₦airaland Forum

franchasng:
➜Can't you buy car for him? Your investment belongs to both of you;
➜ Nigerian men have been doing this for you and your sisters without complain, so what's the noise about?

She is clearly not an eejit that would resort to such measures as that which you describe!

2. That seemingly idiotic move of theirs is the reason why most of them have nothing to bless their families with other than poverty. Why any sane human being would think that something decent to emulate is beyond me.

Earthscience:
➜you nor answer my question o! Read my post again

Oh, I did! But seems to me that you expect it to be according to your thinking instead, I am afraid I can't help you with that.

Toymax88:
➜The MIL hide them (the wife and the children) despite the fact that I called my wife and informed her of my arrival at OJOO bus terminal.
➜ I was by the natives/locals that the children are staying with the MIL, the MIL was trying to DENY it

. I don't understand? Are you right here pretending that your wife was hidden, against her own will, by her own mother? Dude, how old are you?

2. I don't understand. Your wife hid herself and the children from you, had her mother lie, and here you are blaming your mother? When you are ready to face up to your responsibilities as a father, you will grow some real hard balls, match into the courts, file for custody of your kids as a real father ought to, and take full responsibility, if needed, for raising them as you ought to. This back and forth is pointless since you have yet to take the first steps. 🤔

Toymax88:
➜Pls, read my other comments. I wasn't allowed to c them last week Friday (18th)

By whom? The courts or your wife?

Toymax88:
➜Kindly enlighten me. How do I go about it? Pls
➜Do u know about any family court in IBADAN?

Well, since you know your way to the Ministry of Women's Affairs and Social Inclusions, why not inquire from there at least?

Anyways, I did a simple Google search of the Family court in Oyo, Ibadan, and Google pointed me to the following location.

➜ Oyo State High Court
➜ The Oyo State Family Court At The High Court Of Justice, Iyaganku, Ibadan.
Address: 9VJF+G4F, Adebo Street, New Gra, Ibadan 200273, Oyo, Nigeria
Aboderin Layout, Ring Road, PMB 5031, Nigeria
➜ Ibadan Customary Courts
Court: Ojaoba Mapo Customary Court
https://customarycourtcases.blog.yorku.ca/ibadan-customary-courts/

Toymax88:
My mom is late. The law stipulates 18 years

. Stop repeating this tale! Your kids are meant to be raised by you, not by your mother. 🙄

Also, you can get custody of your children before they turn 18. Why are you not pursuing that, but are running around trying to put all the blame on the same woman you chose to have your 3 kids with? 🙄

Toymax88:
➜I'm waiting for the set date but the LAW stipulates 18 years

Ugh! Why does this sound like a copout? Maybe because that is exactly what it is. 🙄🙄

You should be trying to get custody of your kids... You do not have to wait till they are 18. According to you, you are not married to her, and she is unemployed. And you also said you are a secondary school teacher. You are supposed to be the more educated entity in this union you describe, so why aren't you taking educated action in all of this? What in the world are you waiting for, assuming you really truly care for these kids and know you are better able to raise them than your wife has been able to thus far? 🙄🙄🙄

Toymax88:
➜My family members have been calling the MIL but she always ignore the calls, sometimes she would pick the call without saying anything, always wasting their airtime

Calling her for what when you, the papa of the kids, no wan go take your own children back from her? Stop with the attempts to offload your private responsibility onto the woman. They are your children, so go there and assert your right and take them back from their mother, who has proven she is not a better alternative, assuming you are ready to be a better parent to them than she has been so far.

Kaycee9242:
➜That's what his office is worth, he personally doesn't worth that. He didn't even stay in the luxurious Pope palace rather he stayed in a guest house throughout. He uses a small sport car. Google it

Stop lying!

Pope Francis, who died on April 21, 2025, at 88, left behind a surprising net worth of $16 million. Despite never taking a salary, his wealth is believed to have come from gifts, donations, and a discretionary fund, as well as royalties. The news of his unexpected wealth has prompted speculation about how his final will might direct his assets, likely towards charitable or ecclesiastical causes.

