₦airaland Forum

Rossikk:
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This notorious inferiority-complex-laden tale bearer is back with his many tales again! 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄

Wimkeh:
➜I just finished eating garri and egusi soup, just like that my head start paining me.
It happened before when I ate garri with draw soup. Anybody with similar experience?

What brand of garri? What manufacturer? Surely, you realize that there are 10s of 1000s of garri makers in Nigeria alone? How can eating just one of those many brands amount to eating all of Nigeria's garri?

nowtrending:
➜Pamela is a single mother who still believes in love. Chuks wants love too — but the moment he finds out she has a child, everything changes. He says marriage is a big deal and he’s not sure any Igbo family will accept a single mum. Pamela fires back: at least she was honest, many women would have hidden it. Is it true that in Igbo tradition, a single mother cannot easily marry? Is anything really wrong with marrying a single mum who wants love just like everyone else? If you were in Chuks’ shoes, what would you do? And if you were Pamela, would you even explain yourself? Can you marry a single mum? Or is love supposed to be enough, no matter the past?

The man, like most Nigerians, was obviously making that up instead of honestly declaring that he was not interested in marrying a single mother.

Achor1111:
➜Shift pls

Unable to reason that through, are you?

February30:
➜But, tell me why my husband would not tell me if my female friends are bad 😔? Her ideas needs balance.

If a woman told her husband his friends were bad... what would you think in that situation?

Achor1111:
➜And these gibberish ...?

Gibberish because to you, manipulation— the opposite of all listed— is instead your idea of what marriage is all about?

@Magnolia, you really should find time to read the book. It is a very interesting read
http://faculty.sgc.edu/rkelley/SYMPOSIUM.pdf

Kaczynski:
➜soul mates starts with friendship first. a lot of men are looking to smàsh not to be in the friend zone to find genuine people hard like f maths
➜ because a lot of women have been used and discarded, even men are not left alone in this

There are no such things as soulmates, to begin with. That makes this search for these "genuine people" a futile venture.

2. The damage inflicted by life on individuals hits men and women equally— both are equally used and discarded by others. So, harping on the supposed damage is meaningless in itself.

pastorarynzay:
➜No one should listen to her, any counsel that makes one the gender more important in carefulness in pick a partner is disastrous.

She never mentioned any particular gender, though. So why do you insist it makes one more important than the other? Or are you attempting to tell us that manipulation of the other gender is your particular love language?

muyico:
Some where true, maybe i put faith

Are you insinuating that your faith makes lies true? And people wonder why I go around revealing that religion is nothing but a scam fashioned against the mental capacities of individuals?

stormborn28:
➜You always come here to yeah nonsense.. there is a saying that history repeats itself. The flaw you mentioned in my wife like a said is not only perculier to her. There are people who learnt and adjusted. Meaning they were able to change such flaws. So writing too much here here in order to argue with me is foolish

It is peculiar to her because not all women are married to men who cook and clean. Stop pretending you are some sort of advisor or savior to other women. Focus on your wife and your problems.

seunayantokun:
Do your own will your own way, please.

Stop going around lying through your teeth to people!

illicit:
➜In Africa, eating more meat is the father or mothers right or your elder siblings or relatives. Those people don't really need the protein as much as the little ones. Yet the little ones get the least meat just because they are the youngest even though they need the protein more...

Actually, everybody in the house needs protein, and that is where the problem at the African meal table exists. Not enough protein is going around for all. Children definitely need to have their protein with every meal, and the adults in the house equally do; the older/fatter ones need more protein because of their weight. So, it is sad that the African meal table deprives some of needed protein, while those who get it still barely get enough of their daily need met.

Kenelekan:
When you get sense, come back and talk to me about marriage. You are repeating the same question I answered you on.

You have yet to answer the simple question I started with, hence the reason why I am breaking it down further to get a response from you. You claimed her list is a dangerous one, and I am simply trying to ascertain what you mean by your claim. Why are you having a hard time honestly responding?

