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stormborn28:
➜When I married my wife and she saw the way I dress the bed, the shown same jealous.. the reason I keep telling girls that if you don't humble and learn now your marriage may be stress. It is one aspect I don't get in my wife. It is very exhausting. I want my children to learn in a better way. I can cook very well. I learnt all these under my sisters

. You married a woman who is not happy that you know how you make your bed, and the fact that you can cook very well? That has nothing to do with other women but the woman you married. Face her! Work with her to figure out the particular source of her insecurity and how you can both go about resolving it.

Kenelekan:
➜The woman in the video get virus for mouth She sounds reasonable but there is a level of danger in every point she made

Are you telling us here and now that you are more than willing to marry one of those individuals she recommends against?

churro:
➜so quick to conclude and castugate without reading and comprehending. Pity.

There is nothing quick about my conclusion, and it isn't meant to castigate but rather reveal the truth of things as it is based on 1000s of years worth of evidence/facts.

illicit:
It is mandatory to eat meat (protein) as the last thing during a meal...

The eating of protein is good for you. You typically want to eat protein with each meal so you can get your daily protein intake at the end of the day. The average individual is expected to consume about 50 - 80g of protein each day, and if you check well, it is sometimes not easy unless you are intentional about it. Also, Protein is very much missing from the typical African diet.

omoredia:
Marriage counselor don file for divorce 😆

Who is she?

kennyz247:
➜Don't marry a girl wey no gwt source of income

If you suggest that girls should not bother dating until they are sufficiently financially stable themselves — probably by age 30, given Nigerian situation—, na the men go come complain say that one too much. And if you suggest the same to men, the men, carrying pitchforks in tow, will complain that that advice is cruel and unusual punishment.

Thundafireseun:
Does it matter? Even God himself admitted in the Bible that there are other Gods…. Why does it matter which God blessed him ?? He is blessed and he is blessed…. Isn’t that enough??

4000 different gods/deities out there. It matters since their identities and modus operandi vary. Someone will argue that Tinubu, Wike, Akpabio, Cubana, Obi, Yahoo boys, ritualists, etc., are also blessed. So, which deity blessed him, and how you take know?

churro:
➜No true/genuine man of God will post a video of himself driving the latest luxury car, loosely dressed. If such a video were released, it won't be from him and will be without his knowledge. Pastor Jerry Eze is a money-loving false pastor. He is not to be emulated.

See delusion, abeg!

All of your gods-of-men are scammers... true and true!

press9jatv:
5 people you shouldn't get married to when you are courting heading to marriage - Nigeria female marriage counsellor speak 🗣️

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

pussygotlips:
➜Don't worry you will be old enough too

I would rather remain a child than become one of your lying old people.

Onegai:
➜My dear kobojunkie. The only people who sing the song of "Individual Happiness" and "Let Them Call It Quits" are people who have never been married.
➜ Because both are so bad for you, you may as well die.
➜ Over 50% of divorced couples regret it. And I'm speaking from experience, the number is higher. Divorce feels like death. It hurts so much and is so destructive, that halfway through it a lot of men think daily of suicide and women pray to die. But they put on a brave face. I am speaking from experience.
➜ And Marital counselling doesn't work because most times, couples use it to air their greviances to a 3rd party rather than fix things.
➜ Which is why I came up with my method. And it's not my method, it's a trusted method from plenty sources.

1. Are you insinuating that only the unmarried people out there heads still screwed on the correct way?

2. If Osinachi had jejely sought out individual happiness before her demise, she might have saved herself from becoming worm food today. She was married, but she is now dead. Are you insinuating that what she had was good for her, even though she ended up dead as a result?

If the woman whose husband made national news the other day for not being afford to afford the cost of her pregnancy emergency procedure, had jejely sought the path of individual happiness, said no to another pregnancy in poverty or maybe chosen divorce instead, she would have saved her life but she is dead and she took her baby with her. Are you wanting us to believe that her case was a good one, and her death better than calling it quits?

3. Even children and unmarried people experience regret during their lives, so should we all take a hike on life as a result? I don't understand why failure resulting in regret is suddenly raised as the worst that could happen to one.

By the way, according to Google AI, only about 27% of women and about 32% of men who are divorced experience regret. Now, of that number that experienced retreat, can you tell us how many of them would not have regretted not getting a divorce even more? Can you tell you here and now that Osinachi's husband, for example, is not regretting not divorcing Osinachi before it all ended the way it did? Can you tell us right here and now that Osinachi's children are delighted their parents did not get a divorce?