Guest house, meals, hospital care, etc., no be money dem dey use pay for all of that? 🙄🙄🙄🙄

Toymax88:
➜I enrolled her in a computer center but she complained about the starting of the generator after 3 months, I asked her to learn hairdressing but she told it's in line with SUNNAH of prophet Muhammad, I had wanted to set-up a UNISEX SALON because I'm a barber, teacher, an examiner

No matter how much you try, she is not to blame since you, with eyes wide open, chose her to be your wife and mother of your kids. All these, I tried to do this and that, but she... tales mean nothing really. You chose her, and so blaming her will not help your children or you.

Toymax88:
➜I'm a civil servant; I teach Biology in one of the public secondary schools in the state. I have a side hustle too. I'm also an examiner (WAEC and NECO)

Are you for real? I do hope you are not already thinking of marrying another wife with all your current kids living as ogorogoro sales reps with your mother-in-law? 😩😩😩😩😩

Toymax88:
➜The 32k is for the enrollment of 2 children in public schools. The 3rd child is 7 months old. I sent 50 exercise books, textbooks, 2 mathematical sets, dictionary, school bag etc I'm a teacher in one of the public secondary schools in the state

You are a teacher and you open eye marry woman wey no get heads-or-tails, and even went ahead and had 3 kids with her? You even kicked her out of the house with all 3 children, expecting what to happen, abeg?

Toymax88:
➜Did u read the part where I said that I established a business for her in 3 different occasions?

You took a person with no previous record or success, and you decided to push a business, 3 times, on this person,n expecting what, exactly? Why didn't you simply invest in and marry a woman who already had somewhere she was going?

It is easy to pretend she is to blame for it all not working out, but you are the one who chose to invest money in someone with no real business acumen here. And worse, you expected her to support 3 kids while at it.

Earthscience:
➜@Kobo you really hate church. Them done do you strong thing that make you come dey do hasty generalisation. I noticed you are always out for them

. All religions are scams. Your churches/mosques/rituals/altars are merely part of the scam structure that is religion. It is really just that simple!😕

Yourprick:
Can anyone mention one

Let's not forget to point out the fact that he died with a worth of $16 million, though. POPE may have donated some, but not all. He too was a businessman in all.

kingthreat:
➜Troll, yes the man can. You didn't have to comment the obvious.

I had to mention it since you conveniently left that out. So, you admit that your comment was moot then.🙄🙄🙄🙄

Toymax88:
➜U understand my plight. They are not in any school in IBADAN, they are now SALES REPS in her OGOGORO shop

. Your children are your responsibility. They are living as ogogoro sales reps because you, their father, are OK with them being just that at this point in time. You are their father, and so they are there because you allowed it. You need to realize this first if you ever intend to change their situation for the better.

RISQUE:
➜Make una calm down marry, una no dey hear. You sell your car carry money give woman in the name of I care about my wife. You open business the first, second and it failed yet you no learn lesson till the third time. The red flags full ground but you ignored rather, dey busy dey reproduce. Just pray, just pray.

Pray that the children will magically enroll themselves in school and magically obtain the education they need? Are you high or what?

kingthreat:
➜If she doesn't find you appealing then let her indicate so that you can divorce and try marriage again. Men did not come to this world to be at the mercy of one woman who may be amoebic but still craves for 6-pack husband.
Sometimes I wish I was in the generation 100 years before now. Would have had 4 wives by now and ladies out there wishing to join the train.

The man could do pretty much the same if he is not happy with being denied sex by his wife.

Kavod:
➜If you get the mind carry them and raise them yourself. Thats what i did to avoid story that touch, Expecting other extended family members to raise your kids the way yoy want is highly outrageous

Indeed! 😐😐😐😐

uwa002:
ideo: “I peel egusi everyday till 12am, because my husband does not eat Egusi that is not home peeled.”