Kenelekan:
What do you know about common sense red flag in marriage?

Common sense when courting is that you choose a partner that best suits you — one with at least only the red flags you can accommodate or endure, yes or no? The person you end up marrying should be that one person you should be able to live happily with and not someone you hope will change or morph for your sake, right?

seunayantokun:
➜That advice could be a poison, because it may not be understood in context.
➜ Marriage is a covenant, not a contract or absolute freedom to do what you like. For Instance, while you are not expected to control your wife or husband, you've got to be in agreement with what you do with your finances and how you relate with the family each of you has come from. More so each of you has become part of each other's extended family.
➜ Everything should be done in love and peace.
➜ That's how you get rest and tranquility. But to give or live by rules and regulations, it's a recipe for disasters.

1. Won ti de! Always hiding their wickedness and ignorance behind spiricoco bullsheet!

1. Ol, boy! A covenant is a type of contract between two people, two nations, etc. Marriage is an agreement, hence a contract between two people — a man and a woman— as recognized by the state. An agreement has to be signed off on by both parties for it to be considered an agreement.

If a husband tells his wife how to eat, drink, live, make friends, or relate to her family, he is attempting to control her. If a woman tells her husband how to eat, drink, live, and make friends, or relate to his family, she is also said to be attempting to control him. If they both agree to this setup in their marriage, then they are said to agree. If, however, they do not both agree to this level of control over each other's lives, then what you have is a manipulative relationship, not love!


3. Control is not love but manipulation.

4. Peace in manipulation is not false peace but rather a storm waiting to happen.

Kenelekan:
➜I cannot say much. As a married man, I know what am saying. Fact is there is no rule book for marriage. Follow her hook line and sinker at your own peril.

This isn't about rule books for marriage, but merely 5 suggestions on who to stay away from when considering marriage — red flags to note. So, are you telling us that those are not common-sense red flags that everyone, including yourself?

Kenelekan:
➜Infact , in all that she said, she gave an impression of someone who would not have a single husband in her lifetime, in hindsight

Huh?

stormborn28:
➜Who ask you all these nonsense...I only drop those two weakness of my wife
➜for any lady who may have such Defficiencies

Your statement was that you were telling girls....when the only girl you need to be talking to is your wife, whose particular character flaw you revealed.

2. Don't because you are not a savior to any lady out there, including your own wife, if you must know. Your woman's red flag is yours to bear since you wifed her regardlesss. Not everyone has the same red flag, and not every man has that particular issue as a red flag. Know this and gain wisdom!

stormborn28:
➜When I married my wife and she saw the way I dress the bed, the shown same jealous.. the reason I keep telling girls that if you don't humble and learn now your marriage may be stress. It is one aspect I don't get in my wife. It is very exhausting. I want my children to learn in a better way. I can cook very well. I learnt all these under my sisters

. You married a woman who is not happy that you know how you make your bed, and the fact that you can cook very well? That has nothing to do with other women but the woman you married. Face her! Work with her to figure out the particular source of her insecurity and how you can both go about resolving it.

Kenelekan:
➜The woman in the video get virus for mouth She sounds reasonable but there is a level of danger in every point she made

Are you telling us here and now that you are more than willing to marry one of those individuals she recommends against?

churro:
➜so quick to conclude and castugate without reading and comprehending. Pity.

There is nothing quick about my conclusion, and it isn't meant to castigate but rather reveal the truth of things as it is based on 1000s of years worth of evidence/facts.

illicit:
It is mandatory to eat meat (protein) as the last thing during a meal...