I think it is time we stop letting our fears lead the way as far as common sense is concerned, at least for the sake of the children involved.

4. Marital counseling does not work because we definitely don't want couples opening up about their grievances, abi? We would rather they sit back on top of that bomb until it either implodes/explodes or sucks the vitality of life out of them — no happiness, right?

5. Your method, which seems to ignore the particular grievances that OP's wife may actually have against him, right? And let me guess, these plenty of resources are not documented anywhere except in your mind, right?

pussygotlips:
➜Old men don't lie.. grow up son

Yep, and that is why the country is filled and ruled with so many lying old men and women to this day. 🙄🙄🙄

Lying to your children is a cruel thing to do.

Onegai:
Dear busariabeyx24, Now that you've gotten pages and pages chockful of horrendous advice that will leave you lonely and regretful at 65 (trust me on this, go through my posts, I have a lot of elder male relatives in my family and I want my sons to NEVER make their mistakes)....
Can we talk?
You've described really sad marital problems. Notice I said "sad". Not "bad". Sad. Why? Because everything you've typed is absolutely fixable. And in 6 months' time, if you follow exactly what I say, you'll come back and delete this thread. Shall we start?

You shouldn't say that at all until after you have heard the woman's side of things. From the OP's report, it is clear that the woman has her own bag of complaints against him and is probably fed up and ready to see an end to it. I think it is a tad rude for you to assume, without first consulting her, that the same woman would magically love to fix things with this same man.

My best advice is that both should proceed to professional marriage counselling at this point in time to figure out, as a couple, whether they should continue on or just call it quits. Either way, individual happiness should be the goal for both of them since they both seem to be lacking just that at this point in the marriage.

kingthreat:
➜Pastor, yes you have been blessed by an online initiative. Your NSPPD prayers have helped alot of people. But show off is not part of Christianity more or less those that preach it. Showing off your latest range rover is what attention seekers like Bobrisky and Davido would do.

Showing off has always been part and parcel of the religion of Christianity, beginning with the rogue bishops who sought to hijack the original movement which belonged only to Israelites, to their many popes, and now their many pastorpreneurs.

obailala:
➜Many people who are fake Christians always looking for meaningless things to deperately justify their faithlessness!
Someone said the pastor drives range rover is the reason he doesn't go to church no more as if to say the pastor was what they were going to church for.
A labourer is worthy of his wages! Why e com dey pepper people say this labourer dey chop? If e easy, run am make we see!
In the last 5 years, this dude wakes up by 4am to organise bombastic prayers for 2 hours every weekday. He's getting millions upon millions of view from all across the word on his multiple social media platforms. The revenue he gets from Youtube alone is sufficient to buy 10 of these cars each year. If e easy, run am make we see!
Oh I forgot, because he's a pastor, he should ideally be driving a tortoise car despite making legit billions from his social media platforms.

Oh, now the format is that their wages are paid here on earth, and it is no longer according to Paul who said his wages would be paid to him after he had finished his work? Finally, you all are beginning to admit, at least, that even Paul has no connection to your hogwash! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Ruthie0224:
➜Why would you think that?

You mentioned the entire state and then only listed 3 places. And my first thought was, why would you imagine it could be a state-wide blackout when over 30 LGAs in the state are not even touched by your list?

Ruthie0224:
✓This is the third day without light in Surulere, Agege and Iyana Ipaja according to my findings from people staying in those places.
Are people from other areas experiencing the same thing?
Does anyone know why?
I haven't seen anyone mention this on Nairaland, so I'd really like to understand what's going on.
, mods please push to front page

Those are the only three places in Lagos, abi?

jayvaliar:
It is encoded in their gene....it is a natural thing, but it takes discipline and the grace of God to avoid cheating.

Nonsense!

Thundafireseun:
Who God has blessed no man can curse

Like Tinubi, Akpabio, and co, Right?

dollypi:
➜He is rendering a service. It's natural for humans to reciprocate whenever they feel they have received value.

Fraud na service indeed!

Cumtroller:
➜This businessman is steadily cashing out in dollars from YouTube streams. This is why other hustlers like Abioye , Ibiyeomie, Suleiman and others have taken a cue from him. He has set the gold standard in "Religion as a Business". I fact, he should be given a honorary doctorate in this field.
If you like keep buying armbands, stickers and subscribing to NSPPD while you trek up and down with a hungry belly. Wisdom is profitable to direct. Jerry Eze, King of Joint Ventures (KJV) My nigga don cash out.