See foolishness! 😏😏😏😏

Toymax88:
➜My children are not in school, they are helping her to sell OGOGORO in her shop. They are not enrolled in schools

If you really truly care for your children as you would love for us to believe there, then the sensible thing for you to do would be to take full custody of them since the woman by not putting them in school has more than shown she is not a capable parent or guardian for them. 😩😩😩😩😩

If, however, you plan to take them only to then hand them off to your mother or family to raise, then I suggest you leave them alone and simply continue to support them where they are.😩😩😩😩


Poor children....caught between two adults who don't seem to know their left from their right. 😩😩😩😩

Dzzzz:
I know all churches na 419 but bro cele Dey use tools Dey scam,If no be say I be Sherlock Holmes them for done use me shine..

Cele dey use many of the same tools. Only say people wey dey gravitate toward churches like Cele, MFM, and others like that have a different level of gullibility than people wey dey attend other settings. People wey dey cele dey usually be people wey think say person fit see korokoro a things like mamiwater, powers of witches and wizards, etc., and co. 😂😂😂😂

We4all:
Has it ever occured to you that the reason your wife denies you sex is because she finds you physically unappealing? You can't have 2 packs, dry chest, and a big belly, and still be disturbing for sex. . There is no way you will have a great body like the attached picture and your woman won't crave sex. Just work on yourself and stop being a cry baby.

Ouch!!! That was a bellow-the-belt hit, abeg! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Reality3080:
➜I am a married man, if my wife starts denying me sex or weaponising it. Na to find one small girl wey I go Dey empty my balls into steady n still b that good man at home. We go just Dey look ourselves for house n life goes smoothly, na she go beg me last last

So, your solution is to tacitly adopt an open marriage contract as opposed to your former contract, abi? I hope you will not come back here to wail that your wife has taken to cheating on you with other men since open marriage means even the woman can have her lights screwed on outside too.

Dzzzz:
White garment na 419 church…I done see same scope 419 use for inside cele church..

All churches are 419 churches, trying to sell you on one lie or another, as is the norm in every religion out there.

ExAngel007:
Find a place in your heart to pardon me just for the sake of our four children - Nigerian man pens public apology letter to his wife
A Benue man, Ubwa Tavershima Bernard, has publicly apologized to his wife for hurting her with his actions.
In a Facebook post, Bernard pleaded with his wife to forgive him for the sake of their four children. “My beautiful wife, please I have pleaded with you for over a month now and I myself have gone through pains for my actions in hurting you and I do regret it sincerely,” he wrote.
“Allow this issue rest just because of the four kids we have, the more u keep talking about dis the more it takes u time to heal and I am sad about it. I will continue pleading with you as my wife and also the mother of our kids to find a place in your heart to pardon me just for the sake of the kids. I am sorry a trillion times.”

Those 4 kids did not serve as reason enough for him to not do whatever it was he did to hurt his wife, but he expects those 4 kids to be reason enough for her to forgive him at this time for the pain he caused her? Na wa o! 😩😩😩😩

Rexymania:
White garment na Church?

Yes, it isthe same as RCCG, Deeper Life, and all of the other Christian cults that claim also to be called churches.

chiiraq802:
Those are not guards pls. They're armed disciples.

The lies and deceit never seem to end. 😩😩😩

DMerciful:
✓ The BVAS is biometrics meaning you can only vote once nationwide. If INEC plans to rig then BVAS will not work as intended, neither will PVC work.
Mind you PVC can be cloned

Yet elections carried out during the last 2 years prove that has never happened. Abeg, stop dragging us around in circles and move on o'jare! 😩😩😩😩😩😩

DMerciful:
Votes are not registered to a PVC. PVC is for accreditation only. To have credible election, the law should mandate electronic transmission and collation

Um... Obviously, I am using the PVC be used if need be to ensure a single voter is not able to cast 100 votes. Geez! 😐😩🤔

DMerciful:
➜I know but that was with PVC and BVAS, wasn't it.
➜ Rigging is a different issue that requires electoral reforms like making it compulsory that BVAS numbers must be the determining factor and not voters register

. That isn't true,e and I already explained this in my previous comment.

2. If each vote had been registered against a unique PVC, rigging would not have happened to the extent that it did in those polling stations, given that ID would have had to spend more time cooking up its results than it did in places like Edo, Imo, Kwara, etc. where it was reported that hundreds of voting records were discovered to have been stamped by the same person.