The eating of protein is good for you. You typically want to eat protein with each meal so you can get your daily protein intake at the end of the day. The average individual is expected to consume about 50 - 80g of protein each day, and if you check well, it is sometimes not easy unless you are intentional about it. Also, Protein is very much missing from the typical African diet.

omoredia:
Marriage counselor don file for divorce 😆

Who is she?

kennyz247:
➜Don't marry a girl wey no gwt source of income

If you suggest that girls should not bother dating until they are sufficiently financially stable themselves — probably by age 30, given Nigerian situation—, na the men go come complain say that one too much. And if you suggest the same to men, the men, carrying pitchforks in tow, will complain that that advice is cruel and unusual punishment.

Thundafireseun:
Does it matter? Even God himself admitted in the Bible that there are other Gods…. Why does it matter which God blessed him ?? He is blessed and he is blessed…. Isn’t that enough??

4000 different gods/deities out there. It matters since their identities and modus operandi vary. Someone will argue that Tinubu, Wike, Akpabio, Cubana, Obi, Yahoo boys, ritualists, etc., are also blessed. So, which deity blessed him, and how you take know?

churro:
➜No true/genuine man of God will post a video of himself driving the latest luxury car, loosely dressed. If such a video were released, it won't be from him and will be without his knowledge. Pastor Jerry Eze is a money-loving false pastor. He is not to be emulated.

See delusion, abeg!

All of your gods-of-men are scammers... true and true!

press9jatv:
5 people you shouldn't get married to when you are courting heading to marriage - Nigeria female marriage counsellor speak 🗣️

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

pussygotlips:
➜Don't worry you will be old enough too

I would rather remain a child than become one of your lying old people.

Onegai:
➜My dear kobojunkie. The only people who sing the song of "Individual Happiness" and "Let Them Call It Quits" are people who have never been married.
➜ Because both are so bad for you, you may as well die.
➜ Over 50% of divorced couples regret it. And I'm speaking from experience, the number is higher. Divorce feels like death. It hurts so much and is so destructive, that halfway through it a lot of men think daily of suicide and women pray to die. But they put on a brave face. I am speaking from experience.
➜ And Marital counselling doesn't work because most times, couples use it to air their greviances to a 3rd party rather than fix things.
➜ Which is why I came up with my method. And it's not my method, it's a trusted method from plenty sources.

1. Are you insinuating that only the unmarried people out there heads still screwed on the correct way?

2. If Osinachi had jejely sought out individual happiness before her demise, she might have saved herself from becoming worm food today. She was married, but she is now dead. Are you insinuating that what she had was good for her, even though she ended up dead as a result?

If the woman whose husband made national news the other day for not being afford to afford the cost of her pregnancy emergency procedure, had jejely sought the path of individual happiness, said no to another pregnancy in poverty or maybe chosen divorce instead, she would have saved her life but she is dead and she took her baby with her. Are you wanting us to believe that her case was a good one, and her death better than calling it quits?

3. Even children and unmarried people experience regret during their lives, so should we all take a hike on life as a result? I don't understand why failure resulting in regret is suddenly raised as the worst that could happen to one.

By the way, according to Google AI, only about 27% of women and about 32% of men who are divorced experience regret. Now, of that number that experienced retreat, can you tell us how many of them would not have regretted not getting a divorce even more? Can you tell you here and now that Osinachi's husband, for example, is not regretting not divorcing Osinachi before it all ended the way it did? Can you tell us right here and now that Osinachi's children are delighted their parents did not get a divorce?

I think it is time we stop letting our fears lead the way as far as common sense is concerned, at least for the sake of the children involved.

4. Marital counseling does not work because we definitely don't want couples opening up about their grievances, abi? We would rather they sit back on top of that bomb until it either implodes/explodes or sucks the vitality of life out of them — no happiness, right?

5. Your method, which seems to ignore the particular grievances that OP's wife may actually have against him, right? And let me guess, these plenty of resources are not documented anywhere except in your mind, right?

pussygotlips:
➜Old men don't lie.. grow up son

Yep, and that is why the country is filled and ruled with so many lying old men and women to this day. 🙄🙄🙄

Lying to your children is a cruel thing to do.