of the population end up living and dying alone — never getting married —anyway. So, it might not be a bad idea to help them realize it is OK to live single instead.

Tayorshd87:
➜She is just looking for a place to keep her head at least u can feed her and cloth her with the little u have and that's why she said she will manage but like seriously na trap she will frustrate y0u ..
➜Now think of it how can a 25years old lady have 6years baby as a single mother 🤔 Meaning since 19years years she don dey bleep 🤔
My guy run for your life oo

Nonsense! OP himself is clearly in the relationship for selfish reasons for why pretend his needs are justified while hers aren't.

2. Ah, I see! So, the former husband abi na boyfriend, also abandoned the child because the child was a bad child? The way many of you reason eh... it is no wonder Nigeria is the place it is today. You are justifying the abandonment of a woman and her child by one who could be described as a deadbeat and using it as the reason for Op to bail when the ultimate reason he should remain is that, according to his revelation, he is not mature enough for a relationship, let alone this kind? The red flags are literally everywhere for him. Instead, he ignores them all. 🙄🙄🙄🙄

Oluwashina72:
➜I'm 28 she's single mother 25years. 6 years old child.. I need someone too and since no one is showing up, she seems serious so I'm thinking of going for her.. Won't I regret it in any way? The child stays with parent.. I'm been open to her that I'm still struggling and she accepts to be my partner even if na to manage till we get better...
Gurus in the house should help op look into this and advise please thanks

Are you OK at all? Na by force make you carry load wey your head no mature to carry? Who dey raise these kain elements wey dey come dey ask these silly questions for here abeg?