You no mention Chris Oyakhilome, the No-to-5G slowpoke who now swears by it.

chigator2:
➜I am watching modern Christendom like an owl, just observing. Let them use time to reveal their true colors. I have seen a pattern of family members inheriting "God's pulpit" as if it is were to be family heirloom . ...

Na Buddhism dem dey try copy small small be that.

What Nigerians? Leave me out of it abeg!

Love800:
✓ When he is not actively providing, he is actively sourcing out for other means of making money.
✓ I can't be washing plates or doing mother roles, because am jobless. Never!

Again, actively sourcing is not same as actively providing. An unemployed individual-- not earning any income of benefit -- is not a provider. 🙄

2. The women who accept this as their lot are the ones I blame.

Redoil:
humans are free to believe whatever they choose to believe

Delusions a plenty, right? 👍

lexy2014:
✓ Is every human promiscuous?

Every human has the potential to become promiscuous. It all a matter of choices -- every one freely makes those.

Love800:
➜The man should be up-and-doing(serious) during that period. Showing signs of job-hunting or preparing for business he wish to do. When the wife acknowledge this, she will be willing to continue providing for the family.

Showing signs of job-hunting or preparing for business is not the same as having a job that brings in money. So long as he is not making money, he is not a provider. And OP's question is direct: what should the man's role be towards his family when he is not actively providing?

nowtrending:
➜Pamela is a single mother who still believes in love. Chuks wants love too — but the moment he finds out she has a child, everything changes. He says marriage is a big deal and he’s not sure any Igbo family will accept a single mum. Pamela fires back: at least she was honest, many women would have hidden it. Is it true that in Igbo tradition, a single mother cannot easily marry? Is anything really wrong with marrying a single mum who wants love just like everyone else? If you were in Chuks’ shoes, what would you do? And if you were Pamela, would you even explain yourself? Can you marry a single mum? Or is love supposed to be enough, no matter the past?

The man, like most Nigerians, was obviously making that up instead of honestly declaring that he was not interested in marrying a single mother.

Maeve7:
➜ You all make it about the woman. What is the man to do is the question.

It is a question for the man and woman to decide between themselves.
Whether
⚉ The woman bears 100% of the provider role as well as 100% of the chores on her shoulders alone(while the man does nothing in the meantime)
⚉ The man bears 100% of the chores alone while the woman focuses on handling 100% of the provider role
⚉ The man bears maybe 50% of the chores responsibility while the woman focuses on 100% of the provider role and maybe 50% of the chores
...it is all up to the woman and the man to decide for themselves.

AlexMuhangi:
➜I am a saint of God. I am pure, I am holy. I am not defiled. I have been fighting against the kingdom of darkness long before God thought me what spiritual warfare is all about. I can see spirits, I can see murderers, occult men, idol worshipers and many things words are limited to express. If you are not operating this high spiritually or understand these things I suggest you thread carefully.
➜ From your comment, it is not difficult to point out that you still have a long way to go but since you are a man, if I am you, I will be wise to be careful how I judge matters that is out of my league.

See dem... always spewing their spiricoco delusions with abandon. This na the same person wey talk say him go use fire abi na thunder damage another person's family. Nonsense and eegridient! 😶

Oga, call a professional mental health therapist or psychiatrist immediately. You are completely off your hinges, it seems! 🙄🙄🙄🙄

3. See as it flows freely from you...delusions of grandeur.... yet some of the most wickedly ignorant of beings! 🙄🙄🙄🙄

I will repeat my third, abi na fourth advice to you on here too... stay away from women or any kind of intimate relationships with them until you have thoroughly sorted out your mental health there. If say social welfare day that country, I for ask make dem dey check on your kids too whenever they are around you.

AlexMuhangi:
✓ I am not with her and I want to weigh my legal options before divorcing her.
✓ I need to be financially capable to rain fire on that family when I come for my two kids. Ain’t letting no degenerate train my kids to be zombies.

From your writeup you hate for the woman did not begin today or last month yet you haven't made up your mind to divorce and distance yourself from here altogether. 🙄🙄🙄

2. Rain fire? And this is the one earlier spewing spiricoco bullsheet in order to have us believe he is the righteous soul in all of this. It was clearly a ruse to hide wickedness of his own. I do hope this will not end in one of you having to leave in a body bag is all.🙄🙄🙄🙄